So you don't talk at all to your co-workers? You'd never say something like "My kid's graduating tomorrow" (if you had/have one) or "I'm gonna be late picking up my kid from daycare. I'll get my husband to pick him up." Small things like that, nothing in detail about who you're sleeping with or what you do at night.
Silent about anything other than work. At all. Not a word. You go to work and are silent, simply performing your function...like the printer or the desk?
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Yep! Anyway my boss is a guy so he doesn't care ( and I like it that way) and my coworker is an old 70 year old totally frustrated woman and I'm not gonna share my life with her, so yeah, I go to work, to work [Edited 6/29/11 17:39pm] Yeah, I love Graffiti Bridge movie, so what? ''Oooooooooooh Montreal, say it!''
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I edited, but before I could post the edit my dog stole a salad off the counter. Anyway, this was my edit:
EDIT: I'm not trying to challenge with my comment, just make a point that anything minute can constitute being "out". Like if I'm somewhere and a song comes on and someone says: "OOH I LOVE THIS SONG!" and I laugh and respond "I like it too, but my partner CAN"T STAND it". That's not about bringing anything innapropriate to work. It's about being a regular person like everyone else you work with. | |
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Not trying to challenge either Yeah, I love Graffiti Bridge movie, so what? ''Oooooooooooh Montreal, say it!''
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But that's the issue. Folk always take it to the bedroom. Being out is not about sexual practices. Sexual discussions, of course, have no place in the workplace. Let's say the 70 year old does wear leather and chains in bed | |
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I guess I'm just lucky to work in a place where we don't discuss those things, or maybe it's just that I'm single and she's divorced, that might help keeping it about work haha! Yeah, I love Graffiti Bridge movie, so what? ''Oooooooooooh Montreal, say it!''
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I'm sure it has, to some degree, to do with the fact that it's just you guys and you (from your description) don't seem that compatible. Other than working for myself, I've never worked somewhere where I didn't get along well with at least one person. Well enough to share lunchbreaks and have small non-work-related talk. I think most (or a lot) of enviroments are like this.
That said, someone at work has shared enough non-work-related info for you to know she is divorced and it doesn't sound like that has destroyed the balance or stability of your workplace. | |
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Yeah lol, and it is indeed enough:) Yeah, I love Graffiti Bridge movie, so what? ''Oooooooooooh Montreal, say it!''
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Which you suggest we should continue to live in. I don't want you to think like me. I just want you to think. | |
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Exactly. I've been at my job for 12 years and I talk about my personal life with co-workers just like they talk about theirs. Personal life as in "I went out last weekend for the first time in a long time and it was enough to last me for another six months. I was so bored, I might as well have been in a straight club" and they just laugh because we do have a personal life that is similar to theirs but is also unique to our situation which has nothing to do with the bedroom. I can talk some trash and get them laughing without getting sexual and they respect me as a different type of individual they can not only work with, but laugh and joke with also. Just like I respect them for their own unique qualities that apply to them and them only.
Last year when I wasn't exactly myself, my boss asked me what was wrong and I told her that a no good freeloading man that lived in my apartment complex was showing up every night when I was making dinner as if it was owed to him. She gave me her opinion and advice as to what to do (drop his no good ass) just like she was talking to someone straight who had the same problem. When you work with someone for eight hours a day, they become family. When I moved into my apartment, my boss gave me some silverware, pots, towels, etc. just like she was shopping for her son. We talk like I would talk with my mother if I had been open with her. And no, I wouldn't go around telling my mother explicit details about my sex life just like a straight person wouldn't. Andy is a four letter word. | |
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No one at my work knows that I like females too, though if I like a guy, they can tell from my face I'm up to something | |
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It has never been an issue for me. If people ask, I answer, but I am not walking around volunteering information about my private life period, nevermind my sexuality. However, I don't mind discussing normal things with straight people and I find that often times they feel more comfortable around me knowing I am gay. | |
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Well, I only want to say that I agree with both of you. If I said before that it would be a bad idea, it's because I KNOW how insanely stupid many straight men are when it comes to sex, bisexuality, homosexuality, etc.
so, don't shot the messenger
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I dont understand why people think, that gay men especially, can do nothing but have sex, talk about sex, and want to have sex with every man they see..
I so get what Johnart is saying and it really makes me sooooo sad that he needs to even TRY and explain himself and what he means by coming out at work
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Soooooo happy that some people "get it" and so frustrated that some DON'T!!! Aaaaargh!!!
MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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Some people are very introverted and do not like to talk to people though gay or straight....some people do. In my opinion people who shy away from others at a public working place are not remembered very well. Who am I to judge though..it's just me. Straight Jacket Funk Affair
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The all-caps "COME" in this makes me laugh. Because no, we probably shouldn't do that (unless it would really, really help our careers). | |
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I'm slightly disappointed that you didn't say: "...in which case, YOU SHOULD DO THAT, BABY" | |
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I totally agree. If all personal information should be removed from the workplace then that would mean no family photos or wedding rings (because in the 44 states that don't allow same-sex marriages, a wedding ring just screams that you like having missionary straight sex on a weekly basis). Even knowing if a woman has the title of "Mrs." would be considered too much information. Ridiculous. | |
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Not remembered well and more likely to be passed up for a promotion. I'm happy my place of employement encourages social interaction among coworkers and has a Sr. V.P. who is out. And it's not a big deal to anyone. | |
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I agree with you! Straight Jacket Funk Affair
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"No more will you cry...." MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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We should open up a company where all the employee reviews would be either "Oooh! Baby, you're so good!" (for "Exceeds expectations") or "You should do THAT, baby" (for "Needs improvement").
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MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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Those are the kind of employee reviews they gave out at Prince International. | |
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It depends.. At my workplace everyone who is gay, is out. Where my boyfriend works,it's more conservative. None of his co-workers knows he's gay/out. Even though here in California, an employer cannot discriminate against sexuality,the work enviorment does often times dictate what is exceptable and what isn't.
IMO,it's better to be out. Example- At a recent birthday party for my boyfriend 25-30 people there knew he was gay and that we were together.(everyone knew not to "blow his cover") He invited one of his co-workers and for the better part of the evening things were really stifulled. It was like walking on eggshells. It wasn't until this friend left,that the party could really be a Party!
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bingo.
It could mean the difference between retiring with a large pension, or waiting on the social security check every month. It's not as simple as just feeling better about yourself.
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