We talk all the time,and he is always ofering up info about himself that I never even ask about. He is always wanting to do things for me,trying to make me laugh,he has even told another guy that he likes my laugh.He is very respectful to me (ie: no swearing) in front of me,and if he does,even though I don't mind it,he always says sorry for his language. He touches me occasionally,always stands close when he can.
There are more things,but he seems to be giving all the signs that he is interested,but he is just not making the move to ask me out. We work together,so the only thing I can think of is he is afraid of losing his job should things go bad,which sucks for me,cause I really like him. Music washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life. ~Berthold Auerbach | |
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time to jump in... just say "hey do you want to hang out this weekend?... maybe grab a coffee or something?" | |
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you know, you seem to like lumping dudes together in to one box a fair bit... the guys you're talking about might be the guys that you're used to having in your life... but we're a pretty diverse bunch | |
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In my experience, if men are truly interested in you (and you have given off the vibes that you are interested too) then they will definitely make the first move and ask you out on a date or ask to hang out with you. End of story. [Edited 6/26/13 4:55am] I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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Not really, people are generally the same. Not nearly as diverse as one would like to think. But it's quite the opposite in my experience actually. I have not been involved with men like that because I have no time for lame guys that think that way. And if you count yourself as one of the guys that does not think that way, cool. | |
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Erin you and I are nothing alike. Nothing. I appretiate your comments specifically because you see things totally differently then I do. Since you and I are only in each others world due to Prince.org and we live in two different countries, I know you don't write things to contradict me but just simply to express a totally different viewpoint. I am not attracted to sexually dominating men; I just am not. I enjoy men who prefer to be the less aggressive person in a sexual relationship. Many of the ones that I have met have jobs that are highly competitve and macho. They have plenty of opportunities in their life to express that side of themselves. I no more think that men who take the more submissive role in a sexual relationship are "lame" then you are "lame" ( a woman who clearly prefers the more submissive role). Submissive people in general are not lame. They just simply feel more comfortable making the second move then the first one. They are often well educated and accomplished. Now, not necessarily is everone submissive who would prefer to be asked then do the asking but I think it is common.
[Edited 6/26/13 7:50am] [Edited 6/26/13 7:53am] [Edited 6/26/13 8:02am] There came a time when the risk of remaining tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. Anais Nin. | |
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Yes, I agree with this. I knew a female bartender once who worked at her families restaurant. Her aunt also worked the bar. There was a working man who came in on a regular basis after his shift was over. The aunt noticed that he clearly was more interested in talking to her neice then drinking. He came in over and over again. The niece, a petite but fiesty lass, was raised to wait to be asked out on a date (that is what ALL men like,lol). She could not understand why he seemed to like her so very much yet never ever asked her out. Finally the aunt told her "You must make the first move with this one!!!" "If you do not make the first move, the two of you will be going on like this forever!" True enough, the barmaid listened to her aunts advice and it wasn't long before they were engaged. I think they have been married now for over 20 years. [Edited 6/26/13 8:10am] There came a time when the risk of remaining tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. Anais Nin. | |
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Not really- My thinking in that situation is that she probably has had a bit too much "practice" with this technique with men before me and thats a huge turn off! | |
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Your posts confuse me. | |
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I know for a FACT that I have neither a high or low opinion of men. | |
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No, it means I am neutral. | |
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I always have to make the 1st move like tonight 2014-Year of the Parties | |
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It is unfortunate that women are taught that they should not make the first move. It takes a while to move past that training. It feels extremely awkward and the last thing you want to do is come across as a very awkward individual. There came a time when the risk of remaining tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. Anais Nin. | |
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