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Thread started 01/05/22 7:38am

alphastreet

Does anyone here have aspergers/autism?

I’ve believed for years I’ve had it but never got tested. I’m looking into it now, cause I’m struggling a lot at a new job that I’m most likely going to quit today. I’m having issues socializing and it’s hard to retain the information I’m learning, and I feel like something bigger is going on
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Reply #1 posted 01/05/22 8:37am

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alphastreet said:

I’ve believed for years I’ve had it but never got tested. I’m looking into it now, cause I’m struggling a lot at a new job that I’m most likely going to quit today. I’m having issues socializing and it’s hard to retain the information I’m learning, and I feel like something bigger is going on


Don't quit. Make notes and smile and pretend you fit in, this was your dream job. Many people have imposter syndrome at a new job. You can look into any issues on the side. There are many successful people with autism look at the uk celebrity Melanie Sykes.
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Reply #2 posted 01/05/22 8:38am

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I have no medical conditions and find it very hard to retain info I a new job as it's a lot at once and you feel out of place. Don't panic quit x
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Reply #3 posted 01/05/22 10:59am

alphastreet

My real dream job is to do something creative, I feel burned out from doing this kind of job. My heart wasn’t there
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Reply #4 posted 01/05/22 11:46am

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alphastreet said:

My real dream job is to do something creative, I feel burned out from doing this kind of job. My heart wasn’t there


People often look at their jobs as their creative outlet. It's often not the case. No one sitting in a cubicle or behind a cash register or slinging coffee for the masses is getting their creative side fulfilled.

Sometimes a job is just a job. Let it be your cash cow to fund your passions in life. Your heart doesn't have to be in your job. You just have to show up and do the work and get paid.

Even the late-great Betty White said that despite enjoying acting, she kept doing it for so long because it helped fund her real passion which was animals.

Diane Sawyer once said her father told her, "Find what it is you love to do, do it in the most unusual place you can find, and eventually someone will pay you to do it."
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Autism testing for adults is not a hard line to an answer. A friend of mine is in this field (and good at it). I recently had a talk with him about it.

He said, "it's not a really exact science for kids either. There aren't really standardized testing protocols for testing in adults because the research focus is really on making that assessment early in development. But a psychiatrist who specializes in the spectrum would be your best bet. For adults, it's really mostly observational and checking boxes. It's not an exact science for kids either. Basically just observing, play, mannerisms, interactions and speech/language; lots of standardized testing. Everything pretty much has a number value and then all of those typically developing traits that are missing accumulate to a total score. That number places them somewhere on a scale, but hence the 'spectrum' component. There's not really one exact way to categorize it."

He also went onto say he believes autism is over-diagnosed, and that not a lot of practitioners really are well versed in what they're looking for. That was probably directed toward children, though.

You could still go to a doctor and try to find out, if you really think that is what is going on.


"eye don’t really care so much what people say about me because it is a reflection of who they r."
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Reply #5 posted 01/05/22 12:36pm

alphastreet

I still have my old job and will look for a min wage one to do so I have something

That’s good to know about the differences between testing kids and adults, will bring it up to my GP when I go next week
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Reply #6 posted 01/05/22 12:58pm

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From what I understand it presents differently in women in many cases than men and takes longer to diagnose. There's quite a few legitimate mental health professionals on YT not that it takes the place of therapy. But therapy is costly but getting understanding is helpful.

My favorite breaks down the spectrum in simple language.
https://youtu.be/K_26L21AmVQ

This is geared to adult wwoman.

https://youtu.be/Gt25lASu6Ys
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Reply #7 posted 01/05/22 1:17pm

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I know of one poster here on the org but I'm sure there could be more.

Welcome to "the org", Mumio…they can have you, but I'll have your love in the end nod
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Reply #8 posted 01/05/22 6:07pm

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See your doctor and get tested so you know exactly what you are dealing with.

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Reply #9 posted 01/05/22 6:07pm

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See your doctor and get tested so you know exactly what you are dealing with.



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Reply #10 posted 01/06/22 3:28pm

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Be careful - Like ADHD before it, there have been a lot of wrong diagnoses of aspergers. As it is primarily a pschological analysis, you can get doctors making lazy diagnoses.

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Reply #11 posted 01/06/22 3:50pm

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IanRG said:

Be careful - Like ADHD before it, there have been a lot of wrong diagnoses of aspergers. As it is primarily a pschological analysis, you can get doctors making lazy diagnoses.


Yeah, I think that's why my friend mentioned he believes it's been over-diagnosed. I do think some kids are just assholes, rather than ADHD.

"eye don’t really care so much what people say about me because it is a reflection of who they r."
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Reply #12 posted 01/06/22 4:15pm

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TrivialPursuit said:



IanRG said:


Be careful - Like ADHD before it, there have been a lot of wrong diagnoses of aspergers. As it is primarily a pschological analysis, you can get doctors making lazy diagnoses.




Yeah, I think that's why my friend mentioned he believes it's been over-diagnosed. I do think some kids are just assholes, rather than ADHD.



One of my daughter's friends diagnosed as ADHD. Well, not exactly a friend. He used to torment her. Pulling her hair, flicking little bits of paper at her. That kind of thing. When his parents told us my husband said "I just thought he was a little prick". That's the kind of brutal honesty I married him for lol
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Reply #13 posted 01/06/22 4:24pm

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alphastreet said:

I’ve believed for years I’ve had it but never got tested. I’m looking into it now, cause I’m struggling a lot at a new job that I’m most likely going to quit today. I’m having issues socializing and it’s hard to retain the information I’m learning, and I feel like something bigger is going on


My advice, such as it is, is to not quit. I can't speak from experience because I've never had what could be considered a "real job" but I know from my brother and my husband that new jobs are generally tough at the beginning. You are given a lot of information and you convince yourself that you need to remember it all immediately. But it's not like that. Nobody expects you to be employee of the month or anything when you're just starting out. You'll make mistakes but that's how you'll learn. It might take some time but the worst thing you can do is to put more pressure on yourself. Relax. Take each day as it comes and don't worry so much.
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Reply #14 posted 01/06/22 5:30pm

alphastreet

I quit cause I don’t feel like helping anyone eight now and have to address my own shit first. I still have my old job though so I’m ok

Thanks for the encouragement

I don’t think I have ADD though
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Reply #15 posted 01/06/22 7:01pm

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EmmaMcG said:

TrivialPursuit said:


Yeah, I think that's why my friend mentioned he believes it's been over-diagnosed. I do think some kids are just assholes, rather than ADHD.

One of my daughter's friends diagnosed as ADHD. Well, not exactly a friend. He used to torment her. Pulling her hair, flicking little bits of paper at her. That kind of thing. When his parents told us my husband said "I just thought he was a little prick". That's the kind of brutal honesty I married him for lol


I need to be his best friend.

"eye don’t really care so much what people say about me because it is a reflection of who they r."
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Reply #16 posted 01/06/22 7:25pm

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alphastreet said:

I quit cause I don’t feel like helping anyone eight now and have to address my own shit first. I still have my old job though so I’m ok Thanks for the encouragement I don’t think I have ADD though

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A school councillor tried to say my oldest son had aspergers. We looked it up and spoke to trusted professional and we all disagreed. Both my children went to school with a person who really had aspergers and it was a clear difference.

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Look after your health, whether it be physical or mental.

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Reply #17 posted 01/07/22 10:26am

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TrivialPursuit said:

IanRG said:

Be careful - Like ADHD before it, there have been a lot of wrong diagnoses of aspergers. As it is primarily a pschological analysis, you can get doctors making lazy diagnoses.


Yeah, I think that's why my friend mentioned he believes it's been over-diagnosed. I do think some kids are just assholes, rather than ADHD.

I love the way you think. smile ADHD is real, I have a nephew that has it, but I do agree with your comment above in some cases.

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Reply #18 posted 01/07/22 12:19pm

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Empress said:

TrivialPursuit said:


Yeah, I think that's why my friend mentioned he believes it's been over-diagnosed. I do think some kids are just assholes, rather than ADHD.

I love the way you think. smile ADHD is real, I have a nephew that has it, but I do agree with your comment above in some cases.


I def don't disagree that ADHD exists. I think it, too, is over diagnosed. Parents seem 100% more willing to shove drugs down their kids throats than handle themselves as parents.

Children are reactive, not proactive, per se. If a child is acting up or in some situation like that, then I look at the parents. What are they writing on the child's slate of who they are? What kind of home environment does the child live in that they act any particular way? What is the parent not doing that could change and have the child react differently? If we are products of our environment and nurture plays greatly into who we are, then what brand of environment and nurturing is the child experiencing at home?

A child will tell you what they need, but they also aren't responsible for raising themselves.

"eye don’t really care so much what people say about me because it is a reflection of who they r."
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Reply #19 posted 01/07/22 4:15pm

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TrivialPursuit said:



EmmaMcG said:


TrivialPursuit said:



Yeah, I think that's why my friend mentioned he believes it's been over-diagnosed. I do think some kids are just assholes, rather than ADHD.



One of my daughter's friends diagnosed as ADHD. Well, not exactly a friend. He used to torment her. Pulling her hair, flicking little bits of paper at her. That kind of thing. When his parents told us my husband said "I just thought he was a little prick". That's the kind of brutal honesty I married him for lol


I need to be his best friend.



I'm honestly not sure which one of you would be considered a bad influence on the other razz
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Reply #20 posted 01/07/22 4:28pm

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EmmaMcG said:

TrivialPursuit said:


I need to be his best friend.

I'm honestly not sure which one of you would be considered a bad influence on the other razz


At this age in life, I'm simply maintaining. ha

"eye don’t really care so much what people say about me because it is a reflection of who they r."
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