johnart said:

Alej said:

I'm totally hyper as fuck because I had a giant-ass cup of coffee.

How u doin?

Get a room. jk. lol

Age doesn't matter, but I wanna be the older one in the relationship.

TylerHippie said:

Age doesn't matter, but I wanna be the older one in the relationship.

Giselle said:

TylerHippie said:

Age doesn't matter, but I wanna be the older one in the relationship.

Hello honeydip

TylerHippie said:

Giselle said:

Hello honeydip

Hey there, how are you?

TD3 said:

It depends on the two people involved: what their interest are, what their core values are, what they both want at that point and time... opposites do attract at any age.

Speaking from woman's point of view, its been my experience some men like younger women because they won't be "challenged"... demands be made of them. There's something to say about having life experience.... having been around the block several times. Knowing what you want, being clear about it, and spotting bullshit from jump.

I tend to agree with Cerebus, age seperation of more than a decade can be tenous at best. Most of the women I know who went way over the decade mark regretted it. Whole different energy level and social level...not to speak of sex. All of those women ended up with a man on the side.

exactly

she's gonna be at her peak sexually, and his testosterone levels would have dropped off years ago

When they're forty I'm thirty-five, when they're twenty I'm twenty-five.

johnart said:

Alej said:

I'm totally hyper as fuck because I had a giant-ass cup of coffee.

How u doin?

CALM DOWN John...he said "cup of coffee" not "shot of vodka".

TylerHippie said:

Age doesn't matter, but I wanna be the older one in the relationship.

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imago said:

I'm 39, and the last 5 people I've slept with or 'dated' haven't been older than 25.

I don't have a problem with it. I don't go looking for it...it just sort of falls in your lap here.

You're not helping the stereotypes!

Am I too old then?

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I'll be 30 in a few days, and my missus is 32. We were just talking about it and she said she could see me with a 19 year old and I said "When? How did you...?" before I realised she was speaking hypothetically. But anyway, even if single I couldn't see myself at 30 with a 19 year old, especially here, as far as an actual relationship. I just can't see it working, no matter how mature they are. I'm an old fuddy-duddy in some ways and we'd have different interests and priorities.

The significance of age is an illusion. Age will not guarantee anything, sometimes young people are really nice, act grown-up and intelligent, and sometimes older people behave worse than children and have absolutely no manners.

Get to know a person, if you really find them interesting, and then decide whether you want to get closer or not. Age is irrelevant.

TylerHippie said:

Age doesn't matter, but I wanna be the older one in the relationship.

Sorry...

PurpleJedi said:

johnart said:

CALM DOWN John...he said "cup of coffee" not "shot of vodka".

Coffee has a bigger impact on my body than alcohol.

I'm totally serious.

It just depends on the people.

It probably won't work out, but most relationships don't work out. It might be nice for a while, though!

And all the talk about age, men, women, sex drive, etc means nothing. Nobody is perfectly matched, and if they are, it still might not work out.

There is a huge historical precedent for older man, younger woman, and there is a reason it seems to work.

NDRU said:

It just depends on the people.

It probably won't work out, but most relationships don't work out. It might be nice for a while, though!

And all the talk about age, men, women, sex drive, etc means nothing. Nobody is perfectly matched, and if they are, it still might not work out.

There is a huge historical precedent for older man, younger woman, and there is a reason it seems to work.

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myfavorite said:

NDRU said:

It just depends on the people.

It probably won't work out, but most relationships don't work out. It might be nice for a while, though!

And all the talk about age, men, women, sex drive, etc means nothing. Nobody is perfectly matched, and if they are, it still might not work out.

There is a huge historical precedent for older man, younger woman, and there is a reason it seems to work.

...

It's true! Hugh Hefner's relationships are as successful as just about anyone's

Giselle said:

There's a guy I find real attractive. I'm legal, but young. Thing is.. he's 33, so there's a 14 year age difference. He seems to have his life together, very respectful, handsome. He's been catching my eye, and I've been feeling somewhat guilty I guess because I'm so young plus I know what others may probably say. I keep seeing him around at random events & he acts shy only around me, but low-key mentioning he's single when in a conversation with a group of people. I'm starting to wonder if this is a sign or something. But just in case it is...Has anyone delt with age difference? If so, what was the outcome? Give me honest answers, it wont hurt my feelings. Pinky promise.

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Honest answers?

You're 19 and he's 33! Come on now....you have a lot of growing yet to do.

He's already grown and would be quite flattered by a young piece of ass, otherwise known as jail bait to folk in their 30s, flirting back with him. You are infatuated becuse he has his life together as well he should if he's 33. Let me ask you a couple things, if he were 21 and had all the qualities you mentioned would you still be interested or would he be "too young". Is your attraction to him purely physical?

I ask because you sound like you may be looking for a relationship. If you are....think about it and think about your future and what the two of you could have in common and if it is enough to sustain you because he will only get older and may not be as attractive in 5-7 years. You won't be getting old for another 10-15 years. If you're just looking to get initimate with him, no strings attached, then let dude know you find him attractive and just have fun.

I confess I dated a 35 year old when I was 21. I wish I would have known then what I know now. He lied and told me he was 30 so I kind of got hoodwinked.

I was in love with a guy who was 19 when I was umm... I don't remember but I was quite a lot older (Org infatuation, it passed. )

And I had an affair with a man who's 14 years older than I am. The only affair I ever had, and ever will have. Not good for karma.

So I don't give a shit about age differences.

HotGritz said:

Giselle said:

There's a guy I find real attractive. I'm legal, but young. Thing is.. he's 33, so there's a 14 year age difference. He seems to have his life together, very respectful, handsome. He's been catching my eye, and I've been feeling somewhat guilty I guess because I'm so young plus I know what others may probably say. I keep seeing him around at random events & he acts shy only around me, but low-key mentioning he's single when in a conversation with a group of people. I'm starting to wonder if this is a sign or something. But just in case it is...Has anyone delt with age difference? If so, what was the outcome? Give me honest answers, it wont hurt my feelings. Pinky promise.

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Honest answers?

You're 19 and he's 33! Come on now....you have a lot of growing yet to do.

He's already grown and would be quite flattered by a young piece of ass, otherwise known as jail bait to folk in their 30s, flirting back with him. You are infatuated becuse he has his life together as well he should if he's 33. Let me ask you a couple things, if he were 21 and had all the qualities you mentioned would you still be interested or would he be "too young". Is your attraction to him purely physical?

I ask because you sound like you may be looking for a relationship. If you are....think about it and think about your future and what the two of you could have in common and if it is enough to sustain you because he will only get older and may not be as attractive in 5-7 years. You won't be getting old for another 10-15 years. If you're just looking to get initimate with him, no strings attached, then let dude know you find him attractive and just have fun.

I confess I dated a 35 year old when I was 21. I wish I would have known then what I know now. He lied and told me he was 30 so I kind of got hoodwinked.

I think its more of a attraction than anything. I find him sexy. At the beginning , by looking at him I wouldn't give him the age of older than 25. So even if he were younger I'd still be interested esp. if he had all the same qualities..big time! But overall, a conversation with him was almost like listening to a philosopher or something. He really had my mind going. Myself likes a guy that can make me think about things in a different perspective & I think that was another turnon for me.

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Giselle said:

HotGritz said:

Honest answers?

You're 19 and he's 33! Come on now....you have a lot of growing yet to do.

He's already grown and would be quite flattered by a young piece of ass, otherwise known as jail bait to folk in their 30s, flirting back with him. You are infatuated becuse he has his life together as well he should if he's 33. Let me ask you a couple things, if he were 21 and had all the qualities you mentioned would you still be interested or would he be "too young". Is your attraction to him purely physical?

I ask because you sound like you may be looking for a relationship. If you are....think about it and think about your future and what the two of you could have in common and if it is enough to sustain you because he will only get older and may not be as attractive in 5-7 years. You won't be getting old for another 10-15 years. If you're just looking to get initimate with him, no strings attached, then let dude know you find him attractive and just have fun.

I confess I dated a 35 year old when I was 21. I wish I would have known then what I know now. He lied and told me he was 30 so I kind of got hoodwinked.

I think its more of a attraction than anything. I find him sexy. At the beginning , by looking at him I wouldn't give him the age of older than 25. So even if he were younger I'd still be interested esp. if he had all the same qualities..big time! But overall, a conversation with him was almost like listening to a philosopher or something. He really had my mind going. Myself likes a guy that can make me think about things in a different perspective & I think that was another turnon for me.

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I see no reason to fight attraction if you both like each other, and you are both legal and single.

You just have to be careful as the younger person that you are not being taken advantage of. It seems that often the younger person thinks it's love and the older person is just having some fun. And often the older person may try to control the relationship.

But my grandparents were 19 & 32 when they married, and it lasted for the rest of his life, over 55 years

19 is legal and considered an adult in every state in the land, I believe. Jus' sayin'.

Jailbait: a girl under the age of consent with whom sexual intercourse is unlawful and constitutes statutory rape

Like I said before though, and I guess its been confirmed, people will have opinions about the age difference. You WILL hear them, whether you want to or not (and I'm talking about in the real world, not an online forum where you asked for them).

Giselle said:

HotGritz said:

Honest answers?

You're 19 and he's 33! Come on now....you have a lot of growing yet to do.

He's already grown and would be quite flattered by a young piece of ass, otherwise known as jail bait to folk in their 30s, flirting back with him. You are infatuated becuse he has his life together as well he should if he's 33. Let me ask you a couple things, if he were 21 and had all the qualities you mentioned would you still be interested or would he be "too young". Is your attraction to him purely physical?

I ask because you sound like you may be looking for a relationship. If you are....think about it and think about your future and what the two of you could have in common and if it is enough to sustain you because he will only get older and may not be as attractive in 5-7 years. You won't be getting old for another 10-15 years. If you're just looking to get initimate with him, no strings attached, then let dude know you find him attractive and just have fun.

I confess I dated a 35 year old when I was 21. I wish I would have known then what I know now. He lied and told me he was 30 so I kind of got hoodwinked.

I think its more of a attraction than anything. I find him sexy. At the beginning , by looking at him I wouldn't give him the age of older than 25. So even if he were younger I'd still be interested esp. if he had all the same qualities..big time! But overall, a conversation with him was almost like listening to a philosopher or something. He really had my mind going. Myself likes a guy that can make me think about things in a different perspective & I think that was another turnon for me.

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Try and stay one step ahead of him intellectually. Actually make that two steps. Guys in their 30s, when dealing with gals in their 20s or younger, fancy themselves the "smart and educated one" in the relationship. Trust me I know. The last thing you will want to happen is for him to try to control and influence you. He won't be able to help it really, part of the male ego; add to that the age difference. Kind of like when older women try and "mother" their younger mates. Its never intentional but just seems to happen. People are on different paths as they age and have new experiences. You will never have the mind of a 33 year old at the age of 19 and he will never regress to being 19.

Check it out, be alert, learn from it, and enjoy yourself always on your terms. He will either respect it or get irritated.

HotGritz said:

Giselle said:

I think its more of a attraction than anything. I find him sexy. At the beginning , by looking at him I wouldn't give him the age of older than 25. So even if he were younger I'd still be interested esp. if he had all the same qualities..big time! But overall, a conversation with him was almost like listening to a philosopher or something. He really had my mind going. Myself likes a guy that can make me think about things in a different perspective & I think that was another turnon for me.

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Try and stay one step ahead of him intellectually. Actually make that two steps. Guys in their 30s, when dealing with gals in their 20s or younger, fancy themselves the "smart and educated one" in the relationship. Trust me I know. The last thing you will want to happen is for him to try to control and influence you. He won't be able to help it really, part of the male ego; add to that the age difference. Kind of like when older women try and "mother" their younger mates. Its never intentional but just seems to happen. People are on different paths as they age and have new experiences. You will never have the mind of a 33 year old at the age of 19 and he will never regress to being 19.

Check it out, be alert, learn from it, and enjoy yourself always on your terms. He will either respect it or get irritated.

Thanks for the heads up.

Cerebus said:

19 is legal and considered an adult in every state in the land, I believe. Jus' sayin'.

Jailbait: a girl under the age of consent with whom sexual intercourse is unlawful and constitutes statutory rape

Like I said before though, and I guess its been confirmed, people will have opinions about the age difference. You WILL hear them, whether you want to or not (and I'm talking about in the real world, not an online forum where you asked for them).

What's that? The Oxford definition? You do realize that the word "jailbait" is slang and slang is open to interpretation and reinvention right? I've never ever ever head of jailbait described in that way. What you're describing is (and you said it) statutory rape and that's not what this thread is about.

HotGritz said:

Cerebus said:

19 is legal and considered an adult in every state in the land, I believe. Jus' sayin'.

Jailbait: a girl under the age of consent with whom sexual intercourse is unlawful and constitutes statutory rape

Like I said before though, and I guess its been confirmed, people will have opinions about the age difference. You WILL hear them, whether you want to or not (and I'm talking about in the real world, not an online forum where you asked for them).

What's that? The Oxford definition? You do realize that the word "jailbait" is slang and slang is open to interpretation and reinvention right? I've never ever ever head of jailbait described in that way. What you're describing is (and you said it) statutory rape and that's not what this thread is about.

I didn't SAY anything. Its the Merriam-Webster definition and it always has been. Its not slang, either. Its always had a very clear meaning. What else would JAILbait possibly mean? You don't go to jail for dating someone who is legal. You're the one making it mean something different. And really, are you scoffing at the Oxford Dictionary?

Cerebus said:

HotGritz said:

What's that? The Oxford definition? You do realize that the word "jailbait" is slang and slang is open to interpretation and reinvention right? I've never ever ever head of jailbait described in that way. What you're describing is (and you said it) statutory rape and that's not what this thread is about.

I didn't SAY anything. Its the Merriam-Webster definition and it always has been. Its not slang, either. Its always had a very clear meaning. What else would JAILbait possibly mean? You don't go to jail for dating someone who is legal. You're the one making it mean something different. And really, are you scoffing at the Oxford Dictionary?

Say? No. Wrote? Yes. Jailbait most certainly is slang. Even Merriam-Webster states it is American slang dating back to the 1930s. Slang can refer to males as well. Some people use it for persons of consentual age who are significantly younger than they e.g. a 50 year old guy might refer to a hot 20 year old guy as jail bait. The term has grown to encompass those who are young and naive.

No, I'm not scoffing at the Oxford Dictionary. Just poking fun at you because you felt the need to "clarify" the meaning of jailbait without knowing that the word, like most words, has more than one meaning. U so serious at times.

NDRU said:

Giselle said:

I think its more of a attraction than anything. I find him sexy. At the beginning , by looking at him I wouldn't give him the age of older than 25. So even if he were younger I'd still be interested esp. if he had all the same qualities..big time! But overall, a conversation with him was almost like listening to a philosopher or something. He really had my mind going. Myself likes a guy that can make me think about things in a different perspective & I think that was another turnon for me.

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I see no reason to fight attraction if you both like each other, and you are both legal and single.

You just have to be careful as the younger person that you are not being taken advantage of. It seems that often the younger person thinks it's love and the older person is just having some fun. And often the older person may try to control the relationship.

But my grandparents were 19 & 32 when they married, and it lasted for the rest of his life, over 55 years

My dad was 39 and my mom was 23 when they married and it lasted for nearly 40 years until my dad died.

NDRU said:

myfavorite said:

...

It's true! Hugh Hefner's relationships are as successful as just about anyone's

Lawd. I try to handle most any situation, even age...whether fighting or flyin or fun but if a dude finds it hard to be just straightforward......my heart breaks everytime......

we can work it out, we can work it outt...

myfavorite said:

NDRU said:

It's true! Hugh Hefner's relationships are as successful as just about anyone's

Lawd. I try to handle most any situation, even age...whether fighting or flyin or fun but if a dude finds it hard to be just straightforward......my heart breaks everytime......

we can work it out, we can work it outt...

awww favorite. just keep trying, that's all you can do.