Be honest.

As for me, I used think I was loved once by a guy who I once saw as my soul mate, but looking back and looking at the situation for what it was, that really wasn't true love. So I'm a virgin still to true love.

What about you?

Yes. But a person like that isn't always practical, and may be naive, and it didn't work out.

heartbeatocean said:

Yes. But a person like that isn't always practical, and may be naive, and it didn't work out.

Could you elaborate a little?

heartbeatocean said:

missfee said:

heartbeatocean said:

Yes. But a person like that isn't always practical, and may be naive, and it didn't work out.

Could you elaborate a little?

He was pure at heart and like a child, completely devoted and endlesslly forgiving. I still feel a tenderness when I think of him. Guileless. But a bit incompetent when it came to surviving in the world. I had to carry too much of the weight in that regard and the relationship was unsustainable for me.

heartbeatocean said:

missfee said:

Could you elaborate a little?

He was pure at heart and like a child, completely devoted and endlesslly forgiving. I still feel a tenderness when I think of him. Guileless. But a bit incompetent when it came to surviving in the world. I had to carry too much of the weight in that regard and the relationship was unsustainable for me.

Oh okay, I understand.

missfee said:

As for me, I used think I was loved once by a guy who I once saw as my soul mate, but looking back and looking at the situation for what it was, that really wasn't true love. So I'm a virgin still to true love.

I have a thing for virgins.
So, y'know.....

Nope.

nursev said:

Visionnaire said:

missfee said:

As for me, I used think I was loved once by a guy who I once saw as my soul mate, but looking back and looking at the situation for what it was, that really wasn't true love. So I'm a virgin still to true love.

I have a thing for virgins.
So, y'know.....

Lawd.

You already know my story, Missfee. Looking back, I have come to the conclusion that NOBODY can love somebody, unconditionally; Especially, when one or both parties are coming with bagage. Bagage, IS a condition....

shorttrini said:

You already know my story, Missfee. Looking back, I have come to the conclusion that NOBODY can love somebody, unconditionally; Especially, when one or both parties are coming with bagage. Bagage, IS a condition....

Aww ole' buddy

You really honestly believe that NO ONE can love someone unconditionally with all their heart?

I mean I know what you mean about baggage, but I think some people can handle their baggage more so than others. Some people know how to nip that in the bud and control it so much so that their significant other wouldn't even have to worry about it.

Pomade said:

nursev said:

Unconditional? No. Now as far as unconditional love between a mom and child-yes.

I agree with this. Unconditional can be an unhealthy standard. At some point, love and self-preservation shouldn't have to cancel each other out.

This.

missfee said:

shorttrini said:

You already know my story, Missfee. Looking back, I have come to the conclusion that NOBODY can love somebody, unconditionally; Especially, when one or both parties are coming with bagage. Bagage, IS a condition....

Aww ole' buddy

You really honestly believe that NO ONE can love someone unconditionally with all their heart?

I mean I know what you mean about baggage, but I think some people can handle their baggage more so than others. Some people know how to nip that in the bud and control it so much so that their significant other wouldn't even have to worry about it.

I have come to the conclusion that, people don't change unless they want to. "Nipping things in the bud", is just another word for, tolerating what's going on.

shorttrini said:

missfee said:

Aww ole' buddy

You really honestly believe that NO ONE can love someone unconditionally with all their heart?

I mean I know what you mean about baggage, but I think some people can handle their baggage more so than others. Some people know how to nip that in the bud and control it so much so that their significant other wouldn't even have to worry about it.

I have come to the conclusion that, people don't change unless they want to. "Nipping things in the bud", is just another word for, tolerating what's going on.

Well yes that's very true.

No. Nor have I ever loved unconditionally, romantically or otherwise.

Even for those of use who see it as desirable, I think unconditional love is a sort of ideal Form that we may earnestly and completely strive to realize or engender, but never quite capture, regardless of relationship type.

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Yes. At least twice. Until they both decided to unconditionally give it up to some other guy.

I still love one of them dearly and I'm really close friends with the other one.

yes!

yes i am

and have been for many years...

No, never.

Oh, that's easy.

Nope.

I'm starting to think there's no such thing. I think the only unconditional love you really get is from your parents (if you're lucky).

Someone claims he loved me and I have no feelings for him, but it was unhealthy with the way he was behaving and I wasn't having it. And he would not listen to me, someone who loves you does that, and I'm not saying this to be selfish either.

I don't know and I don't think so.

Two people tried to convince me they loved me unconditionally (one of them still does) and as much as I want to believe it, I can't.

I actually don't believe it either no matter what anybody tells me, of course this person will say it just so people feel sorry for him. Pathetic.

Yes, twice actually. And even though I'm not/no longer in a relationship with either one, I still love them just as much back.

not by my parents

not by my x-husband

but yes... from my kids

and even my pup