missfee said:

alphastreet said:

August 20, 2012 Staying in Pain Stuck in the Mud by Madisyn Taylor Pain can serve as one of life's great teachers, but it is important to move through it and not become stuck in our pain. Pain comes and it goes. It is just one component to the grand cycle of life. And when experienced as such, pain can serve as an important teacher. It is when we get stuck in our pain that it becomes detrimental to our well-being and development. If you notice that you feel closed-off, resentful, heavy-hearted, or that you try very hard to avoid being hurt again, there may be a part of you that is still stuck in pain. We can get stuck in our pain for many reasons. As children, it was natural for us to cry, throw a tantrum, and let the experience move through us. By fully feeling our pain in this way, our emotions would wash us clean, leaving us open and available to new experiences. With age, though, we might have determined that expressing emotion was no longer appropriate, and so we developed a variety of coping strategies to deal with our discomfort. We may have learned to stuff our feelings down or to run away from them. Perhaps we began thinking that staying closed and unwilling to try new things would keep us safe from heartbreak, safe from rejection, and safe from failure. We may have even gotten so used to being in pain that the thought of being without it scares us. But, if we continue to hold onto it longer than necessary, we are expending a lot of energy that could instead be channeled into making our life experiences more positive. If you notice that you are continually connecting with the same familiar patterns of pain, consider embracing your feelings and letting go of your hurt. Whether your pain is from childhood or from an experience last week, see if you can give it room to move. When it does, you will reconnect with a wonderful source of your own vital energy

Interesting statement, however, is there any such thing as trying to force feelings of pain from the past to go away and they never do, no matter how hard you try? What if you do actually want to let it go, but no matter what, the feelings remain?

ThisOne said:

When the hurt is overwhelming and u feel cornered and it's like u r all alone U cave in and the tears just keep rolling out and u lose control It doesn't feel like it helps when it's happening and it feels horrible but it's better than keeping it all bottled in and it's part if the healing process Some moments of pain r worse than others and some keep on repeating because of memories and experiences

Yeah

lauralevesque said:

I had today off and was so excited- had so many things I planned to do, I woke up early (instead of sleeping in like I'd planned) and was in a great mood....suddenly a dark cloud came over me and I started crying.... ended up crying all day long....about everything that's ever gone wrong in my life. I don't know what happened, I don't think I'm depressed but today's one of those days where I'm rueing the day I was born. What the hell is wrong with me? Does anyone ever have this happen? For no apparent reason?

wow

that sounds like you may have been in a 'keep it moving' mode for a while and so finally everything caught up to you in 1 moment

OldFriends4Sale said:

lauralevesque said:

I had today off and was so excited- had so many things I planned to do, I woke up early (instead of sleeping in like I'd planned) and was in a great mood....suddenly a dark cloud came over me and I started crying.... ended up crying all day long....about everything that's ever gone wrong in my life. I don't know what happened, I don't think I'm depressed but today's one of those days where I'm rueing the day I was born. What the hell is wrong with me? Does anyone ever have this happen? For no apparent reason?

wow

that sounds like you may have been in a 'keep it moving' mode for a while and so finally everything caught up to you in 1 moment

Yes- definately. I always just "keep going" "fix this" "fix that" "get through this" "make it through that"- And truthfully, I'm sick of it. So I decided to just let myself be in a funk this week and it's actually making me feel better! We're always suppossed to take a pill to trick our minds into thinking we feel good, or say positive affirmations (which I do) or "look for the silver lining" and this week after that day of crying, I said to myself, "This is fucked up. I feel bad and I'm going to let myself feel like I feel" but I can't let it go on longer than this week- I plan to be back in auto- mode come Monday

There have been times when I've burst into tears at inopportune times. When my daddy died, I went through a rough patch for months. I would burst into tears at work, in the car while driving and at home alone. There was a time I thought I was losing my mind because I would burst into tears without a catalyst. Finally chalked it up to menopause.

I had a good cry yesterday