IVE EXPERIENCED JEALOUSY MANY TIMES!!!....B4 EYE MARRIED MY WIFE EYE WAS SO JEALOUS EYE WOULD SWEAR AT MEN!!START FIGHTS/END FIGHTS..IF A MAN LOOK AT HER ID FLIP...EYE WAS A FUCKING IDIOT BACK THEN!!!!!!IM STILL AN IDIOT BUT THE JEALOUSY HAS STOPPED!!!!

THERE R NO POSITIVES 2 BEING JEALOUS!!JEALOUSY IS LIKE A CANCER & IT WILL KILL U!!IT WILL EAT U UP THEN SPIT U OUT!!!

jEALOUSY MAKES U WEAK AND IT MAKES U LOOK AN UTTER WANKER WHICH IS WHAT EYE WAS IN THE PAST!!!

IVE ALSO BEEN WITH MANY JEALOUS TWISTED EVIL F**KING WOMEN THAT HAVE DRIVEN ME MAD WITH THERE JEALOUS WAYS!!!!NOW IM OLDER & WISER JEALOUSY 2 ME IS A VERY UGLY THING AND VERY UNATRACTIVE AND MAKES ME VERY UNHAPPY & GETS ME DOWN ALOT!!!THERES JUST NO NEED 4 IT!!!!!

davetherave6767 said:

IVE EXPERIENCED JEALOUSY MANY TIMES!!!....B4 EYE MARRIED MY WIFE EYE WAS SO JEALOUS EYE WOULD SWEAR AT MEN!!START FIGHTS/END FIGHTS..IF A MAN LOOK AT HER ID FLIP...EYE WAS A FUCKING IDIOT BACK THEN!!!!!!IM STILL AN IDIOT BUT THE JEALOUSY HAS STOPPED!!!!

THERE R NO POSITIVES 2 BEING JEALOUS!!JEALOUSY IS LIKE A CANCER & IT WILL KILL U!!IT WILL EAT U UP THEN SPIT U OUT!!!

jEALOUSY MAKES U WEAK AND IT MAKES U LOOK AN UTTER WANKER WHICH IS WHAT EYE WAS IN THE PAST!!!

IVE ALSO BEEN WITH MANY JEALOUS TWISTED EVIL F**KING WOMEN THAT HAVE DRIVEN ME MAD WITH THERE JEALOUS WAYS!!!!NOW IM OLDER & WISER JEALOUSY 2 ME IS A VERY UGLY THING AND VERY UNATRACTIVE AND MAKES ME VERY UNHAPPY & GETS ME DOWN ALOT!!!THERES JUST NO NEED 4 IT!!!!!

right on

LayzieKiddZ said:

cdv76 said:

LayzieKiddZ said:

Jealousy is just a sign of insecurity within yourself. I used to be like that till I realized how awesome I am. I even heard the same thing in psychology classes, so it just confirmed what I thought about it.

I totally agree with this!

Yeah. Jealousy is a weird thing, some thinks it's showing love, but it isn't.

if you're jealous of some guy looking at your gf...

1- Means you don't trust the guy (which is ok)

2- Means you don't trust your gf (which is not ok)

3- Means you think you might not be good enough for your gf to stay with you (which is YOUR problem)

So if you don't trust your gf/bf and if you have a lack of self confidence in your ability to love and be loved, it's not the other who's wrong, it's you who has something to solve. Better stay single until you solve this, cause jealousy isn't totally not sane, but it's a good way to get there, I mean, we don't all have a big egos (which is good cause too confident people gets on my nerve as much as not confident people) and it's ok to talk about it ask question andvefiry the state of your relation, but trust is everything in a relationship.

JustErin said:

In a relationship.

Have you ever experienced jealousy while being with someone? Absolutely.

Have you ever been jealous? Of course

Are there any positives to being jealous? Probably not, but I believe that the only thing negative about it is if you act out on it. That's when the trouble starts

Does jealousy make you weak or strong? Neither. It's a natural and normal feeling

Thank you for your honesty.

I'm glad i asked this question,and your reply makes a lot of sense.

kewlschool said:

Not really. If your jealous-that means someone has something you want. If you want someone or a thing go get it. If the person doesn't want you-so be it.

I had a ex-girlfriend who was SO jealous that she would be jealous of times that I spent with other friends and relatives (including talking about a past good times with a friends and relatives).

Jealous exists I just don't fully comprehend it. I really don't get being jealous-even if someone went to an exclusive Prince concert-first thought I'm happy for them. Second thought, I wish I could have gone. But no jealousy. (I may say it in a joking manner-but I assure you I'm not jealous.)

I think I was born without the jealousy gene. I think some of the most destructive things in my life I have seen are due to jealousy (mainly co-workers-back stabbing each other etc.).

Interesting.

When it comes to jealousy i'm with you on all points.

i've never wanted what someone else had.And i'm happy for those who have success and gains in life.

But in a relationship it's different.

For me,it's like a protective instinct.

Knowing you can't control another person makes it all the harder.

I would be interested to hear your thoughts on someone, knowingly making another person jealous.

carinemjj said:

Yeah. Jealousy is a weird thing, some thinks it's showing love, but it isn't.

if you're jealous of some guy looking at your gf...

1- Means you don't trust the guy (which is ok)

2- Means you don't trust your gf (which is not ok)

3- Means you think you might not be good enough for your gf to stay with you (which is YOUR problem)

So if you don't trust your gf/bf and if you have a lack of self confidence in your ability to love and be loved, it's not the other who's wrong, it's you who has something to solve. Better stay single until you solve this, cause jealousy isn't totally not sane, but it's a good way to get there, I mean, we don't all have a big egos (which is good cause too confident people gets on my nerve as much as not confident people) and it's ok to talk about it ask question andvefiry the state of your relation, but trust is everything in a relationship.

I hear what your saying.And thanks for your reply.

I disagree,in that jealousy can lead to a situation where you no longer trust the other person.

So the merits of jealousy still stand to some degree.As immature and primative as it may be,I'm inclined to believe that jealousy is an instinct we should not outgrow.

As stated above,I believe it's how we deal with the feelings of jealousy that make all the difference.

tony23k said:

I hear what your saying.And thanks for your reply.

I disagree,in that jealousy can lead to a situation where you no longer trust the other person.

So the merits of jealousy still stand to some degree.As immature and primative as it may be,I'm inclined to believe that jealousy is an instinct we should not outgrow.

As stated above,I believe it's how we deal with the feelings of jealousy that make all the difference.

I do agree with the last part. I didn't say jealousy will lead to total lack of trust in a relationship though, only that there is a little piece of trust missing, and that probably comes from inside, not from the other.

That being said, I'm completely aware that jealousy is usual and 'normal' in a certain way, I mean, you never OWN someone, this person is always entitled to leave if she's not happy anymore... so yes seing a girl around my bf would piss me off, and knowing that 70% of men cheats on their woman.. that's nothing to help us feel safe actually

As long as the jealousy doesn't get obsessive, like telling you gf what to wear, the people she can see, where she can go, having your friends spy on her and telling you after.. I mean, that's serious issues, but just a little feeling of jealousy (very little) means you don't want to loose that person, but then, if you want to keep him/her, you have to work in order to keep the relationship going, it's not gonna fall from the sky.

Obsessively, naggingly, madly jealous? No. Twinges here n' there and a slight discomfort? Yep. I'm not that secure about anything in life, not to question it once in a while. And those times which included sharing my kids with an intimate third party, I'll just say it required a lot of growth.

carinemjj said:

tony23k said:

I hear what your saying.And thanks for your reply.

I disagree,in that jealousy can lead to a situation where you no longer trust the other person.

So the merits of jealousy still stand to some degree.As immature and primative as it may be,I'm inclined to believe that jealousy is an instinct we should not outgrow.

As stated above,I believe it's how we deal with the feelings of jealousy that make all the difference.

I do agree with the last part. I didn't say jealousy will lead to total lack of trust in a relationship though, only that there is a little piece of trust missing, and that probably comes from inside, not from the other.

That being said, I'm completely aware that jealousy is usual and 'normal' in a certain way, I mean, you never OWN someone, this person is always entitled to leave if she's not happy anymore... so yes seing a girl around my bf would piss me off, and knowing that 70% of men cheats on their woman.. that's nothing to help us feel safe actually

As long as the jealousy doesn't get obsessive, like telling you gf what to wear, the people she can see, where she can go, having your friends spy on her and telling you after.. I mean, that's serious issues, but just a little feeling of jealousy (very little) means you don't want to loose that person, but then, if you want to keep him/her, you have to work in order to keep the relationship going, it's not gonna fall from the sky.

Agreed.

Everything after that imo, is stalking.

Not wanting to lose the person is the key.

I had a talk with my boyfriends best friend today.And he told me that it's just to get a reaction out of me.

He honestly likes to see me react to this.

I don't think this is cute at all.Maybe I need to check myself.But,he's never given me a reason to not trust him.

We'll be having an indepth conversation about this issue,and i'll bring the rsesults back to this thread.

tony23k said:

I had a talk with my boyfriends best friend today.And he told me that it's just to get a reaction out of me.

He honestly likes to see me react to this.

I don't think this is cute at all.Maybe I need to check myself.But,he's never given me a reason to not trust him.

We'll be having an indepth conversation about this issue,and i'll bring the rsesults back to this thread.

Someone would get a slap in the face if he was 'acting this' just to get a reaction out of me. Serious talk here.. Your daily proof of love isn't enough, he needs to 'validate' your love for him by checking if you're jealous? Then when you don't react anymore he'll 'know' you don't love him anymore?

I just couldn't be with someone like that, wasting my energy and patience, maybe HE doesn't trust you, or maybe HE thinks in a way he's no good enough for you.. (hypothesis, I have no idea )

Have a nice talk though, and get things straight, you have no time to loose being tested over and over. Love is not a test where you get the right or wrong answer or behaviour, it's a feeling you agree to share proudly with someone else.

Have fun

LayzieKiddZ said:

Jealousy is just a sign of insecurity within yourself. I used to be like that till I realized how awesome I am. I even heard the same thing in psychology classes, so it just confirmed what I thought about it.

same here

tony23k said:

kewlschool said:

Not really. If your jealous-that means someone has something you want. If you want someone or a thing go get it. If the person doesn't want you-so be it.

I had a ex-girlfriend who was SO jealous that she would be jealous of times that I spent with other friends and relatives (including talking about a past good times with a friends and relatives).

Jealous exists I just don't fully comprehend it. I really don't get being jealous-even if someone went to an exclusive Prince concert-first thought I'm happy for them. Second thought, I wish I could have gone. But no jealousy. (I may say it in a joking manner-but I assure you I'm not jealous.)

I think I was born without the jealousy gene. I think some of the most destructive things in my life I have seen are due to jealousy (mainly co-workers-back stabbing each other etc.).

Interesting.

When it comes to jealousy i'm with you on all points.

i've never wanted what someone else had.And i'm happy for those who have success and gains in life.

But in a relationship it's different.

For me,it's like a protective instinct.

Knowing you can't control another person makes it all the harder.

I would be interested to hear your thoughts on someone, knowingly making another person jealous.

First off, I don't want to control anybody and I don't want anyone to control me. I'm all about relationship of equals (As much as possible). It comes down to your character and your partner's character either you have it or not. I have been in mad love with a lady and walked away from it-because she was not up to character. If my Lady knowingly tries to make me jealous, I would have a serious rethink to why I allow this person in my life? (Cause I don't play games-to the curb she will go).

carinemjj said:

tony23k said:

I had a talk with my boyfriends best friend today.And he told me that it's just to get a reaction out of me.

He honestly likes to see me react to this.

I don't think this is cute at all.Maybe I need to check myself.But,he's never given me a reason to not trust him.

We'll be having an indepth conversation about this issue,and i'll bring the rsesults back to this thread.

Someone would get a slap in the face if he was 'acting this' just to get a reaction out of me. Serious talk here.. Your daily proof of love isn't enough, he needs to 'validate' your love for him by checking if you're jealous? Then when you don't react anymore he'll 'know' you don't love him anymore?

I just couldn't be with someone like that, wasting my energy and patience, maybe HE doesn't trust you, or maybe HE thinks in a way he's no good enough for you.. (hypothesis, I have no idea )

Have a nice talk though, and get things straight, you have no time to loose being tested over and over. Love is not a test where you get the right or wrong answer or behaviour, it's a feeling you agree to share proudly with someone else.

Have fun

No slaps were needed.

Just a nice long talk,so we could both get on the same page.

kewlschool said:

tony23k said:

Interesting.

When it comes to jealousy i'm with you on all points.

i've never wanted what someone else had.And i'm happy for those who have success and gains in life.

But in a relationship it's different.

For me,it's like a protective instinct.

Knowing you can't control another person makes it all the harder.

I would be interested to hear your thoughts on someone, knowingly making another person jealous.

First off, I don't want to control anybody and I don't want anyone to control me. I'm all about relationship of equals (As much as possible). It comes down to your character and your partner's character either you have it or not. I have been in mad love with a lady and walked away from it-because she was not up to character. If my Lady knowingly tries to make me jealous, I would have a serious rethink to why I allow this person in my life? (Cause I don't play games-to the curb she will go).

this ^ x 10