I am perfectly happy being single,I have no need to be in a relationship,but for some reason my mother's boyfriend thinks that he needs to find me a boyfriend. [img:$uid]http://prince.org/i/s/icon_confused.gif[/img:$uid]

Why do people seem to think it is odd when someone tells them "I am happy being alone".

Has anyone else had to deal with this?

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Because many people think that what works for them means it MUST work for everyone. They simply they can not understand that not everyone is like them, nor should they be.

"Its none of your business"

is what you want to say to people... I was so sick of those remarks made to me.

When a girlfriend or family member would ask... I would start talking about the latest vibrator I bought in a very crude way .... they would RUN away from me in disgust.

I didn't even own a vibrator then, I would just lie and talk trash to offend them so they would get turned off by me and not seek any conversation with me again.

Yeah... just keep the convo on the weather and leave my personal life the hell alone.

Oh no ...

not everyone needs / wants / is able to be in relationship nor should they be expected to by an opinion that it's the "norm" to do so

Humans are so weird

Machaela said:

Oh no ...

not everyone needs / wants / is able to be in relationship nor should they be expected to by an opinion that it's the "norm" to do so

Humans are so weird

Not everyone thinks being in a relationship is "the norm", either.

MyNameIsPiper said:

Machaela said:

Oh no ...

not everyone needs / wants / is able to be in relationship nor should they be expected to by an opinion that it's the "norm" to do so

Humans are so weird

Not everyone thinks being in a relationship is "the norm", either.

Exactly

Ah screw'em...

I'd like to be in a relationship myself, but it won't kill me if I"m not. I'm perfectly capable and happy being single. 'Sides, most of the time, I'm nose deep in a book to care.

Although every once in a while, my relatives from Egypt ask my parents "how old is she now?"

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Well...in "their" defense...human beings ARE "social creatures" and it's in our primal nature to seek/crave/want companionship.

However...I agree, it's no longer a prerequisite for a full life to be "tied" to someone.

It's a new world with new rules.

c'est la vie

JustErin said:

Because many people think that what works for them means it MUST work for everyone. They simply they can not understand that not everyone is like them, nor should they be.

this.

On one side, people think that everyone should have what they have because they are happy, on another side, people are bored with their own lives and want to "hook" people up and meddle when its unnecessary. This is what I dread about the holidays because this is when my family starts to look around and see who isn't in a relationship and ask "so when do you plan on getting married to someone"? Don't get me wrong, I would like to meet someone, but I'm not just going to go out with just ANYONE to please them. No I'm good right now by myself where I can pick and choose who I want and don't want to spend time with. And as far as getting married...well maybe I will one day, maybe I won't, but it's not a priority of mine at the moment. It's crazy to expect folks to just go out looking specifically for a spouse.

Anywho, the way I deal with it is responding back "oh I'm good by myself right now, thank you. Next subject." And mind you, the ones who do all the asking about finding you someone, are most likely the ones who need to focus on their OWN relationships.

God made us to be together, not alone.

Togetherness happens at its own pace, however. No one can force love upon you. When it comes, it comes.

dang right! ^ which is why i hope santa brings me one of these:

EmeraldSkies said:

Why do people seem to think it is odd when someone tells them "I am happy being alone".

Has anyone else had to deal with this?

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Because a lot of people are morons. Instead of minding their fucking business and worrying about their own pathetic lives, they love telling others what they should do. I used to get that from family, even my father - wanting to set me up with so-and-so's daughter or telling me some fairy-tale-god will make a way. I put a stop to that horse shit real quick.

I love being alone, but I'm never lonely.

JustErin said:

Deadcake said:

JustErin said:

Because many people think that what works for them means it MUST work for everyone. They simply they can not understand that not everyone is like them, nor should they be.

They just want everyone else to suffer too

Misery loves company.

Fuck people.

<----- proof that not everyone should be in a relationship

XxAxX said:

dang right! ^ which is why i hope santa brings me one of these:

I want one!!! MEOWWW!!!

In all seriousness, it IS annoying and I want to slap them.

I think it stems from a combination of (often but not always misguided) concern for those who are "alone" and a selfish desire to see other people fit in the boxes they make for them.

JustErin said:

Because many people think that what works for them means it MUST work for everyone. They simply they can not understand that not everyone is like them, nor should they be.

bingo!

I was very happy being single.

Now I'm happily in a couple.

I can be happy either way.

CarrieMpls said:

JustErin said:

Because many people think that what works for them means it MUST work for everyone. They simply they can not understand that not everyone is like them, nor should they be.

bingo!

I was very happy being single.

Now I'm happily in a couple.

I can be happy either way.

uPtoWnNY said:

EmeraldSkies said:

Why do people seem to think it is odd when someone tells them "I am happy being alone".

Has anyone else had to deal with this?

[Edited 12/21/11 19:44pm]

Because a lot of people are morons. Instead of minding their fucking business and worrying about their own pathetic lives, they love telling others what they should do. I used to get that from family, even my father - wanting to set me up with so-and-so's daughter or telling me some fairy-tale-god will make a way. I put a stop to that horse shit real quick.

I love being alone, but I'm never lonely.

This. Motherfucking this. (excuse my language)

Kudos UptownNY.

Pr1nceQuik said:

uPtoWnNY said:

Because a lot of people are morons. Instead of minding their fucking business and worrying about their own pathetic lives, they love telling others what they should do. I used to get that from family, even my father - wanting to set me up with so-and-so's daughter or telling me some fairy-tale-god will make a way. I put a stop to that horse shit real quick.

I love being alone, but I'm never lonely.

This. Motherfucking this. (excuse my language)

Kudos UptownNY.

Oooooo I love your avatar pic!

I agree with being alone but not lonely too. There is this girl I want to just tell off so bad right now. Every once in awhile, some naive little bitch will say stuff to me even if I explain myself.

JustErin said:

Because many people think that what works for them means it MUST work for everyone. They simply they can not understand that not everyone is like them, nor should they be.

^yep, this

and because a lot of people have low self-esteem, many people fear that if they're alone, the society will judge them as ugly or/and worthless, boring, uncaring, etc

XxAxX said:

dang right! ^ which is why i hope santa brings me one of these:

good, I hope he sends me that beautiful big-titted specimen, with the black hair and all, she looks edgy and athletic...

Being single is wayyyy funner for me, I'm happier!! Don't have to worry about anyone and blah blah blahhhhhh