Has anyone participated in this before? I'm going to one tomorrow evening and I dunno, I should feel fine but for some reason, I feel a little nervous. I guess because I don't know what to expect. It could possibly turn out to be fun...who knows.

never done it, not single, but i'd do it if i were!.. have fun! PLEASE report back!

You could just ask them "DO YOU LIKE PRINCE?" and if they say "no" or don't say "yes" within 1 sec. you should move onto the next person.

excited said:

never done it, not single, but i'd do it if i were!.. have fun! PLEASE report back!

Thanks, I'll be sure to give details on how things went.

novabrkr said:

You could just ask them "DO YOU LIKE PRINCE?" and if they say "no" or don't say "yes" within 1 sec. you should move onto the next person.

Haven't tried it. But when I was single I likely would have. My best friend tried it maybe ten years ago and that's how she met her husband. I suppose like anything, it's a gamble where you can't expect too much...but one that that can also be entertaining and could accidentally lead you to someone that you can really groove with

Maybe we can watch some youtube videos and read some Cosmo articles on the subject (me and my youtube addiction ) but I hope you report back with your analysis of it all, this could be fun!

Back when I was single I had friends who said they were gonna take me to one. NO WAY!

I can't (and couldn't) think of anything more horrifying than being forced to make conversation with several men I don't know for the sole purpose of deciding if I might want to go on an actual date with them.

BLECH.

It's a wonder I met my man at all.

novabrkr said:

You could just ask them "DO YOU LIKE PRINCE?" and if they say "no" or don't say "yes" within 1 sec. you should move onto the next person.

Ottensen said:

Haven't tried it. But when I was single I likely would have. My best friend tried it maybe ten years ago and that's how she met her husband. I suppose like anything, it's a gamble where you can't expect too much...but one that that can also be entertaining and could accidentally lead you to someone that you can really groove with

Maybe we can watch some youtube videos and read some Cosmo articles on the subject (me and my youtube addiction ) but I hope you report back with your analysis of it all, this could be fun!

Thanks for the story. I'm thinking it'll probably turn out to be fun. Approaching it with no expectations could be a good thing.

PurpleJedi said:

novabrkr said:

You could just ask them "DO YOU LIKE PRINCE?" and if they say "no" or don't say "yes" within 1 sec. you should move onto the next person.

So lemme ask you, if you're at this thing, and then suddenly the next dude who you're paired with is butt-ass ugly...do you just look him in the eyes and say..."I have herpes." or "Wanna take care of my ten kids?"

PurpleJedi said:

So lemme ask you, if you're at this thing, and then suddenly the next dude who you're paired with is butt-ass ugly...do you just look him in the eyes and say..."I have herpes." or "Wanna take care of my ten kids?"

Well then I guess if they want your number but you don't want theirs, you just don't give it out.

CarrieMpls said:

If I lived in an area where there was a nice mix of different types of men, then sure...why not? It could be something that is fun. Pretty harmless stuff.

I unfortunately live in an area where I am starting to realize that 95% of the men are just gross to me, so there is no way I would even bother with it here.

novabrkr said:

You could just ask them "DO YOU LIKE PRINCE?" and if they say "no" or don't say "yes" within 1 sec. you should move onto the next person.

LOL I don't think I have EVER dated anyone who liked Prince. Tolerated is about as close as it gets.

I tried it and it sucked answering the same questions 10 times for 3 minutes at a time. It was too awkward and will never do it again!

PurpleJedi said:

ZombieKitten said:

PurpleJedi said:

Well could I just add that a big prince fan could actually clash with another big prince fan. You see the fights that go on around here! Imagine you hook up with a guy (not naming names here callimnate ) that needs a whole room to house his collection and then where will YOUR collection go?? I don't know, how about it's enough your prospective partner admires Prince as a musician and will go to the concert with you. At my house ONE big fammy fam is enough

I had that situation with Peter, we had both our huge Prince collections here in my apartment. We bought nearly everything 2 times, so stupid. And apart from Prince our collections were pretty much the same as well as our taste in music was 99% similar. We had thousands of records 2 times in the same apartment collecting dust .

I actually went on a date with a guy once who kinda smirked and rolled his eyes when I said Prince is a musical genius. That, along with 99 other reasons was why I never contacted him again. Ugh, creepy ass dude!

Well I'm back home already . Kind of an unexpected night. How about only 4 guys out of 15 showed up....one had to leave early and one arrived an hour and 15 minutes late! Yet all of the women who signed up and paid their money showed up.

So the organizers really felt bad and after waiting for an hour and five minutes for more guys to show up, they instead just did a "group" discussion with us women and the 3 guys. The night wasn't a total bust, we talked about dating topics, the pitfalls, marriage and if we would date people who have kids, etc.

So technically, no speed dating happened.

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missfee said:

Well I'm back home already . Kind of an unexpected night. How about only 4 guys out of 15 showed up....one had to leave early and one arrived an hour and 15 minutes late! Yet all of the women who signed up and paid their money showed up.

So the organizers really felt bad and after waiting for an hour and five minutes for more guys to show up, they instead just did a "group" discussion with us women and the 3 guys. The night wasn't a total bust, we talked about dating topics, the pitfalls, marriage and if we would date people who have kids, etc.

So technically, no speed dating happened.

[Edited 11/3/12 18:13pm]

How weird, was this a privately organisated function, cause usually this kinda stuff is held in a club with few hundred people. The only one time I went to was a bar/restaurant and there were few hundred, that I had no chance to see how many men/women were there.

Anyway, if the men didn't turn up, it shows they weren't really interested. the guy leaving early, he probably left cause?

[Edited 11/3/12 19:04pm]

Exactly, how many lines of speed do you snort prior to dating?

missfee said:

Well I'm back home already . Kind of an unexpected night. How about only 4 guys out of 15 showed up....one had to leave early and one arrived an hour and 15 minutes late! Yet all of the women who signed up and paid their money showed up.

So the organizers really felt bad and after waiting for an hour and five minutes for more guys to show up, they instead just did a "group" discussion with us women and the 3 guys. The night wasn't a total bust, we talked about dating topics, the pitfalls, marriage and if we would date people who have kids, etc.

So technically, no speed dating happened.

[Edited 11/3/12 18:13pm]

Hey Misfee, sorry to hear that this didn't work out and it sucks when you go to these events and the ratio of women to men is too high I think the organizers probably should have done a better job of making sure to have enough men show up because they KNOW that there will be more women in most of these situations. I also had a lackluster experience with speed dating and never did it again. I hope things get better for you soon. Until then, keep making fun of me on the threads from time to time for laughs

missfee said:

Has anyone participated in this before? I'm going to one tomorrow evening and I dunno, I should feel fine but for some reason, I feel a little nervous. I guess because I don't know what to expect. It could possibly turn out to be fun...who knows.

Why should you feel fine? What's wrong with being nervous?

I went on a play speed date. Where instead of just talking to the person opposite we had to work in a pair to complete a quiz or make something together out of play-doh. That was fun.

OzlemUcucu said:

missfee said:

Well I'm back home already . Kind of an unexpected night. How about only 4 guys out of 15 showed up....one had to leave early and one arrived an hour and 15 minutes late! Yet all of the women who signed up and paid their money showed up.

So the organizers really felt bad and after waiting for an hour and five minutes for more guys to show up, they instead just did a "group" discussion with us women and the 3 guys. The night wasn't a total bust, we talked about dating topics, the pitfalls, marriage and if we would date people who have kids, etc.

So technically, no speed dating happened.

[Edited 11/3/12 18:13pm]

How weird, was this a privately organisated function, cause usually this kinda stuff is held in a club with few hundred people. The only one time I went to was a bar/restaurant and there were few hundred, that I had no chance to see how many men/women were there.

Anyway, if the men didn't turn up, it shows they weren't really interested. the guy leaving early, he probably left cause?

[Edited 11/3/12 19:04pm]

Yes this was a privately organized event. It wasn't in a club, instead a more quieter place that they rented for the evening, which was a really nice facility. They had refreshments and all but initially I wasn't even hungry. As far as the guy who left early, he wasn't even dressed appropriately...he had on sweats and a sweatshirt..I was like wtf? I was told what the dress code was and apparently everybody else was told too because they were dressed kind of dressy casual, did anyone not give him the memo? When he left, he claimed he already had another engagement he had to attend so he had to leave early.

SeventeenDayze said:

missfee said:

Well I'm back home already . Kind of an unexpected night. How about only 4 guys out of 15 showed up....one had to leave early and one arrived an hour and 15 minutes late! Yet all of the women who signed up and paid their money showed up.

So the organizers really felt bad and after waiting for an hour and five minutes for more guys to show up, they instead just did a "group" discussion with us women and the 3 guys. The night wasn't a total bust, we talked about dating topics, the pitfalls, marriage and if we would date people who have kids, etc.

So technically, no speed dating happened.

[Edited 11/3/12 18:13pm]

Hey Misfee, sorry to hear that this didn't work out and it sucks when you go to these events and the ratio of women to men is too high I think the organizers probably should have done a better job of making sure to have enough men show up because they KNOW that there will be more women in most of these situations. I also had a lackluster experience with speed dating and never did it again. I hope things get better for you soon. Until then, keep making fun of me on the threads from time to time for laughs

Well the organizers said that they were told by the attendees that they would be attending so they depended on them to show up, the real problem was, I don't think that the ones who didn't show up even paid the fee to attend. I think that they were hoping they would show up anyway and just pay when they came, even though the rule was that the money was to be paid in advance. This should have given a clear idea of who was actually going to show up and who wasn't. Seems like they didn't want to cancel the event and kept bending the guidelines in hopes that enough participants would attend. I'm just guessing.

missfee said:

OzlemUcucu said:

How weird, was this a privately organisated function, cause usually this kinda stuff is held in a club with few hundred people. The only one time I went to was a bar/restaurant and there were few hundred, that I had no chance to see how many men/women were there.

Anyway, if the men didn't turn up, it shows they weren't really interested. the guy leaving early, he probably left cause?

[Edited 11/3/12 19:04pm]

Yes this was a privately organized event. It wasn't in a club, instead a more quieter place that they rented for the evening, which was a really nice facility. They had refreshments and all but initially I wasn't even hungry. As far as the guy who left early, he wasn't even dressed appropriately...he had on sweats and a sweatshirt..I was like wtf? I was told what the dress code was and apparently everybody else was told too because they were dressed kind of dressy casual, did anyone not give him the memo? When he left, he claimed he already had another engagement he had to attend so he had to leave early.

Did the dudes have to pay as well? That's strange. What guy is gonna waste money and not show up to meet women???

As for the dude who left early...if he didn't get the memo (not that anyone should TELL you to dress nice for meeting women! WTF?!)...then he probably left early cuz he felt like a fool.

CarrieMpls said:Back when I was single I had friends who said they were gonna take me to one. NO WAY!

I can't (and couldn't) think of anything more horrifying than being forced to make conversation with several men I don't know for the sole purpose of deciding if I might want to go on an actual date with them.

BLECH.

It's a wonder I met my man at all.

Co-sign. Never tried it, never will.

PurpleJedi said:

missfee said:

Yes this was a privately organized event. It wasn't in a club, instead a more quieter place that they rented for the evening, which was a really nice facility. They had refreshments and all but initially I wasn't even hungry. As far as the guy who left early, he wasn't even dressed appropriately...he had on sweats and a sweatshirt..I was like wtf? I was told what the dress code was and apparently everybody else was told too because they were dressed kind of dressy casual, did anyone not give him the memo? When he left, he claimed he already had another engagement he had to attend so he had to leave early.

Did the dudes have to pay as well? That's strange. What guy is gonna waste money and not show up to meet women???

As for the dude who left early...if he didn't get the memo (not that anyone should TELL you to dress nice for meeting women! WTF?!)...then he probably left early cuz he felt like a fool.

Eh, missfee you paid an attendance fee for this? Do not ever pay for anything like that. Serious gatherings have no attendance fee for women. And you are wrong, usually those kinda places are overcrowded with men and not women, cause while most women are looking for some serious guy, most men have other interests too. Seems to me you was ripped off right from the beginning. About the guy who left early, I guess he left cause he was bored to be honest.