IstenSzek said:

No offence, but this is a bit creepy. If I was in your boyfriend's situation, I hate to say it but I'd tell you to get rid of it... and if you showed any hesitation I'd dump you in a flash and probably call you a psychotherapist also

If your boyfriend hasn't left yet, he's a very understanding man.

ian said:

Ditto!

althom said:

I'm with Althom and Ian on ths one! Burn that motherfucker and respect your man! How creeped out would you be if every now and then he done the vacuuming wearing a used tampon from his ex-girlfriend around his neck??

IstenSzek said:

Supernova said:

SuperC said:

Supernova said:

I can see your new beau's point.
I am sure it is not the shirt itself ...
the fact that you won't give it up says that
you still carry a torch for the old boyfriend...
the fact that you still wear it says...


apparently your new boyfriend is threatened
by your attachment to the old boyfriend/shirt!!!

Ya know how fragile the male ego is!!!


...thought ya knew!!...

I believe that in most cases, ex-lovers can't be friends. They can be FRIENDLY (Xmas cards, birthday gifts, etc.), but new lovers tend to be threatened by lingering exes, especially if it was a SERIOUS relationship.

Or they can be threatened by an object such as the sperm shirt...

1. Forcibly reassure your lover that the shirt represents a time of your life that was crucial to your personal development.

2. BUT...question yourself: Why do I keep the shirt? Is it because I'm still in love with him? Or do I simply keep the shirt to remind me of THE GOOD PARTS of that expired relationship?

3. If the reason for keeping the shirt in the latter, then tell your current lover that the shirt is a way of preventing yourself from looking at the old relationship with bitterness. ALL dead relationships had their happy moments, and the shirt is a memento of those moments.

4. If your man has a problem with this--and he WILL; men get VERY uneasy when they think of someone else having sex with their lover (I'm guilty of this)--tell him that you will compromise by not wearing the shirt in front of him, or put it away in the attic.

5. Either way, keep the shirt. If THIS relationship goes bad, get out the shirt when you need a reminder that one day you'll be looking at the relationship that just ended with a sense of "I-remember-that-time-when..."

iccckkk thats gross...you should write a song or poem about that..if you have already please share/.

fuck it ,

if that krusty teeshirt makes you happy then so be it...lie to him and put it away

Christopher said:

Imagine what it smell like now!

althom said:

haha id rather not.

besides if i want to know ill just "make a shirt" myself
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[This message was edited Mon Apr 7 18:55:41 PDT 2003 by Christopher]

JimmyNothing said:

is someone missing something here?

I'll join your little freak show here: I think it's kinda sexy that you kept it and have worn it. Though I wouldn't want to be in an enclosed space with you while you've got it on.

But out of respect for your current guy, I think you should put it away. You don't have to lie about it. Just use the magic words: You Were Right. Tell him, "You were right. You were right to feel upset. I'm sorry. It has sentimental value to me and I don't want to give it up, but I will put it away. Thanks for being honest with me about your feelings."

You can always get it out again after you dump this bitch.

Paisley said:

SonnySixkiller said:

See, you know what I'm talking about. It's not like I want
the guy back or anything. We broke up and both knew that it
was the only right thing to do and that we would never get
back together again.

But it was a real kind of love, something unlike other
relationships I've had. So sometimes when I go out I wear
the shirt as a reminder, just to keep me in check. Kind
of like saying 'there might be cool guys out here for a
night of fun, but what you should be doing is try and talk
to someone seriously and not just follow your dick'.

It's strange that such thought should be attached to a
jizz-shirt, I know.

Supernova said:

IstenSzek said:

You should tell your boyfriend that and see what he says!

Sounds reasonable to me...

I think the shirt and your current man should both stay. Sounds to me, you're describing feelings of loss and grief that are hard to move past and that may be getting in your way of forming new, current bonds. I say, be honest with your feelings first by yourself, perhaps you need to cry, I dunno, if you then explained what I am assuming to be pain to your current love, about what that b/friend meant to you, maybe that very act will bring the two of you closer. If he is worth his salt it will. If he has jealousy issues, it may not matter what you say and only you can judge that. In which case, why share this whole issue with him at all? Sometimes, if that is the case, some things have to just be left out altogether.

That's my contribution, anyway.

Christopher said:

In fact, I did write a poem about the moment the shirt was
"created"
[This message was edited Tue Apr 8 2:05:16 PDT 2003 by IstenSzek]

The fact that you still have that t-shirt is no biggy.I used to have this pair of crouch-less g-strings that this chick left behind .But I didnt walk around the house wearin the dirty mf's either.Unless this persons someone your going to be with for along time,fuck it just lie and say the shirt is history.Because whatever the hell it may be the shirt means something to you and if this relationship ends soon and you got rid of it for him,you might just go over the edge.
(I did wear those panties on my head once,woke up a few hours later and shit hasnt been the same since) g/l
[This message was edited Tue Apr 8 1:19:01 PDT 2003 by crazyhorse]

BTW, I so know what you mean with that T-shirt... I've done it with sperm stains on the bed sheets. There are other things I've collected too from various people after they have gone... hairs on pillows, worn socks (a fave of mine), while I started to see a long term b/friend years ago, I actually plucked hairs from his head to keep when we were apart. Told him all about it later... I had a little pot full of hairs at one point!! I think it is an important part of letting go - and that is holding on...

I think EVERYONE has done it at one point or another. Once I avoided emptying the trash can because it had used condoms in it (sorry if that's WAY too much information )

Anyhow I finally emptied it about a month later.

Natsume said:

you win!

Christopher said:

What did I win? Some chops ahoy?

Natsume said:

the chewy ones!

Christopher said:

Speaking of chewy, I also waited a while to wash my sheets.

Natsume said:

thats great my friend ...fill us in on what else you "didnt " do
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[This message was edited Tue Apr 8 1:43:50 PDT 2003 by Christopher]

Christopher said:

That's about it... I promise!



This isn't gross, but I have a bottle of tonic water in the fridge that has like half a glass left in it... that is from beginning of January I think. From my most recent ex. Dunno when I'm gonna recycle that