and try to cut you to pieces behind your back. Who has met a person like this? What did you do to resolve the situation?

CtheUncanny said:

Meet that fake smile with honest coldness.

bob dylan wrote

they smile at your face
but behind your back they hisss

I wouldn't consider that person as a friend, so I wouldn't have any contact with them.

CtheUncanny said:

i'm related to people who do such things.

i don't give 'em the time of day.

In my own life, I've found most of these people deny it and get defensive if confronted--even when confronted kindly. I've asked people to just tell it to me straight out if they have a problem, to come to me personally, but it only made things worse. A few times, people have been great about it.

What I've learned to do is just not reveal much of my true self around them, or give them any opportunity to affect my life. I'm polite, but distant.

CtheUncanny said:

Let karma deal with them

it all comes out

in the wash

shausler said:

I make note of it and avoid contact. I haven't found anything else to work or is it just far more energy then I need to spend? If we lived in small townships where day in and day out we were forced to asociate with the same people then I would have to see it different! However we are in a society of 1000's of people. My theory right or wrong, NEXT! I don't even take the time to dislike them I simply can be in the same room and not bothered!

rdhull said:

May be the best way. Life will give them the gifts they deserve. Karma can be a mutha...

shausler said:

And a step toward a clean slate is made.

I have always remembered what goes around comes around, therefore I have always treated people the way that I would want to be treated.

Paisley said:

As you should

CtheUncanny said:

That's right with honesty and respect.

CtheUncanny said:

I can and will only respond to this relating to my physical/direct acquaintences. I am a very outspoken individual... I can read someone like you wouldn't believe. If I gain a sense of this type of behavior... I let it be known right away how it is with me, face-to-face... dead in the eyes. I intimidate most people with my approach and usually can resolve (at least from my stand point) any underlying issue... in other words... they stay out of my way.

~By the way... I don't have any enemies in my direct life , usually I take the time to let it be known my intentions/beliefs... I believe I am very fair, too fair sometimes. But don't get me .. it can be hell.

Paisley said:

Totally, yes, I am a great believer of this too...

REDFEATHERS said:

Me 2. Do as U would do un2 others. Have I bolloxed that up? Yes probably, oh dear.

JDINTERACTIVE said:

No you havent bolloxed it up..

REDFEATHERS said:

Thank you.

Everywhere you go there is sure to be a fucker like this near you. Just ignore them. Let the drown in their misery, but don't let them drag you down too!

What they do?
They smile in your face
All the time they want to take your place
The back stabbers (Back stabbers)
~Huff/McFadden/Whitehead


Smiling faces sometimes pretend to be your friend
Smiling faces show no traces of the evil that lurks within
Beware of the handshake that hides a snake
Beware of the pat on the back/It just might hold you back
~Strong/Whitfield

rdhull said:

god, i am glad you are back!

Supernova said:

Those songs were rolling around in my head when i made this thread :LOL:

cborgman said:

:HMM: What does race have to do with this post?

Confronting the situation is usually best for me.

sag10 said:

Hi Sag.

2the9s said:

Hi 9s!

sag10 said:

Did you click on the face, sag?






grrrr!
[This message was edited Sun Sep 7 20:06:02 PDT 2003 by 2the9s]

CtheUncanny said:

Yeah, lot of that shit done went on 'round here.