paintedlady said:

I was bullied by my sister who was only one year older than me for most of my life.

I was the scrawny sickly malnourished asthmatic kid and she was the voluptuous gorgeous mean girl who came home when she wanted, and bossed our mother around.

Due to my mom's lack of parenting skills, my sister was left to watch us often... she was grown as hell. Her behavior stemmed from being given the run of the house.

She made me clean after her and watch her child since I was 11. Yeah she had a baby at 12... at 10 she had the body of an 18yr.old and threatened me on a daily if I didn't clean or babysit for her.

As a teen she would come into my room and take whatever she wanted for herself. My deoderant, my socks, my accessories, even my birth control pills. Nothing of mine was sacred, she acted as if she owned me and everything that was mine. She was a menace and a total controlling spoiled bitch... she still is.

My door mat behavior continued throughout my teens... until I rebelled and stood up and/or fought every bully I had .... except my sister.

Until about 4 years ago... she pissed me off for the last time and I stood up to her. I never yelled or cussed at her. She made her threats, and I told her to do her worst. I didn't bat an eyelash nor did I flinch.

I simply stood my ground and dared her to come at me... any way she wanted to. I told her I wasn't going to let her have her way with me or our mother anymore.

Just wrote her off and told the family the same if they took her side. A year later she called me begging me to be in her life again. I told her never to fuck with me again.

She never apologized for anything she did thing she did that pissed me off... but it didn't matter. She knows not to fuck with me anymore... because she has tried twice so far with my mom, and I shut her BS down each time. I will not let her boss my mother around anymore either.

She doesn't like being told what to do... but now she can't tell me what to do and she keeps her fat mouth shut tight around me and steps down.

I still love my sister (always will), but now I tolerate zero BS from her or her grown kids.

Me and my mother are closer than ever now, and my mother now has peace too, because finally she is allowed to be the matriarch of the family.

wow...glad u stood up to your sister.

peacenlovealways said:

wow...glad u stood up to your sister.

My mom finally did too. Which is sorta sad, and weird that a mother would be so intimidated by her own child.

My sister's kids are terrified of her, she is a control freak. So it took me a long time to understand her ways and not get caught up in her issues of control anymore.

For years I just avoided her and never really dealt with the messes she would cause. I finally decided to stop avoiding her and deal with her head on.

Weirdly... my relationship with my sister is an honest one now, none of that fakeness for the sake of being polite. She now hears it from me if I am angry, so its a real sisterhood... not a phony friendship.

about damn time too.

paintedlady said:

I was bullied by my sister who was only one year older than me for most of my life.

I was the scrawny sickly malnourished asthmatic kid and she was the voluptuous gorgeous mean girl who came home when she wanted, and bossed our mother around.

Due to my mom's lack of parenting skills, my sister was left to watch us often... she was grown as hell. Her behavior stemmed from being given the run of the house.

She made me clean after her and watch her child since I was 11. Yeah she had a baby at 12... at 10 she had the body of an 18yr.old and threatened me on a daily if I didn't clean or babysit for her.

As a teen she would come into my room and take whatever she wanted for herself. My deoderant, my socks, my accessories, even my birth control pills. Nothing of mine was sacred, she acted as if she owned me and everything that was mine. She was a menace and a total controlling spoiled bitch... she still is.

My door mat behavior continued throughout my teens... until I rebelled and stood up and/or fought every bully I had .... except my sister.

Until about 4 years ago... she pissed me off for the last time and I stood up to her. I never yelled or cussed at her. She made her threats, and I told her to do her worst. I didn't bat an eyelash nor did I flinch.

I simply stood my ground and dared her to come at me... any way she wanted to. I told her I wasn't going to let her have her way with me or our mother anymore.

Just wrote her off and told the family the same if they took her side. A year later she called me begging me to be in her life again. I told her never to fuck with me again.

She never apologized for anything she did thing she did that pissed me off... but it didn't matter. She knows not to fuck with me anymore... because she has tried twice so far with my mom, and I shut her BS down each time. I will not let her boss my mother around anymore either.

She doesn't like being told what to do... but now she can't tell me what to do and she keeps her fat mouth shut tight around me and steps down.

I still love my sister (always will), but now I tolerate zero BS from her or her grown kids.

Me and my mother are closer than ever now, and my mother now has peace too, because finally she is allowed to be the matriarch of the family.

I hate to say this, but I actually can relate to certain things that happened to you. It just sucks so much to hear that all this happened to you...

Tittypants said:

I hate to say this, but I actually can relate to certain things that happened to you. It just sucks so much to hear that all this happened to you...

I noticed that many people are wounded by their own family members. It sucks only if you let that keep you in a dark place in life.

paintedlady said:

Tittypants said:

I hate to say this, but I actually can relate to certain things that happened to you. It just sucks so much to hear that all this happened to you...

I noticed that many people are wounded by their own family members. It sucks only if you let that keep you in a dark place in life.

I totally agree. Though me & my sister have had a really really good relationship for a while now....I still have issues with one family member in particular....

No to both.

JustErin said:

No to both.

I believe you. You probably floated over everyone, so I'm sure they didn't even know you were there.....

I never dealt with any type of bullying until I hit junior high. In the three years I was there, there was a drive by shooting, a stabbing inside the school library, and two gang riots. The school was comprised of 6 different gangs, all well represented...a fucking war zone. If you didnt gang bang you still had to walk around with your chest poked out or your ass would definitely get kicked.

When I got there in 86, the older thug ni**as hated me...mostly because the girls they wanted were diggin on me. The weird thing was that I only had problems with the black gangsters. All the mexicans and filipinos were cool with me but my own "brothas"...not so much. Since I was a pretty boy I got called faggot, etc...but none of them ever touched me because they knew who my older brother was. I had no idea that them just knowing my brother was saving me, so I walked around in constant fear those first few months. Then word got back to my brother that some of the older guys were "talking shit" about me. My brother showed up at our school at lunch one day with two or three of his homeboys...they proceeded to walk me through the school letting every thug know that if they touched or talked about me, their ass was done. My brother was way repected, a shot caller from the set I grew up in, and no one questioned him. The bastards still despised me, but they kept their fucking mouths shut.

yes

[Edited 11/14/11 5:16am]

I was bullied almost constantly - by both boys and girls - from 5th grade until I was...hmmm...maybe a junior in high school. I was picked on for what I wore (my mom had a personal dress code for me that allowed jeans only one day a week - which, during the slovenly 70s, didn't exactly fly with my peers) and the fact that I got excellent grades (boys don't like it when girls beat them in academic competitions - which teachers loved back then).

I was so glad to move onto college - where it was a lot easier to only associate with people you really wanted to be around.

In my household, there were 9 children growing up, and I was the 2nd youngest. So yea, my older siblings did all kinds of shit, roughed me up, picked on me etc. Although they did plenty of consistent shit to piss me off, I must say that it made it so that although I was tiny, I could handle fighting almost anybody. (My biological mom was 4 feet, 11 inches and could beat the shit out of most people.....) .

I hated fighting. Usually, I was the defender of my big mouthed little sister. She was beyond skinny and weak. However, she started fights just to see me fight. She had the biggest fucking mouth, but if I went home and she got beat up and I didn't intervene, I would get into trouble. I would say she was bullying me using other people. I think I had a fight damn near every day of my childhood, and I was forced to stay with her when we went outdoors. Whenever I could ditch her, i did. I NEVER started any fights (well maybe once), but most in my neighborhood ended up afraid of me because of the way I would fight (having 5 big brothers gave me LOTS of practice).

Funniest fight my sister got me into? I was like 10 years old and somehow she got into it with a 16 year old boy. She was talking major shit about how she was going to have him beat up and he finally decided to smack her. I was scared but I stood up and said "leave my sister alone". I was just going to take her home but nooooooo.......

That boy grabbed me, tripped me to the ground, sat on my midsection and held my wrists. There was a handy pile of dog poop nearby...so he began laughing and put my hand in it...and I tried to resist but I just wasn't strong enough. Once he had my hand in it, for some reason, he released the pressure from my wrist and started getting up and left me laying there crying. So I said "fuck it". Since poop was already on my hand, I picked up the poop pile and flung it into his face. He was gagging and his friends were laughing. I ran like hell......and once at a safe distance, I slapped my sister. She did that type of shit to me all the time--start fights for nothing. (and yes...we were close to home and she could have run for help...she just preferred to stand there, cry and watch)

she is the reason I became friends with PaintedLady...she was expecting me to kick Painted's ass and instead I told Painted that she deserved the major knock to the ground bitch slap Painted gave her. I was smiling to myself after that skinny little brat hit the ground. And yes....I got my ass beat for not defending my sister and becoming Painted's friend instead......

I didn't take that bitch sister of mine anywhere and she was getting her ass whooped on a regular and still running to the house I lived in (I moved away by the time I was a 13 years--fuck that.)...that girl had that big mouth and thought it meant she could fight. Still getting her ass kicked into adulthood. Dummy......

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Most definitely. Gay, black friends, and growing up in the South is a perfect recipe to attract them.

I have always had a special place in my heart for the underdog.

Being an underdog myself, I could never be or become a bully.

I believe in the pathway of the soul, it is the pathway of life lived with the belief & understanding that we are souls, and that spiritual growth is my primary purpose in this life.

I have no time 4 bullies either, I turn into the incredible hulk on their ass.

vainandy said:

Most definitely. Gay, black friends, and growing up in the South is a perfect recipe to attract them.

JoeTyler said:

vainandy said:

Most definitely. Gay, black friends, and growing up in the South is a perfect recipe to attract them.

No, but a local bully once told me that "I would totally bully you if you weren't so big!". I thought that was quite funny and an odd thing for a bully to say.

I remember in 10th grade me and a couple of other boys in my class made a teacher cry. It was shocking. Me?! I made a teacher cry? Red-headed, JROTC Tom, usually very quiet skateboarding everywhere Dan and me made the teacher cry? Seriously? Well we always liked to sit together, had our own little club and for some reason she always seem to nitpick at us, so we let loose and started saying what we were thinking and I guess it got a little too mean after a while. Outside of that, that's the only bullying I can remember doing, I'm sure I had my moments. On occasion I'd jump in on a class/school feud (example: in 5th grade the feud about Donny Osmond vs. Shaun Cassidy, there were tears, hair pulling, thrown chairs, all sorts of drama, it was great) but normally each side was equally matched so I don't think that's really bullying but just fighting (over stupid stuff).

retina said:

No, but a local bully once told me that "I would totally bully you if you weren't so big!". I thought that was quite funny and an odd thing for a bully to say.

Every bully I had was always bigger than me or out numbered me... it was never a "fair" fight.

Bullies pick fights with people they know they can phsically outmatch either in size or in number.

Makes sense to me.... he was letting you know he didn't like you but still respected the fact that you could possibly whoop his butt if he stepped to you.

He was probably trying to make you his buddy... in that weird "don't beat me" sorta way.

Dave1992 said:

Often enough. From 7-13 my marks were too good, so nobody liked me. They called me a swot, although I never really studied, I just listened, remembered and applied logic when it came to answering questions.

Then there was a time when I was really into longish hair (not the metal-head long, though). I just had bigger hair, almost shoulder length (like our Prince-boy, 1991ish). So they called me gay. I didn't give a fuck.

I remember many older girls telling me that I'm going to be very good-looking in a couple of years and that my face was beautiful (I was 12 at that time). I don't think anybody ever said that to me before. When my face started to become both more masculine AND mainly feminine (what some girls apparently found "beautiful") I was again called gay, because "real men are not supposed to be beautiful".

Then, at circa 14, I started to wear fancy, funky clothes. All shapes and colours, but still (in my opinion) tasteful. I started to fuck all the good-looking girls who were at least two years older than me. Needless to say, people didn't like that, so I was called "gay" again.

It didn't touch me, personally. What made me so sad is that these people thought homosexuality is something shameful and that they exactly knew I wasn't homosexual but thought they could hurt me that way. And what I also learned is that you can feel quite lonely, even though you're actually better and smarter than others, just because they are superior in quantity.

I never "bullied" anyone, but I had my subtle ways of showing them that they shouldn't have fucked with me. From 15 to 18, I laid their girlfriends, learned how to sing and play many instruments and write good songs (their girlfriends appreciate my music too ), beat them at every P.E. sprint at school and danced around them when we were playing football, making them look like complete idiots (yeah, I know, sounds quite childish, but when you're surrounded by stupid people, you have to restrict your ways to the things they can grasp with their uneducated minds).

And all the girl that used to make fun of me I laid too.

Did you ever consider that your arrogance probably got you into trouble with some of these people?

I highly doubt that people wanted to bully you beacause you "have a beautiful face and sing and play so many instruments & write great songs that their girlfriends like"...yuck!

You also have a tendancy to brag about all the women you have" laid",again-yuck!

Your post comes across as soooo arrogant and condescending and rather douchey.

Have you ever even been with a woman before?

Pretty immature post from a guy who is supposedly so worldy and superior at everything.

For instance,I could post all the things that I am better than you at,but I won't.

Why?you ask...because I'm better than you at not being a bragart.

mask said:

Dave1992 said:

Often enough. From 7-13 my marks were too good, so nobody liked me. They called me a swot, although I never really studied, I just listened, remembered and applied logic when it came to answering questions.

Then there was a time when I was really into longish hair (not the metal-head long, though). I just had bigger hair, almost shoulder length (like our Prince-boy, 1991ish). So they called me gay. I didn't give a fuck.

I remember many older girls telling me that I'm going to be very good-looking in a couple of years and that my face was beautiful (I was 12 at that time). I don't think anybody ever said that to me before. When my face started to become both more masculine AND mainly feminine (what some girls apparently found "beautiful") I was again called gay, because "real men are not supposed to be beautiful".

Then, at circa 14, I started to wear fancy, funky clothes. All shapes and colours, but still (in my opinion) tasteful. I started to fuck all the good-looking girls who were at least two years older than me. Needless to say, people didn't like that, so I was called "gay" again.

It didn't touch me, personally. What made me so sad is that these people thought homosexuality is something shameful and that they exactly knew I wasn't homosexual but thought they could hurt me that way. And what I also learned is that you can feel quite lonely, even though you're actually better and smarter than others, just because they are superior in quantity.

I never "bullied" anyone, but I had my subtle ways of showing them that they shouldn't have fucked with me. From 15 to 18, I laid their girlfriends, learned how to sing and play many instruments and write good songs (their girlfriends appreciate my music too ), beat them at every P.E. sprint at school and danced around them when we were playing football, making them look like complete idiots (yeah, I know, sounds quite childish, but when you're surrounded by stupid people, you have to restrict your ways to the things they can grasp with their uneducated minds).

And all the girl that used to make fun of me I laid too.

Did you ever consider that your arrogance probably got you into trouble with some of these people?

I highly doubt that people wanted to bully you beacause you "have a beautiful face and sing and play so many instruments & write great songs that their girlfriends like"...yuck!

You also have a tendancy to brag about all the women you have" laid",again-yuck!

Your post comes across as soooo arrogant and condescending and rather douchey.

Have you ever even been with a woman before?

Pretty immature post from a guy who is supposedly so worldy and superior at everything.

For instance,I could post all the things that I am better than you at,but I won't.

Why?you ask...because I'm better than you at not being a bragart.

Your post rather proves Dave's point, doesn't it? Bully.

[Edited 11/14/11 14:07pm]

paintedlady said:

retina said:

No, but a local bully once told me that "I would totally bully you if you weren't so big!". I thought that was quite funny and an odd thing for a bully to say.

Every bully I had was always bigger than me or out numbered me... it was never a "fair" fight.

Bullies pick fights with people they know they can phsically outmatch either in size or in number.

Makes sense to me.... he was letting you know he didn't like you but still respected the fact that you could possibly whoop his butt if he stepped to you.

He was probably trying to make you his buddy... in that weird "don't beat me" sorta way.

Yeah, I just found it strange since you'd think a bully's main priority would be to appear invincible and intimidating and maintain the respect/fear of others, and so by admitting being outmatched you could say he risked losing all that. But you're right, his backwards "compliment" might have been some kind of misguided attempt to make me his friend (or co-bully).

Gosh, thinking back on it makes me realize how very long ago it was. People still bully each other as adults but in far more refined and sneaky ways. In some ways I prefer the good old give-me-your-allowance-or-I'll-punch-you style, lol.

retina said:

paintedlady said:

Every bully I had was always bigger than me or out numbered me... it was never a "fair" fight.

Bullies pick fights with people they know they can phsically outmatch either in size or in number.

Makes sense to me.... he was letting you know he didn't like you but still respected the fact that you could possibly whoop his butt if he stepped to you.

He was probably trying to make you his buddy... in that weird "don't beat me" sorta way.

Yeah, I just found it strange since you'd think a bully's main priority would be to appear invincible and intimidating and maintain the respect/fear of others, and so by admitting being outmatched you could say he risked losing all that. But you're right, his backwards "compliment" might have been some kind of misguided attempt to make me his friend (or co-bully).

Gosh, thinking back on it makes me realize how very long ago it was. People still bully each other as adults but in far more refined and sneaky ways. In some ways I prefer the good old give-me-your-allowance-or-I'll-punch-you style, lol.

I have never, ever, ever seen a bully pick on someone bigger/meaner/stronger than him (or her).

That's why I guess they're called "bullies"...otherwise they'd be a regular old "badass".

PurpleJedi said:

retina said:

Yeah, I just found it strange since you'd think a bully's main priority would be to appear invincible and intimidating and maintain the respect/fear of others, and so by admitting being outmatched you could say he risked losing all that. But you're right, his backwards "compliment" might have been some kind of misguided attempt to make me his friend (or co-bully).

Gosh, thinking back on it makes me realize how very long ago it was. People still bully each other as adults but in far more refined and sneaky ways. In some ways I prefer the good old give-me-your-allowance-or-I'll-punch-you style, lol.

I have never, ever, ever seen a bully pick on someone bigger/meaner/stronger than him (or her).

That's why I guess they're called "bullies"...otherwise they'd be a regular old "badass".

I know, but have you ever seen a bully willingly admit that they're weaker than someone, and especially to that person in question? That's the odd part.

retina said:

PurpleJedi said:

I have never, ever, ever seen a bully pick on someone bigger/meaner/stronger than him (or her).

That's why I guess they're called "bullies"...otherwise they'd be a regular old "badass".

I know, but have you ever seen a bully willingly admit that they're weaker than someone, and especially to that person in question? That's the odd part.

He was hitting on you.

"I know you can beat me... so I won't pick on you... because, you can beat me."

Stop playing... that was an invite to the freaky fight club.

paintedlady said:

retina said:

I know, but have you ever seen a bully willingly admit that they're weaker than someone, and especially to that person in question? That's the odd part.

He was hitting on you.

"I know you can beat me... so I won't pick on you... because, you can beat me."

Stop playing... that was an invite to the freaky fight club.

You mean that all this time...all these years...we could have been together? If I'd only realized!

retina said:

paintedlady said:

He was hitting on you.

"I know you can beat me... so I won't pick on you... because, you can beat me."

Stop playing... that was an invite to the freaky fight club.

You mean that all this time...all these years...we could have been together? If I'd only realized!

You could have gotten great workouts too. Choking him up and slapping the blood out his mouth. He would've just begged for more.

The movie Bully is great as well. Great nudity..lol

paintedlady said:

retina said:

You mean that all this time...all these years...we could have been together? If I'd only realized!

You could have gotten great workouts too. Choking him up and slapping the blood out his mouth. He would've just begged for more.

I think someone is projecting their secret fantasies onto my old school memory...

retina said:

paintedlady said:

You could have gotten great workouts too. Choking him up and slapping the blood out his mouth. He would've just begged for more.

I think someone is projecting their secret fantasies onto my old school memory...

Would you expect any less of your fellow orger?

paintedlady said:

retina said:

I think someone is projecting their secret fantasies onto my old school memory...

Would you expect any less of your fellow orger?

No. lol