It seems like more and more lately, I am in places where all the guys are taken or gay. Am I the only woman on the planet who experiences this? LOL

Why look for a man? Let the man find you. Enjoy being single and doing what you want to do.

luv4u said:

Why look for a man? Let the man find you. Enjoy being single and doing what you want to do.

Yeah that's good advice. I am going on a self-imposed exile from this whole thing for a while I have accepted the fact that I am "giving up"...

SeventeenDayze said:

luv4u said:

Why look for a man? Let the man find you. Enjoy being single and doing what you want to do.

Yeah that's good advice. I am going on a self-imposed exile from this whole thing for a while I have accepted the fact that I am "giving up"...

Don't give up. Just know that there are some real decent men out there that you will meet one day who will worship the ground you walk on.

Enjoy life. Do things you would like to do. Once you are in a relationship your freedom is somewhat limited.

luv4u said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Yeah that's good advice. I am going on a self-imposed exile from this whole thing for a while I have accepted the fact that I am "giving up"...

Don't give up. Just know that there are some real decent men out there that you will meet one day who will worship the ground you walk on.

Enjoy life. Do things you would like to do. Once you are in a relationship your freedom is somewhat limited.

Sometimes I get mild anxiety when I see a woman my age with a husband and kids because it looks like slavery lol but the idea of always being that "single woman" at events where everyone is talking about their spouse is really awkward.

SeventeenDayze said:

luv4u said:

Don't give up. Just know that there are some real decent men out there that you will meet one day who will worship the ground you walk on.

Enjoy life. Do things you would like to do. Once you are in a relationship your freedom is somewhat limited.

Sometimes I get mild anxiety when I see a woman my age with a husband and kids because it looks like slavery lol but the idea of always being that "single woman" at events where everyone is talking about their spouse is really awkward.

Yeah, been there too, and it is awkward. Maybe it is time for you to hang around with friends that are not 'tied down'. Once you have a kid, you just cannot go out on a whim when you have to find a sitter. And married folks tend to talk about their kids, hubby, giving birth, day care and on and on.

Are you gold319?

luv4u said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Sometimes I get mild anxiety when I see a woman my age with a husband and kids because it looks like slavery lol but the idea of always being that "single woman" at events where everyone is talking about their spouse is really awkward.

Yeah, been there too, and it is awkward. Maybe it is time for you to hang around with friends that are not 'tied down'. Once you have a kid, you just cannot go out on a whim when you have to find a sitter. And married folks tend to talk about their kids, hubby, giving birth, day care and on and on.

Good advice. Just about all the folks I know, the guys are married and the women are single. It's so bizarre lol

SeventeenDayze said:

luv4u said:

Yeah, been there too, and it is awkward. Maybe it is time for you to hang around with friends that are not 'tied down'. Once you have a kid, you just cannot go out on a whim when you have to find a sitter. And married folks tend to talk about their kids, hubby, giving birth, day care and on and on.

Good advice. Just about all the folks I know, the guys are married and the women are single. It's so bizarre lol

You don't have to give up your current friends. You can make new friends as well, expand your horizons.

When I was single..... all or most of my friends had already got married. And I found that once that happened they found other friends who were married. They disappeared out of my single life and moved on. So I went looking for new friends. And yeah, it's ok to have married friends too.

It's not them ,it's you.

Stymie said:

It's not them ,it's you.

This is it exactly.

There are tons of attractive, intelligent, available men...the only catch is that they are looking for the same thing in a partner.

If you can't find any, it's because they don't want to be found by you.

luv4u said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Yeah that's good advice. I am going on a self-imposed exile from this whole thing for a while I have accepted the fact that I am "giving up"...

Don't give up. Just know that there are some real decent men out there that you will meet one day who will worship the ground you walk on.

Enjoy life. Do things you would like to do. Once you are in a relationship your freedom is somewhat limited.

If that's what you're looking for or think you deserve from another human being...you will always be alone.

I can't stand attitudes like this. Gross.

where did I read the thing I did today? Ah yes, the school newsletter:

"When a crisis or challenge occurs, as much emotional energy can be spent managing the gap between reality and the way things “should” be as is spent facing the challenge itself!

In a sense, almost all human unhappiness and anger arises from the sense that

reality is somehow different from what we’d like it to be."

I'm not saying your standards should be low, but (and I could learn from this myself) what IS might be OK enough, nevermind "worship"

Stymie said:

It's not them ,it's you.

Stymie said:

It's not them ,it's you.

HA HA

luv4u said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Good advice. Just about all the folks I know, the guys are married and the women are single. It's so bizarre lol

You don't have to give up your current friends. You can make new friends as well, expand your horizons.

When I was single..... all or most of my friends had already got married. And I found that once that happened they found other friends who were married. They disappeared out of my single life and moved on. So I went looking for new friends. And yeah, it's ok to have married friends too.

I've heard of that happening, it's almost like they don't know what to do with you because they are married and you're not. They are either setting you up with their other single friend (singular not plural) or just giving you hope that "someday" you will be tied down too

Stymie said:

It's not them ,it's you.

Sorry SeventeenDayze, but I have to concur on this one

Keep your hands and heart open daily so your blessings are not passed by.

Put a smile on your face and enjoy singlehood now because you may have to share your world soon!

It's working for me

I'm certain there are more men choosing the brotherhood of love than going for monogamous hetero relations, simply because there is more support and they don't need to be ashamed and hide their feelings for other guys. Besides a traditonal family isn't one between a man and woman. A traditonal family is a tribe.

luv4u said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Yeah that's good advice. I am going on a self-imposed exile from this whole thing for a while I have accepted the fact that I am "giving up"...

Don't give up. Just know that there are some real decent men out there that you will meet one day who will worship the ground you walk on.

Enjoy life. Do things you would like to do. Once you are in a relationship your freedom is somewhat limited.

You are correct with respect to there being men out there who will worship the ground she walks on. That's called "love". I hope everyone gets to experience that one day.

But I disagree about freedom being limited. The only thing a person in a relationship can't do that they used to do is look for other people to date. There's nothing I used to do when I was single that I haven't been able to do over my 25 years of marriage.

And honestly, there's nothing I did when I was single that was more fun that being with my wife. So I don't think it's freedom being limited so much as it is a whole new set of priorities emerging once you fall in love with someone.

this could be true

men don't like to be alone it seems

the "tough lone wolf" is just a Hollywood myth

I guess there are many single guys in the army?

Also, if you can't find a decent man it might not be because they are "hiding" from you. You just might be looking in the wrong places.

If I were you, I would not take any relationship advice from people that are not in, do not want, and cannot maintain a long-term relationship. Obviously they are biased.

RodeoSchro said:

Also, if you can't find a decent man it might not be because they are "hiding" from you. You just might be looking in the wrong places.

If I were you, I would not take any relationship advice from people that are not in, do not want, and cannot maintain a long-term relationship. Obviously they are biased.

And those in long term relationships are not biased?

I am really surprised by your comment here Greg.

JoeTyler said:

this could be true

men don't like to be alone it seems

the "tough lone wolf" is just a Hollywood myth

I guess there are many single guys in the army?

not anymore!!

JoeTyler said:

this could be true

men don't like to be alone it seems

the "tough lone wolf" is just a Hollywood myth

I guess there are many single guys in the army?

I only know it from the gay world, but there are tons of men alone. I'm sure this will be the same with straight men.

Stymie said:

RodeoSchro said:

Also, if you can't find a decent man it might not be because they are "hiding" from you. You just might be looking in the wrong places.

If I were you, I would not take any relationship advice from people that are not in, do not want, and cannot maintain a long-term relationship. Obviously they are biased.

And those in long term relationships are not biased?

I am really surprised by your comment here Greg.

It was not directed at you, honey. You are the exception that proves the rule.

And yes, we ARE biased but we also have what she's looking for, and are therefore in a position to answer her questions.

robertlove said:

JoeTyler said:

this could be true

men don't like to be alone it seems

the "tough lone wolf" is just a Hollywood myth

I guess there are many single guys in the army?

I only know it from the gay world, but there are tons of men alone. I'm sure this will be the same with straight men.

that's funny cuz all the gay MEN (not teens, young adults) that I know are either married (european) or in long-lasting relationships

the only straight lone man I ever knew was my philosophy teacher from High School (he was mad at the world )

JoeTyler said:

robertlove said:

I only know it from the gay world, but there are tons of men alone. I'm sure this will be the same with straight men.

that's funny cuz all the gay MEN (not teens, young adults) that I know are either married (european) or in long-lasting relationships

the only straight lone man I ever knew was my philosophy teacher from High School (he was mad at the world )

there's always another man around the corner for us men, we can never be alone

Cuddles said:

JoeTyler said:

that's funny cuz all the gay MEN (not teens, young adults) that I know are either married (european) or in long-lasting relationships

the only straight lone man I ever knew was my philosophy teacher from High School (he was mad at the world )

there's always another man around the corner for us men, we can never be alone

sounds like prostitution

A lot of single men seem to go to church. Maybe that might be a good place to find that special someone?