So OK, thing is i've been in relationships for most of my adult life... Very few one night stands, more like relationships that'd last anything from 1 week to 3 years and come one after the other in what now seems to me like a never-ending series. I've lived with 4 different girls, too: disliked it every time. And now I came to realize that... I don't like being in relationships so much. I want sex buddies, I want relationships that won't last so they end when it's still cute and romantic, b4 things go sour and problems surface. I want my girlfriends to be... friends! Not demanding people, just friends I can share shit with and have fun with without anything 2 give in return, like my friends r. I don't want to have a family either BTW, I'm "childfree" but that's really not what I wanna discuss here, more relationships in 'emselves regardless of children.

And usually when I start to try xplain that 2 people, not liking relationships so much and not wanting any anymore, people treat me like I'm a freak, u know like "u don't know what u're saying, of course u wanna b in a relationship, how can u not wanna b in a relationship, how can u b happy if u ain't in a relationship, u'll c, next time u meet a nice girl u'll wanna b with her, marry her, raise a family with her...". Fuck u! I'm 37, been there, done that, I think I'm entitled 2 knowing what I want and like and don't want and don't like, it's not like I haven't xperimented the whole shit, I've done nothing but xperimenting it over the last 20 years!

Anyone feel me?

get you one of these

feel free to use this one...

SEX FRIEND CONTRACT / FUCK BUDDY CONTRACT

This Sex Friend Contract is entered into on the day of ________________ 20__,

between __________________ (hereafter referred to as PARTY A)

and ___________________(hereafter referred to as PARTY B).

Terms & Conditions

A sex session is hereafter referred to as IT. Best Effort is partaking in activities for as long as possible.

1. No sleeping over, unless IT is very good and PARTY A needs to repeat IT in the morning.

2. No meeting in public except for dinner or drinks before IT, or when IT takes place in public

3. No calls before ______ AM/PM.

4. PARTY A retains discretion on which fantasies are acted out.

5. This contract prohibits any emotional attachment. Refer clause 22

6. No plans made in advance, that is why you are called the "backup"

7. This is not a mutually exclusive contract for PARTY A

8. No baby talk, however, dirty talk is encouraged.

9. Any instructions/HOWTO’s given to PARTY B shall be remembered and practiced

10. No calling each other "friends with privileges", we are not friends, just fuck buddies.

11. Procreation is not an option - Termination is the only course of action.

12. No extra clothing, I don't want your ass leaving anything behind when you leave.

13. No falling asleep right after IT, it's over; go home. See Clause 1

14. Don't be offended if I don't ask if you enjoyed IT.

15. You cannot borrow my vehicle for any reason.

16. If anyone asks who you are, the standard response will be "my flatmate's friend".

17. Best Effort to accommodate all requests by PARTY A should be made by PARTY B

18. Scheduling of IT is at the sole discretion of PARTY A, however PARTY B is welcome to make suggestions

19. No condoms, no IT.

20. Bring your own alcohol, I am not your liquor store.

21. Documentation of PARTY B may be held for historical purposes by PARTY A.

22. Should PARTY A wish to terminate this contract, effect is immediate

22a Should PARTY B wish to terminate this contract, 14 Days notice, or 6 IT’s, which ever period is longer

23. The aforementioned rules may only be altered by PARTY A.

23b. If the PARTY B wishes to change or alter any terms of this Agreement, it is at the sole discretion of PARTY A

PARTY B’s Signature___________________ Date_______________

PARTY A’s Signature___________________ Date_______________

I really enjoy being single.

People don't understand that, because it is so different from what their culture taught them.


I love my stress free life, no fights, no irritations, no hassles.


I guess a 39-woman being at ease (most of the time) with being single, is such an alien concept that people think it's not possible.

databank said:

So OK, thing is i've been in relationships for most of my adult life... Very few one night stands, more like relationships that'd last anything from 1 week to 3 years and come one after the other in what now seems to me like a never-ending series. I've lived with 4 different girls, too: disliked it every time. And now I came to realize that... I don't like being in relationships so much. I want sex buddies, I want relationships that won't last so they end when it's still cute and romantic, b4 things go sour and problems surface. I want my girlfriends to be... friends! Not demanding people, just friends I can share shit with and have fun with without anything 2 give in return, like my friends r. I don't want to have a family either BTW, I'm "childfree" but that's really not what I wanna discuss here, more relationships in 'emselves regardless of children.

And usually when I start to try xplain that 2 people, not liking relationships so much and not wanting any anymore, people treat me like I'm a freak, u know like "u don't know what u're saying, of course u wanna b in a relationship, how can u not wanna b in a relationship, how can u b happy if u ain't in a relationship, u'll c, next time u meet a nice girl u'll wanna b with her, marry her, raise a family with her...". Fuck u! I'm 37, been there, done that, I think I'm entitled 2 knowing what I want and like and don't want and don't like, it's not like I haven't xperimented the whole shit, I've done nothing but xperimenting it over the last 20 years!

Anyone feel me?

Exactly my sentiment.

I'm not a happy go lucky character, so I don't think I'll ever attain that state. However, I do know that I'm much more calm and have less stress when I'm not in a relationship.

People don't aks anymore, because I'll just shrug and tell them I'm fine as it is.


In the past they would tell me I have intimica issues.

If I would have witnessed couples who are extremely happy, where the singles are unhappy, I might agree.
However, I have seen nothing but women struggling with their jobs, children, household and having to fight with their mates, because he just does not take his responsiblity for his part in keeping it al going.

And then I see singles, working, staying in when tired, and going out when they feel like it. Good mood, have time for fun things.

I don't see the glorifying thing of a family. I do see the perks of being single.

imo as far as relationships go it's okay to know what you want and to hold out for it

Relationships are (or should be) about wanting a real, true connection with someone else. Not the superficial "connections" based on looks, lust, loneliness, common interests, security, etc...but one that's on a deeper, stronger level and is more intense and more immediate. I also don't think longevity should be the measure of how good a relationship was.

Maybe the issue isn't relationships themselves, but rather having many of them in quick succession...that "one after another in a never-ending series" approach you described.

Byron said:

Relationships are (or should be) about wanting a real, true connection with someone else. Not the superficial "connections" based on looks, lust, loneliness, common interests, security, etc...but one that's on a deeper, stronger level and is more intense and more immediate. I also don't think longevity should be the measure of how good a relationship was.

Maybe the issue isn't relationships themselves, but rather having many of them in quick succession...that "one after another in a never-ending series" approach you described.

Well it sure didn't help always being mourning the girl before the girl before the girl I was with + the girl before the girl I was with while being with a girl I've had this 2 girls delay syndrome for years , not counting the girls in between that didn't last long enough to count. This being said most of these relationships were deep, I mean we were not just dating and boning, we were friends, sharing thoughts and feelings and shit, and to this day I'm still friends with most of them, so IDK.

the contract i put up was in jest

the idea of havin a contract is

the way to go in any relationship.

full disclosure and transparency is

a great key in great relationships.

sometimes we forget that we can re-evaluate

our situations and revamp a relationship.

when feelin the one is in a slump/rut with relationships

it may not be relationships, it may be the need

to take out all the uncertaincies related to new

relationships... just sayin

I like the deeper connection from knowing someone a long time, but all the relationship expectations are a bit stupid. Most people act like barbie and ken.

I suggest you get yerself a girlfriend but don't live together. Unless you really dig fuckin around a lot. It's comfortable but everybody gets to do their own thing.

I love being alone and not being obligated to anyone, but I have a great GF right now and we both do our own thing but spend date nights together. Tis good. I've been married, had kids .. all that, wanted all that .. its just .. well hate to say it, even those marrying kind of women are strait up whores. Not all of em but most of em. Probably men too. I don't know much about that. But women only want a relationship till they don't. No point in believing otherwise no matter how much they try to convince you. Once that concept is out the window you can get on with a real relationship that doesn't fit the stupid societal mode. Not bad really ..

I don't really like fucking around with lots of hos, I have worn a condom like twice and I like it that way.

[Edited 12/22/13 19:45pm]

Perhaps you choose the wrong lady each time, along with other self sabotaging acts that make it hard for you to stay in a relationship?
Finding a best friend with benefits is what a real relationship should be. You should have a life of your own, they should have a life of their own, and together you share your lives.

Enjoy yourself! Love yourself. Thats the best thing about being single. I was single for almost a year this year and loved every moment. If the guy I'm dating didnt want to see me anymore I'd be just fine because I know myself.

Embrace it man!!! Please take time out for yourself. Stop 'falling' for women for a while, put them off if they wanna be with you take your time.

kewlschool said:

Perhaps you choose the wrong lady each time, along with other self sabotaging acts that make it hard for you to stay in a relationship?
Finding a best friend with benefits is what a real relationship should be. You should have a life of your own, they should have a life of their own, and together you share your lives.

Yes, this is exactly it.

databank said:

So OK, thing is i've been in relationships for most of my adult life... Very few one night stands, more like relationships that'd last anything from 1 week to 3 years and come one after the other in what now seems to me like a never-ending series. I've lived with 4 different girls, too: disliked it every time. And now I came to realize that... I don't like being in relationships so much. I want sex buddies, I want relationships that won't last so they end when it's still cute and romantic, b4 things go sour and problems surface. I want my girlfriends to be... friends! Not demanding people, just friends I can share shit with and have fun with without anything 2 give in return, like my friends r. I don't want to have a family either BTW, I'm "childfree" but that's really not what I wanna discuss here, more relationships in 'emselves regardless of children.

And usually when I start to try xplain that 2 people, not liking relationships so much and not wanting any anymore, people treat me like I'm a freak, u know like "u don't know what u're saying, of course u wanna b in a relationship, how can u not wanna b in a relationship, how can u b happy if u ain't in a relationship, u'll c, next time u meet a nice girl u'll wanna b with her, marry her, raise a family with her...". Fuck u! I'm 37, been there, done that, I think I'm entitled 2 knowing what I want and like and don't want and don't like, it's not like I haven't xperimented the whole shit, I've done nothing but xperimenting it over the last 20 years!

Anyone feel me?

please, do not listen to those fools

many folks out there are in a relationship just to deal with their personal and social insecurities and stereotypes

as that wise man/woman once said , just ignore the folks who claim that "what doesn't work for me, CAN'T work for anybody else", stupid stupid, nasty boring worthless people...