I have just a few really close friends...one of them I've know since I was 5;

it's difficult for me to have more than that because I do very much like my

alone time as well; however, good friends are important to me so I want time

to nurture those friendships...plus the fact that I don't make friends easily.

I'm quite shy until I really get to know someone.

kimrachell said:

as for me, i don't have that many friends i see face to face. most all of my friends live far away from me, and we keep in contact via facebook, or video chat. i find myself wanting or needing to have at least one or two people that i can meet with in person for lunch, to talk, or have some things in common. so i'm going to find ways to seek some new friendships. because as much as i love my internet friendships, it's just not enough.

I wish the best for you. You're such a nice person, Kim..once you start actively seeking

friendships, I can't imagine you'll have a problem.

And yes I agree, internet friends aren't enough...they come and go and sometimes never

return. Life takes them where they have to go, as do friends in real life sometimes.

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obsessed said:

kimrachell said:

as for me, i don't have that many friends i see face to face. most all of my friends live far away from me, and we keep in contact via facebook, or video chat. i find myself wanting or needing to have at least one or two people that i can meet with in person for lunch, to talk, or have some things in common. so i'm going to find ways to seek some new friendships. because as much as i love my internet friendships, it's just not enough.

I wish the best for you. You're such a nice person, Kim..once you start actively seeking

friendships, I can't imagine you'll have a problem.

And yes I agree, internet friends aren't enough...they come and go and sometimes never

return. Life takes them where they have to go, as do friends in real life sometimes.

.

[Edited 9/30/11 14:43pm]

thank you so much!

MarySharon said:

kimrachell said:

wow! that sounds just like my mom!

We should introduce them to eachother

we really should.

kimrachell said:

obsessed said:

I wish the best for you. You're such a nice person, Kim..once you start actively seeking

friendships, I can't imagine you'll have a problem.

And yes I agree, internet friends aren't enough...they come and go and sometimes never

return. Life takes them where they have to go, as do friends in real life sometimes.

.

[Edited 9/30/11 14:43pm]

thank you so much!

You're more than welcome!

kimrachell said:

obsessed said:

I wish the best for you. You're such a nice person, Kim..once you start actively seeking

friendships, I can't imagine you'll have a problem.

And yes I agree, internet friends aren't enough...they come and go and sometimes never

return. Life takes them where they have to go, as do friends in real life sometimes.

.

[Edited 9/30/11 14:43pm]

thank you so much!

Do they have friend services like they have dating services? Would that not be nice? We could join a friend service and fill out the profile and then say we want to meet people in a 50 mile radius for platonic friendship only. We could chat endlessly with that special someone and the meet up just the way we make play dates for out children.

What type of friend would I want?

Someone who enjoys music and since I don't know anything about cooking, someone who likes to show off their cooking skills. I am a talker and I love to laugh a lot and I think I would want someone that I could make laugh. She would like to shop some and if we developed into shopping buddies she would need to have simular taste as me or at least get my taste and i get hers so that we could help eachother out.

It would be a great service for todays busy women would it not? Even at work people don't want to become too close less the person in the next cubicle knows way more about your personal life than you want the rest of the staff to know. Then if the two of you stop being friends she is in a perfect possition to totally ruin your work experience for good.

No, no, yes, yes, no

kimrachell said:

so my question(s) to you is: do you have a lot of in-person friends? i mean, real, true, close friendships? or do you find that you are a person that spends much of their time online with the internet. do you feel isolated by not having real life friends? or is internet friends enough for you?

THe Internet IS my close friend!!

Deadflow3r said:

kimrachell said:

thank you so much!

Do they have friend services like they have dating services?

They already have prince.org

obsessed said:

Nothinbutjoy said:

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Make that two of us

Thank you both

itsnotallover said:

I don't have any real world friends anymore, in the last 12 years I have seen them all pass away, whether through misfortune or their own hands

My best friend ever, was my Younger brother, we always had been on the same wavelength, shared the same warped and twisted humour and whenever we were in the same room, nobody was safe He went to bed one night last year and never woke up, the void in my life is enormous, I lost my Brother and best friend that night.

Internet friends, well I am not sure, I don't really spend enough time online to make friends online.

fucking hell mate, you've had a super raw deal of late. If ever you wanna let off steam I'm all ears bud.

MarySharon said:

Deadflow3r said:

Do they have friend services like they have dating services?

They already have prince.org

I think I would like to go out to lunch with an orger on a regular basis. It would be nice to meet one in my area, which right now is Pensacola, Florida. I tried to meet orgers on the way down here but my traveling buddy was the uninvited Hurricane Irene so things just did not happen.

I was fortunate to meet paintedlady and shorty before I left and I felt that if I stayed I would have found a way to meet them on a regular basis. There aren't any face to face contacts in my life right now that are orgers.

Deadflow3r said:

kimrachell said:

thank you so much!

Do they have friend services like they have dating services? Would that not be nice? We could join a friend service and fill out the profile and then say we want to meet people in a 50 mile radius for platonic friendship only. We could chat endlessly with that special someone and the meet up just the way we make play dates for out children.

What type of friend would I want?

Someone who enjoys music and since I don't know anything about cooking, someone who likes to show off their cooking skills. I am a talker and I love to laugh a lot and I think I would want someone that I could make laugh. She would like to shop some and if we developed into shopping buddies she would need to have simular taste as me or at least get my taste and i get hers so that we could help eachother out.

It would be a great service for todays busy women would it not? Even at work people don't want to become too close less the person in the next cubicle knows way more about your personal life than you want the rest of the staff to know. Then if the two of you stop being friends she is in a perfect possition to totally ruin your work experience for good.

that would be nice. it's why i am joining my churches women's group, hoping to meet another lady there that i can have lunch with, go to the mall, playdates for our kids. will report back how it goes.

Deadflow3r said:

MarySharon said:

They already have prince.org

I think I would like to go out to lunch with an orger on a regular basis. It would be nice to meet one in my area, which right now is Pensacola, Florida. I tried to meet orgers on the way down here but my traveling buddy was the uninvited Hurricane Irene so things just did not happen.

I was fortunate to meet paintedlady and shorty before I left and I felt that if I stayed I would have found a way to meet them on a regular basis. There aren't any face to face contacts in my life right now that are orgers.

On a more serious note:

One can join a nonprofit organization, a sport club, an art school or any other group related to what one likes. This way one makes sure to share something in common with potential acquaintances or potential friends. It used to be this way long before the internet began.

A friend service sounds artificial. The very idea of it is disturbing, like you go shopping for friends at the supermarket. But money can't buy honesty and feelings. Money can't buy relationships either.

MarySharon said:

Deadflow3r said:

I think I would like to go out to lunch with an orger on a regular basis. It would be nice to meet one in my area, which right now is Pensacola, Florida. I tried to meet orgers on the way down here but my traveling buddy was the uninvited Hurricane Irene so things just did not happen.

I was fortunate to meet paintedlady and shorty before I left and I felt that if I stayed I would have found a way to meet them on a regular basis. There aren't any face to face contacts in my life right now that are orgers.

On a more serious note:

One can join a nonprofit organization, a sport club, an art school or any other group related to what one likes. This way one makes sure to share something in common with potential acquaintances or potential friends. It used to be this way long before the internet began.

A friend service sounds artificial. The very idea of it is disturbing, like you go shopping for friends at the supermarket. But money can't buy honesty and feelings. Money can't buy relationships either.

How is it more disturbing than shopping for not only your best friend but your lover and the future parent of your children on the internet? If I make a friend through a friend service, we are not going to end up married. I don't plan on buying property with her or sharing childraising duties with her. Never mind sleeping in the same bed with her night after night and hoping to keep the fires of passion burning for years to come. It is so far far less serious than finding ones life partner on the internet.

Deadflow3r said:

MarySharon said:

On a more serious note:

One can join a nonprofit organization, a sport club, an art school or any other group related to what one likes. This way one makes sure to share something in common with potential acquaintances or potential friends. It used to be this way long before the internet began.

A friend service sounds artificial. The very idea of it is disturbing, like you go shopping for friends at the supermarket. But money can't buy honesty and feelings. Money can't buy relationships either.

How is it more disturbing than shopping for not only your best friend but your lover and the future parent of your children on the internet? If I make a friend through a friend service, we are not going to end up married. I don't plan on buying property with her or sharing childraising duties with her. Never mind sleeping in the same bed with her night after night and hoping to keep the fires of passion burning for years to come. It is so far far less serious than finding ones life partner on the internet.

Fair enough. But dating sites disturb me just the same.

update: so i am getting to know people at my church, so far i am really enjoying it, lots of groups and fun things to do.

Well I just joined another site that is more of a dating site and I am thankful that I only joined for 3 days. No one is there! It is set up fairly well, they have a chat room and, just like ours, no one goes in there at all. The threads are pathetic and date back to 2010. Very sad place really. I am so glad that this place exists because it is Saturday night and nearly midnight and I would bust out crying if this place didn't exist.

It is not like I am asking for genuine contact here or a cup of coffee. I just want to talk to someone who may actually have some simular interests.

Deadflow3r said:

Well I just joined another site that is more of a dating site and I am thankful that I only joined for 3 days. No one is there! It is set up fairly well, they have a chat room and, just like ours, no one goes in there at all. The threads are pathetic and date back to 2010. Very sad place really. I am so glad that this place exists because it is Saturday night and nearly midnight and I would bust out crying if this place didn't exist.

It is not like I am asking for genuine contact here or a cup of coffee. I just want to talk to someone who may actually have some simular interests.

kewlschool said:

Thank goodness for internet porn.

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