He's way older than me, and my cousin insists he's just a nice guy and him being nice doesn't mean anything and it's not like that at all, but he's complimenting me too much that it's making me uncomfortable. He coincidentally knows a family member too it turned out, but that doesn't put me at ease either and I don't find him attractive. I could be looking too deep into it cause I do have paranoid tendencies and my last relationship turned out to be a creepy one. I didn't give him my number at all and he didn't ask, but he managed to get it to text me something about planning for someone's birthday and I knew what the catch was and kept declining, but another roomate I'm cool with and I know won't hit on me invited me over for next week. I still want to go, but I don't know how to approach my cousin about how I'm feeling though she told me it's nothing before, and I know she's the one who gave the number. I'm also worried if my family finds out I know the guy, they will turn it into something it's NOT if he ever brings me up and acts weird about it.....

I just don't want to go and hide again for weeks. And now this morning he texts me for forgetting to text bye last night, and something about texting not being easy for him and preferring the phone. I just ignored it. EVERY GUY I've dated or that has liked me has said the same thing, uh oh. This is what I get for trying to break out of being depressed, getting out and doing too many things all at once with career, social life, etc. and bearing my soul without thinking once again It's times like now I wish I were a guy so I don't have to have these worries and can just talk to them easily like I already do and worry about nothing else.

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so talk to him b4 he goes into stupid mode .. hes a man he'l get it that ure not into him ..

It's threads like these that make me thankful that I'm a guy & don't have to have these worries and can just talk to them easily like I already do and worry about nothing else.


Good luck to you, tho.

I'm gonna go get drunk & celebrate my guydom.

Who wouldn't like you?

Just ask him what it is he really wants from you...and when he answers that he wants to date, tell him that you're flattered but not interested.

Really, don't just ignore him. This is a terrible thing that people do to each other. Just deal with it so you can move on from it.

You know no one wants to date a crack whore......

lazycrockett said:

You know no one wants to date a crack whore......

Actually,
I wouldn't mind dating a crack whore.
From what I understand, they're alot like that one old Commodores song..... "Easy".

So, if any of you female orgers out there reading this are "whack for crack',
feel free to, well.....y'know.....
orgnote me.
...ya 'ho.

Crack is wack I have issues, but I don't do illegal drugs.

And "who wouldn't like you?" that is too sweet. I just got about 2 texts and a coincidental private call I didn't pick up yesterday but ignored them and mentioned to my cousin without any emotion that he keeps messaging me and put some dots and when she asked who, I said his name. The other roomate keeps asking me over (he's not into me, he's gay like most of my male friends) and I'm paranoid that it could be cause of the guy and not for myself though I made it clear to cuz that I think he likes me last week and she seems a little naive about it.

Anyways I will avoid texts though I know I have to confront it, or it's going to be like with my ex all over again. He acted a thousand times worse and was a nightmare. Maybe this guy isn't all that bad but I don't want to go through this again or make coming over look like I have a motive too..... I know he's only staying there temporarily so I could just take the other roomates aside one day and say I'll come over or sleepover when he's gone, but I don't want that coming out either, but then again, I'm going to be very busy this month with my two jobs, volunteering opportunity, festivities and so forth, so it will be tiring to squeeze time in. I don't meet people as often as I'd like anymore and have to plan weeks in advance now cause my schedule is not a fixed one. And though I'm still sad about other things unmentionable, I deal with it and have found a different creative outlet to express it that I never did before this year isn't perfect and I'm still struggling mentally, but I really have come a long way

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