benni said:

Also, purple, I just wanted to say that if you aren't able to update us, that's okay. Your focus will need to be with your dad and your family. But just know that I will be keeping you in my prayers and thoughts. And we'll be here when you are able to come back.

Thank you, Benni, for that advice about Medicaid and hospice care...because my sister is in the process of applying for either/or... Your advice as a professional is so much appreciated. I have to come back because I live in another state...and have to pay my own bills...and I ain't rich. Like I said, my family is working together to give my dad and step-mom the best care we can in this emergency situation. Gonna leave this song here because it has personal meaning in this situation--like my son knows... Thank you again everyone... I'll be back.

I'm late but I'm very sorry to hear that...I hope you can eventually gather enough strength to get through these tough times.

purplethunder3121 said:

Just bought a plane ticket to go and relieve my sister--my Dad has cancer and his wife--my stepmother--has early signs of Alzheimers. I'm about to go into living hell--can someone help with suggestions? Benni--are you still here? I want to help but I'm going to have to deal with a situation I haven't had to in many years (cancer) but the Alzheimer's is throwing me for a loop... Any helpful recommendations... Thanks.

i had a mom with alcoholic dementia, it was grueling for my brother, unfortunately, it was hard for me to deal with in any way. I just thought today that she's almost been gone 13 years and i miss her more than anything. My brother was the caretaker and never the strongest person, ended up burnt out and basically letting her die on a sidewalk.

I do have to say with all the deaths in my family, there is one good thing, i don't have to stress and worry over too many more people, that part is a relief, that might sound nasty but it's not meant to be. Sometimes I worry about my brother but he's the only one left I get stressed over and i can't help him anyway so what's the point?