alphastreet said:

alphastreet said:

My real dream job is to do something creative, I feel burned out from doing this kind of job. My heart wasn’t there

People often look at their jobs as their creative outlet. It's often not the case. No one sitting in a cubicle or behind a cash register or slinging coffee for the masses is getting their creative side fulfilled.

Sometimes a job is just a job. Let it be your cash cow to fund your passions in life. Your heart doesn't have to be in your job. You just have to show up and do the work and get paid.

Even the late-great Betty White said that despite enjoying acting, she kept doing it for so long because it helped fund her real passion which was animals.

Diane Sawyer once said her father told her, "Find what it is you love to do, do it in the most unusual place you can find, and eventually someone will pay you to do it."
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Autism testing for adults is not a hard line to an answer. A friend of mine is in this field (and good at it). I recently had a talk with him about it.

He said, "it's not a really exact science for kids either. There aren't really standardized testing protocols for testing in adults because the research focus is really on making that assessment early in development. But a psychiatrist who specializes in the spectrum would be your best bet. For adults, it's really mostly observational and checking boxes. It's not an exact science for kids either. Basically just observing, play, mannerisms, interactions and speech/language; lots of standardized testing. Everything pretty much has a number value and then all of those typically developing traits that are missing accumulate to a total score. That number places them somewhere on a scale, but hence the 'spectrum' component. There's not really one exact way to categorize it."

He also went onto say he believes autism is over-diagnosed, and that not a lot of practitioners really are well versed in what they're looking for. That was probably directed toward children, though.

You could still go to a doctor and try to find out, if you really think that is what is going on.

I know of one poster here on the org but I'm sure there could be more.

See your doctor and get tested so you know exactly what you are dealing with.

luv4u said:

Be careful - Like ADHD before it, there have been a lot of wrong diagnoses of aspergers. As it is primarily a pschological analysis, you can get doctors making lazy diagnoses.

IanRG said:

Be careful - Like ADHD before it, there have been a lot of wrong diagnoses of aspergers. As it is primarily a pschological analysis, you can get doctors making lazy diagnoses.

Yeah, I think that's why my friend mentioned he believes it's been over-diagnosed. I do think some kids are just assholes, rather than ADHD.

TrivialPursuit said:

alphastreet said:

EmmaMcG said:

TrivialPursuit said:

Yeah, I think that's why my friend mentioned he believes it's been over-diagnosed. I do think some kids are just assholes, rather than ADHD.

One of my daughter's friends diagnosed as ADHD. Well, not exactly a friend. He used to torment her. Pulling her hair, flicking little bits of paper at her. That kind of thing. When his parents told us my husband said "I just thought he was a little prick". That's the kind of brutal honesty I married him for

I need to be his best friend.

alphastreet said:

I quit cause I don’t feel like helping anyone eight now and have to address my own shit first. I still have my old job though so I’m ok Thanks for the encouragement I don’t think I have ADD though

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A school councillor tried to say my oldest son had aspergers. We looked it up and spoke to trusted professional and we all disagreed. Both my children went to school with a person who really had aspergers and it was a clear difference.

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Look after your health, whether it be physical or mental.

TrivialPursuit said:

IanRG said:

Be careful - Like ADHD before it, there have been a lot of wrong diagnoses of aspergers. As it is primarily a pschological analysis, you can get doctors making lazy diagnoses.

Yeah, I think that's why my friend mentioned he believes it's been over-diagnosed. I do think some kids are just assholes, rather than ADHD.

I love the way you think. ADHD is real, I have a nephew that has it, but I do agree with your comment above in some cases.

Empress said:

TrivialPursuit said:

Yeah, I think that's why my friend mentioned he believes it's been over-diagnosed. I do think some kids are just assholes, rather than ADHD.

I love the way you think. ADHD is real, I have a nephew that has it, but I do agree with your comment above in some cases.

I def don't disagree that ADHD exists. I think it, too, is over diagnosed. Parents seem 100% more willing to shove drugs down their kids throats than handle themselves as parents.

Children are reactive, not proactive, per se. If a child is acting up or in some situation like that, then I look at the parents. What are they writing on the child's slate of who they are? What kind of home environment does the child live in that they act any particular way? What is the parent not doing that could change and have the child react differently? If we are products of our environment and nurture plays greatly into who we are, then what brand of environment and nurturing is the child experiencing at home?

A child will tell you what they need, but they also aren't responsible for raising themselves.

TrivialPursuit said:

EmmaMcG said:

TrivialPursuit said:

I need to be his best friend.

I'm honestly not sure which one of you would be considered a bad influence on the other

At this age in life, I'm simply maintaining. ha