minneapolisFunq said:

I'm a straight male, so that isn't even possible.

Straight what?

minneapolisFunq said:

I'm a straight male, so that isn't even possible.

LOL

Nah, it doesn't bother me. Intelligent men are madly hot. The last guy I dated was ridiculously smart.

It's nice when you find someone beautifully balanced though. Someone that hits you on every level... physically, sexually, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually.

minneapolisFunq said:

I'm a straight male, so that isn't even possible.

I'm so dumb, guess i'll never know...

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slimhustle said:

Nah, it doesn't bother me. Intelligent men are madly hot. The last guy I dated was ridiculously smart.

It's nice when you find someone beautifully balanced though. Someone that hits you on every level... physically, sexually, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually.

It's important it balances with YOU

I am interested in reading this book:

It explores inequality in relationships "Women must stop blaming others—men, doctors, the patriarchy, their mothers, their own hormones—for the way their lives are turning out, self-described feminist Maushart concludes, because freedom has its price. And if what women want next are marriages that are mathematically equal, that won't be easily achieved if women seek taller, wealthier, older men of higher social status."

and I'd add to that, so much smarter they feel like a dummy

Cloudbuster said:

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Intelligence is a wonderful thing.

lezama said:

I tend to date people who arent very intellectual... i find the the sex is a lot better because they dont try to intellectualize the chemistry (or lack thereof)... the connections are a lot more intuitive, firery and raw which is what i like.

Disagree. It takes wits to be a talented lover.

I quite like intelligence. It leads to interesting conversations and learning new things I don't know that I'd say I've dated someone more intelligent than me. We've each had our strengths, but I'd say we've been on similar levels. I wouldn't have a problem being with someone smarter than me though. I'd rather that than someone dumber

MarySharon said:

lezama said:

I tend to date people who arent very intellectual... i find the the sex is a lot better because they dont try to intellectualize the chemistry (or lack thereof)... the connections are a lot more intuitive, firery and raw which is what i like.

Disagree. It takes wits to be a talented lover.

Yeah, if youre talking about the non-sexual (elevated aspects) of love, then you're correct.. Maybe it's where I live right now but most of the people I meet tends to be either intellectual (or faux intellectual) and arrogant and really not exiting sexually or the opposite, very physical, hot sex, but not very much in the intellectual department. Of the two options I find the latter much easier to get a long with and everything's more surface and just more relaxing to me. For me it may just be an opposites attract thing. I spend all day dealing with, working on and talking with intellectual people about abstract complicated stuff, when im on the metro home im listening to international radio getting me frustrated with international politics and economy, so by the time I get home I like to just shut my brain off for the evening and relax next to someone who's not gonna ask me about my thoughts on Ludwig Wittgenstein or the Bhutan-Nepal ethnic tentions in southern Bhutan... but who will grab me, kiss me, tell me a stupid joke, share a beer with me, watch something stupid on tv with me, make love to me etc etc...

I love to date a guy who's smarter than me. I'm always so open to learning new things. I thrive off of it. I just don't like it if a guy is smarter than me and he feels the need to make himself feel better by purposely making me feel stupid. I like smart but humble men.

lezama said:

MarySharon said:

Disagree. It takes wits to be a talented lover.

Yeah, if youre talking about the non-sexual (elevated aspects) of love, then you're correct.. Maybe it's where I live right now but most of the people I meet tends to be either intellectual (or faux intellectual) and arrogant and really not exiting sexually or the opposite, very physical, hot sex, but not very much in the intellectual department. Of the two options I find the latter much easier to get a long with and everything's more surface and just more relaxing to me. For me it may just be an opposites attract thing. I spend all day dealing with, working on and talking with intellectual people about abstract complicated stuff, when im on the metro home im listening to international radio getting me frustrated with international politics and economy, so by the time I get home I like to just shut my brain off for the evening and relax next to someone who's not gonna ask me about my thoughts on Ludwig Wittgenstein or the Bhutan-Nepal ethnic tentions in southern Bhutan... but who will grab me, kiss me, tell me a stupid joke, share a beer with me, watch something stupid on tv with me, make love to me etc etc...

Intellect isn't only about spreading so-called knowledge about economy or conversing about Plato's allegory of the fucking cave or shit like that. According to me sensitivity doesn't go without wit. It takes understanding and intuition (And these NEVER go without cleverness) to arouse a woman, to guess what she likes... Whereas a perfect doofus couldn't tell the difference between a pipe and a vagina. That's the way it goes.

I personally need to be intrigued and fascinated. If the guy can't take it I just drop him.

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MarySharon said:

lezama said:

Yeah, if youre talking about the non-sexual (elevated aspects) of love, then you're correct.. Maybe it's where I live right now but most of the people I meet tends to be either intellectual (or faux intellectual) and arrogant and really not exiting sexually or the opposite, very physical, hot sex, but not very much in the intellectual department. Of the two options I find the latter much easier to get a long with and everything's more surface and just more relaxing to me. For me it may just be an opposites attract thing. I spend all day dealing with, working on and talking with intellectual people about abstract complicated stuff, when im on the metro home im listening to international radio getting me frustrated with international politics and economy, so by the time I get home I like to just shut my brain off for the evening and relax next to someone who's not gonna ask me about my thoughts on Ludwig Wittgenstein or the Bhutan-Nepal ethnic tentions in southern Bhutan... but who will grab me, kiss me, tell me a stupid joke, share a beer with me, watch something stupid on tv with me, make love to me etc etc...

Intellect isn't only about spreading so-called knowledge about economy or conversing about Plato's allegory of the fucking cave or shit like that. According do me sensitivity doesn't go without wit. It takes understanding and intuition (And these NEVER go without cleverness) to arouse a woman, to guess what she likes... Whereas a perfect doofus couldn't tell the difference between a pipe and a vagina. That's the way it goes.

I personally need to be intrigued and fascinated. If the guy can't take it I just drop him.

I think maybe you were confused by my wording because when I use the word intellect I'm thinking about the type of fact based smarts you get from knowing particular subjects well or from being super highly educated. Those are the types of people I find tend to be lacking in the passionate romance department. Trust me, walk on the campus of a school like MIT or Carnegie Mellon or Stanford (ugly socially akward people for miles). Those people tend to be intellectually smart but not street or socially or romantically smart. For me there's no necessary connection between intellect and wit and intellect and sensitivity. I live in a place and work in an environment with lots of highly educated people but who may or maynot be witty and who may or may not be sensitive to the intricacies of relationships. Those two qualities for me are inherent in the person regardless of their intellect. And some of the most witty, socially and street smart and sensitive and cool people I know barely finished high school. So I was distinguishing between something different than I think you're talking about.

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MarySharon said:

Intellect isn't only about spreading so-called knowledge about economy or conversing about Plato's allegory of the fucking cave or shit like that.

Made me laugh, in a good way.

lezama said:

Trust me, walk on the campus of a school like MIT or Carnegie Mellon or Stanford (ugly socially akward people for miles). Those people tend to be intellectually smart but not street or socially or romantically smart. For me there's no necessary connection between intellect and wit and intellect and sensitivity. I live in a place and work in an environment with lots of highly educated people but who may or maynot be witty and who may or may not be sensitive to the intricacies of relationships. Those two qualities for me are inherent in the person regardless of their intellect. And some of the most witty, socially and street smart and sensitive and cool people I know barely finished high school. So I was distinguishing between something different than I think you're talking about.

I went to Carnegie Mellon. I'm not smart at all. I always find it funny that I was able to graduate from there. I sure fooled them.

that's unpossible.

JerseyKRS said:

that's unpossible.

Your funy some times.

Cerebus said:

JerseyKRS said:

that's unpossible.

Your funy some times.

JerseyKRS said:

Cerebus said:

Your funy some times.

I have a fetish for smart men.

However, never have been able to live that phantasy.

lezama said:

MarySharon said:

Intellect isn't only about spreading so-called knowledge about economy or conversing about Plato's allegory of the fucking cave or shit like that. According do me sensitivity doesn't go without wit. It takes understanding and intuition (And these NEVER go without cleverness) to arouse a woman, to guess what she likes... Whereas a perfect doofus couldn't tell the difference between a pipe and a vagina. That's the way it goes.

I personally need to be intrigued and fascinated. If the guy can't take it I just drop him.

I think maybe you were confused by my wording because when I use the word intellect I'm thinking about the type of fact based smarts you get from knowing particular subjects well or from being super highly educated. Those are the types of people I find tend to be lacking in the passionate romance department. Trust me, walk on the campus of a school like MIT or Carnegie Mellon or Stanford (ugly socially akward people for miles). Those people tend to be intellectually smart but not street or socially or romantically smart. For me there's no necessary connection between intellect and wit and intellect and sensitivity. I live in a place and work in an environment with lots of highly educated people but who may or maynot be witty and who may or may not be sensitive to the intricacies of relationships. Those two qualities for me are inherent in the person regardless of their intellect. And some of the most witty, socially and street smart and sensitive and cool people I know barely finished high school. So I was distinguishing between something different than I think you're talking about.

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I got it. So basically you're not surrounded by clever people but by emotionally disabled joykillers and cold fishes? I truly sympathize. I passed my A-levels in a college like that and couldn't fit in with those people no matter how. So why bother socializing with them? More to that, it takes maturity to get feelings and being highly educated shouldn't kill this enthusiasm part we all originally had.

dJJ said:

I have a fetish for smart men.

However, never have been able to live that phantasy.

E = MCmuthafukin2

PurpleJedi said:

dJJ said:

I have a fetish for smart men.

However, never have been able to live that phantasy.

E = MCmuthafukin2

Genesia said:

And we have a nice balance between us - the stuff he's crazy smart about are things I'm not as hot on, and the stuff I can light up is stuff that isn't his real strength.

This is key, I think. I do buy that we all have varied intelligences, and my wife and I offset one-another really well in assorted areas. I'd have it no other way.

I couldn't be with someone whom I had to school on everything -- it'd be mind-numbing, exhausting, dangerously ego-swelling. In every relationship where I've seen that utter lopsidedness, the "smarter" partner ends up eventually needing stimulation from elsewhere; the less smart partner ends up objectified. I've got no time for that mess.

Lammastide said:

Genesia said:

And we have a nice balance between us - the stuff he's crazy smart about are things I'm not as hot on, and the stuff I can light up is stuff that isn't his real strength.

This is key, I think. I do buy that we all have varied intelligences, and my wife and I offset one-another really well in assorted areas. I'd have it no other way.

I couldn't be with someone whom I had to school on everything -- it'd be mind-numbing, exhausting, dangerously ego-swelling. In every relationship where I've seen that utter lopsidedness, the "smarter" partner ends up eventually needing stimulation from elsewhere; the less smart partner ends up objectified. I've got no time for that mess.

Been there. Done that.

But it had damned little to do with intelligence or more to do with wanting to establish a parent-child type of lover relationship.

I once dated a genius.......we seemed great together, but I couldnt work out how to get in to her vagina.

.

It went downhill pretty fast after that...

from my post down.....I love imperfection...on other folk...

:ouch: my KNEES...

Lammastide said:

Genesia said:

And we have a nice balance between us - the stuff he's crazy smart about are things I'm not as hot on, and the stuff I can light up is stuff that isn't his real strength.

This is key, I think. I do buy that we all have varied intelligences, and my wife and I offset one-another really well in assorted areas. I'd have it no other way.

I couldn't be with someone whom I had to school on everything -- it'd be mind-numbing, exhausting, dangerously ego-swelling. In every relationship where I've seen that utter lopsidedness, the "smarter" partner ends up eventually needing stimulation from elsewhere; the less smart partner ends up objectified. I've got no time for that mess.

This right here. Both of you are awesome posters.