http://www.ajc.com/news/news/cops-georgia-man-assaults-woman-for-not-matching-o/nhpRw/

How dare she?

This is creepy to say the least...

ZombieKitten said:

I know you are joking when you say don't lie on your profile, but it's like saying don't wear a short skirt, don't drink too much, etc and that she's asking for it. Dudes gotta control themselves. Serious, walking away and never coming back would've been the smartest thing here. I don't what an idiotic lady SHE was, she didn't deserve this The whole thing is idiotic to me. And I know, emotions are real even when dating profiles are stretching the truth or outright lies.

Of course, but what a strange encounter all the way around.

ZombieKitten said:

I know you are joking when you say don't lie on your profile, but it's like saying don't wear a short skirt, don't drink too much, etc and that she's asking for it. Dudes gotta control themselves. Serious, walking away and never coming back would've been the smartest thing here. I don't what an idiotic lady SHE was, she didn't deserve this The whole thing is idiotic to me. And I know, emotions are real even when dating profiles are stretching the truth or outright lies.

i think nobody is saying it's the woman's fault.

nextedition said:

ZombieKitten said:

I know you are joking when you say don't lie on your profile, but it's like saying don't wear a short skirt, don't drink too much, etc and that she's asking for it. Dudes gotta control themselves. Serious, walking away and never coming back would've been the smartest thing here. I don't what an idiotic lady SHE was, she didn't deserve this The whole thing is idiotic to me. And I know, emotions are real even when dating profiles are stretching the truth or outright lies.

i think nobody is saying it's the woman's fault.

I know. But in suggesting a behaviour needs to be changed (don't lie on your online profile or else you can expect assault) it's like saying if you didn't do it then it wouldn't happen to you. It IS laying part of the blame on the victim.

I know the OP is not blaming the victim. I'm just being nit-picky about the language

ZombieKitten said:

nextedition said:

i think nobody is saying it's the woman's fault.

I know. But in suggesting a behaviour needs to be changed (don't lie on your online profile or else you can expect assault) it's like saying if you didn't do it then it wouldn't happen to you. It IS laying part of the blame on the victim.

I know the OP is not blaming the victim. I'm just being nit-picky about the language

I'm totally with you.

Soooooooo..... he couldn't get back in his car and go home?

He's an asshole...

Somewhere down the line, he'd find something else to beat her ass about. She may have been disingenous about her appearance but he was a liar about being a decent human being. She's probably lucky to be alive. Good grief.

morningsong said:

He never went for a visit BEFORE he packs up and moves? Was he getting evicted or something? Maybe moms kicked him out the basement? Doesn't sound like the sharpest tool in the shed, as they say, either of them.

THAT^.

TD3 said:

Soooooooo..... he couldn't get back in his car and go home?

THAT^ too.

The problem with short articles like this is we never really get the whole story, so we make assumptions without knowing all the facts.

How do we know the guy didn't spend a week or more with her before moving in?

How often did they communicate online before he moved in?

How much did they talk on the phone before he moved in?

It's only natural for most people to be on their best behavior at the beginning of every new relationship, while emphasizing their positives and hiding their negatives. And Lord knows these days most people have an overinflated opinion of themselves, when they look in the mirror they just don't see the blemishes.

So going on the little information we have about this situation, I'd say the woman is not at fault at all. She was probably on her best behavior prior to his moving in, and then couldn't maintain that best behavior 24/7. You never really get to know somebody until you live with them IMO.

Pokeno4Money said:

The problem with short articles like this is we never really get the whole story, so we make assumptions without knowing all the facts.

How do we know the guy didn't spend a week or more with her before moving in?

How often did they communicate online before he moved in?

How much did they talk on the phone before he moved in?

It's only natural for most people to be on their best behavior at the beginning of every new relationship, while emphasizing their positives and hiding their negatives. And Lord knows these days most people have an overinflated opinion of themselves, when they look in the mirror they just don't see the blemishes.

So going on the little information we have about this situation, I'd say the woman is not at fault at all. She was probably on her best behavior prior to his moving in, and then couldn't maintain that best behavior 24/7. You never really get to know somebody until you live with them IMO.

Were you really trying to look for a justification for the beating? You were actually entertaining the idea that somehow there could be a reason for her to be at fault for this assault?

JustErin said:

Pokeno4Money said:

The problem with short articles like this is we never really get the whole story, so we make assumptions without knowing all the facts.

How do we know the guy didn't spend a week or more with her before moving in?

How often did they communicate online before he moved in?

How much did they talk on the phone before he moved in?

It's only natural for most people to be on their best behavior at the beginning of every new relationship, while emphasizing their positives and hiding their negatives. And Lord knows these days most people have an overinflated opinion of themselves, when they look in the mirror they just don't see the blemishes.

So going on the little information we have about this situation, I'd say the woman is not at fault at all. She was probably on her best behavior prior to his moving in, and then couldn't maintain that best behavior 24/7. You never really get to know somebody until you live with them IMO.

Were you really trying to look for a justification for the beating? You were actually entertaining the idea that somehow there could be a reason for her to be at fault for this assault?

C'mon Erin, read my last paragraph again as I specifically said the woman is not at fault at all, in response to those who assume she somehow deceived him.

You're fishing for something that isn't there.

Just to clear the air here... I'm ugly and fat No lie.

JustErin said:

You said going on the little info we have she as not guilty. A person was beaten there is no justification for that...ever. So I find that last comment ridiculous.

Actually I wrote she's not at fault at all, and again it was in response to whether or not she intentionally deceived the man. Even if she did intentionally deceive him, that would have absolutely nothing to do with whether or not his actions were justified - obviously there is no justification for assault, ever. You making that huge leap from possible misrepresentation on a dating site to whether or not she deserved to be beaten is what's ridiculous. I get the impression this is a sensitive subject for you, perhaps because of personal experiences, so I won't engage in further discussion out of respect.

Pokeno4Money said:

JustErin said:

You said going on the little info we have she as not guilty. A person was beaten there is no justification for that...ever. So I find that last comment ridiculous.

Actually I wrote she's not at fault at all, and again it was in response to whether or not she intentionally deceived the man. Even if she did intentionally deceive him, that would have absolutely nothing to do with whether or not his actions were justified - obviously there is no justification for assault, ever. You making that huge leap from possible misrepresentation on a dating site to whether or not she deserved to be beaten is what's ridiculous. I get the impression this is a sensitive subject for you, perhaps because of personal experiences, so I won't engage in further discussion out of respect.

No personal experience here what so ever.

Why go on about not having the whole story, making presumptions without having facts and then question all the things that led up to it? Why question any of it if these facts are not relevent because there is no excuse to beat a person?

You're now just back-peddling....also trying to insinuate that my assertion that violent reactions are never excusable must be because I had some kind of similar experience is totally messed up.

JustErin said:

Pokeno4Money said:

Actually I wrote she's not at fault at all, and again it was in response to whether or not she intentionally deceived the man. Even if she did intentionally deceive him, that would have absolutely nothing to do with whether or not his actions were justified - obviously there is no justification for assault, ever. You making that huge leap from possible misrepresentation on a dating site to whether or not she deserved to be beaten is what's ridiculous. I get the impression this is a sensitive subject for you, perhaps because of personal experiences, so I won't engage in further discussion out of respect.

No personal experience here what so ever.

Why go on about not having the whole story, making presumptions without having facts and then question all the things that led up to it? Why question any of it if these facts are not relevent because there is no excuse to beat a person?

You're now just back-peddling....also trying to insinuate that my assertion that violent reactions are never excusable must be because I had some kind of similar experience is totally messed up.

Me backpeddle? Ain't nobody more willing to give an opinion and stand by it regardless of whether it conflicts with other people's opinions.

You seem to think this story and thread is about just another case of domestic violence - but it's not. Read the OP and the other responses. Was the heading "Don't Lie About Your Online Profile" not big enough for you to see? Do you not understand that the only reason we all heard about this story is because of the alleged online misrepresentation?

All along I have defended the woman, said she wasn't at fault at all, and then condemned all types of assaults - yet you still are going after me and only me! Hmmm .... drawing on my psychology background, now I'm actually flattered.

Pokeno4Money said:

JustErin said:

No personal experience here what so ever.

Why go on about not having the whole story, making presumptions without having facts and then question all the things that led up to it? Why question any of it if these facts are not relevent because there is no excuse to beat a person?

You're now just back-peddling....also trying to insinuate that my assertion that violent reactions are never excusable must be because I had some kind of similar experience is totally messed up.

Me backpeddle? Ain't nobody more willing to give an opinion and stand by it regardless of whether it conflicts with other people's opinions.

You seem to think this story and thread is about just another case of domestic violence - but it's not. Read the OP and the other responses. Was the heading "Don't Lie About Your Online Profile" not big enough for you to see? Do you not understand that the only reason we all heard about this story is because of the alleged online misrepresentation?

All along I have defended the woman, said she wasn't at fault at all, and then condemned all types of assaults - yet you still are going after me and only me! Hmmm .... drawing on my psychology background, now I'm actually flattered.

this story IS about domestic violence... regardless of any titles/headings

it's really not difficult to understand why people take issue with how this is being presented

if a woman cooks her husband scrambled eggs, and she burns them, so he punches her in the face, should the story read "don't burn your man's eggs"

Pokeno4Money said:

JustErin said:

No personal experience here what so ever.

Why go on about not having the whole story, making presumptions without having facts and then question all the things that led up to it? Why question any of it if these facts are not relevent because there is no excuse to beat a person?

You're now just back-peddling....also trying to insinuate that my assertion that violent reactions are never excusable must be because I had some kind of similar experience is totally messed up.

Me backpeddle? Ain't nobody more willing to give an opinion and stand by it regardless of whether it conflicts with other people's opinions.

You seem to think this story and thread is about just another case of domestic violence - but it's not. Read the OP and the other responses. Was the heading "Don't Lie About Your Online Profile" not big enough for you to see? Do you not understand that the only reason we all heard about this story is because of the alleged online misrepresentation?

All along I have defended the woman, said she wasn't at fault at all, and then condemned all types of assaults - yet you still are going after me and only me! Hmmm .... drawing on my psychology background, now I'm actually flattered.

I'm not going after you, I'm simply responding to your comments just as I responded to Zombie's. No more no less.

Your "psychology background" also led you to believe (incorrectly) that I was sensitive because I had the same thing happen to me, so I wouldn't put much faith in it if I were you.

MoBettaBliss said:

it's really not difficult to understand why people take issue with how this is being presented

if a woman cooks her husband scrambled eggs, and she burns them, so he punches her in the face, should the story read "don't burn your man's eggs"

Exactly.

MoBettaBliss said:

Pokeno4Money said:

Me backpeddle? Ain't nobody more willing to give an opinion and stand by it regardless of whether it conflicts with other people's opinions.

You seem to think this story and thread is about just another case of domestic violence - but it's not. Read the OP and the other responses. Was the heading "Don't Lie About Your Online Profile" not big enough for you to see? Do you not understand that the only reason we all heard about this story is because of the alleged online misrepresentation?

All along I have defended the woman, said she wasn't at fault at all, and then condemned all types of assaults - yet you still are going after me and only me! Hmmm .... drawing on my psychology background, now I'm actually flattered.

this story IS about domestic violence... regardless of any titles/headings

Approx 1.3 million women and 835,000 men are physically assaulted by an intimate partner EACH YEAR.

http://www.americanbar.org/groups/domestic_violence/resources/statistics.html

If you seriously want to believe this particular story did NOT get the attention it got because of the online angle, then it's pointless for me to spend even one more minute in this thread.