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Feeder Feedee Relationship I went on a date not 2 long ago with a guy and we had a great time. The only thing that kept throwing me off was that he kept offering me food/treats/drinks etc. I started to wonder if he was trippin because his Ruffies weren't working. So I started saying "no" to everything he offered me (food and drink wise). This seemed to annoy the hell out of him, he was dead serious and seemed to have the NEED to feed me. I'm not a stick, by any means, so I was so confused. 2 dates later and he has admitted that he is a Feeder and hopes that I am open to becoming a Feedee.
What are your thoughts on these relationships? (I have an image of him popping up beside my bed with a bucket of fried chicken at like 3 in the morning.) Would you ever want to "fatten" up your partner? Do you have control issues around weight/food?
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So is this soley with food? Or does he constantly offer other things too? I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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The Feeder aspect has to do with food, and I think, power? I'm still trying to sort it out. The main thing is...he wants to make me bigger, watch me expand, like 350+ (that was his target weight when I asked).
Overall, I think he has a provider complex. He won't let me pay for anything, ESPECIALLY food. The last time we went out I ate until I was full, and he kept pushing for me to eat MORE, "just another bite or two." The fucked up thing is, that other than this Feeder thing, he is pretty awesome. "Aren't you even curious? Don't you want to see the dragon behind the door?" | |
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I'm sorry but this feeder/feedee thing sounds like a disorder he has. Why does he want to watch you gain weight? Sounds like the root of his issue is a control thing. IMO. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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You know even if you keep refusing the food, you're still gonna gain weight with this guy, he's not gonna let up | |
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Seriously...........
Run like hell in the opposite direction...........
Even if he can Poo Diamonds..............
The whole Feeder /Feedee thing is a dominance thing. He wants to make you so fat that you rely totally on him for everything - and I do mean everything, there was a Documentary here in the UK a while back and these guys need help, I remember seeing a poor woman who was bedbound because her "feeder" made her that way, the Doctors said she was so overweight that they would be surprised if she made 40 yrs, she was only 35 at the time .
Life is short, don't be a dick.
R.I.P Prince - Thank you for your Music, Your Talent and for helping me find out who I was and am. | |
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Damn so there's a history of this shit? I've got to tell ya, this is the first I've heard of something like this, but yes I agree the whole dominance thing is an issue of control. Definite red flag. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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Yes there is
There is also a proper name for it, but I cannot remember it, but please, do not get involved. Life is short, don't be a dick.
R.I.P Prince - Thank you for your Music, Your Talent and for helping me find out who I was and am. | |
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some ppl like to use food during sex, and thats H O T!!!!
BUT........just the thought of being with a feeder would totally freak me out!!!!
he needs help, u dont need that type of life!!!!
no good will come of this type of relationship, and you can do way better!!!!!!
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This shit is scary, but it's also interesting as hell. What I find most interesting is that by just looking at him you would never guess. He is 6'3, built, educated, funny, witty, has a great job, friends who love him, is in contact with his family, loves his mom, has a pet...
I haven't told him to catch a train yet... "Aren't you even curious? Don't you want to see the dragon behind the door?" | |
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The most perfect looking guy in the world can still turn out to be a Serial Killer Life is short, don't be a dick.
R.I.P Prince - Thank you for your Music, Your Talent and for helping me find out who I was and am. | |
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Then you should and quick. Just because he seems to be this great catch, you can't ignore the fact that he does have a PROBLEM that will eventually become your problem if you let his good looks, the fact he's educated with a good job and a seemingly lovable character, cloud your better judgement. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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I am just wondering if we give the same heat to people who ride their partner for being "too fat." Even when their partner is living a healthy life.
Yes, I think this Feeder biz is on some crazy shit...but I can't help but wonder if its just because I am from an area which is all about being small/fit. Are all "feeders" the same? Is it all about power/abuse? Can I REALLY know without seeing for myself?
Also makes me think of Adult Nursing and the beloved Fisting Thread.
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Theres only 1 thing id offer u Lady.................And eye doubt u would dare say no!!! Dave Is Nuttier Than A Can Of Planters Peanuts...(Ottensen) | |
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And what would that be, papi? "Aren't you even curious? Don't you want to see the dragon behind the door?" | |
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Can u manage a huge Hotdog....with daves very own sweet sauce... Dave Is Nuttier Than A Can Of Planters Peanuts...(Ottensen) | |
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Baby, fuck the sweet shit, I like it hot...and I like the heat to linger hours after the deed is done "Aren't you even curious? Don't you want to see the dragon behind the door?" | |
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U got a fire extinguisher at ur place?? Dave Is Nuttier Than A Can Of Planters Peanuts...(Ottensen) | |
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No, but I can get one from work "Aren't you even curious? Don't you want to see the dragon behind the door?" | |
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Im very suprised there arnt any video footage of those skinny men feeding there huge partners.....U no the 1s that have 2 have a wall knocked down 2 get them out the house and in2 the ambulance...There r men that love nothing more than stuffing cream cakes down there partners neck then spend 2 hours giving them a bedbath..... Dave Is Nuttier Than A Can Of Planters Peanuts...(Ottensen) | |
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http://en.wikipedia.org/w..._fetishism
Life is short, don't be a dick.
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Sounded like a control thing. Then, I read subsequent posts. Run like the dickens. | |
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I was told that I'm a "feeder" because I tend to feed people...I bring snacks to the office, I order lunch, I make the bagel runs on Fridays...and also I tend to feed people as a means of offering comfort. I can't tell you how many times I would push food on my ex when she was feeling down or something. And when she was pregnant, fuggeddaboudit, I would constantly be asking her if she was hungry, at all hours.
BUT...at not time did I want to see her obese! In fact, when things were just fine and under normal everyday circumstances, I split portions with her and encouraged healthier eating.
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I've heard of those, never been in a relationship with one. I don't think I've ever met one. I guess as they say there is someone for everyone. I'd say move on, it's a very strong part of their personality and if you're not a feedee then it'll be a very unhappy relationship. | |
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...if it be left up to the org, wouldnt nobody have a relationship cause we always hollar...RUN!!! ... just an observation... THE B EST BE YOURSELF AS LONG AS YOUR SELF ISNT A DYCK[/r]
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You just gave me bladder control problems with this comment!
After I fix myself up, shower, change, you know.....I will be back with conversation . There came a time when the risk of remaining tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. Anais Nin. | |
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Sooo, I am still talking to the guy. Its very interesting so far. I wanted to see how far he would go with this so I text him at like 2 in the morning and told him I wanted a pepsi and some peanuts...he showed up like 30 mins later with exactly what I asked for, plus some, then went back home. "Aren't you even curious? Don't you want to see the dragon behind the door?" | |
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You might be on to something around here.
But then, I think about this radio thing they do here called 'war of the roses' where someone calls in, to have the radio folks fake out their significant other to see who that person would send a dozen roses to. 9 times out of 10 that significant other is cheatin' or gettin' ready to cheat, not necessarily cause 9 out of 10 folks is cheatin' but because those that call already KNOW that their partner is cheatin'. Same difference, folks here already KNOW something wrong with the situation, they just need confirmation. | |
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This is very "Dom" behavior IMO. He wants to know your every need. I bet any amount of money this is going to be a very intense sexual relationship. There came a time when the risk of remaining tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. Anais Nin. | |
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