Extrovert.

DEFINITELY an introvert, although my friends try to tell me that I'm not. I feel like saying, "You don't think I'm shy? Get me in a roomful of people I don't know, and you will find out just how shy I really am!"

There are times when I'm talkative, and other times when I'm not. As some others have stated on this thread, I tend to be more talkative around people I know, and am comfortable with. Also, on some days, I feel a little more confident in myself, so I might say more of what I think. Then there are days when I don't feel so confident, so I keep quiet and don't say a word. Because of this, I have had more than one person tell me that I have, "two personalities", which I absolutely HATE!! I want to tell them, "What a dumb comment! If you knew me well enough, you would not say that." The last time someone tried to tell me I had two personalities, I quietly told them that I did not like that comment, and to please never say that to me again. Idiot people!

psychodelicide said:

DEFINITELY an introvert, although my friends try to tell me that I'm not. I feel like saying, "You don't think I'm shy? Get me in a roomful of people I don't know, and you will find out just how shy I really am!"

There are times when I'm talkative, and other times when I'm not. As some others have stated on this thread, I tend to be more talkative around people I know, and am comfortable with. Also, on some days, I feel a little more confident in myself, so I might say more of what I think. Then there are days when I don't feel so confident, so I keep quiet and don't say a word. Because of this, I have had more than one person tell me that I have, "two personalities", which I absolutely HATE!! I want to tell them, "What a dumb comment! If you knew me well enough, you would not say that." The last time someone tried to tell me I had two personalities, I quietly told them that I did not like that comment, and to please never say that to me again. Idiot people!

I took one of those personality tests at work, and it's been confirmed...i'm an introvert.

Everyone has tendencies and moments of both however. The test is a series of questions and the results are what you are most comfortable with...

missfee said:

psychodelicide said:

DEFINITELY an introvert, although my friends try to tell me that I'm not. I feel like saying, "You don't think I'm shy? Get me in a roomful of people I don't know, and you will find out just how shy I really am!"

There are times when I'm talkative, and other times when I'm not. As some others have stated on this thread, I tend to be more talkative around people I know, and am comfortable with. Also, on some days, I feel a little more confident in myself, so I might say more of what I think. Then there are days when I don't feel so confident, so I keep quiet and don't say a word. Because of this, I have had more than one person tell me that I have, "two personalities", which I absolutely HATE!! I want to tell them, "What a dumb comment! If you knew me well enough, you would not say that." The last time someone tried to tell me I had two personalities, I quietly told them that I did not like that comment, and to please never say that to me again. Idiot people!

Thanks for the hug, I appreciate it.

I'd like to point out that there is a difference between being SHY and being an INTROVERT.

This is how it was explained in Psychology Today;

Two people can be standing against the wall at a party...the proverbial wallflowers.

One is shy the other an introvert.

The shy person wants to be out in the middle of the party but is too shy to do so, while the introvert is perfectly content watching along the sidelines.

That being said, I'm a bit of an introvert and very much shy.

Most times I want to be in the swing of things but can't gather the nerve, while sometimes I'm very content to watch along the sidelines. I'm not 100% of either because there are occassions where I am very much happy to be in the thick of things and in control.

I just joined a website for Goth lovers. Now there my friends is a pack of introverts. Just like you said Jedi, they are completely comfortable just watching. This means engaging them in any sort of conversation is like pulling teeth. There is nothing happening in their forum threads and as for the chat room, OMG, I finally found life when this metal kid joined.

I love introverts but getting to know them can be hell. You feel like you are suppose to do all the work. WTF?

Thanks Jedi for the difference between shy and introverted. I think their are some shy extroverts. Get a couple of cocktails into them and watch them goooo! (Of course they eventually may need AA but that is another thread).

Deadflow3r said:

I just joined a website for Goth lovers. Now there my friends is a pack of introverts. Just like you said Jedi, they are completely comfortable just watching. This means engaging them in any sort of conversation is like pulling teeth. There is nothing happening in their forum threads and as for the chat room, OMG, I finally found life when this metal kid joined.

I love introverts but getting to know them can be hell. You feel like you are suppose to do all the work. WTF?

Thanks Jedi for the difference between shy and introverted. I think their are some shy extroverts. Get a couple of cocktails into them and watch them goooo! (Of course they eventually may need AA but that is another thread).

Speaking of the last part of your comment...my dad is shy/introverted like me...but get some booze in him and he's the life of the party. I probably would've been an alcoholic myself if not for the fact that booze tends to put me to sleep. Seriously.

Very introverted, but I like being in a crowd of people.

morningsong said:

Very introverted, but I like being in a crowd of people.

...because you'll blend into the background, or because you enjoy the commotion?

PurpleJedi said:

morningsong said:

Very introverted, but I like being in a crowd of people.

...because you'll blend into the background, or because you enjoy the commotion?

The commotion and movement, even the noise.

i am total introvert..

and shy at times yes...

but i still have confidence meeting new people and stuff though... introverts tend to get a bad wrap but i believe you don't have to be one of those cocky, loud, annoying, non-stop smiling people to have confidence.. you can still be quietly confident

also i've definitely noticed that nearly every reeeeeaallly extroverted person i've known has been quite troubled and tortured deep down behind their bubbly facades... it's as if they are actually more insecure than the rest of us and so overcompensate with their extreme extroversion...?

can anyone relate...?

Introvert 98% of the time.

PurpleJedi said:

I'd like to point out that there is a difference between being SHY and being an INTROVERT.

This is how it was explained in Psychology Today;

Two people can be standing against the wall at a party...the proverbial wallflowers.

One is shy the other an introvert.

The shy person wants to be out in the middle of the party but is too shy to do so, while the introvert is perfectly content watching along the sidelines.

That being said, I'm a bit of an introvert and very much shy.

Most times I want to be in the swing of things but can't gather the nerve, while sometimes I'm very content to watch along the sidelines. I'm not 100% of either because there are occassions where I am very much happy to be in the thick of things and in control.

This.

Now I am getting confused again.

I never throw parties but I can walk up to people at a party and introduce myself.

I was a waitress and in sales for a long while. I was never great at it because I am not pushy and don't do the best job of taking control of the sale or my tables as a waitress. I was friendly, but friendliness is only part of the picture.

Anyway, maybe I am a friendly introvert.

There is much talk going on in my head so I am sometimes frightened to really open up because I am frightened that I will never shut up.

Sort of like I am here on prince.org. I write a lot. I also hold back a lot from writing even more!!! If I let my fingers just fly over the keyboard I would bring back thoughts of the orger "mzkqueen03" who could rant so much that she could highjack several threads on the same day!

So now where was I ..?

PurpleJedi said:

Two people can be standing against the wall at a party...the proverbial wallflowers.

One is shy the other an introvert.

The shy person wants to be out in the middle of the party but is too shy to do so, while the introvert is perfectly content watching along the sidelines.

Both of those statements apply to me, so I guess that makes me shy AND introverted? Not to be argumentive, but I still don't see what the difference is between the two.

psychodelicide said:

PurpleJedi said:

Two people can be standing against the wall at a party...the proverbial wallflowers.

One is shy the other an introvert.

The shy person wants to be out in the middle of the party but is too shy to do so, while the introvert is perfectly content watching along the sidelines.

Both of those statements apply to me, so I guess that makes me shy AND introverted? Not to be argumentive, but I still don't see what the difference is between the two.

If you are refraining from interacting in a social event...you're doing so either by choice or by default.

Either you do or you don't want to be in the mix of things.

...and yeah you can be shy sometimes and introverted at others. But what is your MAIN characteristic? For myself, I usually DO WANT to be in the mix of things but am too shy to do so.

PurpleJedi said:

psychodelicide said:

Both of those statements apply to me, so I guess that makes me shy AND introverted? Not to be argumentive, but I still don't see what the difference is between the two.

If you are refraining from interacting in a social event...you're doing so either by choice or by default.

Either you do or you don't want to be in the mix of things.

...and yeah you can be shy sometimes and introverted at others. But what is your MAIN characteristic? For myself, I usually DO WANT to be in the mix of things but am too shy to do so.

Introverted and shy are indeed different things.

I have also heard it explained as where you get your energy from – does it come from within, or is it sparked by other people? After you’re done hanging out with or even just around a group of people or a crowd, do you feel exhilarated or drained? Of course we all feel both from time to time, but which one happens more often?

I am most certainly an introvert and quite often shy, but I can be extroverted and even occasionally outgoing. Most aquaintances wouldn't consider me shy OR introverted, but that's because I've learned not to be in most social situations and it's downright required of me for my job. But my natural state says I'd prefer to be alone or with small groups of people I already know well - and even then I need my time to go home and be alone after being around them.

CarrieMpls said:

PurpleJedi said:

If you are refraining from interacting in a social event...you're doing so either by choice or by default.

Either you do or you don't want to be in the mix of things.

...and yeah you can be shy sometimes and introverted at others. But what is your MAIN characteristic? For myself, I usually DO WANT to be in the mix of things but am too shy to do so.

Introverted and shy are indeed different things.

I have also heard it explained as where you get your energy from – does it come from within, or is it sparked by other people? After you’re done hanging out with or even just around a group of people or a crowd, do you feel exhilarated or drained? Of course we all feel both from time to time, but which one happens more often?

I am most certainly an introvert and quite often shy, but I can be extroverted and even occasionally outgoing. Most aquaintances wouldn't consider me shy OR introverted, but that's because I've learned not to be in most social situations and it's downright required of me for my job. But my natural state says I'd prefer to be alone or with small groups of people I already know well - and even then I need my time to go home and be alone after being around them.

...very interesting...

introvert

CarrieMpls said:

PurpleJedi said:

If you are refraining from interacting in a social event...you're doing so either by choice or by default.

Either you do or you don't want to be in the mix of things.

...and yeah you can be shy sometimes and introverted at others. But what is your MAIN characteristic? For myself, I usually DO WANT to be in the mix of things but am too shy to do so.

Introverted and shy are indeed different things.

I have also heard it explained as where you get your energy from – does it come from within, or is it sparked by other people? After you’re done hanging out with or even just around a group of people or a crowd, do you feel exhilarated or drained? Of course we all feel both from time to time, but which one happens more often?

I am most certainly an introvert and quite often shy, but I can be extroverted and even occasionally outgoing. Most aquaintances wouldn't consider me shy OR introverted, but that's because I've learned not to be in most social situations and it's downright required of me for my job. But my natural state says I'd prefer to be alone or with small groups of people I already know well - and even then I need my time to go home and be alone after being around them.

I'm the same way.

introvert

uPtoWnNY said:

introvert

Seriously???

That is totally NOT how you come across on your posts!

missfee said:

I'm introverted.

What are you?

Im EXTRAVERTED!

Now if some creepy guy comes along, I'm just a deaf mute.

HotGritz said:

missfee said:

I'm introverted.

What are you?

Im EXTRAVERTED!

Now if some creepy guy comes along, I'm just a deaf mute.

PurpleJedi said:

uPtoWnNY said:

introvert

Seriously???

That is totally NOT how you come across on your posts!

I can believe it.

PurpleJedi said:

I'd like to point out that there is a difference between being SHY and being an INTROVERT.

This is how it was explained in Psychology Today;

Two people can be standing against the wall at a party...the proverbial wallflowers.

One is shy the other an introvert.

The shy person wants to be out in the middle of the party but is too shy to do so, while the introvert is perfectly content watching along the sidelines.

That being said, I'm a bit of an introvert and very much shy.

Most times I want to be in the swing of things but can't gather the nerve, while sometimes I'm very content to watch along the sidelines. I'm not 100% of either because there are occassions where I am very much happy to be in the thick of things and in control.

This is me. I'm definitely a shy introvert. I'm not feeling the shy part as of late. I REALLY want to do away with that. It's holding me back for sure.

sfinky1 said:

i am total introvert..

and shy at times yes...

but i still have confidence meeting new people and stuff though... introverts tend to get a bad wrap but i believe you don't have to be one of those cocky, loud, annoying, non-stop smiling people to have confidence.. you can still be quietly confident

also i've definitely noticed that nearly every reeeeeaallly extroverted person i've known has been quite troubled and tortured deep down behind their bubbly facades... it's as if they are actually more insecure than the rest of us and so overcompensate with their extreme extroversion...?

can anyone relate...?

yes i am a lot like this in real life, being introvert does not take away from my personality

i am also a loner and like my space