Ok my partner moved in with his mother and father in their house 12 years ago right...and my partner has put up to $13,000 in a furnished basement with a bar and a furnished attic, plus a deck in the backyard. This is basically his home so to speak. His mother is done with the mortgage payments in 7 years and she owns the home.

Question I have is.. we got together five years ago..and it wasnt until the end of year 3 that I decided to move in. I was looking to move out of my place after someone broke in and I had lived there for 5 years anyway it was time to move on.

My partners mother was struggling with bills and all so I decided maybe for a short time I can move in with my partner help out etc etc..plus I am saving money big time...but my independence is knocking on the door. Its been two years and I dont want to stay there forever. I feel he should move out too but I know thats not going to happen.

Would it be akward you think if I moved into my own spot by the end of next year? I love his mom and she is really nice to me and all...I just dont want to inherit someone elses home, espcially in my thirties. I want to move out of state, travel and all. Want my own shit.

What you think?

keep this on the org please..if were facebook friends dont say nuffin....dont want him 2 c

While the living situation in his mom's home sounds nice at a certain age and time one does need to move out and get their own shit I know times are tough and all, but I find it strange that a grown man basically converts his mom's basement into his house As far as u are concerned I don't think it's wrong to want to move. If u sit down and have a talk with him about it hopefully he will understand If he doesn't understand the "need to venture out" then there are other issues at play here Not on FB so no worries

nursev said:

What age is your dude?

I'm back at my parents house at the mo, because my business ran outta steam, so I needed to reset and look at a new career direction. I am fortunate that they have their own house. But I do intend to get out as soon as I'm financially comfortable to do so. Ya gotta go make your own life, for sanity's sake!

Absolutely NOTHING wrong with moving on {living wise} and getting your own. That's what you feel comfortable doing so do it. Your partner should understand.

KidaDynamite said:

Absolutely NOTHING wrong with moving on {living wise} and getting your own. That's what you feel comfortable doing so do it. Your partner should understand.

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Thank you guys. He blew up at me about it last night. Keeps saying if I move out then we are broke up.....Im like.....come on now dude seriously. Grow up man!

paisleypark4 said:

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Thank you guys. He blew up at me about it last night. Keeps saying if I move out then we are broke up.....Im like.....come on now dude seriously. Grow up man!

Well did you say you wanted to move out of the house or move out of the state? The former sounds okay the latter sounds like you're done with the whole shebang!

When it is time 2 move on u will know.........and u know.

Sometimes it is not complicated.