Who here on the org has ever been in that situation where they find themselves getting a little close to your ex?

Now i have kinda never 100% got over my ex and is the only guy i ever feel in love with... and the past few months we were almost dating again and i was incredibly happy.

But then i got the news that after he graduates(Which was last Friday) that he would be leaving to Oregon for a good job opportunity! which i can't fault him for that.

And a week and a half ago we took a trip to San Diego and i had the time of my life! we went to the beach, the San Diego padres game, downtown SD. We even saw some friend's of ours there and went out for a night of drinking.

But later that night we started to hold hands and get into a little ''cuddly'' mode. And he said ''this is weird'' and started going on about how it's just the wrong time and he doesn't want me or him to get hurt since he is leaving... and it yeah kinda sucked to hear that.

Since then i have been emotionally a mess! it sucks cause i feel hella silly considering there are like a million worse thing's going on in the world i mean i could have had my house fucked up by a tornado! and those Tornadoes in Texas are no joke

I have just been in nad out emotionally cause of this thing and last friday was his graduation and we had a lot of mutal friend's there and thing's between me and him were... just kinda odd. And that fucked with me really bad.

For lunch we had dinner with his family(And might i add they gave me so much Thai food i could barely handle it!!! ahh was so damn good)

But yeah either way point is i am so blah on this thing and i am not really looking for quick answers more of just if people have similar experiences and how it all turned out in the end.

Much love!

I was on and off for 7 years with my ex. Finally it ended. Was tough but felt much better afterwards. Will never do that again though. There are more fish in the sea and while it may not fee like it now, there are even better fish.

Hope this helps. But yeah, it sucks.

I have a question. How are you getting spaces in your formatting?!

Once I move on, I stay moved on.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I have a question. How are you getting spaces in your formatting?!

Hit shift and return at the same time when you want to start a new line

3rdeyedude said:

I was on and off for 7 years with my ex. Finally it ended. Was tough but felt much better afterwards. Will never do that again though. There are more fish in the sea and while it may not fee like it now, there are even better fish.

Hope this helps. But yeah, it sucks.

Same here, I was on and off with my ex for about 2 years...after I finally realized, FINALLY, that he was using me, I ended it for good. He still came back months later trying to get back into my life yet again and I shut that shit down. Told him to refrain from contacting me further. Delete my damn number out of your phone already. Be gone. Done. That back and forth shit is for the birds. Exes are exes for a reason.

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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Familiar is always easier at first.

Move on, has been my answer to my relationship situations.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Once I move on, I stay moved on.

I held on for too long and now I regret it.

Last time he called, I kindly told him to fuck off.

Alej said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Once I move on, I stay moved on.

I held on for too long and now I regret it.

Last time he called, I kindly told him to fuck off.

You're so mellow i can actually imagine you telling somebody that in a nice way

I did the on-off thing for a six year period last decade, and trust me: No, just no.




All the problems you had the first time around either resurface or serve as a limiting subtext to your second or third 'go'.


Ultimately, I think being friends is something to strive for, but again, my personality just doesn't allow for that either. It makes me quite unevolved and unenlightenned though, because I actually get grossed out when I see people giving good lip-service (no pun intended) to their exes. I can't even bring myself to say I wish my exes the best. The most I can say, is I hope they get what they deserve, whatever that is.

However, you're young, so I think you could actually have a great deal of fun doing it.

Ultimately, an ex who agrees to continue beign a fuck buddy, but without the emotional baggage and requirements of exclusivity sounds really fun.


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imago said:

I did the on-off thing for a six year period last decade, and trust me: No, just no.




All the problems you had the first time around either resurface or serve as a limiting subtext to your second or third 'go'.


Ultimately, I think being friends is something to strive for, but again, my personality just doesn't allow for that either. It makes me quite unevolved and unenlightenned though, because I actually get grossed out when I see people giving good lip-service (no pun intended) to their exes. I can't even bring myself to say I wish my exes the best. The most I can say, is I hope they get what they deserve, whatever that is.

However, you're young, so I think you could actually have a great deal of fun doing it.

Ultimately, an ex who agrees to continue beign a fuck buddy, but without the emotional baggage and requirements of exclusivity sounds really fun.


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Very true.

I know this person who has broken up and got back together with her husband/boyfriend at least 7 times, and over a 20 year period. About 4 months ago she left him and just last week i heard she went back to him....Dumbest shit i ever heard ...

The big dummy says she loves the guy but i don't think she knows the first thing about love.

aardvark15 said:

"If you love something set it free. When it comes back to you it's your's."

This statement isn't necessarily true. That's how people get caught up.

If you love something and set it free (break up with them) and then they come back, it doesn't mean that they sincerely want to be there...hence the back and forth, on again off again scenario.

JoeyC said:

imago said:

I did the on-off thing for a six year period last decade, and trust me: No, just no.




All the problems you had the first time around either resurface or serve as a limiting subtext to your second or third 'go'.


Ultimately, I think being friends is something to strive for, but again, my personality just doesn't allow for that either. It makes me quite unevolved and unenlightenned though, because I actually get grossed out when I see people giving good lip-service (no pun intended) to their exes. I can't even bring myself to say I wish my exes the best. The most I can say, is I hope they get what they deserve, whatever that is.

However, you're young, so I think you could actually have a great deal of fun doing it.

Ultimately, an ex who agrees to continue beign a fuck buddy, but without the emotional baggage and requirements of exclusivity sounds really fun.


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Very true.

I know this person who has broken up and got back together with her husband/boyfriend at least 7 times, and over a 20 year period. About 4 months ago she left him and just last week i heard she went back to him....Dumbest shit i ever heard ...

The big dummy says she loves the guy but i don't think she knows the first thing about love.

I would agree with your assessment. lol.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Once I move on, I stay moved on.

I 2nd your notion...But I have had the occasional after the breakout Sex...Once that phases itself out I'm 100% DONE...

i've had good sex with pretty much every woman i've ever broken up with (after the breakup)... often it's a while after though, as i tend to stay away while all the craziness is happening

I am guilty of this! Maybe it's because I don't tend to have drama-filled breakups and so we stay friends afterwards. It makes it easy to casually see each other if the other person isn't dating someone else.

....But the relationship NEVER re-kindles. There is generally a reason why you are broken up and it's best to move on and celebrate yourself and/or be available for someone who wants to be with you.

I need to take my own advice! I'm so hung up on my last ex.

remember they're your ex for a reason. it's hard to move on when you love(d) a person, i know how it feels. dragging things out forever just makes it worse, it's better just to move on.

clubon36 said:

I am guilty of this! Maybe it's because I don't tend to have drama-filled breakups and so we stay friends afterwards. It makes it easy to casually see each other if the other person isn't dating someone else.

....But the relationship NEVER re-kindles. There is generally a reason why you are broken up and it's best to move on and celebrate yourself and/or be available for someone who wants to be with you.

I need to take my own advice! I'm so hung up on my last ex.

I almost always stay friends with mine. (Exception is with one girl-but she was the crazy one).

imago said:

I did the on-off thing for a six year period last decade, and trust me: No, just no.




All the problems you had the first time around either resurface or serve as a limiting subtext to your second or third 'go'.


Ultimately, I think being friends is something to strive for, but again, my personality just doesn't allow for that either. It makes me quite unevolved and unenlightenned though, because I actually get grossed out when I see people giving good lip-service (no pun intended) to their exes. I can't even bring myself to say I wish my exes the best. The most I can say, is I hope they get what they deserve, whatever that is.

However, you're young, so I think you could actually have a great deal of fun doing it.

Ultimately, an ex who agrees to continue beign a fuck buddy, but without the emotional baggage and requirements of exclusivity sounds really fun.


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Why wouldn't you wish the best for your ex? If you cared for them at one time shouldn't you always care to some extent? Unless they treated you like sh*t of course.

I never had an ex .Im a whore who fucks the prettiest girl

Im horrible person

I have only done this once.

We dated for about 4 years and than ended things (he wanted to get married, I didn't).

A while after we broke up we started seeing each other again. When its hot, its hot

The problem is, he was already seeing someone else when we ended up seeing one another again.

They ended up getting into an LTR (she had no idea) while he and I were still doing our thing.

I was also seeing two other guys at the time (nothing serious or exclusive).

Eventually, he asked me if I would take him back. He said he would break things off with the

other woman.

I laughed in his face and said "Baby, I don't date cheaters!"

He was horrified. Claimed he would never cheat on me, I was his exception, blah blah blah.
Always will be someone that makes you feel like making an exception. After that I ended things

for good.

^^^^

She also found out about all this shit and took him back even though he had lied and cheated for

more than a year. They are now married.

kewlschool said:

imago said:

I did the on-off thing for a six year period last decade, and trust me: No, just no.




All the problems you had the first time around either resurface or serve as a limiting subtext to your second or third 'go'.


Ultimately, I think being friends is something to strive for, but again, my personality just doesn't allow for that either. It makes me quite unevolved and unenlightenned though, because I actually get grossed out when I see people giving good lip-service (no pun intended) to their exes. I can't even bring myself to say I wish my exes the best. The most I can say, is I hope they get what they deserve, whatever that is.

However, you're young, so I think you could actually have a great deal of fun doing it.

Ultimately, an ex who agrees to continue beign a fuck buddy, but without the emotional baggage and requirements of exclusivity sounds really fun.


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Why wouldn't you wish the best for your ex? If you cared for them at one time shouldn't you always care to some extent? Unless they treated you like sh*t of course.

Of course, not. Why should you still have feelings for them.
Do you still have friendship longings for friends you are no longer friends with?

Probably not. So, why would it be any different with an ex?

But, I think I've already answered the question though: I'm unenlightened and unevolved. At least, emotionally.

Try doing the "off and on" for twenty years and then ask me how you feel...

imago said:

kewlschool said:

Why wouldn't you wish the best for your ex? If you cared for them at one time shouldn't you always care to some extent? Unless they treated you like sh*t of course.

Of course, not. Why should you still have feelings for them.
Do you still have friendship longings for friends you are no longer friends with?

Probably not. So, why would it be any different with an ex?

But, I think I've already answered the question though: I'm unenlightened and unevolved. At least, emotionally.

I don't have longings, but if we were friends once, why shouldn't I be now. I have had people leave out of my life, only to return 10 years later. Those people are still my friends, we just need to catch up.

kewlschool said:

imago said:

I did the on-off thing for a six year period last decade, and trust me: No, just no.




All the problems you had the first time around either resurface or serve as a limiting subtext to your second or third 'go'.


Ultimately, I think being friends is something to strive for, but again, my personality just doesn't allow for that either. It makes me quite unevolved and unenlightenned though, because I actually get grossed out when I see people giving good lip-service (no pun intended) to their exes. I can't even bring myself to say I wish my exes the best. The most I can say, is I hope they get what they deserve, whatever that is.

However, you're young, so I think you could actually have a great deal of fun doing it.

Ultimately, an ex who agrees to continue beign a fuck buddy, but without the emotional baggage and requirements of exclusivity sounds really fun.


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Why wouldn't you wish the best for your ex? If you cared for them at one time shouldn't you always care to some extent? Unless they treated you like sh*t of course.

And I will never ever understand people who don't

imago said:

kewlschool said:

Why wouldn't you wish the best for your ex? If you cared for them at one time shouldn't you always care to some extent? Unless they treated you like sh*t of course.

Of course, not. Why should you still have feelings for them.
Do you still have friendship longings for friends you are no longer friends with?

Probably not. So, why would it be any different with an ex?

But, I think I've already answered the question though: I'm unenlightened and unevolved. At least, emotionally.

You've got that straight (no pun intended).
BTW, just outta curiosity,
who hates you the most?
And why?

Gunsnhalen said:

Alej said:

I held on for too long and now I regret it.

Last time he called, I kindly told him to fuck off.

You're so mellow i can actually imagine you telling somebody that in a nice way

!!!