I had today off and was so excited- had so many things I planned to do, I woke up early (instead of sleeping in like I'd planned) and was in a great mood....suddenly a dark cloud came over me and I started crying.... ended up crying all day long....about everything that's ever gone wrong in my life. I don't know what happened, I don't think I'm depressed but today's one of those days where I'm rueing the day I was born. What the hell is wrong with me? Does anyone ever have this happen? For no apparent reason?

[img:$uid]http://i216.photobucket.com/albums/cc99/gataloca_bucket/flower.gif[/img:$uid] Sometimes you just need to flush things out yanno?

I see it as a physical release of pent up emotion.

Maybe the lack of something pressing to do allowed your pent-up emotions to come out?

If you have been stressed lately, then that tells me you have NOT been taking enough time to pamper or care for yourself.

When I get like that it means that I was overdue for something joyful... you need to treat yourself to some touch therapy..

a long bath, a trip to the salon, a massage, pedicure.... something to help release tension.

lauralevesque said:

I had today off and was so excited- had so many things I planned to do, I woke up early (instead of sleeping in like I'd planned) and was in a great mood....suddenly a dark cloud came over me and I started crying.... ended up crying all day long....about everything that's ever gone wrong in my life. I don't know what happened, I don't think I'm depressed but today's one of those days where I'm rueing the day I was born. What the hell is wrong with me? Does anyone ever have this happen? For no apparent reason?

There is a reason and deep inside you know what it is even if it is not obvious. I would stick with that to heal whatever issue has come to the surface. It is making itself known for a reason. Glad you got those tears out instead of suppressing them

Thanks everyone- It's been a stressful few years- Maybe it was good to "get it all out" like Paintedlady said, so therefore, I guess today WAS productive Maybe now I can get it out and keep going.

lauralevesque said:

Thanks everyone- It's been a stressful few years- Maybe it was good to "get it all out" like Paintedlady said, so therefore, I guess today WAS productive Maybe now I can get it out and keep going.

Now that was a 'warning' thing your body does...

so moving forward talk to a friend if something bothers you immediately, don't hold stuff in and get some pampering done!

paintedlady said:

lauralevesque said:

Thanks everyone- It's been a stressful few years- Maybe it was good to "get it all out" like Paintedlady said, so therefore, I guess today WAS productive Maybe now I can get it out and keep going.

Now that was a 'warning' thing your body does...

so moving forward talk to a friend if something bothers you immediately, don't hold stuff in and get some pampering done!

Yes, I have a tendency to hold it in. I

I have a neighbor who recently told me she'd gotten a massage and she began sobbing during the massage, when she initially told me I was like, "Why did you start crying?' but she explained that all that pent up emotion just came flooding out. I think I will schedule a massage- get the rest out-

Thanks Paintedlady

lauralevesque said:

paintedlady said:

Now that was a 'warning' thing your body does...

so moving forward talk to a friend if something bothers you immediately, don't hold stuff in and get some pampering done!

Yes, I have a tendency to hold it in. I

I have a neighbor who recently told me she'd gotten a massage and she began sobbing during the massage, when she initially told me I was like, "Why did you start crying?' but she explained that all that pent up emotion just came flooding out. I think I will schedule a massage- get the rest out-

Thanks Paintedlady

Anytime chica.

No, I don't. But I've never seen it as a weakness, either. Some people just deal with stuff different than others and it's better to get it out than hold it in until you explode. Now, if it happened all the time, that would be different. But just having a good cry? Nah. Seems like it really helps some folks.

Of course, it's best to just find a quiet place to be alone and let it all out. At least, that's what I do.

I never used to cry, I bottled it all up but over the last few years, I just let it happen when it needs to.

I've been criticized for it recently, but oh well...it's just who I am now, I guess.

Nah but I don't see nothing wrong with a good cry. Doesn't mean you're a punk for doing it.

I only cry during emotional episodes of Star Trek

JustErin said:

Of course, it's best to just find a quiet place to be alone and let it all out. At least, that's what I do.

I never used to cry, I bottled it all up but over the last few years, I just let it happen when it needs to.

I've been criticized for it recently, but oh well...it's just who I am now, I guess.

That's awesome. Glad you are releasing

NDRU said:

I only cry during emotional episodes of Star Trek

Oh good. Other people do this too!

Good to know it's a normal, healthy thing!

Cerebus said:

No, I don't. But I've never seen it as a weakness, either. Some people just deal with stuff different than others and it's better to get it out than hold it in until you explode. Now, if it happened all the time, that would be different. But just having a good cry? Nah. Seems like it really helps some folks.

it should because it floods you with feel good hormones!!!

and funnily enough, if you cry long enough you can experience a mini-hangover afterwards, which also makes sense, it's a little come-down from all the lovely endorphins

My problem these days is that I stop only a few seconds after I start crying.

I cried a whole lot as a teenager, but don't seem to be able to do it anymore. I wouldn't mind letting out some of the frustration and disappontment sometimes as an adult as well, but my "jags" last only for a second or two. It must look really stupid to people that have gotten to see it.

Maybe it's good it all came out. Mine comes out too but mostly I find it hard to get out now cause of a combination of mental health, chain of events, different prescription drugs messing around with my emotions, etc. so it's a great thing you can do it.

Last night I got triggered by something that made me realize a connection with my past and I got all emotional about it and wrote about it with manic ideas flowing, but it got to a point where I was losing it in my thoughts and had to talk it out with someone to calm down.

novabrkr said:

My problem these days is that I stop only a few seconds after I start crying.

I cried a whole lot as a teenager, but don't seem to be able to do it anymore. I wouldn't mind letting out some of the frustration and disappontment sometimes as an adult as well, but my "jags" last only for a second or two. It must look really stupid to people that have gotten to see it.

That is what happens to me with news that is worse than just bad news. Before mj's death, I was crying over other bad things happening in my life at the time, when he passed I was devastated cause I'm into him like you guys are into Prince and though I cried everyday, it was quick and went off and I was more in a rage than anything and numb from shock and lightheaded, and not feeling the pain physically was even worse than crying cause it was very draining. I thank god I had my art to depend on as well that time or I wouldn't have gotten through it.

This is normal. Sometimes, things just hit you. It doesn't mean that you are depressed or whatever...sometimes those dark clouds come and wreak havoc over you.

There are times, just like you, when I wake up happy and content, then arrive to work and all of a sudden start balling with tears at my desk for a few hours. Sometimes I don't even know what I'm crying about...sometimes I do know. There's nothing wrong with letting it out. Sometimes my clouds loom over me for a few hours, sometimes only for a few seconds or minutes. I just know that afterwards, I feel better. I think it's the human body's way of "rinsing" out your emotions. If that makes any sense.

novabrkr said:

My problem these days is that I stop only a few seconds after I start crying.

I cried a whole lot as a teenager, but don't seem to be able to do it anymore. I wouldn't mind letting out some of the frustration and disappontment sometimes as an adult as well, but my "jags" last only for a second or two. It must look really stupid to people that have gotten to see it.

Same here. But I never apologize to others for it. I may think after the fact "they must really think I'm crazy" but then I'm like "ah oh well" and keep it moving. Sometimes after my spell is over, I can't figure out why I was making such a big deal over it just seconds before. I just chalk it all up to being human.

alphastreet said:

August 20, 2012 Staying in Pain Stuck in the Mud by Madisyn Taylor Pain can serve as one of life's great teachers, but it is important to move through it and not become stuck in our pain. Pain comes and it goes. It is just one component to the grand cycle of life. And when experienced as such, pain can serve as an important teacher. It is when we get stuck in our pain that it becomes detrimental to our well-being and development. If you notice that you feel closed-off, resentful, heavy-hearted, or that you try very hard to avoid being hurt again, there may be a part of you that is still stuck in pain. We can get stuck in our pain for many reasons. As children, it was natural for us to cry, throw a tantrum, and let the experience move through us. By fully feeling our pain in this way, our emotions would wash us clean, leaving us open and available to new experiences. With age, though, we might have determined that expressing emotion was no longer appropriate, and so we developed a variety of coping strategies to deal with our discomfort. We may have learned to stuff our feelings down or to run away from them. Perhaps we began thinking that staying closed and unwilling to try new things would keep us safe from heartbreak, safe from rejection, and safe from failure. We may have even gotten so used to being in pain that the thought of being without it scares us. But, if we continue to hold onto it longer than necessary, we are expending a lot of energy that could instead be channeled into making our life experiences more positive. If you notice that you are continually connecting with the same familiar patterns of pain, consider embracing your feelings and letting go of your hurt. Whether your pain is from childhood or from an experience last week, see if you can give it room to move. When it does, you will reconnect with a wonderful source of your own vital energy

Interesting statement, however, is there any such thing as trying to force feelings of pain from the past to go away and they never do, no matter how hard you try? What if you do actually want to let it go, but no matter what, the feelings remain?

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missfee said:

This is normal. Sometimes, things just hit you. It doesn't mean that you are depressed or whatever...sometimes those dark clouds come and wreak havoc over you.

There are times, just like you, when I wake up happy and content, then arrive to work and all of a sudden start balling with tears at my desk for a few hours. Sometimes I don't even know what I'm crying about...sometimes I do know. There's nothing wrong with letting it out. Sometimes my clouds loom over me for a few hours, sometimes only for a few seconds or minutes. I just know that afterwards, I feel better. I think it's the human body's way of "rinsing" out your emotions. If that makes any sense.

missfee said:

novabrkr said:

My problem these days is that I stop only a few seconds after I start crying.

I cried a whole lot as a teenager, but don't seem to be able to do it anymore. I wouldn't mind letting out some of the frustration and disappontment sometimes as an adult as well, but my "jags" last only for a second or two. It must look really stupid to people that have gotten to see it.

Same here. But I never apologize to others for it. I may think after the fact "they must really think I'm crazy" but then I'm like "ah oh well" and keep it moving. Sometimes after my spell is over, I can't figure out why I was making such a big deal over it just seconds before. I just chalk it all up to being human.

I'm not sorry either, I just have to allow myself to live in the present and set aside "me" time to keep a healthy balance

missfee said:

alphastreet said:

August 20, 2012 Staying in Pain Stuck in the Mud by Madisyn Taylor Pain can serve as one of life's great teachers, but it is important to move through it and not become stuck in our pain. Pain comes and it goes. It is just one component to the grand cycle of life. And when experienced as such, pain can serve as an important teacher. It is when we get stuck in our pain that it becomes detrimental to our well-being and development. If you notice that you feel closed-off, resentful, heavy-hearted, or that you try very hard to avoid being hurt again, there may be a part of you that is still stuck in pain. We can get stuck in our pain for many reasons. As children, it was natural for us to cry, throw a tantrum, and let the experience move through us. By fully feeling our pain in this way, our emotions would wash us clean, leaving us open and available to new experiences. With age, though, we might have determined that expressing emotion was no longer appropriate, and so we developed a variety of coping strategies to deal with our discomfort. We may have learned to stuff our feelings down or to run away from them. Perhaps we began thinking that staying closed and unwilling to try new things would keep us safe from heartbreak, safe from rejection, and safe from failure. We may have even gotten so used to being in pain that the thought of being without it scares us. But, if we continue to hold onto it longer than necessary, we are expending a lot of energy that could instead be channeled into making our life experiences more positive. If you notice that you are continually connecting with the same familiar patterns of pain, consider embracing your feelings and letting go of your hurt. Whether your pain is from childhood or from an experience last week, see if you can give it room to move. When it does, you will reconnect with a wonderful source of your own vital energy

Interesting statement, however, is there any such thing as trying to force feelings of pain from the past to go away and they never do, no matter how hard you try? What if you do actually want to let it go, but no matter what, the feelings remain?

That's true too and what I struggle with. I try to live in the present and surround myself with positivity, but sleeping and waking up is very hard emotionally, or if I'm by myself with too much quiet for too long.

Sometimes-as Painted said sometimes u just gotta let things out.

missfee said:

This is normal. Sometimes, things just hit you. It doesn't mean that you are depressed or whatever...sometimes those dark clouds come and wreak havoc over you.

There are times, just like you, when I wake up happy and content, then arrive to work and all of a sudden start balling with tears at my desk for a few hours. Sometimes I don't even know what I'm crying about...sometimes I do know. There's nothing wrong with letting it out. Sometimes my clouds loom over me for a few hours, sometimes only for a few seconds or minutes. I just know that afterwards, I feel better. I think it's the human body's way of "rinsing" out your emotions. If that makes any sense.