How do you deal with someone you think is smarter than you. I say 'deal',maybe that's not the right word I'm looking for. Does it bother you if you know and think they are smarter than you?

I've never dated someone dumber than me.

I dunno, when they open their mouth I put something in it

i always think i can learn from them, intellectual ppl have some much to offer

and if it gets boring well that's when my below average brain will kick in

Hasn't happened yet.

I'm one of the smartest persons I know.

Normally, I gravitate to people who are smart, but I've never dated someone smarter than me.

It would probably be intimidating, especially if they could spell.

LadyCasanova said:

I dunno, when they open their mouth I put something in it

wow.. we have the same strategy...

I tend to date people who arent very intellectual... i find the the sex is a lot better because they dont try to intellectualize the chemistry (or lack thereof)... the connections are a lot more intuitive, firery and raw which is what i like.

A lot of intelligent people use their intelligence as a sheild for their emotions. Need to make sure they're able to express their emotions freely, not just describe them, or comment on them intellectually.

I dated a woman who was ridiculously smart, but she was one of the worst conversationalists I've ever seen. Like, people would pose great questions to her within her areas of expertise and she would answer with a, "uh, yes". Or, "not really" - full stop, nothing else.

I dated a woman who was crazy smart (literally, she might have been a bit touched), but she was severely lacking in the common sense department. You can only lock your keys in your car so many times when we're an hour away from home before that shit stops being "funny" or "cute". She would also sometimes put on one brown and one black shoe. Just a total scatterbrain.

So, yeah, intelligence is a turn on for me, but there's got to be a balance with those other traits as well.

Cerebus said:

I dated a woman who was ridiculously smart, but she was one of the worst conversationalists I've ever seen. Like, people would pose great questions to her within her areas of expertise and she would answer with a, "uh, yes". Or, "not really" - full stop, nothing else.

I dated a woman who was crazy smart (literally, she might have been a bit touched), but she was severely lacking in the common sense department. You can only lock your keys in your car so many times when we're an hour away from home before that shit stops being "funny" or "cute". She would also sometimes put on one brown and one black shoe. Just a total scatterbrain.

So, yeah, intelligence is a turn on for me, but there's got to be a balance with those other traits as well.

But being smart is a burden. Why go into a lengthy explanation of something when you know that no matter how you describe something, the audience has no iota of a chance in comprehending it. It's pointless and soul destroying.

This is one of the reasons my threads aren't more challenging.... please believe me.

I've been dealing with it going on 15 years. It's not so bad.

johnart said:

I've been dealing with it going on 15 years. It's not so bad.

But, considering which end of the intelligence bellcurve you normally get placed in, you would be used to it though.

Think of those of us who didn't have that.......erm.......erm..... benefit.

imago said:

Cerebus said:

I dated a woman who was ridiculously smart, but she was one of the worst conversationalists I've ever seen. Like, people would pose great questions to her within her areas of expertise and she would answer with a, "uh, yes". Or, "not really" - full stop, nothing else.

I dated a woman who was crazy smart (literally, she might have been a bit touched), but she was severely lacking in the common sense department. You can only lock your keys in your car so many times when we're an hour away from home before that shit stops being "funny" or "cute". She would also sometimes put on one brown and one black shoe. Just a total scatterbrain.

So, yeah, intelligence is a turn on for me, but there's got to be a balance with those other traits as well.

But being smart is a burden. Why go into a lengthy explanation of something when you know that no matter how you describe something, the audience has no iota of a chance in comprehending it. It's pointless and soul destroying.

This is one of the reasons my threads aren't more challenging.... please believe me.

But.... uhhh... oh nevermind.... (walks away with head down like this )

I'd love to date someone smarter than me.

Not optimistic but . . . hope springs eternal.

My ex was smarter, but it was never intimidating.

It was actually pretty great.

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He is smarter than me, and smart enough not to show me that.

He is always two steps ahead of me, and its refreshing... he's also 10+ years my senior, so I try to think we would be more equally matched in wits if we were the same age.

paintedlady said:

He is smarter than me, and smart enough not to show me that.

He is always two steps ahead of me, and its refreshing... he's also 10+ years my senior, so I try to think we would be more equally matched in wits if we were the same age.

I'm glad you found someone who is down with your beatboxing twat.

Cerebus said:

paintedlady said:

He is smarter than me, and smart enough not to show me that.

He is always two steps ahead of me, and its refreshing... he's also 10+ years my senior, so I try to think we would be more equally matched in wits if we were the same age.

I'm glad you found someone who is down with your beatboxing twat.

Its his microphone that gets me beatboxin... its a perfect match.

imago said:

johnart said:

I've been dealing with it going on 15 years. It's not so bad.

But, considering which end of the intelligence bellcurve you normally get placed in, you would be used to it though.

Think of those of us who didn't have that.......erm.......erm..... benefit.

Awwww....you're gay.

paintedlady said:

Cerebus said:

I'm glad you found someone who is down with your beatboxing twat.

Its his microphone that gets me beatboxin... its a perfect match.

Metaphors rule.

johnart said:

imago said:

But, considering which end of the intelligence bellcurve you normally get placed in, you would be used to it though.

Think of those of us who didn't have that.......erm.......erm..... benefit.

Awwww....you're gay.

I like it. Once it's understood by both of us, the pressure is off me to have all the answers.

paintedlady said:

He is smarter than me, and smart enough not to show me that.

He is always two steps ahead of me, and its refreshing... he's also 10+ years my senior, so I try to think we would be more equally matched in wits if we were the same age.

So this is the same dude you've been with for a while?

JustErin said:

paintedlady said:

He is smarter than me, and smart enough not to show me that.

He is always two steps ahead of me, and its refreshing... he's also 10+ years my senior, so I try to think we would be more equally matched in wits if we were the same age.

So this is the same dude you've been with for a while?

damn a couple of years now.... time flies.

you're making me work...first..how soon to judge, then...what if they are smarter than me....

perhaps you can do an org dating survey, and save our collective carpal tunnels...

Y'know what? I think a lot has to do with what your parents are like. My dad is probably the smartest person I've ever known - and my mom is no slouch, either. (She has common sense by the ton.) So I grew up knowing and loving smart - and actually had a hard time finding a man who could hold his own with me and mine.

Sweetie is, without a doubt, the smartest man I've ever been involved with. And we have a nice balance between us - the stuff he's crazy smart about are things I'm not as hot on, and the stuff I can light up is stuff that isn't his real strength.

Finding him was a relief, in a way. I've never felt like I had to dumb it down around him - or be the one who carries the conversational load.

I don't look at my bf that way. I think it's kind of silly to do so and diminishes their inferred intelligence. If they are so smart, why would they pick a dumb partner?

I'm more intelligent than my wife, but she gets shit done while I'm inept and prone to 'real world' stoopidity.

I'm a straight male, so that isn't even possible.