MoniGram said:

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Hey guys. Well I got a call the other day and I didn't get the job. I should have known they would give it to someone more experienced....but oh well thats the way it goes.

Right now I am supporting us the best I can with my Mary Kay....I dedicate a lot of my time to that, and so if I just keep pushing I know I will be a success.

Todd had an interview and has a second interview Monday, so hopefully........

Does anyone have their tree up yet?

Are we talking X-mas tree? If so not yet, probably the day after Thanksgiving.

I put my stuff up Thanksgiving weekend and I was just commenting to my co-workers about how that's next Friday! Sheesh! Where has this year gone?

I'm so sorry you're going through this, especially after having given birth to a beautiful baby. I've never been married, so I guess I don't qualify to give advice, BUT you're at least getting counseling. What does the mediator suggest? Does he/she offer sound advice? I'm like you though. I cannot tolerate a blatant liar. It's just so unnecessary! Sounds like he has issues that only he can sort out and deal with. If things don't get better, I say leave and don't look back, especially if he refuses to contribute financially. You're just supporting another child. Good luck to you, hon.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

There are several different things going on here. There is a definite addiction to ps3.

Now I know a lot of people joke about ps3 on here, but this is beyond the point of just excessive playing. He has lost/quit jobs over it, and his previous marriage ended over it as well.

You're not the first person to tell me that video games are destroying their marriage. I know someone who divorced their husband because of Everquest

JuliePurplehead said:

MoniGram said:

Are we talking X-mas tree? If so not yet, probably the day after Thanksgiving.

I put my stuff up Thanksgiving weekend and I was just commenting to my co-workers about how that's next Friday! Sheesh! Where has this year gone?

I know!

I was pulling out xmas stuff from storage room yesterday. Now that I work at the studio and not here We will put up our tree on Thanksgiving day, but we have a Black Friday event at the arts center so that means I need to put up the tree in my studio either this week or early next.

Sorry to hear about this. I've talked about being in a relationship with a compulsive liar before here too, and the sooner I ended it (and I was very relunctant because I could see beneath all the lying was a good person) the more at peace I was. All of the guess-work about whether I was listening to a lie or to the truth went away... all the butterflies of anxiety about confronting her about yet another lie.. never knowing whether the lying could extend to cheating etc etc.

I talked to her mother once about it and she told me she'd always been like that, from a very young age, and she considered it "acting"... "she's always acting" she told me. I did my own research into her character and kinda ended up thinking she's some type of "sociopath" clinically speaking. And I wondered how such a beautiful person would be single and without kids. I realized the hard way.

I won't offer any advice because I don't have any really. But one thing I learned was that it was impossible for me to initiate any change for her although I know she didn't want to be the way she was. People like that have to do it for themselves and have to see it as serious enough an issue that they'll confront whatever those deeper issues are they use lying to avoid feeling or dealing with. My experience is that although they dont want to lie its so ingrained into their habits they do it without even thinking about it. They only really confront what they're doing when they're confronted about it externally. Otherwise they'd content themselves to lie for eternity living in their made-up fantasies they want others to see and believe.

i am so sorry to hear this it's such a shame esp when u seemed so very happy!!!!

i hope he can get help and that he can change, 4 u, the kids and 4 himself!!!!