or actually anyone. Do you find it more difficult to let your kids see violence or sexaully charged movies? I find violence is easier for them to watch. I feel sex is far more tempting and the penalties are life long(disease and unwanted pregnacy. Don't get me wrong violence is {i]worse[/i] but sex temps a youth more than anything to me.






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[This message was edited Sun Oct 26 13:52:35 PST 2003 by CtheUncanny]

I agree, if I had kids I would rather have them watch violent movies rather than movies that were filled with alot of sex scenes, they show too much of that stuff on tv as it is.

true... it is far more doable , and far more acceptable than violence is.

~I don't have children... but I have two nephews coming of age... one going on 10 the other 12. I talk to them about the realities of life all the time, their mother doesn't know what to say, so I talk to them. I answer any of their questions and when they see something I know they are wondering about, I ask... and take it from there. It's hard to know if they are going to take the right direction... but I hope what I tell/teach them (verbally)... they will not forget and make wise choices in life.


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[This message was edited Sun Oct 26 13:54:47 PST 2003 by Freespirit]

Freespirit said:

yes that's a good idea. i have a two nieces and a nephew and i always tell they always ask me stuff. fortunately, their father (my brother in law) is very open and he is not afraid to talk about things with them.
plus they seem to tell him everything that goes on in their life as well.

well...as a parent...i can say that either one of them will be hard to deal with...sex is more easily explained though...i mean ...face it...thats what people do. but...how do you explain blowing someones head off ???

justkelley said:

They know what is wrong. Kids are more tempted to have sex(teen pregnancy) than blow someones head off. Most kids are mischievous, not really violent. But almost all have sexual desire.

This is interesting. My 2-year-old daughter and I watch so little television that this hasn't been much of an issue yet. I'll have to ask her mom what she watches with her when I'm not around.

On the one hand, I don't want my daughter to be afraid of sex. She already knows the clinical names of her body parts (even says good morning to her "'gina" when she takes her morning bath ), and we've chatted with her in understandable terms about where babies come from. But you make a good point, CtheUncanny: The type of sexual activity on TV is not the type of stuff I'd want my daughter to think is necessarily "normal" or healthy.

On the other hand, I've noticed that certain images are becoming increasingly impactful to her. She was effected even by the simulated violence of the Broadway show "Cats!"

All in all, I try to monitor both. No sex is easy, but violence is everywhere -- even cartoons. It sucks.

tv is a land mine

we constantly dodge

stuff pops up when you least expect it


were constantly reachin for the remote


there is no middle ground

we have one television in my home..

its in my bedroom and the kids have been raised that TV is not the entertainment in the house..

hence i have a 14 year old that is taking advanced classes and a college level reading comprehension...an 8 year old that can tell you the height of Everest over the years and why it has gained inches...and just about anything else ya wanna know about the mountain

and i am bragging...

suggestion folks...


kill your TV

if kids wanna know about such things they will run their little butts out there and READ about it... much more powerful then being shoveled the shit some ass creates

You Americans are very conservative about sex on tv arn't you?

I would have thought with the violent crime levels in your country you would be more worried about the violence.

Is it just you reacting to your own discomfort when sex comes on tv? I doubt that it makes kids have sex earlier. Peer pressure and there own developing desire takes care of that.

You've just got to teach them well and hope for the best.

bkw said:

i dont believe that the subject matter of sex is troubling...

just letting children watch it at an age that is not appropiate...

fuck the US has the biggest fuckin smut video production in the world...

I am to scurred to have kids...I am scurred they will turn out like me They will be children.

As a parent of two boys (17, 20) and a girl (13), this is a no brainer: sex=good, violence=bad

Depictions of violence often seem to be displaced sexual tension, resorted to by those uncomfortable with their own sexuality (teenagers, authoritarian figures, malajusted adults, etc.). Parents should recognize these areas of discomfort in their kids, and help them to confront them even if the parents are embarrassed when doing so.

In my house we talk freely (but non graphically) about sex, and the kids have probably heard us doin' it. So what? Would it be better that they hear the discord and not the loving? Should they think that passion is only for buff, well-oiled 20 year olds in magazines? For example, when they each hit puberty, my wife and I said "when you masturbate, go ahead, without any guilt, just be neat and discreet".

The ability to love honestly and to make love well is not something that comes (sic) naturally to all people, but is essential to human happiness. I don't understand why people spend so much money and time on self-help books and self-improvement courses, but think that they can please someone else and get the ultimate "natural high" without learning how and putting in some effort.I intend for my kids to be the best at whatever they do - including pleasing themselves and their lovers.

Oh yeah, TV is shit. Turn the fucker off and go to bed before you're tired.

DORA said:

amen to that

shausler said:

hiya shausey

jackflash said:

co-sign - very well put!

CtheUncanny said:

It's the age old question of the lesser of two evils...