paintedlady said:

aardvark15 said:

Maybe she was dragged into this by someone she didn't feel telling "no" to. That's currently the only explaination I can think of at this point. Strange situation

Yeah, I hope so.

She is in her twenties and may be upset about the murder of Amy Lords. Many people here are pissed about her death. She may have known her?

I think she might have gotten really angry on her murder not realising what she got herself into. I take her removal of her comments and the disliking of the page as proof that she's not a racist and just got into something without thinking. You didn't block her on Facebook did you? Just defriended right?

aardvark15 said:

paintedlady said:

Yeah, I hope so.

She is in her twenties and may be upset about the murder of Amy Lords. Many people here are pissed about her death. She may have known her?

I think she might have gotten really angry on her murder not realising what she got herself into. I take her removal of her comments and the disliking of the page as proof that she's not a racist and just got into something without thinking. You didn't block her on Facebook did you? Just defriended right?

Yeah, just defriended.

I think I need to have a conversation with her face to face to see where she's at s there is no miscommunication. Sometimes reading things in text can seem cold and you can communicate better when you are face to face.

paintedlady said:

aardvark15 said:

I think she might have gotten really angry on her murder not realising what she got herself into. I take her removal of her comments and the disliking of the page as proof that she's not a racist and just got into something without thinking. You didn't block her on Facebook did you? Just defriended right?

Yeah, just defriended.

I think I need to have a conversation with her face to face to see where she's at s there is no miscommunication. Sometimes reading things in text can seem cold and you can communicate better when you are face to face.

It's hard to communicate with someone when you know something like this. Best of luck to you!

aardvark15 said:

paintedlady said:

Yeah, just defriended.

I think I need to have a conversation with her face to face to see where she's at s there is no miscommunication. Sometimes reading things in text can seem cold and you can communicate better when you are face to face.

It's hard to communicate with someone when you know something like this. Best of luck to you!

Yeah, but I won't approach her with anger... I expect her to be evasive or defensive. No one wants anyone to think of them as a racist.

I'll just ask her what's up with the likes. Why did she agree with the posts. Then we will move onto how her kids would feel about her actions if they were old enough to understand.

I'll let her work that question regarding her children out in her own mind... hopefully she already thought it through and decided to do what is morally right by unliking that hate group.

i don't think i'd confront her, wouldn't waste my time. she'll know why you booted her off the friends list! if she has any regrets, remorse or maturity she'll approach you with an explanation

JerseyKRS said:

Defriend that mug

Done, but I may have to leave her alone altogether.

excited said:

i don't think i'd confront her, wouldn't waste my time. she'll know why you booted her off the friends list! if she has any regrets, remorse or maturity she'll approach you with an explanation

She may feel justified in her anger over Amy Lord, and not feel like she's done nothing wrong.... you may be right.

I will still be open if she does decide to want to talk about it.

Thanks guys

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I'm still your friend......your Superfriend.

I'm inclined to agree with Byron and PurpleJedi. If this woman is truly a friend, your relationship with her perhaps warrants a somewhat more personal inquiry. Facebook is many things, including flypaper for uncritical, reactionary angst. We all have it from time to time, and were we all so stupid as to immediately vent it in a permanent, public forum, perhaps none of us would have friends. I'd say get to know her true thoughts around related matters before deciding whether she should have a place in your life going forward.

Now if, on the other hand, she's just some casual Facebook friend, consider what keeping her "friended" is worth to you and decide from there. I'm Facebook friends with a guy I considered a pal in high school, but who now is a total star-and-bars-wearing, militia-fied redneck racist with whom I have next to nothing in common. The sole reason I keep him friended is because he takes a nice shirtless pic.

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Lammastide said:

I'm Facebook friends with a guy I considered a pal in high school, who now is a total star-and-bars-wearing, militia-fied redneck racist with whom I have next to nothing in common. The sole reason I keep him friended is because he takes a nice shirtless pic.

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I'm friends with several people from high school like that

aardvark15 said:

Lammastide said:

I'm Facebook friends with a guy I considered a pal in high school, who now is a total star-and-bars-wearing, militia-fied redneck racist with whom I have next to nothing in common. The sole reason I keep him friended is because he takes a nice shirtless pic.

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I'm friends with several people from high school like that

Yeah, I would like to talk to her... went by her place this morning and she wasn't there. When I catch up to her we will talk, atleast about my de-friending her.

If she is open for more conversation there after and isn't butthurt, then I'll move from there.

You never want to think the worst about a person ... and when you see something like this it is always awkward at best being around them moving forward so I hope we can talk it out.

Stuff like this will make me give you a side-eye and think, "Damn girl, really??!"

I just hope it really is a momentary bitch mode moment.

paintedlady said:

paintedlady said:

aardvark15 said:

I'm friends with several people from high school like that

Yeah, I would like to talk to her... went by her place this morning and she wasn't there. When I catch up to her we will talk, atleast about my de-friending her.

If she is open for more conversation there after and isn't butthurt, then I'll move from there.

You never want to think the worst about a person ... and when you see something like this it is always awkward at best being around them moving forward so I hope we can talk it out.

Stuff like this will make me give you a side-eye and think, "Damn girl, really??!"

I just hope it really is a momentary bitch mode moment.

Ultimately she is playing the victim. I've now seen straight pride posts, as if the earth hasn't been straight since creation

paintedlady said:

BobGeorge909 said:

paintedlady said: Well i'd rather have a turd in my pool than have that happen....not cool AT ALL. [img:$uid]http://www.easymemes.com/uploads/memes/35201_kNEpdid6wchuUDi.jpg[/img:$uid]

Well, the n-word comment issue was resolved quickly and easily. The aunt ( the mother of my daughter's playmate) avoided me like the plauge for months after but then apologised profusely again and said she was an a--hole for not teaching her kids better. I forgave her and we moved on from that. Everything was good until yesterday.

___UP DATE___

Oh and she jumped off that page today and removed her comments. I guess after she saw my post on FB. I am sure she noticed the de-friend.... maybe not????

Any ways, I am glad she isn't on that page liking hateful posts. Maybe she had a person on her boyfriend's side of that family check her?

Its a shame really... I would like to think she was genuinely happy with her life and family. Her family knows she is in a biracial relationship and I thought to them that racism wasn't an issue. Maybe the girl is just young and dumb.

I hope she changes and soon.

I remember you posting about that incident. Now this??? I'd defriend her ASAP but first I'd let her know why. She may be too stupid to understand your 'defriending' and it's always a good idea to help those with lower IQs.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I've now seen straight pride posts, as if the earth hasn't been straight since creation

kitbradley said:

I'm curious to know if her boyfriend knows that she "Liked" this hate group on her facebook page?

color me cynical, but for some when the lights are out, what seems wrong feels so right.

"kick the friendship to the curb!" seems she's not worth the stress, feelings of distrust or anxiety.

SweeTeaII said:

paintedlady said:

Really? u would indulge her? but y? y would u want to bother with her in the first place? she seems stupid and ignorant that part is verifiable still u would put yourself in a compromising position if u confront her. she may very well forget you two are friends and snap off on u. then u will have a battle on your hands over some dumb shit. leave her b with her dumb azz else u may get some of her b/s on u.

She is my neighbor... lives 5 blocks away and I see her all the time. I eventually will see her and end up speaking to her sooner or later. She may not change and may not want to grow from this...

but I have to atleast TRY... not for her, but for those babies she has. I don't think she will snap because I wouldn't approach her in any angry way, nor will I get angry. I just want to talk to her and see where she's at... if she refuses to listen/talk then we would respectfully part ways. No biggie.

paintedlady said:

Thanks everyone... I feel a bit better seeing these posts because they make me realize I do know some awesome and amazing people.

paintedlady said:

Beautifulstarr123 said:

She sounds very conflicted between her white world, and the world she associates with, especially with the Zimmerman case and the Amy case.

I am beginning to think she is like some of the "old school" folks my neighborhood that have a "you don't belong here" mentality. Many moved away when the neighborhood was desegregated about 15 years ago.

But I thought racial stuff for the most part was a thing of the past here since so many young couples are bi-racial (including her) ... being hopeful I guess.

Guess this incident brought up a lot of underlying anger.

http://www.bostonglobe.co...story.html

You can speak with her or defriend her, but at the end of the day, it's your decision. Based on your other posts about her family, it does appear that she grew up in an racist environment. This much I know and believe, she is jeopardizing her relationship with this facebook page, and what if he finds out? I read the article. You do have some sick people out here, and one bad apple shouldn't spoil the whole bunch. This goes for both cases, and the judicial system needs a lot of work, when it comes to equality and justice.