I guess it's a legal and moral coupling of two people that love each other.

seemed like a good idea at the time

I'm 47, single dad to four children and I have one grandchild. I have NEVER been married, and based off of other people and just relationships in general? I would dfeine marriage in one simple sentence: DON'T DO IT!!!!

imo marriage when two people can be joined together with:\

1. loyalty

2. trust

3. admiration

4. friendship

5. love

6. protectiveness

7. caring

8. sharing

9. respect

10 understanding

11. tolerance

12. happiness

just to let the fellas know... when you get married... you get HEAPS more oral sex... i was like, "wowza... who knew?"

MoBettaBliss said:

just to let the fellas know... when you get married... you get HEAPS more oral sex... i was like, "wowza... who knew?"

marriage is an institutional contract joined in by two people

statin that they will cohabitate and share in an equal union

unifyin their assets and liabilities. a union of collaberation.

IN A WORD!!! BULLSHIT

but i will do it one day. at this point, my old fashioned ass

can stay married for the rest of my life with no prollum

It depend on what day you ask me this question.

As of right now...

its arrrright.

Ask me again in 6 months time.

another thing fellas... those quirky little things about you that your partner thought were cute when you were dating... well, it turns out as the marriage goes on through the years, they find those things even more endearing!... it's wonderful

Beautifulstarr123 said:

Marriage seems so corrupt nowadays, I don't even have the words to define it.

I find this post confusing.

For thousands of years marriage had nothing to do with love. Marriage in the past was an arranged alliance between families basically at the expense of their children. Women were sold to men in the form of a dowry.

"Historically married women had very few rights of their own, being considered, along with the family's children, the property of the husband; as such, they could not own or inherit property, or represent themselves legally"

Polygamy was also widely practiced. How is that a good thing - for anyone but the husband anyway.

Also, it was more common place for a woman to be trapped in a marriage at the mercy of her husband with no option of divorce or escape.

Infidelity has been the norm between adults since the beginning of time, so it's not like that is now worse.

Nowadays (most) people at least have the choice of who they wish to marry and with the best intentions (usually) marry for love.

I personally do not believe marriage is necessary but saying it is "corrupt" now when it has had such a harmful past when it comes to women's rights (and still does in some parts of the world) is odd to me.

JustErin said:

RodeoSchro said:

I guess it's a legal and moral coupling of two people that love each other.

Beautifulstarr123 said:

JustErin said:

I find this post confusing.

For thousands of years marriage had nothing to do with love. Marriage in the past was an arranged alliance between families basically at the expense of their children. Women were sold to men in the form of a dowry.

"Historically married women had very few rights of their own, being considered, along with the family's children, the property of the husband; as such, they could not own or inherit property, or represent themselves legally"

Polygamy was also widely practiced. How is that a good thing - for anyone but the husband anyway.

Also, it was more common place for a woman to be trapped in a marriage at the mercy of her husband with no option of divorce or escape.

Infidelity has been the norm between adults since the beginning of time, so it's not like that is now worse.

Nowadays (most) people at least have the choice of who they wish to marry and with the best intentions (usually) marry for love.

I personally do not believe marriage is necessary but saying it is "corrupt" now when it has had such a harmful past when it comes to women's rights (and still does in some parts of the world) is odd to me.

True, that's how marriage went down. I see marriage as a lifetime contract as well as a spiritual bond. Whether it's for love or obligation, all to often, even on a grand scale, especially in Western culture, those contracts are broken by divorce or adultery. That's why I said it's corrupt. My belief is some people shouldn't sign these types of contracts, because it shouldn't be taken lightly, especially when it comes to children. How you define marriage, depends on the individual because there's diverse cultures and beliefs on it. My beliefs are also based on my upbringing, especially spiritual and through observing others. ...on a side note, some couples have grown to love each other.Therefore, arranged marriages doesn't always have a negative side. It depends on the individuals.

I agree with you except for the fact that you assigned blame (corruption) on the INSTITUTION as opposed to the people who attempt it.

I would say that PEOPLE are so corrupt nowadays that the institution is pretty much done.

YEARS ago I had an argument with someone who told me that "most guys will say their wedding vows just to please their girlfriend, not because they mean it." I argued against that, because I can't see myself making a promise that I never intend to keep.
Yet...I think that at the end of the day, he was right. MANY people go through motions of getting married as a means of gaining the materialistic advantages (having a big wedding, getting gifts, fulfilling parental expectations, etc.), but when they swear to the priest/minister/justice the words "For better or for worse, in good times and in bad" they are doing so out of rote. There is no meaning behind it. It's just like reciting a poem or something.

That's why I say that it's the people who have grown "corrupt" not marriage itself.

Recent studies have shown US marriage longevity is on the rise, though. We're figuring out how to stay married longer, whether that means we're happily married or not. I'd like to think it's that we're staying happy.

We normalized getting married for love and women are now generally able to support themselves as singles so much of the necessity of marriage is gone. We saw divorce rates skyrocket once it became easier both legally and logistically not to mention socially. The stigma of divorce is all but gone.

Now that marriage is truly becoming a choice we're waiting much later in life to get married, which tends to lead to longevity as well. It makes sense.

PurpleJedi said:

RodeoSchro said:

I guess it's a legal and moral coupling of two people that love each other.

what love got to do with it???

i know folks that got married and never

even cared about the other one...

AND they stayed married "til death did they part"

matter of fact, some of the most stable

marriges in this society are made up of people

with no love in the home

PurpleJedi said:

PurpleJedi said:

RodeoSchro said:

I guess it's a legal and moral coupling of two people that love each other.

co-sign. married means two=one.

it's a moral decision first, i think. i think you have to decide to create a union (not two people sometimes going in the same direction), and you have to put some of your ish to the side and agree that the union is now first priority.

many have trouble with that. 'we' has to be more important than 'I'.

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I keep it simple: The joining of committed parties under a set of mutually recognized terms.

CONtract.

Lots of negative points of view. I have been married for 24 years and am extremely happy with my wifey. However, I know that is way outside of the norm. Long term marriage, even long term relationships, are not for everyone, and i find that very, very sad. But, that's speaking from my point of view. Everything that is great about marriage (sharing your day, doing special things for them, having a companion to talk to) can be had without being married as well.

a) legal contract

b) sacrament

c) a combination of A and B

Prince and his guitar.

Personally?

1. Something kinda nice to place as an ornamental piece on the love my wife and I already had after living together for 5 years.

2. A better visa.

3. Other misc. paperwork issues made easier.