YESSSS!!!

No one seems to have any common decency or manners anymore. It's all about ME ME ME.

Lemme go buy that way too fucking big TV for myself because that's what I need to make people think I'm worthy. Here, lemme cut you off or drive way too fast in traffic because I'm super important and fuck everyone else. Lemme try to steal from you because you have what I want and I'm simply too lazy to work for it myself. I think I'll shoot you because I didn't like the look you just gave me.

No one opens doors for each other anymore, one of the simplest forms of courtesy. The things that I was taught as a child are fading away and being replaced by sheer petulant crudeness.

I am a naturally friendly person, I even befreind the bad people because I think they're going to do the right thing. They don't and I get disappointed. I don't want to hate anyone, but the stupidity I see on a daily basis makes it difficult.

I am paranoid and vary, but made myself be friends with people I was skeptical of anyways and told myself not judge them, but it turned out I was right about how rotten they were and how they took advantage of me when I made it too easy. It sickened me that people I thought were my friends could fall for their cover ups and be so naive about not seeing through them after a few months.

this is todays news: serious hate going on

http://www.dailynews.com/...source=rss

7th-grade boys pull out knife, gun during L.A. classroom argument

2 shot during Long Beach neighbor dispute; gunmen at large

http://abclocal.go.com/kabc/story?section=news%2Flocal%2Flos_angeles&id=8521169

[Edited 1/27/12 9:37am]

alphastreet said:

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I swear. I don't know if I'm jaded or what. But I was always the love love loviest person. Love love love everyone.

I don't know if I just used to be niave, or if it happens with age. But I cannot STAND people. The stupid shit they do. The way people lie. I know this is coming off as an angry bitter post, but I'm not. No one did anything to me, I'm not pissed about an event or anything.

Just everyday people going about they're everyday business irritates the SHIT out of me. Like, I can't go to the grocery store without getting irritated over the dumb shit everyone is doing. I can't even talk to my mom on the phone without getting REALLY ANGRY cuz she says dumb shit.

When I ask someone a question and they make a confused face, my blood boils.

I was NEVER like this. NEVER!

Yes I'm like that, I always had some of that in me though I tried so hard to be polite and smile and talkative, even with strangers sometimes or people I worked with. But confrontations caught up to me when I felt I could fake it anymore, and if I had any desire, it feels like it's gone now. Some lifechanging things that happened just made me lose the point of "behaving" and I hate being bitter and jaded, but hope I can change it with time.

And don't even get me started on people acting fake with each other. I HATE that!!!! It goes on a lot in the office. I've always tried but I was never much good at it. Now, I don't even try. A co-worker once told me the thing she loved about me is that people knew exactly where they stood with me because it was written all over my face. As far as I'm concerned, if I need to act fake with someone, then I'd just rather limit my dealings with them. I see people walking around here acting fake all day, smiling in people's faces acting like they are interested in their lives and well being. But, then a few minutes later, bad-mouthing each other, stabbing one another in the back, gossiping, calling people names. But, they are all friends on facebook! I think it's disgusting!

I thought the gossip and petty behaviours at my work was pretty toxic, so I was trying to stay out of trouble and just remain friendly, but people were just not acting nice and I couldn't hide my frustration on my face I guess and they could see I set myself up to be a target cause they sensed I was trying to stay out of trouble, but got sucked into some drama over petty shit. And it was awful cause of how much older they were than me, and not that age should matter but I couldn't believe how some people act like they still think they're in high school. I'm not perfect either and don't know everything either, but that's no reason to bully someone and at that age, and when you are so much more intelligent that and I still have some respect for you despite your attitude. I think I've internalized this crap now though, cause I don't feel like being nice to anyone anymore myself and do have it in me to tell others off though I wouldn't dare to at work.

As for courtesy, it should be second nature to hold doors open or give up a bus seat to someone disabled or of old age, I've heard of people (young ones in particular though it doesn't have to be specific to an age group) not even having the manners to do that though when I was with my friends years ago, even if we had nothing in common, they would at least do that and give up their seat.

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I notice I've become alot more agressive now that I'm older too. Not sure that one has so much to do with age...I dunno. I'm totally against hurting others, but I really would've liked to have beat someones ass atleast one time. I think I need that.

Vendetta1 said:

PunkMistress said:

I hate rich preachers with gigantic churches.

I wouldn't watch Joel or anyone like him for all the tea in China. Those types make me sick.

Unfortunately, the world is full of ignortant, self-centered people, not to mention those that are just plain bad seeds. This is why I try to praise the people who do good in this world and are willing to help and be kind to others.

I put down self centered people a lot, but came to realize I have some of that in me too though I have to give myself credit for recognizing my faults and trying to make things better.

And I know what you mean about feeling aggressive and just wanting to kick ass. I guess you can say I'm passive aggressive sometimes.

I am the furthest thing from a pollyanna that I can think of

Yet I have lately felt much love for people

It is not that i don't see people do the shit u talk of; but since staying at a shelter I see that people have lost all sense of form. Not just there either.

I was in the bathroom at the storage place where i have my stuff.

The lock is not that great on the door but the door was closed. it is always kept open when someone is not in there.

The bathroom is set up so that u have to enter a code to get in the first door and then there is the second door, which i did close, that had the one toilet. As you can guess a guy just bombed in and there i was sitting. I don't know how many times i hear people jiggling doors to stalls etc that they should be knocking on first.

people don't know to knock first

If you answer your phone "hello" and the person who called u doesnt recognize your voice they may say "who is this????" verses "may I speak to Andy?"

If u say "who is this???" back they get angry.

They honestly don't know

I am born in 1961

There were basic rules we followed then that made life easier

in America walk on the right side of the sidewalk or staircase and enter into the right side of double doors so that there could be an orderly flow of people. i learned that going up and down my school steps to change class.

If you and your friends are walking Charlies angels style down a sidewalk and someone is coming in the other direction, you need to get single file until they pass; don't make them walk in the gutter.

Anyway; there are so many basic things that are missing that confrontation is almost a given.

I feel sorry for the human race.

I feel sorry that people take things personally that are not even about them never mind personal in any way.

My heart goes out to people who will spend their life never being able to get out of their own way.

I realize now that warmth from me is needed more than ever.

alphastreet said:

I thought the gossip and petty behaviours at my work was pretty toxic, so I was trying to stay out of trouble and just remain friendly, but people were just not acting nice and I couldn't hide my frustration on my face I guess and they could see I set myself up to be a target cause they sensed I was trying to stay out of trouble, but got sucked into some drama over petty shit. And it was awful cause of how much older they were than me, and not that age should matter but I couldn't believe how some people act like they still think they're in high school. I'm not perfect either and don't know everything either, but that's no reason to bully someone and at that age, and when you are so much more intelligent that and I still have some respect for you despite your attitude. I think I've internalized this crap now though, cause I don't feel like being nice to anyone anymore myself and do have it in me to tell others off though I wouldn't dare to at work.

As for courtesy, it should be second nature to hold doors open or give up a bus seat to someone disabled or of old age, I've heard of people (young ones in particular though it doesn't have to be specific to an age group) not even having the manners to do that though when I was with my friends years ago, even if we had nothing in common, they would at least do that and give up their seat.

[Edited 1/27/12 8:30am]

People amaze me. I experience the same thing. Some people will definately target you if they notice you are making an effort to stay out of office and personal drama. I experienced a pretty big blowout with a very popular person last year in the office who stabbed me in the back. Things got ugly and after taking a stand, things finally calmed down. Because of that, I've chosen to limit my interaction with many of my co-workers. I'm still very professional with everyone and I still do the little bullshit small talk here and there and ocassionally hang out with a few folks, but, for the most part, I'm very careful about who I have extended conversations with that are not work-related. I'm quite content but some people don't like the fact that I pretty much keep my conversations limited. My thing is, these people are my co-workers, not my friends. I come to work for two reasons - to perform my duties so I can collect a paycheck. I'm not here to be popular, socialize and make friends. I have enough friends outside of work, who are burden enough!

alphastreet said:

I put down self centered people a lot, but came to realize I have some of that in me too though I have to give myself credit for recognizing my faults and trying to make things better.

And I know what you mean about feeling aggressive and just wanting to kick ass. I guess you can say I'm passive aggressive sometimes.

I think we all have been guilty of being self-centered at one time or another. But, there is a difference between that and people DEMANDING to be the center of attention all the time. They get very jealous-hearted when they think someone else is taking the spotlight away from them even for a minute so they do and say whatever they have to in order to draw the attention back to themselves.

kitbradley said:

alphastreet said:

I thought the gossip and petty behaviours at my work was pretty toxic, so I was trying to stay out of trouble and just remain friendly, but people were just not acting nice and I couldn't hide my frustration on my face I guess and they could see I set myself up to be a target cause they sensed I was trying to stay out of trouble, but got sucked into some drama over petty shit. And it was awful cause of how much older they were than me, and not that age should matter but I couldn't believe how some people act like they still think they're in high school. I'm not perfect either and don't know everything either, but that's no reason to bully someone and at that age, and when you are so much more intelligent that and I still have some respect for you despite your attitude. I think I've internalized this crap now though, cause I don't feel like being nice to anyone anymore myself and do have it in me to tell others off though I wouldn't dare to at work.

As for courtesy, it should be second nature to hold doors open or give up a bus seat to someone disabled or of old age, I've heard of people (young ones in particular though it doesn't have to be specific to an age group) not even having the manners to do that though when I was with my friends years ago, even if we had nothing in common, they would at least do that and give up their seat.

[Edited 1/27/12 8:30am]

People amaze me. I experience the same thing. Some people will definately target you if they notice you are making an effort to stay out of office and personal drama. I experienced a pretty big blowout with a very popular person last year in the office who stabbed me in the back. Things got ugly and after taking a stand, things finally calmed down. Because of that, I've chosen to limit my interaction with many of my co-workers. I'm still very professional with everyone and I still do the little bullshit small talk here and there and ocassionally hang out with a few folks, but, for the most part, I'm very careful about who I have extended conversations with that are not work-related. I'm quite content but some people don't like the fact that I pretty much keep my conversations limited. My thing is, these people are my co-workers, not my friends. I come to work for two reasons - to perform my duties so I can collect a paycheck. I'm not here to be popular, socialize and make friends. I have enough friends outside of work, who are burden enough!

Yeah I knew my role was to do my job and collect my money, though I would of course interact with co-workers. But looking back, there might have been a possibilty that my anxiety may have looked to them like I didn't want to be there or talk to them and it was used against me. And I had no idea I could be an easy target back then for trying to avoid drama. I would distract myself a lot outside of work and not bring what I do home with me, but it didn't help.

I learned I have a jealous side to me too when I lost something I wanted so bad and there were others who got a chance. It was so unfamiliar to me and draining and scary, but I learned something about myself.

Mr. Piggy just sat down at his desk and tried to stuff an entire Big Grab of potato chips in his mouth in one go. This is my life at work.

Genesia said:

Mr. Piggy just sat down at his desk and tried to stuff an entire Big Grab of potato chips in his mouth in one go. This is my life at work.

Does he handle the merchandise with those greasy hands?

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I swear. I don't know if I'm jaded or what. But I was always the love love loviest person. Love love love everyone.

I don't know if I just used to be niave, or if it happens with age. But I cannot STAND people. The stupid shit they do. The way people lie. I know this is coming off as an angry bitter post, but I'm not. No one did anything to me, I'm not pissed about an event or anything.

Just everyday people going about they're everyday business irritates the SHIT out of me. Like, I can't go to the grocery store without getting irritated over the dumb shit everyone is doing. I can't even talk to my mom on the phone without getting REALLY ANGRY cuz she says dumb shit.

When I ask someone a question and they make a confused face, my blood boils.

I was NEVER like this. NEVER!

You prolly need to get laid. Need to release all the pent up aggression.

Deadflow3r said:

Genesia said:

Mr. Piggy just sat down at his desk and tried to stuff an entire Big Grab of potato chips in his mouth in one go. This is my life at work.

Does he handle the merchandise with those greasy hands?

Rarely. But there's a reason nobody else ever wants to touch his keyboard or phone.

Pr1nceQuik said:

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I swear. I don't know if I'm jaded or what. But I was always the love love loviest person. Love love love everyone.

I don't know if I just used to be niave, or if it happens with age. But I cannot STAND people. The stupid shit they do. The way people lie. I know this is coming off as an angry bitter post, but I'm not. No one did anything to me, I'm not pissed about an event or anything.

Just everyday people going about they're everyday business irritates the SHIT out of me. Like, I can't go to the grocery store without getting irritated over the dumb shit everyone is doing. I can't even talk to my mom on the phone without getting REALLY ANGRY cuz she says dumb shit.

When I ask someone a question and they make a confused face, my blood boils.

I was NEVER like this. NEVER!

You prolly need to get laid. Need to release all the pent up aggression.

I get laid on the reg. What I need is a DATE!!

Genesia said:

Deadflow3r said:

Does he handle the merchandise with those greasy hands?

Rarely. But there's a reason nobody else ever wants to touch his keyboard or phone.

Thats one way to mark your teritory:lol:

Think about it; if you have a nice clean space other people are drawn to it and may "borrow" things more easily from it.

That guy could leave out all the pens and other office supplies and never loose a one!

Deadflow3r said:

I am the furthest thing from a pollyanna that I can think of

Yet I have lately felt much love for people

It is not that i don't see people do the shit u talk of; but since staying at a shelter I see that people have lost all sense of form. Not just there either.

I was in the bathroom at the storage place where i have my stuff.

The lock is not that great on the door but the door was closed. it is always kept open when someone is not in there.

The bathroom is set up so that u have to enter a code to get in the first door and then there is the second door, which i did close, that had the one toilet. As you can guess a guy just bombed in and there i was sitting. I don't know how many times i hear people jiggling doors to stalls etc that they should be knocking on first.

people don't know to knock first

If you answer your phone "hello" and the person who called u doesnt recognize your voice they may say "who is this????" verses "may I speak to Andy?"

If u say "who is this???" back they get angry.

They honestly don't know

I am born in 1961

There were basic rules we followed then that made life easier

in America walk on the right side of the sidewalk or staircase and enter into the right side of double doors so that there could be an orderly flow of people. i learned that going up and down my school steps to change class.

If you and your friends are walking Charlies angels style down a sidewalk and someone is coming in the other direction, you need to get single file until they pass; don't make them walk in the gutter.

Anyway; there are so many basic things that are missing that confrontation is almost a given.

I feel sorry for the human race.

I feel sorry that people take things personally that are not even about them never mind personal in any way.

My heart goes out to people who will spend their life never being able to get out of their own way.

I realize now that warmth from me is needed more than ever.

I like the way you have this typed out.

Anyway, about the phone thing. Ya. My ex father in law used to always say that on the phone when he would call. "WHO IS THIS" in his loud obnoxious voice. Used to drive me batty. I spent my entire 10 year marriage despising him.

Now I'm divorced and love him to pieces, strangely enough. Well I suppose I always loved him, but it was more a love hate thing. Now I only have to deal with him in small doses so I appreciate him more.

How is it working out at the shelter?

Ottensen said:

I find that the older I get, I might not hate people but I am getting grumpier and impatient with teenagers. Everytime I'm on the subway or doing mall runs (especially on Fridays9, they just drive me nuts. No more days of thank-yous, excuse-mes, or gving up your seat to the elderly, everything is just party party party me me ME

Thank you! These kids today have no semblance of home-training!

Shyra said:

Ottensen said:

I find that the older I get, I might not hate people but I am getting grumpier and impatient with teenagers. Everytime I'm on the subway or doing mall runs (especially on Fridays9, they just drive me nuts. No more days of thank-yous, excuse-mes, or gving up your seat to the elderly, everything is just party party party me me ME

Thank you! These kids today have no semblance of home-training!

This is all about training.

It is not just quaint habits folks

if a train or bus should come to a quick stop the standing pregnant woman or elderly person is the most likely to get hurt. Anyone who you don't think can keep themselves from hitting the floor in a quick stop should be seated.

Anyone holding a baby is on this list!!!1

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Deadflow3r said:

I am the furthest thing from a pollyanna that I can think of

Yet I have lately felt much love for people

It is not that i don't see people do the shit u talk of; but since staying at a shelter I see that people have lost all sense of form. Not just there either.

I was in the bathroom at the storage place where i have my stuff.

The lock is not that great on the door but the door was closed. it is always kept open when someone is not in there.

The bathroom is set up so that u have to enter a code to get in the first door and then there is the second door, which i did close, that had the one toilet. As you can guess a guy just bombed in and there i was sitting. I don't know how many times i hear people jiggling doors to stalls etc that they should be knocking on first.

people don't know to knock first

If you answer your phone "hello" and the person who called u doesnt recognize your voice they may say "who is this????" verses "may I speak to Andy?"

If u say "who is this???" back they get angry.

They honestly don't know

I am born in 1961

There were basic rules we followed then that made life easier

in America walk on the right side of the sidewalk or staircase and enter into the right side of double doors so that there could be an orderly flow of people. i learned that going up and down my school steps to change class.

If you and your friends are walking Charlies angels style down a sidewalk and someone is coming in the other direction, you need to get single file until they pass; don't make them walk in the gutter.

Anyway; there are so many basic things that are missing that confrontation is almost a given.

I feel sorry for the human race.

I feel sorry that people take things personally that are not even about them never mind personal in any way.

My heart goes out to people who will spend their life never being able to get out of their own way.

I realize now that warmth from me is needed more than ever.

I like the way you have this typed out.

Anyway, about the phone thing. Ya. My ex father in law used to always say that on the phone when he would call. "WHO IS THIS" in his loud obnoxious voice. Used to drive me batty. I spent my entire 10 year marriage despising him.

Now I'm divorced and love him to pieces, strangely enough. Well I suppose I always loved him, but it was more a love hate thing. Now I only have to deal with him in small doses so I appreciate him more.

How is it working out at the shelter?

Things are fine.

They choose the help from the homeless; last weeks homeless is this weeks security.

Rednecks as security is killing me.

Shyra said:

Ottensen said:

I find that the older I get, I might not hate people but I am getting grumpier and impatient with teenagers. Everytime I'm on the subway or doing mall runs (especially on Fridays9, they just drive me nuts. No more days of thank-yous, excuse-mes, or gving up your seat to the elderly, everything is just party party party me me ME

Thank you! These kids today have no semblance of home-training!

I ran into a teenage kid the other day and he greets me by saying, "How are you, Sir?". I was shocked! Most teenagers I run into usually address me as "Dawg", "Hey You!" or something far worse! When I was coming up, we addressed all adults as "Mr., Ms., Sir or Ma'am". It's rare these days to hear kids use those words when addressing an adult.

The huge increase in rude, arrogant, selfish, obnoxious, LOUD, ignorant, grumpy, overstressed, overworked, underpaid, dumb, exhausted people is the reason that I really, really, really minimise my interactions with new people in my life. I don't need more people, I need less people in my life.

mynameisnotsusan said:

The huge increase in rude, arrogant, selfish, obnoxious, LOUD, ignorant, grumpy, overstressed, overworked, underpaid, dumb, exhausted people is the reason that I really, really, really minimise my interactions with new people in my life. I don't need more people, I need less people in my life.

I don't think there's been an increase at all. What happens, in my opinion, is that most of us grow up (to one degree or another) and stop being all those things, so we notice them more in those who don't. Also, if everything is working right, I think we should continue to grow away from those traits for several decades, at least. So the older you get (to a certain point), the more of those "other people" we notice.

That's the best my sickness addles brain can do with that thought right now. Just hate everyone eaqually, I always say.

kitbradley said:

Shyra said:

Thank you! These kids today have no semblance of home-training!

I ran into a teenage kid the other day and he greets me by saying, "How are you, Sir?". I was shocked! Most teenagers I run into usually address me as "Dawg", "Hey You!" or something far worse! When I was coming up, we addressed all adults as "Mr., Ms., Sir or Ma'am". It's rare these days to hear kids use those words when addressing an adult.

Teens referred to even cool teachers like that back when I started high school 15 years ago, has it really changed that much?

Yeah.

I'm not that "old" but as I grow up I tend to lose any kind of sympathy for the Human kind in general.

You know when I feel old? If someone really little refers to me as "auntie" out of respect. I don't think youth do though, it's hard to tell how old I am right away.

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