1. Sex-Drive Killer: Stress

You may be the kind of person who does many things well when under stress. But feeling sexy isn't likely to be one of them. Job stress, money troubles, caring for a sick family member, and other stressors can decrease libido. To keep your stress levels in check, learn helpful stress management techniques or seek the advice of a counselor or doctor.

2. Sex-Drive Killer: Unresolved Issues

Unresolved relationship problems are one of the most common killers of sex drive. For women in particular, emotional closeness is a major ingredient in sexual desire. Simmering arguments, poor communication, betrayal of trust, and other barriers to intimacy can steer your sex drive off the road.

3. Sex-Drive Killer: Alcohol

A drink or two doesn't always put you in the mood. Alcohol famously makes you feel less inhibited about sex. But it can also numb your sex drive. And even if it doesn't numb your sex drive, inebriation can be a turn-off for your partner. All of this goes for recreational drugs, too.

4. Sex-Drive Killer: Too Little Sleep

If your sexual get-up-and-go is gone, maybe you're getting up too early or getting to bed too late. Or maybe you have insomnia or sleep apnea. Whatever it is that's interfering with your sleep, it's also interfering with your sex drive. Too little sleep creates fatigue. Fatigue saps sex drive.

5. Sex-Drive Killer: Parenting

Parenting itself doesn't kill sex drive. But it can be hard to find time to be intimate when the kids are under foot. Hire a baby sitter for some time to nurture your relationship. New baby in the home? Try scheduling sex during the baby's nap time.

6.. Sex-Drive Killer: Medication

Drugs commonly linked to libido loss include:

• Antidepressants
• Blood pressure medications
• Antihistamines
• Oral contraceptives (some studies show a link; others don't)
• Chemotherapy
• Anti-HIV drugs
• Finasteride
• Synthetic progesterone-medroxyprogesterone

Changing to a different medication or different dosage may solve the problem. Other drugs may affect sex drive, too. If your sex drive shifted into park soon after beginning a new medication, talk with your doctor. Never stop taking a medication without consulting your doctor.

7. Sex Drive Killer: Poor Body Image

It's hard to feel sexy if your self-esteem suffers from poor body image. For example, feeling ashamed of being too heavy (even if you’re not) will douse your love light. If your partner has these feelings, it can really help to reassure him or her that you still find him/her sexy. And there's a flip side to the equation: Working out not only enhances your self-esteem, but also ups your sex drive.

8. Sex-Drive Killer: Obesity

Being overweight or obese is linked to a lack of sexual enjoyment, desire, and difficulties with sexual performance. The reason isn't clear, but may be linked to self-esteem, unsatisfactory relationships, social stigma, and other psychological issues.

9. Sex-Drive Killer: Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a different kind of sexual disorder than loss of libido (a medical term for loss of sex drive). But men with ED worry about how they will be able to perform sexually. And that worry can drain their sex drive.

10. Sex-Drive Killer: Low T

Testosterone increases sex drive. As men age, their testosterone levels may decline slightly. Not all men lose the desire for sex when their testosterone levels drop -- but many do. Testosterone is linked to sex drive in women, too. But a woman's hormonal balance is more complex than a man's. It's not clear whether testosterone therapy is as safe and effective in boosting sex drive for women as it is for men.

11. Sex-Drive Killer: Depression

It doesn't seem fair. Many antidepressants can lower your sex drive -- and so does depression. But if your sex drive has drooped, is might be a sign that you're depressed. Clinical depression is a serious, but treatable condition.

About half of women report reduced sex drive around the time of menopause, even though they believe it important to maintain an active sex life. Menopausal symptoms, such as vaginal dryness and pain during sex, may make sex less comfortable. But the hormonal changes of menopause are only part of the picture. An aging woman concerned about her sex drive should also consider the quality of her relationship, her body image and self esteem, medications she is taking, and her physical health.

(here is an interesting blog I found yesterday about perimenopause

http://www.theperimenopauseblog.com )

13. Sex-Drive Killer: Too Little Intimacy

Sex without intimacy is a sex-drive killer. Intimacy isn't just a code word for sex. If your sex life is in neutral, try spending more non-sexual intimate time together -- alone. Talk, snuggle, trade massages. Learn to express affection without having to have sex. As intimacy builds, so does sex drive.

http://www.webmd.com/sexu...ve-killers

Why are you so obsessed with this topic??

I deal with like 4 of those.

The whore in me is strong.

wheni first saw this thread i thought is was about motor accidents caused by sexual activity whiilst driving i was so excited... eager to read about the different positions ppl can do... even if it kills them

but na.... my sex drive is great

JustErin said:

Why are you so obsessed with this topic??

Dunno! I keep reading about it, and I'm heading into peri-menopause, so it's an interesting topic for me. If I was an intellectual, I would write a paper on it

johnart said:

I deal with like 4 of those.

The whore in me is strong.

Me too

I deal with stress, parenting and tiredness, and the master deals with all 3 as well so theoretically it shouldn't be happening at ALL but we do very wel in this area

add GUILT:

When you take a phone call and leave the room, then tell your girlfriend some story about it being "your daughter crying about a bird with broken legs" .

Then you can't keep your dick up... because you lied to me you ass.

So what does a girl do? I stayed like the entire time.

Then when he was done I was like

worst sex ever.... told him so. Damn liar.

ZombieKitten said:

johnart said:

I deal with like 4 of those.

The whore in me is strong.

Me too

I deal with stress, parenting and tiredness, and the master deals with all 3 as well so theoretically it shouldn't be happening at ALL but we do very wel in this area

Whores Unite!!!

yup how unfortunately true that some of these have assassinated my erections like Leon a few times down the years

.

BONER

11. Sex-Drive Killer: Depression

It doesn't seem fair. Many antidepressants can lower your sex drive

"Many" being the key word, here (not all of them do).

But even if they did, is a raging sex drive worth horrible depression?

Ace said:

11. Sex-Drive Killer: Depression

It doesn't seem fair. Many antidepressants can lower your sex drive

"Many" being the key word, here (not all of them do).

But even if they did, is a raging sex drive worth horrible depression?

... Yes?

novabrkr said:

Ace said:

"Many" being the key word, here (not all of them do).

But even if they did, is a raging sex drive worth horrible depression?

... Yes?

Which leads to an interesting question: If you hang yourself, how do you get off when you're dead?

I don't know what's wrong with me. My sex drive is always on high.

I've had many of the problems listed at the top of the page, but now that I got my life back together I can fuck for days.

Look at that list!!!

...and when you have 3 or 4 of those at the same time...

At various points in time, I've dealt with almost all the things on that list save a few like medications and erectile dysfunction (in myself, anyway). I would say the biggest turn offs are on that list, for sure.

That being said, I think "sad" is the only emotion I feel when I don't want to fuck someone.

1. A motherfucker with a disease.

2. A broke ass begging motherfucker.

3. An unclean or smelly dick.

4. A trimmed or shaved dick.

5. Trimmed or shaved balls.

6. A motherfucker that spoils it by talking.

7. A motherfucker that can't get it up.

8. A motherfucker that takes too long to come.

9. A motherfucker that keeps asking if he can fuck you when you've told his ass that you don't get fucked.

10. A motherfucker that wants to at least toss your salad since he can't fuck you. Leave my asshole alone.

^^ lmao

vainandy said:

1. A motherfucker with a disease.

2. A broke ass begging motherfucker.

3. An unclean or smelly dick.

4. A trimmed or shaved dick.

5. Trimmed or shaved balls.

6. A motherfucker that spoils it by talking.

7. A motherfucker that can't get it up.

8. A motherfucker that takes too long to come.

9. A motherfucker that keeps asking if he can fuck you when you've told his ass that you don't get fucked.

10. A motherfucker that wants to at least toss your salad since he can't fuck you. Leave my asshole alone.

Jeebus take the wheel now!!!!!

The biggest one for me is smell or bad hygiene

Before we do the sacred deed please have your ass, the insides around and abound clean. And your dick clean. I'm not sticking any part of my body in that area if it smells raw

That's my only hangup.... wash it up before i toss it up

Gunsnhalen said:

The biggest one for me is smell or bad hygiene

Before we do the sacred deed please have your ass, the insides around and abound clean. And your dick clean. I'm not sticking any part of my body in that area if it smells raw

That's my only hangup.... wash it up before i toss it up

I cannot stand people who do not shower sometime recently before sex.

I can't tell what note of the cornucopia of scents from down below I hate more: The dude with the piss-dick, the dude with the garbage-dick, the dude with the cheese-dick, or the dude with the hot ham dick.

Spinlight said:

Gunsnhalen said:

The biggest one for me is smell or bad hygiene

Before we do the sacred deed please have your ass, the insides around and abound clean. And your dick clean. I'm not sticking any part of my body in that area if it smells raw

That's my only hangup.... wash it up before i toss it up

I cannot stand people who do not shower sometime recently before sex.

I can't tell what note of the cornucopia of scents from down below I hate more: The dude with the piss-dick, the dude with the garbage-dick, the dude with the cheese-dick, or the dude with the hot ham dick.

spinlight dude i feel ya on that

I have had guy's who where not cut which is cool with me! but when i pull the skin back it smells like piss, ass, and rotten fruit. Idk why it smells like that but it can't be good

A Lot of gay guy's in L.A i have talked to, will just take a dude's word for it when he see's them. And will rim, suck and do everything.. i'm not that trustworthy

Gunsnhalen said:

Spinlight said:

I cannot stand people who do not shower sometime recently before sex.

I can't tell what note of the cornucopia of scents from down below I hate more: The dude with the piss-dick, the dude with the garbage-dick, the dude with the cheese-dick, or the dude with the hot ham dick.

spinlight dude i feel ya on that

I have had guy's who where not cut which is cool with me! but when i pull the skin back it smells like piss, ass, and rotten fruit. Idk why it smells like that but it can't be good

A Lot of gay guy's in L.A i have talked to, will just take a dude's word for it when he see's them. And will rim, suck and do everything.. i'm not that trustworthy

When I hooked up on the regular, I did run across some dudes with an inordinate amount of stink/stank/stunk cuz people lie. They say they are clean but no just because its not emanating to your fucking nose doesn't mean I cannot smell your hotboxed crotch. I know if you've been sitting down all day by the smell of your dick, so don't fuck with me!

ZombieKitten said:

5. Sex-Drive Killer: Parenting

Parenting itself doesn't kill sex drive. But it can be hard to find time to be intimate when the kids are under foot. Hire a baby sitter for some time to nurture your relationship. New baby in the home? Try scheduling sex during the baby's nap time.

This used to be a major problem for my wife and me. Not so much the parenting but the fact that the kids were always there. When they were little, she and I would sneak into the closet while they were watching cartoons, etc. But as they got older my wife got really paranoid about them walking in on us (happened on a Sunday morning...my 6 year old daughter walked in and got an eyeful of daddy doing mommy doggystyle...my fault--forgot to lock the door). After that, she wouldnt do shit unless they were all asleep. Problem is that my wife usually passes out before the kids do!

Was a prob for awhile...then I realized what my wife really wanted: to be RAVAGED at 2 o'clock in the morning. No words, no foreplay, just mount and go.

There were a few times where she refused my 2am advances...when that became a problem, we came up with a little communication tool:

My wife sleeping in boxers=LEAVE ME ALONE!

My wife sleeping in panties=COME AND GET IT!

And if she was in panties and I didnt do my duty...boy did I hear about it!!!!

StonedImmaculate said:

^^^

Turned into a lot of fun.

Cooking dinner while the kids do homework, my wife would whisper to me "I went shopping on my lunch hour today. Got some new panties...you'll see them tonight." Or "I'm all out of boxers...we need to do laundry." to which I'd respond "NO WE DON'T!"

The anticipation...flirting all night right in front of the kids though they have no idea what we're talking about...

AWESOME

Bad weather.

If it's too hot and you can't breathe, you might not feel like sexin' up ya partner.

If it's too cold that you can't even move and your bones feel frozen, you might not feel like sexin' up ya partner.

A cold.

Snot running out of their nose

Coughing

Fever

Chills

Shit like that

I'm so messed up, I thought this was about 13 murderers that were associated with having killed because of their sex drive and I was wondering why the hell ZK was talking about that?

Teacher said:

I'm so messed up, I thought this was about 13 murderers that were associated with having killed because of their sex drive and I was wondering why the hell ZK was talking about that?

Well since you put it that way....

stinky socks