Do you have a partner that was fashion/style impaired until you came along to help out?

Or do you not care what style your love has?

My bf’s style is fairly understated. He can be picky about what he likes and has a definite sense of what is “him” or not so he'd never let me dress him. I can nudge in a certain direction now and agian, though.

And I wish he would embrace dressing up a bit more. He never looks raggedy but it’s hard to get him in anything other than jeans when going out and I like to wear dresses and I don’t want us to be completely mismatched. It usually works, but, yeah, I wish he’d be more willing to dress up now and again.

I have an interesting past-tense perspective.

During my marriage I wore mostly clearance-rack markdowns and wore the hell out of my clothes, for financial reasons of course.

The ex always asked me what I thought about what she would buy, and I actually always prodded her to buy younger stuff (but she was self-conscious due to her weight).

NOW.

I have a little more money to spend on myself, so I'm buying more for style rather than wear-&-tear. For the first time ever I walked into Banana Republic and came out with a shopping bag (sale stuff though...one step at a time LOL).

As for the ex, I have yet to see her wear anything this past year without her boobs popping out of her shirt, even in the dead of winter.

So I guess that we somehow both - in our own ways - "restricted" each other's style of dress?

PurpleJedi said:

I have an interesting past-tense perspective.

During my marriage I wore mostly clearance-rack markdowns and wore the hell out of my clothes, for financial reasons of course.

The ex always asked me what I thought about what she would buy, and I actually always prodded her to buy younger stuff (but she was self-conscious due to her weight).

NOW.

I have a little more money to spend on myself, so I'm buying more for style rather than wear-&-tear. For the first time ever I walked into Banana Republic and came out with a shopping bag (sale stuff though...one step at a time LOL).

As for the ex, I have yet to see her wear anything this past year without her boobs popping out of her shirt, even in the dead of winter.

So I guess that we somehow both - in our own ways - "restricted" each other's style of dress?

That should be encouraged.

kewlschool said:

PurpleJedi said:

I have an interesting past-tense perspective.

During my marriage I wore mostly clearance-rack markdowns and wore the hell out of my clothes, for financial reasons of course.

The ex always asked me what I thought about what she would buy, and I actually always prodded her to buy younger stuff (but she was self-conscious due to her weight).

NOW.

I have a little more money to spend on myself, so I'm buying more for style rather than wear-&-tear. For the first time ever I walked into Banana Republic and came out with a shopping bag (sale stuff though...one step at a time LOL).

As for the ex, I have yet to see her wear anything this past year without her boobs popping out of her shirt, even in the dead of winter.

So I guess that we somehow both - in our own ways - "restricted" each other's style of dress?

That should be encouraged.

Don't get me wrong, cleavage is a wonderful thing.

But (as the bitter ex) I find it weird/annoying that NOW she decides to be busting out of everything she wears. EVERYTHING.

CarrieMpls said:

My bf’s style is fairly understated. He can be picky about what he likes and has a definite sense of what is “him” or not so he'd never let me dress him. I can nudge in a certain direction now and agian, though.

And I wish he would embrace dressing up a bit more. He never looks raggedy but it’s hard to get him in anything other than jeans when going out and I like to wear dresses and I don’t want us to be completely mismatched. It usually works, but, yeah, I wish he’d be more willing to dress up now and again.

I totally get what you mean about that. Not that Sweetie is afraid to dress up - he has some gorgeous suits that he wears for work and other events. (The man actually owns a tux. ) But Madison is just so flippin' casual that he often feels odd about wearing that sort of thing unless it's for a specific event.

He always asks me if I'm okay with what he's wearing and is totally open to suggestions, though. And he's fastidious about the state of his clothing. We were going out the other night and he had on a linen-blend shirt. It was just slightly rumpled (as linen always is), but not actually wrinkled, and he was all worried that it needed to be ironed. And whenever he's near Nordstrom, he takes the time to get his shoes shined.

On the flip side, he would prefer that I dress in a younger/more revealing way. But he knows that I don't feel comfortable with that, so he doesn't get too strident about it. (Just like I don't get too in his face about the fact that I think he wears way too much Harley-Davidson stuff. Though, to be fair, he's toned that down a little.)

I have made some accommodation, though - I now have a few things that are a little more body conscious. And I was totally over heels until I met him. So we made a deal about that: if he wants me to wear sky-high heels when we go out, he drops me at our destination and parks the car, then gets the car and picks me up when we leave. Fair is fair.

PurpleJedi said:

kewlschool said:

That should be encouraged.

Don't get me wrong, cleavage is a wonderful thing.

But (as the bitter ex) I find it weird/annoying that NOW she decides to be busting out of everything she wears. EVERYTHING.

Well, you know, she has to put herself out there. It's part of the mating ritual

but I think divorce is good for people in the sense that they do begin to get out of their ruts and dress better and take better care of themselves. I don't know how many girlfriends I've had that after their divorces or breakups ended up losing weight, buying better clothes, getting that old worn out hairstyle into some new kind of shape- Really!

lauralevesque said:

PurpleJedi said:

Don't get me wrong, cleavage is a wonderful thing.

But (as the bitter ex) I find it weird/annoying that NOW she decides to be busting out of everything she wears. EVERYTHING.

Well, you know, she has to put herself out there. It's part of the mating ritual

but I think divorce is good for people in the sense that they do begin to get out of their ruts and dress better and take better care of themselves. I don't know how many girlfriends I've had that after their divorces or breakups ended up losing weight, buying better clothes, getting that old worn out hairstyle into some new kind of shape- Really!

It's just too bad that they didn't put in that kind of effort for their spouses. Maybe they'd still be married.

Not commenting on specific relationships or implying that it isn't a two-way street. I'm just sayin'. I think a lot of people get comfortable in their relationships, take them for granted, and quit trying.

Genesia said:

CarrieMpls said:

My bf’s style is fairly understated. He can be picky about what he likes and has a definite sense of what is “him” or not so he'd never let me dress him. I can nudge in a certain direction now and agian, though.

And I wish he would embrace dressing up a bit more. He never looks raggedy but it’s hard to get him in anything other than jeans when going out and I like to wear dresses and I don’t want us to be completely mismatched. It usually works, but, yeah, I wish he’d be more willing to dress up now and again.

I have made some accommodation, though - I now have a few things that are a little more body conscious. And I was totally over heels until I met him. So we made a deal about that: if he wants me to wear sky-high heels when we go out, he drops me at our destination and parks the car, then gets the car and picks me up when we leave. Fair is fair.

I love this!

My partner and I have completely different taste in clothing. She is always worried that she looks fat,

so she doesn't want to wear anything 2 form fitting. It drives me crazy, but she is anything but fat.

I don't know why having hips makes someone think they are fat

For the most part, I just let her do her own thing, but when she wears something I really like

I make sure to lather on the praise. Everytime we go out she asks me how she looks but gets mad

if I suggest something different, so these days I try to just say she looks great- unless what

she is wearing is just impossible.

She has this skirt that I HATE with a passion, it is just baggy, saggy- like she has on a diaper- and

has a zebra like print on it. Two nights ago we were going out to dinner with friends and when I

noticed that she laid it on the bed with her top and heels I just couldn't take it. When she got in the

shower I hid it

Where do I start! :dead:

I'm so glad men can buy skinny jeans, my SOB had been wearing since the 90s those huge jeans they look like clown pants!

He also has a tendency to go to Kmart with his rewards card gift voucher and just get things to "wear around the house" which of course he wears EVERYWHERE. At the moment the article de jour is a navy striped hoodie - BIG stripes. At least I'll never lose him in a crowd!

Thankfully every year he saves up his birthday and Christmas money and we go shop for gig clothes that I can pick out. This means when he has to go "out" (and the hoodie doesn't cut it), he can select anything from the gig outfits and look good.

Genesia said:

It's just too bad that they didn't put in that kind of effort for their spouses. Maybe they'd still be married.

Not commenting on specific relationships or implying that it isn't a two-way street. I'm just sayin'. I think a lot of people get comfortable in their relationships, take them for granted, and quit trying.

This is something I will never understand. Why let go once you're in a relationship?

I want to stay fit, look good for both myself and my partner.

Genesia said:

CarrieMpls said:

My bf’s style is fairly understated. He can be picky about what he likes and has a definite sense of what is “him” or not so he'd never let me dress him. I can nudge in a certain direction now and agian, though.

And I wish he would embrace dressing up a bit more. He never looks raggedy but it’s hard to get him in anything other than jeans when going out and I like to wear dresses and I don’t want us to be completely mismatched. It usually works, but, yeah, I wish he’d be more willing to dress up now and again.

I totally get what you mean about that. Not that Sweetie is afraid to dress up - he has some gorgeous suits that he wears for work and other events. (The man actually owns a tux. ) But Madison is just so flippin' casual that he often feels odd about wearing that sort of thing unless it's for a specific event.

He always asks me if I'm okay with what he's wearing and is totally open to suggestions, though. And he's fastidious about the state of his clothing. We were going out the other night and he had on a linen-blend shirt. It was just slightly rumpled (as linen always is), but not actually wrinkled, and he was all worried that it needed to be ironed. And whenever he's near Nordstrom, he takes the time to get his shoes shined.

On the flip side, he would prefer that I dress in a younger/more revealing way. But he knows that I don't feel comfortable with that, so he doesn't get too strident about it. (Just like I don't get too in his face about the fact that I think he wears way too much Harley-Davidson stuff. Though, to be fair, he's toned that down a little.)

I have made some accommodation, though - I now have a few things that are a little more body conscious. And I was totally over heels until I met him. So we made a deal about that: if he wants me to wear sky-high heels when we go out, he drops me at our destination and parks the car, then gets the car and picks me up when we leave. Fair is fair.

Yeah, he's very particular about his clothes too - always pressed and such. And he dresses professionally for work. And he's put on a tie for me a time or two, I just have to get him in the right mood.

Interesting about the heels. I don't wear them anymore, haven't for a long time, and I asked him about it once and he was all "no big deal" about it. Further into the relationship we were talking about what "type' of folks we'd dated/were into in the past and he confessed he had a thing for tall girls. I'm 5 inches shorter than him. I suspect I'll be wearing heels again at some point. Your compromise sounds like that could work well.

My past bfs have all had pretty great style - I guess that's why I was partly attracted to them in the first place.

The only one that changed his style a bit while being with me was my last bf. It's not that he didn't look good...he looked great, it just wasn't the style that I thought was adorable and hot. It was too generic and cookie cutter with I found boring.

But over time I noticed he started to change his look right into my type to a T. I never asked him too, just little suggestions here and there while out shopping and eventually he was not only my type physically, mentally, whatever...he was totally my type in terms of style.

But now that I am on my own again, it seems all the dudes around here have HORRIBLE style.

If I do find someone I really like....I hope I can have that same influence on him. I know it sounds a bit shallow but I put a lot of effort to look as good as I can...I just want someone that does the same....well, my type of good, that is!

LadyCasanova said:

My partner and I have completely different taste in clothing. She is always worried that she looks fat,

so she doesn't want to wear anything 2 form fitting. It drives me crazy, but she is anything but fat.

I don't know why having hips makes someone think they are fat

For the most part, I just let her do her own thing, but when she wears something I really like

I make sure to lather on the praise. Everytime we go out she asks me how she looks but gets mad

if I suggest something different, so these days I try to just say she looks great- unless what

she is wearing is just impossible.

She has this skirt that I HATE with a passion, it is just baggy, saggy- like she has on a diaper- and

has a zebra like print on it. Two nights ago we were going out to dinner with friends and when I

noticed that she laid it on the bed with her top and heels I just couldn't take it. When she got in the

shower I hid it

LadyCasanova said:

My partner and I have completely different taste in clothing. She is always worried that she looks fat,

so she doesn't want to wear anything 2 form fitting. It drives me crazy, but she is anything but fat.

I don't know why having hips makes someone think they are fat

For the most part, I just let her do her own thing, but when she wears something I really like

I make sure to lather on the praise. Everytime we go out she asks me how she looks but gets mad

if I suggest something different, so these days I try to just say she looks great- unless what

she is wearing is just impossible.

She has this skirt that I HATE with a passion, it is just baggy, saggy- like she has on a diaper- and

has a zebra like print on it. Two nights ago we were going out to dinner with friends and when I

noticed that she laid it on the bed with her top and heels I just couldn't take it. When she got in the

shower I hid it

That whole part made me smile. Has she asked where her skirt is yet?

my husband has his own style for sure! and he loves to buy clothes way more than i do, he is almost a clothing hoarder. twice a year i have to have a garage sale & also donate clothing to shelters. he tends to dress older than what he is, but he's getting better. i help him pick out more things his own age. no need to look 40 when you are only 29.