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Reply #30 posted 05/29/12 12:15pm

PurpleJedi

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Timmy84 said:

Cerebus said:

As serious as I can be, and some of you know that's pretty serious, I don't believe ANYBODY should have more than two kids. A chance to have a boy and a girl. Then knock that shit off already.

Shit even having one is enough. But two is definitely a maximum. That just adds to a lot of shit. I see my family sometimes especially my aunt and her kin and I wonder how they think having 100 kids run around in a three-bedroom house is cute.

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Two is a good number.

Once you have that third kid, you can't use Travelocity to plan your vacation because most hotels/resorts/cruises are designed for a family of 4.

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Reply #31 posted 05/29/12 12:16pm

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KingBAD said:

YES AND ALL OF THEM WOULD BE NAMED BAD 1

and i'd try to get as many of them in the same

school as i possibly could and the same classes,

and i would have all they mommas join the PTA

so they could vote in as many family pic nics as

possible so when they had 'daddy donut day'

i would get a whole box or two of the freshest

crulers that you ever tasted and wouldn't share

with none of you hater ass people because y'all

always manage to get the kids names wrong,

i mean REALLY how hard is it to remember BAD 1

not BAD ONE, BAD 1 daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamn lol

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Reply #32 posted 05/29/12 12:17pm

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Ottensen said:

imago said:

Yes, of course.

If I was really rich, could easily afford and provide for them, as well as have nannys, tutors, etc. like royalty, I think it would be great.

Within a couple of generations there would be thousands of imagos planting seed, and that sort of turns me on.

I just pictured Jodie Foster in Anna and the King. I loved that movie mushy Chow Yung Fat was fine as wine in that. Back in the day, when I watched that movie I must admit the whole time I sat there thinking, "King Mongkut could get it. TODAY. sexy smoker

Jodie Foster and Chow Yun-Fat in 'Anna and the King'

that is, if he didn't have so many damned kids neutral

I guess there are broads that are fine with popping out all those babies or being with someone in that position, though. Me however? Well, it took me until recently just to get used to a man having a pet, let alone a kid or aaarg, 30 of 'em lol

lol

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Reply #33 posted 05/29/12 12:18pm

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paintedlady said:

Wow, its saddens me that so many people got some real ill-behaved children, gives most kids a bad rep.

I trained my kids so that they don't wear me the hell out if I am around them all day. They really are a joy to be around. I enjoy my time around them and so do other adults.

Its funny to me that other people are shocked that they like being around my kids too. My boyfriend likes my kids and he tells me all the time he likes my kids more than he likes his own. My kids don't bother him like most kids do. He told me that is why he decided to 'keep me around'. neutral

So... bored2 hey, I wanted TWO children, my 3rd was a surprise, and I am glad I have her but hell if I want anymore, they are a LOT of work regardless of how well behaved they are.

So I see why some adults (who realize that training kids the proper way they should be/grow is major freggin' work) don't want any kids at all.

This world needs more adults that take parenting seriously enough to not want to jump into parenthood easily and treat it as if raising children comes naturally. It doesn't.

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Puts a smile on your face when random strangers come up to you at a restaurant and compliment you on how well-behaved your kids are, don't it?

mushy

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Reply #34 posted 05/29/12 12:53pm

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Currently, I don't have any kids, but always wanted no more than 2, however, after the cookout I went to yesterday, I was thanking my lucky stars that I don't have any (those little monsters were all over the place, literally, destroying everything and listening to no one), and made me actually think to myself if I really do want any at all. shrug Honestly, I don't think I possess the patience it takes to be a parent.

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Reply #35 posted 05/29/12 12:59pm

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missfee said:

Currently, I don't have any kids, but always wanted no more than 2, however, after the cookout I went to yesterday, I was thanking my lucky stars that I don't have any (those little monsters were all over the place, literally, destroying everything and listening to no one), and made me actually think to myself if I really do want any at all. shrug Honestly, I don't think I possess the patience it takes to be a parent.

lol

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Reply #36 posted 05/29/12 1:09pm

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missfee said:

Currently, I don't have any kids, but always wanted no more than 2, however, after the cookout I went to yesterday, I was thanking my lucky stars that I don't have any (those little monsters were all over the place, literally, destroying everything and listening to no one), and made me actually think to myself if I really do want any at all. shrug Honestly, I don't think I possess the patience it takes to be a parent.

It takes LOTS of patience, let me tell you. I only have one but lately I have seen why ppl have more than one. I have to be a sibling, playmate and mommy.

That being said, I am not having anymore, I am over 40 and I do not have the energy. I see why ppl have kids when they are young.

Now, 30 damn kids, that man needs a hobby. One that does not involve having sex!

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Reply #37 posted 05/29/12 1:27pm

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Shanti0608 said:

missfee said:

Currently, I don't have any kids, but always wanted no more than 2, however, after the cookout I went to yesterday, I was thanking my lucky stars that I don't have any (those little monsters were all over the place, literally, destroying everything and listening to no one), and made me actually think to myself if I really do want any at all. shrug Honestly, I don't think I possess the patience it takes to be a parent.

It takes LOTS of patience, let me tell you. I only have one but lately I have seen why ppl have more than one. I have to be a sibling, playmate and mommy.

That being said, I am not having anymore, I am over 40 and I do not have the energy. I see why ppl have kids when they are young.

Now, 30 damn kids, that man needs a hobby. One that does not involve having sex!

lol

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Reply #38 posted 05/29/12 1:28pm

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Timmy84 said:

I got five words for that:

HELL

TO

THE

FUCKIN'

NAW!

Shit I don't even want ONE... lol

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Reply #39 posted 05/29/12 3:00pm

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PurpleJedi said:

paintedlady said:

Wow, its saddens me that so many people got some real ill-behaved children, gives most kids a bad rep.

I trained my kids so that they don't wear me the hell out if I am around them all day. They really are a joy to be around. I enjoy my time around them and so do other adults.

Its funny to me that other people are shocked that they like being around my kids too. My boyfriend likes my kids and he tells me all the time he likes my kids more than he likes his own. My kids don't bother him like most kids do. He told me that is why he decided to 'keep me around'. neutral

So... bored2 hey, I wanted TWO children, my 3rd was a surprise, and I am glad I have her but hell if I want anymore, they are a LOT of work regardless of how well behaved they are.

So I see why some adults (who realize that training kids the proper way they should be/grow is major freggin' work) don't want any kids at all.

This world needs more adults that take parenting seriously enough to not want to jump into parenthood easily and treat it as if raising children comes naturally. It doesn't.

twocents

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highfive

Puts a smile on your face when random strangers come up to you at a restaurant and compliment you on how well-behaved your kids are, don't it?

mushy

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Puts an even bigger smile when my older sister is forced to admit I am a good mother to my kids.

Everyone used to complain about my sister's kids and she would always try to dump them on everyone she knew.

lol

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Reply #40 posted 05/29/12 3:03pm

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Lammastide said:

No.

Not only would the share of time, energy, deserved one-on-one attention and finance for each mother and child be further splintered with each subsequent birth, but I'm inclined to think there are far too many of us humans running around screwing things up as it is.

This.

Having children and paying someone else to care for them is unethical, in my opinion. It's one thing to find yourself in a an undesirable situation and give a child up for adoption, it's quite another to willfully choose to make babies you have no intention to care for, even if you give money away for it to happen.

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Reply #41 posted 05/29/12 3:11pm

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PurpleJedi said:

paintedlady said:

Wow, its saddens me that so many people got some real ill-behaved children, gives most kids a bad rep.

I trained my kids so that they don't wear me the hell out if I am around them all day. They really are a joy to be around. I enjoy my time around them and so do other adults.

Its funny to me that other people are shocked that they like being around my kids too. My boyfriend likes my kids and he tells me all the time he likes my kids more than he likes his own. My kids don't bother him like most kids do. He told me that is why he decided to 'keep me around'. neutral

So... bored2 hey, I wanted TWO children, my 3rd was a surprise, and I am glad I have her but hell if I want anymore, they are a LOT of work regardless of how well behaved they are.

So I see why some adults (who realize that training kids the proper way they should be/grow is major freggin' work) don't want any kids at all.

This world needs more adults that take parenting seriously enough to not want to jump into parenthood easily and treat it as if raising children comes naturally. It doesn't.

twocents

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highfive

Puts a smile on your face when random strangers come up to you at a restaurant and compliment you on how well-behaved your kids are, don't it?

mushy

It is great when others appreciate and recognise your hard work. My sons school tells me all of the time how good he is all day and how he is a pleasure to have around.

I usually check to make sure they realise which boy is mine in the class.

Ha! Got to have a sense of humour when you are a parent. big grin

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Reply #42 posted 05/29/12 3:38pm

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30?

One is 2 many..............

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Reply #43 posted 05/30/12 1:29am

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Shanti0608 said:

PurpleJedi said:

highfive

Puts a smile on your face when random strangers come up to you at a restaurant and compliment you on how well-behaved your kids are, don't it?

mushy

It is great when others appreciate and recognise your hard work. My sons school tells me all of the time how good he is all day and how he is a pleasure to have around.

I usually check to make sure they realise which boy is mine in the class.

Ha! Got to have a sense of humour when you are a parent. big grin

Absolutely!

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Reply #44 posted 05/30/12 2:12am

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PurpleJedi said:

imago said:

Yes, of course.

If I was really rich, could easily afford and provide for them, as well as have nannys, tutors, etc. like royalty, I think it would be great.

Within a couple of generations there would be thousands of imagos planting seed, and that sort of turns me on.

faint

Oh lord, help us.

Your ovaries just caught fire and went nuclear, didn't they? batting eyes

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Reply #45 posted 05/30/12 2:15am

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Graycap23 said:

30?

One is 2 many..............

Half?

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Reply #46 posted 05/30/12 5:26am

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So much hate for children on this damn thread. neutral

Any man would love to be able to fuck that many women. And if he manages to have children from these unions, it means he's reproductively fit. But really, many couldn't care less for the consequences of their actions.

And you'd be surprised that as much as 60% of college aged men don't even use condoms. So...they're not either scared of producing children...nor are they scared of getting an STI.

Children are NOT supposed to be mistakes or nuissances. They should to come into a home full of love and preferably should be planned. At least one person needs to take responsibility to make sure those children are raised well. That man who fathered all those kids doesn't care. Their mothers apparently were nothing more than disposable pleasures. And the women are no better to let themselves be used in such a way.

Speaking as a woman...I'm not one of a harem of women. I'm a one man type of woman and he better be exclusive solely to me. Whatever children we have will be ours and we'll raised them together. That's me..

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Reply #47 posted 05/30/12 5:35am

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ThruTheEyesOfWonder said:

So much hate for children on this damn thread. neutral

Any man would love to be able to fuck that many women.

I would love to fuck ten times that many women if it was 100% guaranteed I would catch no diseases or create any offspring. Fuck a children! lol

I do, in fact, hate them. Not one child, including my relatives, has ever brought any kind of joy into my life. As my niece and nephew are approaching adulthood, I'm starting to think they're pretty cool, though. nod

I've said this MANY TIMES over the years; some people are not meant to have children and the world would be a FAR better place if they could figure that out BEFORE they started producing them. Some people are better at other things and they should focus their time and energy in those places. Some people feel perfectly "complete" without spreading their seed around, or getting married, or complying with whatever other social conventions society feels they need to take part in.

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Reply #48 posted 05/30/12 5:35am

Timmy84

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Hmm no one hates children... I hate folks who think having a bundle of kids is cool then running off not taking care of them being irresponsible. "But that's just me." neutral

Raising children is a 9 to 5, 24/7 job. Believe me, my mother raised seven children (two of which were her own) and she had some problems with some of the eldest children. It's not as beautiful or ugly as it may seem.

I don't know why it seems like you're championing assholes fucking women just to have kids. Or at least that's how it seems to me. If it's not, my apologies.


And people SHOULD care about their responsibilities. Fuck that FIT SHIT.

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Reply #49 posted 05/30/12 5:35am

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Timmy84 said:

^ Hmm no one hates children...

Fuck I don't! lol

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Reply #50 posted 05/30/12 5:36am

Timmy84

Cerebus said:

Timmy84 said:

^ Hmm no one hates children...

Fuck I don't! lol

lol

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Reply #51 posted 05/30/12 5:37am

Timmy84

Plus I guess I can't be surprised that some folks have the attitude that if a man has that many kids, good for him (uh what?)

Yeah... but what about THE MONEY!?

Money... support...


If you didn't want the responsibility, don't have sex. If you know you have an illness, don't have sex.

Common sense should take place rather than just fucking anything that moves.

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Reply #52 posted 05/30/12 5:44am

Timmy84

Cerebus said:

ThruTheEyesOfWonder said:

So much hate for children on this damn thread. neutral

Any man would love to be able to fuck that many women.

I would love to fuck ten times that many women if it was 100% guaranteed I would catch no diseases or create any offspring. Fuck a children! lol

I do, in fact, hate them. Not one child, including my relatives, has ever brought any kind of joy into my life. As my niece and nephew are approaching adulthood, I'm starting to think they're pretty cool, though. nod

I've said this MANY TIMES over the years; some people are not meant to have children and the world would be a FAR better place if they could figure that out BEFORE they started producing them. Some people are better at other things and they should focus their time and energy in those places. Some people feel perfectly "complete" without spreading their seed around, or getting married, or complying with whatever other social conventions society feels they need to take part in.

Steps off soap box.

Shit there's too many stories of folks leaving babies out in fucking cars leaving them to steam to death, there's some who leave children out to do any damn thing and then end up dying, you got mothers (and fathers) dealing with kids who are autistic, or are preemies, or become mentally handicapped and it's nothing but stress. Then you have those who just have kids just to have them and then, in trying to PLEASE THEM (believe me I was one of those kids), they'll buy the kid all the toys they think they want or the clothes they want or the games they want. You got parents spending $150 to buy someone a game set for Christmas, the VERY next month after getting it, they've stopped playing it because it was "boring". Some deal with it alright while others forego paying their own bills just so they can give their 12-year-old son some new Jordan's that cause $750.

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Reply #53 posted 05/30/12 5:49am

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Timmy84 said:

Cerebus said:

I would love to fuck ten times that many women if it was 100% guaranteed I would catch no diseases or create any offspring. Fuck a children! lol

I do, in fact, hate them. Not one child, including my relatives, has ever brought any kind of joy into my life. As my niece and nephew are approaching adulthood, I'm starting to think they're pretty cool, though. nod

I've said this MANY TIMES over the years; some people are not meant to have children and the world would be a FAR better place if they could figure that out BEFORE they started producing them. Some people are better at other things and they should focus their time and energy in those places. Some people feel perfectly "complete" without spreading their seed around, or getting married, or complying with whatever other social conventions society feels they need to take part in.

Steps off soap box.

Shit there's too many stories of folks leaving babies out in fucking cars leaving them to steam to death, there's some who leave children out to do any damn thing and then end up dying, you got mothers (and fathers) dealing with kids who are autistic, or are preemies, or become mentally handicapped and it's nothing but stress. Then you have those who just have kids just to have them and then, in trying to PLEASE THEM (believe me I was one of those kids), they'll buy the kid all the toys they think they want or the clothes they want or the games they want. You got parents spending $150 to buy someone a game set for Christmas, the VERY next month after getting it, they've stopped playing it because it was "boring". Some deal with it alright while others forego paying their own bills just so they can give their 12-year-old son some new Jordan's that cause $750.

Some are just shit, abusive, asshole parents. They get by well enough that nobody notices, but just barely. Trust that I speak from experience - it runs in my family. lol Although these days, the shit I went through would never fly. My parents and a couple guardians would have been jailed or I would have been removed from the home(s). I turned out OK because I chose to, but at one point that was VERY far from certain. My sister started popping out kids at 17 and hasn't stopped yelling at them since. lol Thankfully, I think they're all going to be OK. We'll see. She's still got about 15 years to go.

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Reply #54 posted 05/30/12 5:56am

Timmy84

Cerebus said:

Timmy84 said:

Shit there's too many stories of folks leaving babies out in fucking cars leaving them to steam to death, there's some who leave children out to do any damn thing and then end up dying, you got mothers (and fathers) dealing with kids who are autistic, or are preemies, or become mentally handicapped and it's nothing but stress. Then you have those who just have kids just to have them and then, in trying to PLEASE THEM (believe me I was one of those kids), they'll buy the kid all the toys they think they want or the clothes they want or the games they want. You got parents spending $150 to buy someone a game set for Christmas, the VERY next month after getting it, they've stopped playing it because it was "boring". Some deal with it alright while others forego paying their own bills just so they can give their 12-year-old son some new Jordan's that cause $750.

Some are just shit, abusive, asshole parents. They get by well enough that nobody notices, but just barely. Trust that I speak from experience - it runs in my family. lol Although these days, the shit I went through would never fly. My parents and a couple guardians would have been jailed or I would have been removed from the home(s). I turned out OK because I chose to, but at one point that was VERY far from certain. My sister started popping out kids at 17 and hasn't stopped yelling at them since. lol Thankfully, I think they're all going to be OK. We'll see. She's still got about 15 years to go.

My cousins, some of them started having children as SOON as they got to 18 or so. One of my elder cousins has five children (with three different women, including one who was still in school) and half the time they leave them off to their mama's house or their sister's house. And the kids run amok around the house. Sure they get discipline but for some, discipline wasn't enough. Ironically enough one of my cousin's kids started having children recently and he now works two jobs to take care of them with his girlfriend and the mother of those kids (they're not married) but they still live with his mother. I can't imagine doing that especially when it's already hard enough that you were once a child and sometimes you see things that make you go "man that ain't ever gonna happen to me." I don't think I'll ever have children anyways because as fucked up as the world is, why would I allow them to see it even though I know I would raise them the best of my ability (because that's what a person is SUPPOSED to do) but it'll be too much. They sure weren't asked to be brought here so why would I do that?

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Reply #55 posted 05/30/12 6:10am

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Timmy84 said:

Cerebus said:

Some are just shit, abusive, asshole parents. They get by well enough that nobody notices, but just barely. Trust that I speak from experience - it runs in my family. lol Although these days, the shit I went through would never fly. My parents and a couple guardians would have been jailed or I would have been removed from the home(s). I turned out OK because I chose to, but at one point that was VERY far from certain. My sister started popping out kids at 17 and hasn't stopped yelling at them since. lol Thankfully, I think they're all going to be OK. We'll see. She's still got about 15 years to go.

My cousins, some of them started having children as SOON as they got to 18 or so. One of my elder cousins has five children (with three different women, including one who was still in school) and half the time they leave them off to their mama's house or their sister's house. And the kids run amok around the house. Sure they get discipline but for some, discipline wasn't enough. Ironically enough one of my cousin's kids started having children recently and he now works two jobs to take care of them with his girlfriend and the mother of those kids (they're not married) but they still live with his mother. I can't imagine doing that especially when it's already hard enough that you were once a child and sometimes you see things that make you go "man that ain't ever gonna happen to me." I don't think I'll ever have children anyways because as fucked up as the world is, why would I allow them to see it even though I know I would raise them the best of my ability (because that's what a person is SUPPOSED to do) but it'll be too much. They sure weren't asked to be brought here so why would I do that?

Yep! nod That's a HUGE part of the reason for me and my belief that it was the right decision only grows stronger as I get older and realize more people than I originally though have chosen the same path. I used to think I was the only one. lol I know now that there's a lot of people who feel that way.

However, for me it started before that. I basically raised my sister and did a terrible fucking job of it, evidently. lol Hey, I was just a kid myself, my Dad was gone and my Moms was working two or three jobs. When she was home she wasn't "right", so it didn't really matter if she was there anyway. One day when I was 13 I told, "I'm not having any kids", and I knew I meant it. It wasn't until after I was 35 that she believed me, and she remembers the original conversation. lol

I'm not really one to talk about my personal life too much, but all of the above is stuff I've said before. So no big there. I will say that when I got to be about 17 and my friends from age 16-19 were already having kids I was freaked the fuck out! It just made no damn sense to me. None of them were ready, they were all shit parents and, as you say, most of them ended up dumping their kids on their parents for the first few years of their lives. Then, when my sister got pregnant at 17, I just about lost it lol Then she had another with a guy I warned her to stay away from. Then another they gave up for adoption. It's a much longer story, but it about makes my head explode, so we'll skip it. lol Then a few years later ANOTHER with the guy she's still with and probably will be for the rest of her life. But it took her three kids with two different guys and giving one of them away before she met the person she should have WAITED to have the first one with! Ugh!

Anyway, all that is what it is, and I'd be stupid to say that my upbringing and experiences with friends having kids didn't shape my own decision. But it was also something more than that. I just KNEW, deep down in the core of my being, that I was not supposed to be responsible for another life. I was at peace with it much sooner than the world around me. I still get surprised reactions from people when I tell them I've never been married or had kids. People still ask if I'm gay... and then I fuck their girlfriends. lol Nah, just playin'... sometimes. lol

Some people are not meant to have kids. They are destined for other purposes, they have something else to contribute to the world. It's just unfortunate, and to me unfathomable, that somebody would look at a guy whose had 30 kids and think it would be OK if he was taking care of them, but think something is wrong with me because I don't want anyway. shrug Whaaaatevah!

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Reply #56 posted 05/30/12 6:17am

Timmy84

Cerebus said:

Timmy84 said:

My cousins, some of them started having children as SOON as they got to 18 or so. One of my elder cousins has five children (with three different women, including one who was still in school) and half the time they leave them off to their mama's house or their sister's house. And the kids run amok around the house. Sure they get discipline but for some, discipline wasn't enough. Ironically enough one of my cousin's kids started having children recently and he now works two jobs to take care of them with his girlfriend and the mother of those kids (they're not married) but they still live with his mother. I can't imagine doing that especially when it's already hard enough that you were once a child and sometimes you see things that make you go "man that ain't ever gonna happen to me." I don't think I'll ever have children anyways because as fucked up as the world is, why would I allow them to see it even though I know I would raise them the best of my ability (because that's what a person is SUPPOSED to do) but it'll be too much. They sure weren't asked to be brought here so why would I do that?

Yep! nod That's a HUGE part of the reason for me and my belief that it was the right decision only grows stronger as I get older and realize more people than I originally though have chosen the same path. I used to think I was the only one. lol I know now that there's a lot of people who feel that way.

However, for me it started before that. I basically raised my sister and did a terrible fucking job of it, evidently. lol Hey, I was just a kid myself, my Dad was gone and my Moms was working two or three jobs. When she was home she wasn't "right", so it didn't really matter if she was there anyway. One day when I was 13 I told, "I'm not having any kids", and I knew I meant it. It wasn't until after I was 35 that she believed me, and she remembers the original conversation. lol

I'm not really one to talk about my personal life too much, but all of the above is stuff I've said before. So no big there. I will say that when I got to be about 17 and my friends from age 16-19 were already having kids I was freaked the fuck out! It just made no damn sense to me. None of them were ready, they were all shit parents and, as you say, most of them ended up dumping their kids on their parents for the first few years of their lives. Then, when my sister got pregnant at 17, I just about lost it lol Then she had another with guy I warned her to stay away from. Then another they gave up for adoption. It's a much longer story, but it about makes my head explode, so we'll skip it. lol Then a few years later ANOTHER with the guy she's still with and probably will be for the rest of her life. But it took her three kids with two different guys and giving one of them away before she met the person she should have WAITED to have the first one with! Ugh!

Anyway, all that is what it is, and I'd be stupid to say that my upbringing and experiences with friends having kids didn't shape my own decision. But it was also something more than that. I just KNEW, deep down in the core of my being, that I was not supposed to be responsible for another life. I was at peace with it much sooner than the world around me. I still get surprised reactions from people when I tell them I've never been married or had kids. People still ask if I'm gay... and then I fuck their girlfriends. lol Nah, just playin'... sometimes. lol

Some people are not meant to have kids. They are destined for other purposes, they have something else to contribute to the world. It's just unfortunate, and to me unfathomable, that somebody would look at a guy whose had 30 kids and think it would be OK if he taking care of them, but think something is wrong with me because I don't want anyway. shrug Whaaaatevah!

Right. And then when they end up having a child with said man and he up and bounces got a nerve to act upset because the man left someone with a child and yell up and down the street that "the no good idiot need to see his baby and pay me my money." It's like "well didn't you diss me for not wanting kids? Don't get mad at just the guy, look in the mirror!" lol

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Reply #57 posted 05/30/12 7:36am

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This is a trick question, isn't it.

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Reply #58 posted 05/30/12 12:48pm

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Cerebus said:

Timmy84 said:

My cousins, some of them started having children as SOON as they got to 18 or so. One of my elder cousins has five children (with three different women, including one who was still in school) and half the time they leave them off to their mama's house or their sister's house. And the kids run amok around the house. Sure they get discipline but for some, discipline wasn't enough. Ironically enough one of my cousin's kids started having children recently and he now works two jobs to take care of them with his girlfriend and the mother of those kids (they're not married) but they still live with his mother. I can't imagine doing that especially when it's already hard enough that you were once a child and sometimes you see things that make you go "man that ain't ever gonna happen to me." I don't think I'll ever have children anyways because as fucked up as the world is, why would I allow them to see it even though I know I would raise them the best of my ability (because that's what a person is SUPPOSED to do) but it'll be too much. They sure weren't asked to be brought here so why would I do that?

Yep! nod That's a HUGE part of the reason for me and my belief that it was the right decision only grows stronger as I get older and realize more people than I originally though have chosen the same path. I used to think I was the only one. lol I know now that there's a lot of people who feel that way.

However, for me it started before that. I basically raised my sister and did a terrible fucking job of it, evidently. lol Hey, I was just a kid myself, my Dad was gone and my Moms was working two or three jobs. When she was home she wasn't "right", so it didn't really matter if she was there anyway. One day when I was 13 I told, "I'm not having any kids", and I knew I meant it. It wasn't until after I was 35 that she believed me, and she remembers the original conversation. lol

I'm not really one to talk about my personal life too much, but all of the above is stuff I've said before. So no big there. I will say that when I got to be about 17 and my friends from age 16-19 were already having kids I was freaked the fuck out! It just made no damn sense to me. None of them were ready, they were all shit parents and, as you say, most of them ended up dumping their kids on their parents for the first few years of their lives. Then, when my sister got pregnant at 17, I just about lost it lol Then she had another with a guy I warned her to stay away from. Then another they gave up for adoption. It's a much longer story, but it about makes my head explode, so we'll skip it. lol Then a few years later ANOTHER with the guy she's still with and probably will be for the rest of her life. But it took her three kids with two different guys and giving one of them away before she met the person she should have WAITED to have the first one with! Ugh!

Anyway, all that is what it is, and I'd be stupid to say that my upbringing and experiences with friends having kids didn't shape my own decision. But it was also something more than that. I just KNEW, deep down in the core of my being, that I was not supposed to be responsible for another life. I was at peace with it much sooner than the world around me. I still get surprised reactions from people when I tell them I've never been married or had kids. People still ask if I'm gay... and then I fuck their girlfriends. lol Nah, just playin'... sometimes. lol

Some people are not meant to have kids. They are destined for other purposes, they have something else to contribute to the world. It's just unfortunate, and to me unfathomable, that somebody would look at a guy whose had 30 kids and think it would be OK if he was taking care of them, but think something is wrong with me because I don't want anyway. shrug Whaaaatevah!

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PurpleJedi said:

Cerebus said:

Blah, blah blah...

People think some crazy shit when it comes to having children.

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hmm Do you have a girlfriend? lol

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