See? I am not all fun and silly.. every once in a great while I really sit and think! Scary isn't it?

See? I am not all fun and silly.. every once in a great while I really sit and think! Scary isn't it?

See? I am not all fun and silly.. every once in a great while I really sit and think! Scary isn't it?

yeah thanks, I've been havin some problems lately, and that gave me a little light on the subject..


Thanks again with much love in my heart.

Woah! It just came to my attention that this came off really heavy! Well I suppose it is or was! This was years ago now. I have 2 beautiful children. I used the example only to say I am not coming off the cuff here. I know the subject matter fairly well. No drama here! Im cool as a cucumber.

If I could keep one person from choosing the path of hate then it is worth the sharing. Hate is a long dark path that effects every part of your being. It is not a journey worth the taking!

Muse2noPharaoh said:

Thank you! :sla... aww never mind!

People,
Move on with your lives. Get in where you fit in. Love someone who loves you. Don't falsely blame others for the love that is not there for you. Don't waste your time and passion on a project, man, woman, or thing that isn't yours to have anyway. You only delay your own development. you stall the love that is yours to have in this world. You jade yourselves and then blame the world and even God for the misfortune you yourself have cast upon you. letting go and being at peace seems harder but in fact it is so much less effort then the pretense we often hold ourselves slave to.
If I have learned one lesson well in this life it is this: To hate another is a great amount of energy that destroys not the individual in question (albeit they deserve it or not ) but you! It eats away at the core of you destroys your character. Though the world may hold your hand and soothe your wound ... they cannot in fact alleviate the pain and rage that cries within. Only you can do this. Move on, let go. Your cause is then better served. The cause of you!

Personalization disclaimer and reality check:
If you think this song is about you Get over it! It is not!!! If it strikes at the core of you then I suppose you should consider it a lesson not only I needed.

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Muse2noPharaoh said:

Be my Romeo
Tell me all about your love
Tell me all about your pain
Baited breath and rubber gloves
Be my Romeo
My go-go Romeo

Christopher said:

You two timing bastid!

I see what you're saying and I'm happy that you've learned this for yourself. And, I agree that feelings of hate do tear you up... I've seen it.

Me? Well, I go the route of not hating, but removing said person/people from my life. No mention of them, no energy spent on them, basically as if they've never existed in my life and I move on. I have only ever been this drastic with two people in my life. Others, well, instead of hating them, I simply lose any respect that I once had for them and I don't dwell on the hate, because it isn't there. There just isn't any respect. I don't think I've actually ever hated another person. I may have hated things that they have said or done, and may have removed them from my life or simply not spent energy on going out of my way to be kind, but no one has brought me to actually hate them... yet. Well, other than me... but, I can't hardly tell myself to go away from me, can I?

As far as the love stuff goes. I won't be wasting my time on that as far as I go. I will allow another to love me, and I will be true to that person, but it takes too much out of me to give that to another and it's not a risk that I want to take... with the exception of my children, my mom and my grandma. Are there underlying issues that cause me to have done this my whole life? Perhaps, but I'm not all about trying to dig to the core of it... I'll just do what I know and what works for me.



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[This message was edited Mon May 12 5:26:15 PDT 2003 by AzureStar]

AzureStar said:

ThankU AzureStar, its as if U've been reading my thoughts.

it.

Me? Well, I go the route of not hating, but removing said person/people from my life. No mention of them, no energy spent on them, basically as if they've never existed in my life and I move on.

AzureStar said:

how long did it take for you to get to that point tho? (as far as did it happen with theyrs or has that always been part of your person)

If I have learned one lesson well in this life it is this: To hate another is a great amount of energy that destroys not the individual in question (albeit they deserve it or not ) but you! It eats away at the core of you destroys your character. Though the world may hold your hand and soothe your wound ... they cannot in fact alleviate the pain and rage that cries within. Only you can do this. Move on, let go. Your cause is then better served. The cause of you!

True, it's hard to move on.
I don't lose my feelings to anyone. the feelings I have for anyone, whether I like them, love them, or just respect them, I don't lose it because a relationship is over, because those feelings were real, and those people haven't changed, it's just that it didn't work out. so I still love, like or respect those people, and always will.

Moving on? it's easy to say, hard to do. These people were a part of your life, and you need to change your life in order to move on. chnaging your life needs a lot of strength, and unless you WANT to and willing to go the extra mile to change it, it's very difficult, because most of the time you have the strength to change your life for a good thing, and not to get away from what you feel that might have been a good thing.