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Sex - for physical satisfaction or spiritual connection? As a person with major commitment issues - and in denial
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Both. Even when peep are sexing on the most base level, other stuff is going on...I don't wanna get all esoteric on the org, so I'll leave it right there.
"Boring sex to gain a higher intimacy" - I'm not sure what u mean? [Edited 10/5/16 11:57am] "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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"monagomous spiritual connection" "blurs the idealistic theory" "sex to gain a higher intimacy" intimacy is the 'idealistic spiritual connection'... monagomy is a manmade theory and only practiced by a few in the 'wild kingdom' and monagomy shouldn't be confused with 'love' or intimacy. for folks that feel you can only love one person at a time, they fail to realize that we love the world. as for the thing about one mate, i know folks that have multiple kids by mutiple people. the ones who haven't been married are shunned the ones that were married a number of times, havin babies in each marriage, are celebrated... the spirit doesn't follow the rules of monagomy... THEN TOO... i'm KING BAD!!! i got rules of my own... i am KING BAD!!!
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KingBAD said: "monagomous spiritual connection" "blurs the idealistic theory" "sex to gain a higher intimacy" intimacy is the 'idealistic spiritual connection'... monagomy is a manmade theory and only practiced by a few in the 'wild kingdom' and monagomy shouldn't be confused with 'love' or intimacy. for folks that feel you can only love one person at a time, they fail to realize that we love the world. as for the thing about one mate, i know folks that have multiple kids by mutiple people. the ones who haven't been married are shunned the ones that were married a number of times, havin babies in each marriage, are celebrated... the spirit doesn't follow the rules of monagomy... THEN TOO... i'm KING BAD!!! i got rules of my own... I've loved more than one person at a time. I've also had a decade long monogamous relationship, it was far from boring. It's all man made 2 me, everything on this blue planet floating round the milky way. Everything's man made. We co-sign the 'reality' of the time/place/culture. Or we don't. Morality, good/bad is relative. I saw a tribe of people who when the women have a boyfriend, when she becomes pregnant her brother becomes the 'father'. She can go on 2 have as many more boyfriends as she likes. Men & women don't marry or live together. I've known ole timers who've been together a lifetime & love it, worked 4 them. Different strokes. I agree, monogamy shouldn't be confused with love or intimacy. Also in my experience, love & intimacy can be expressed/experienced in casual relationships & one nighters, quiet as it's kept. [Edited 10/5/16 12:06pm] "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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To expand…the last half of my marriage was sexually routine – and I was bored (and was for me a factor in the dissolution)
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Connected said:
To expand…the last half of my marriage was sexually routine – and I was bored (and was for me a factor in the dissolution)
I see. Is the new lovely partner willing 2 compromise some? Are you? Meet in the middle somehow? "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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Connected said:
Wish I could remember their name. They were an oriental people. It was a matriarchal culture with a 'government' of Grandmothers. There's so many varieties of 'reality', now & throughout human history. That's an interesting link btw. "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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Men are about the penis. Women are about the whole body. All you others say Hell Yea!! | |
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Connected said:
I meant is she willing 2 compromise with certain things sexually & are you? But when u say 'lustful', that's something else. When the chemistry is right & the sexuality is compatible it's cool. But when there's a sexual issue it can become a big deal 4 some. Re monogamy, personally, moretime I'm a one man woman, but I've had a few adventures along the way "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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. It is called "Walking Marriage". . "I could stand in the middle of 5th Avenue and shoot somebody and I wouldn't lose voters," Donald Trump | |
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QueenofCardboard said:
. It is called "Walking Marriage". . Thanks 4 that. "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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Connected said:
No prob, good luck. Maybe after being married u ain't ready 2 have a heavy scene yet. Maybe, I don't know. "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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I think the sheer fact that you are questioning this relationship, for whatever reason, this early on would suggest that long term, however interesting and attractive she may be, this might not be someone that you could tolerate for decades to come. In order to sustain a long term monogamous relationship one has to be prepared to accept and even learn to appreciate the others foibles. It seems to me that a quirk at the beginning of a relationship either grows into a constant irritation or something accepted and even embraced. A lack of physical exertion in the bedroom is nothing new - work commitments, stress and numerous other reasons can all be components of a lack of enthusiasm in the bedroom. What you need to ask yourself is, if your first lady was better in the bedroom and this lady more mentally stimulating, then would you be better trying to find a combination of the two? To be slightly pessimistic. I think there are always compromises to be made in order to sustain a relationship. I'm not so sure that even the seemingly happiest of couples are happy all of the time. The question always is, do I accept the things I hate about the person and celebrate the things I love about them or am I consumed with the things I hate and struggling to see the things I love? I confess that there have been times when I have struggled to be the former and have drifted towards the latter but communication is everything. Maybe you need to have an honest and frank conversation with her, see what happens? | |
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You go too far with sex, it's just about physical satisfaction most of the time, don't put much thought on it, first,first. Then of course it becomes a spritual connection, but that is afterwards, and not always, sometimes is just about physical satisfaction. But as Prince said: "In lust we will suffer, in love we will grow". | |
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Prince, in you I found a kindred spirit...Rest In Paradise. | |
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Prince, in you I found a kindred spirit...Rest In Paradise. | |
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then you don't have kids or relativesand you play favorites if one child is slow gettin in they outta luck for love.... i unnastand what you meant. i am KING BAD!!!
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babynoz said:
...& all the rest "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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KingBAD said:
then you don't have kids or relativesand you play favorites if one child is slow gettin in they outta luck for love.... i unnastand what you meant. So what? I turn invisible or something? Right! That's it! I ain't your friend no more! Keep blanking me & shit! "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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babynoz said:
I dontcarenoshame "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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SEE!!!
i am KING BAD!!!
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KingBAD said:
SEE!!!
Notalkin2unomore "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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