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Don't start shit, but don't take it either.

when I was a college student (not living on campus btw) renting an apartment 2 train stops from uni, I would have to keep a ledger book for all income and expenses. My dad paid for me to go to college as long as I could show all my spendings on paper. My course had something like 30 contact hours (active lessons, tutorials and classes) so he didn't want me to have a part time job as WELL.

I hated it at the time. I was living on 69 cents for 3-4 days here and there

BUT

I must say, it's left me with a lot of discipline with money.

My family may be lacking in family values, but we are all excellent misers

it's a cut-throat world.

If you have a grain of rice more than you need to live, than you are prospering.

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I no longer believe that, but it was useful in helping me cope with my living conditions. Now I believe that you can give po folk a million dollars but they will still find a way to lose it all relatively quickly. You have to change your mind, or you will pass bad knowledge on to your kids.

The grain of rice stuck with me as it made me not be devastated and compare myself to others and be miserable. I will teach my kids REAL prosering though.... But I wont forget the bare neccesities

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make up your own mind about people

Never get in a car with someone you don't know, call and I'll pick you up whatever time it is (Dad)

Everybody isn't your friend; only when things majorly happen to you, good or bad, is when you find out who your true friends are.

Everyone is going to disappoint you in some way or the other, that's life.

There's plenty of fish out in the sea.

Don't burn bridges; you may never know who you come back across again in life

Never be envious of anyone else. They didn't say it in those exact words but rather showed me by example.

Don't be nice to people who don't deserve it, they'll take advantage

Get off your butt and finish those driving lessons!

treat others as you would like to be treated

And, "Just because its on sale doesnt mean you can afford it"... I never liked that one!

Genesia said:

Life isn't easy or fair. Suck it up and move on.

My parents used to tell me all the time "Life isn't fair!" and "Sometimes in life you have to do things you don't want to do." and boy did I ever hate that. It was always the WORST possible thing they could say to me in the given moment and it always made me so upset.

Of course they were absolutely right. I just never found it comforting.

I wouldn't say that was the best advice they gave me (since the "move on" part was never explicit), simply some truth I needed to learn.

When I was little and stressed out when going to bed (worried about a test, afraid I'd have nightmares, whatever) and couldn't get to sleep for the worry, my parents would tell me to think happy things. They'd often start me off with a scenario (pretend you're going to a birthday party) or something like that and encourage me to, well, to really meditate on happy and fun things. I still do it to this day and I absolutely love that.

Anyone's mouth cut straight across can lie.

Men and women want the same thing, they just go about it different ways.

Grandmother-

Save even if it's just $5-10 out of every paycheck and don't touch it.

missfee said:

Everybody isn't your friend; only when things majorly happen to you, good or bad, is when you find out who your true friends are.

Everyone is going to disappoint you in some way or the other, that's life.

There's plenty of fish out in the sea.

Don't burn bridges; you may never know who you come back across again in life

My favorite version of this is: Be mindful of the toes you step on today. They may be connected to the ass you have to kiss tomorrow.

Treat others the way you want to be treated.

Honor God with your life.

Always do the right thing.

Make or make do (i.e., Make the money to buy something, or make do without it).

Get a good, full night's sleep before you make any big decision.

One good friend is all you need.

It's just as easy to love a rich man as a poor one. (This was advice my mom always gave my sisters, but I see no reason I can't take it to heart too.)

Efan said:

It's just as easy to love a rich man as a poor one. (This was advice my mom always gave my sisters, but I see no reason I can't take it to heart too.)

My mom always told me to marry rich. "Beauty fades and love dies" so you may as well be taken care of.

CarrieMpls said:

Efan said:

It's just as easy to love a rich man as a poor one. (This was advice my mom always gave my sisters, but I see no reason I can't take it to heart too.)

My mom always told me to marry rich. "Beauty fades and love dies" so you may as well be taken care of.

My mom loves to say, "Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly runs to the bone" (always with a devilish glint in her eye). It makes me laugh.

tinaz said:

treat others as you would like to be treated

And, "Just because its on sale doesnt mean you can afford it"... I never liked that one!

My younger sister was one of the all-time great bargain shoppers. She just loooooved finding a "deal" on clothing.

One time, she came home with a huge shopping bag and our dad said, "What the hell...?!" She made the mistake of replying, "But, Dad - you won't believe how much money I saved!" He held out his hand and said, "Put all the money you saved right here." Lesson learned.

Don't ask nobody for shit. You want something, you come to me and ask for it and if I think you should have it and can afford to give it to you, you can have it. But strangers don't owe you a damn thing and the world hates a begging ass motherfucker.

vainandy said:

Don't ask nobody for shit. You want something, you come to me and ask for it and if I think you should have it and can afford to give it to you, you can have it. But strangers don't owe you a damn thing and the world hates a begging ass motherfucker.

Oh, my goodness - that is my parents all over (minus the language).

My mother always told my sisters and me, "If I ever find out that you've been begging food at someone else's house, you will get a spanking like you won't believe. Never ask for food or drink - I don't want people thinking I don't feed my children."

I'm sure it was a prideful result of growing up during the Depression and WWII, but she wasn't playing.

Do not take everyone on as a friend.

Treat people the way you want to be treated.

Always have your own money.

Never allow a man to even talk about hitting you.

Don't be a phony.

Being poor is no excuse for people being dirty, lowlife or ignorant.

When people show you who they are, believe them.

Mind the company you keep.

Don't carry gossip.

vainandy said:

TD3 said:

vainandy said:

Don't ask nobody for shit. You want something, you come to me and ask for it and if I think you should have it and can afford to give it to you, you can have it. But strangers don't owe you a damn thing and the world hates a begging ass motherfucker.

:nod: Lord,yes. It was a cardinal sin to ask anyone besides your parents for jack.

Mom: "How does a fish get caught?"

Me: "?"

Mom: "It opens its mouth."

Me: "?"

Mom: "Think about it for a while."

Mom: "Just because you swim, doesn't mean you'll make it to shore."

Mom: "If a man/woman hits you once, you can be damn sure they will do it again."

Mom: "A motherfucker will tell you damn near anything to get in your pants, so make those decisions based on what YOU want, not on what they are promising you."

Mom: "No glove, no love."

Mom: "I didn't raise you to do what you were told, I raised you to think for yourself!"

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Genesia said:

TD3 said:

Lord,yes. It was a cardinal sin to ask anyone besides your parents for jack.

And they always said "no."

My maternal nana used to tell my mum 'buy cheap,buy twice' & 'when money worries come in the front door, love goes out the back'. My mum taught me many things through her words & deeds ... 'when u are with people & they are saying something ignorant/hatefull about other people/s & u dont speak up, your silence equals consent'...'the names they call women almost all have something in common ; to bring her down via her sexuality...' she also told me to think about the faeries when i was afraid to go back to sleep after a nightmare.