Okay guys. You meet a woman. She's everything you ever wanted!! She's good looking, she's got big natural tits, she makes her own money, she's smart, she's funny, and she wants sex 24-7-365 and she's gonna give it to ya every way you want it. You talk on the phone until all hours about anything and everything!!

Now knowing that sex is better with feelings involved, WHY would you all of a sudden decide you need to "breathe" and not call or text for several days with no explanation after you have been calling and texting every single day?!?

That's a clear clue to a woman that she's meaningless....

That is NOT conducive to making pannies drop....when a woman feels worthless....especially if she has been honest about her past and her trust issues....

BklynBabe said:

Okay guys. You meet a woman. She's everything you ever wanted!! She's good looking, she's got big natural tits, she makes her own money, she's smart, she's funny, and she wants sex 24-7-365 and she's gonna give it to ya every way you want it. You talk on the phone until all hours about anything and everything!!

Now knowing that sex is better with feelings involved, WHY would you all of a sudden decide you need to "breathe" and not call or text for several days with no explanation after you have been calling and texting every single day?!?

That's a clear clue to a woman that she's meaningless....

That is NOT conducive to making pannies drop....when a woman feels worthless....especially if she has been honest about her past and her trust issues....

See "side piece" thread....it may help to explain things.....

And you are right, sex is better with feelings...but make sure both folks have the same feelings.

I'm gettin my ass-whoopin purse out the closet this very minute.

I know this saying is so oversaid but really, there is no other way to say it:

He's just not that into you.

BklynBabe said:

Now knowing that sex is better with feelings involved...

Oh really?

JustErin said:

I know this saying is so oversaid but really, there is no other way to say it:

He's just not that into you.

exactly

don't dwell on it, because it's NOT your fault, you're awesome, but perhaps not exactly HIS type of awesome

A lot of them never really grow up.

Happens to the best of us.

Understand the urge for a man's nutts to quiver or possibility to quiver is strong

BklynBabe said:

and not call or text for several days with no explanation after you have been calling and texting every single day?!?

Make that over a month.

It's cool though because I already knew what the deal was.

BklynBabe said:

Okay guys. You meet a woman. She's everything you ever wanted!! She's good looking, she's got big natural tits, she makes her own money, she's smart, she's funny, and she wants sex 24-7-365 and she's gonna give it to ya every way you want it. You talk on the phone until all hours about anything and everything!!

Now knowing that sex is better with feelings involved, WHY would you all of a sudden decide you need to "breathe" and not call or text for several days with no explanation after you have been calling and texting every single day?!?

Okay so; you're confused, right? So there must be something at play here that you haven't thought about yet, right? Also I've noticed; while you're asking the question "WTF is wrong with men", only ONE that I'm sure of seems to have responded to you so far, otherwise it seems mainly the ladies have chimed in (Also, as an aside; I've noticed many ARIES have responded to this thread, myself included - just an observation). So okay, I will attempt to shed some light on the situation for you as I understand it. First I should say, I'm clearly not speaking for all men, just myself and many of the men I have known personally.

Men mainly enjoy the pursuit, the chase. In that way, men are like hunters. Once a woman acknowledges WANTING sex 24-7-365, much of the fun is GONE for him (although I see a few on this thread already that I'm certain will strongly disagree, lol). Also, a woman acknowledging wanting sex 24-7-365 can be intimidating for many men, it can also raise suspicions in men, and as strange as it may seem; can even be a turn-off. Men often like to feel like they've charmed you out of the panties, not that you couldn't wait to get them off.

Also, I personally agree with you that sex is better with feelings involved, but for many men, sex is actually better with those he doesn't know well at all, lol. In any case, being that you're at this point in your relationship (...assuming it's you we're talking about), my unsolicited advice would be: Move on. If he's expressing a need to breathe, anything you do at this point to try and reel him back in is only going to be perceived by him as smothering, and will only push him further away.

One other thing; women enjoy TALKING much much more than men do. In fact, men generally don't really enjoy talking that much at all, they tend to keep things inside. If he had been talking and texting with you for several DAYS, I can tell you for sure... he's going to be pretty much TALKED-OUT, lol. One sure way to keep a man interested? Go easy on the TALK (...even if he's the one calling YOU, or the one initiating the conversation). Sometimes I think that men are much more complicated than many women realize.

Love that's not reciprocated is a BITCH! Hurts like Hell, and my heart goes out to you (...or whomever the subject of this thread may be).

Again, just my thoughts - my attempt to explain what MIGHT have happened, realizing I don't know any of the players personally. I'm sure there are many men out there that think quite differently. In fact, I'm VERY sure, lol. Nevertheless, I hope this situation resolves itself for you in the best possible manner.

I would be knocking the bottom out of them draws all of the time if I had a women like that. I'm a faithful guy too. Some dudes can be absolute dumb-asses when it comes to women....I'm not! I cream [& dream] to find a women like that!

Some dudes are chickens when it comes to commitments also [they should be sponsored by ]....

that was a weird guy.

Forget him

and some guys get more confident and relaxed AFTER the sex, just sayin', lil advice ladies, take it or leave it...

Yep, he's not that into you.

Move on....

*it is possible* that maybe you're just rushing this a bit. Maybe "breathe" is just what it means. I couldn't handle my woman chomping at the bit back in 1997...I needed a little bit of gentle slowdown time too. Not so fast!

Perhaps "he's not that into you", or perhaps...he got a little overwhelmed? Maybe he is a weird guy...I know I was. And still am.

I think the big indicator is being able to talk on the phone at all hours about anything and everything.

BklynBabe said:

Okay guys. You meet a woman. She's everything you ever wanted!! She's good looking, she's got big natural tits, she makes her own money, she's smart, she's funny, and she wants sex 24-7-365 and she's gonna give it to ya every way you want it. You talk on the phone until all hours about anything and everything!!

Now knowing that sex is better with feelings involved, WHY would you all of a sudden decide you need to "breathe" and not call or text for several days with no explanation after you have been calling and texting every single day?!?

That's a clear clue to a woman that she's meaningless....

That is NOT conducive to making pannies drop....when a woman feels worthless....especially if she has been honest about her past and her trust issues....

May I see a picture?

Hmm... I can relate to this feeling of needing time and space to breathe. If I start to feel more than a boner I usually tend to back off a bit, out of fear (of being hurt?). If things start to develop really quickly I also need time to think about every step I make, in order to not hurt anyone in the process (her, myself).

So, either this guy is more sensitive than most others and just tends to think more, or he has erection problems, or he is a fool and doesn't know what's good, or, like Hotness Erin said, he just might not be that much into you.

LOL!

Yeah, it's me.

Yeah, he's not that into me. Other than the fact he pursued the hell out of me. It's long distance, I can understand being guarded...don't worry y'all, I got this under control

Yeah, he's sensitive and was doing dumb male shit, but it was addressed and corrected, we good! I can't stand men all up in me either, but at least communicate your need to breathe. Now he know!

Men are hella complicated!! For no reason

BklynBabe said:

Okay guys. You meet a woman. She's everything you ever wanted!! She's good looking, she's got big natural tits, she makes her own money, she's smart, she's funny, and she wants sex 24-7-365 and she's gonna give it to ya every way you want it. You talk on the phone until all hours about anything and everything!!

Now knowing that sex is better with feelings involved, WHY would you all of a sudden decide you need to "breathe" and not call or text for several days with no explanation after you have been calling and texting every single day?!?

That's a clear clue to a woman that she's meaningless....

That is NOT conducive to making pannies drop....when a woman feels worthless....especially if she has been honest about her past and her trust issues....

Maybe he found out that you post on a Prince fan site!

jone70 said:

BklynBabe said:

Okay guys. You meet a woman. She's everything you ever wanted!! She's good looking, she's got big natural tits, she makes her own money, she's smart, she's funny, and she wants sex 24-7-365 and she's gonna give it to ya every way you want it. You talk on the phone until all hours about anything and everything!!

Now knowing that sex is better with feelings involved, WHY would you all of a sudden decide you need to "breathe" and not call or text for several days with no explanation after you have been calling and texting every single day?!?

That's a clear clue to a woman that she's meaningless....

That is NOT conducive to making pannies drop....when a woman feels worthless....especially if she has been honest about her past and her trust issues....

Maybe he found out that you post on a Prince fan site!

Like this place is the worst place I post on LOL.....

Me have this nasty habit of saying they want strong, smart, sexual women and then can't handle it when they step to one, that's all.

JustErin you should know ALL about that!!

personally i think i'd need some time out to breathe as well. if it were me.

BklynBabe said:

jone70 said:

Maybe he found out that you post on a Prince fan site!

Like this place is the worst place I post on LOL.....

Me have this nasty habit of saying they want strong, smart, sexual women and then can't handle it when they step to one, that's all.

JustErin you should know ALL about that!!

I think a lot of men like that kind of woman if it's not a serious relationship. But if they want a mama for their kids, that's not what they want.

Ya know....the whole Madonna/Whore complex.

JustErin said:

BklynBabe said:

Like this place is the worst place I post on LOL.....

Me have this nasty habit of saying they want strong, smart, sexual women and then can't handle it when they step to one, that's all.

JustErin you should know ALL about that!!

I think a lot of men like that kind of woman if it's not a serious relationship. But if they want a mama for their kids, that's not what they want.

Ya know....the whole Madonna/Whore complex.

Exactly!

Well seeing as I've had a hysterectomy, it's not like I can be a mother.....so might as well be the Whore, lol.

KatSkrizzle said:

BklynBabe said:

Okay guys. You meet a woman. She's everything you ever wanted!! She's good looking, she's got big natural tits, she makes her own money, she's smart, she's funny, and she wants sex 24-7-365 and she's gonna give it to ya every way you want it. You talk on the phone until all hours about anything and everything!!

Now knowing that sex is better with feelings involved, WHY would you all of a sudden decide you need to "breathe" and not call or text for several days with no explanation after you have been calling and texting every single day?!?

That's a clear clue to a woman that she's meaningless....

That is NOT conducive to making pannies drop....when a woman feels worthless....especially if she has been honest about her past and her trust issues....

See "side piece" thread....it may help to explain things.....

Also, the "she's everything you ever wanted" is false. A dude wouldn't diss the chick who is everything he ever wanted unless all he wanted was to hit it and quit it.

HotGritz said:

KatSkrizzle said:

See "side piece" thread....it may help to explain things.....

Also, the "she's everything you ever wanted" is false. A dude wouldn't diss the chick who is everything he ever wanted unless all he wanted was to hit it and quit it.

My bad! She's everything you said you wanted, how about that? LOL, I see y'all trying to go h.a.m.

He was calling and texting ME every day and decided he needed air, unfortunately he didn't tell me that and since we are 500 miles apart, I was like WTF?? Since I couldn't verify if he was okay or not. It wasn't really even that dire. In fact I was more being tongue in cheek about the WTF is wrong with women thread.....as in men have issues too!

He's 500 miles away, he ain't got to the pannies.....yet

If you were already talking every day and then he disappears with no response at all for days, then that’s pretty telling. Sorry to say.

I will say, early on in my relationship with my bf now he would occasionally be out of communication for up to 2 days at a time, but that was fairly normal for him. I should say, he’d respond to direct phone calls and texts, but if I’d email him a question it might take him a day or two to answer and I’d get LIVID about it (and purposely not pester in between). Eventually we had a conversation about our expectations around that kinda thing and all has been fine ever since. It was always either cause he was just busy and forgot to respond (no big deal) or once or twice he was freaking out about us getting closer and how to handle that. Boys are sometimes scared when it comes to that kinda thing.

let's be clear, I ain't sweating no dude to the point he feels he needs air. I can't even tolerate that type of behavior myself. However, men do have a way of neglecting their communication skills in ways that irk women when it comes to important information. If he felt he was overwhelming me, he should have asked me or told me he was gonna back it up....not go h.a.m. with the talks and texts and then suddenly flip the script. That's just basic morals and common sense. Plus it put doubts in my head and interrupted the whole flow lol.

BklynBabe said:

let's be clear, I ain't sweating no dude to the point he feels he needs air. I can't even tolerate that type of behavior myself. However, men do have a way of neglecting their communication skills in ways that irk women when it comes to important information. If he felt he was overwhelming me, he should have asked me or told me he was gonna back it up....not go h.a.m. with the talks and texts and then suddenly flip the script. That's just basic morals and common sense. Plus it put doubts in my head and interrupted the whole flow lol.

Yeah, it didn’t sound like you were hounding him. It’s just totally disconcerting to have a pattern established and for someone to just drop out altogether.

It’s always interesting to see how your communication expectations line up.

CarrieMpls said:

If you were already talking every day and then he disappears with no response at all for days, then that’s pretty telling. Sorry to say.

I will say, early on in my relationship with my bf now he would occasionally be out of communication for up to 2 days at a time, but that was fairly normal for him. I should say, he’d respond to direct phone calls and texts, but if I’d email him a question it might take him a day or two to answer and I’d get LIVID about it (and purposely not pester in between). Eventually we had a conversation about our expectations around that kinda thing and all has been fine ever since. It was always either cause he was just busy and forgot to respond (no big deal) or once or twice he was freaking out about us getting closer and how to handle that. Boys are sometimes scared when it comes to that kinda thing.

We are communicating again, at a reduced pace. I'm not sweating it. It is what it is.

He's actually very adaptable, once I explain what my problem is with his behavior....

And that's a good thing! It's not like I'm really trying to pursue or anything, just trying to figure out where his head is at.

BklynBabe said:

BklynBabe said:

CarrieMpls said:

If you were already talking every day and then he disappears with no response at all for days, then that’s pretty telling. Sorry to say.

I will say, early on in my relationship with my bf now he would occasionally be out of communication for up to 2 days at a time, but that was fairly normal for him. I should say, he’d respond to direct phone calls and texts, but if I’d email him a question it might take him a day or two to answer and I’d get LIVID about it (and purposely not pester in between). Eventually we had a conversation about our expectations around that kinda thing and all has been fine ever since. It was always either cause he was just busy and forgot to respond (no big deal) or once or twice he was freaking out about us getting closer and how to handle that. Boys are sometimes scared when it comes to that kinda thing.

We are communicating again, at a reduced pace. I'm not sweating it. It is what it is.

He's actually very adaptable, once I explain what my problem is with his behavior....

And that's a good thing! It's not like I'm really trying to pursue or anything, just trying to figure out where his head is at.

ah - gotcha.

and whew.

CarrieMpls said:

BklynBabe said:

let's be clear, I ain't sweating no dude to the point he feels he needs air. I can't even tolerate that type of behavior myself. However, men do have a way of neglecting their communication skills in ways that irk women when it comes to important information. If he felt he was overwhelming me, he should have asked me or told me he was gonna back it up....not go h.a.m. with the talks and texts and then suddenly flip the script. That's just basic morals and common sense. Plus it put doubts in my head and interrupted the whole flow lol.

Yeah, it didn’t sound like you were hounding him. It’s just totally disconcerting to have a pattern established and for someone to just drop out altogether.

It’s always interesting to see how your communication expectations line up.

Exactly! It was just weird for it to be like that, and then nothing. At first, of course, I'm like, is he giving me the brush off?? But I didn't bug him at all. Actually I was good until I started tripping, thinking dude could get hit by a bus and how the hell would I ever know?!? That was really my biggest issue about it. Then I let him know that wasn't really smart behavior on his end. He understood. A bit...

You have to establish how you allow people to treat you. If he can't get some ackrite, he'll get cut off and I will move on to the next one, it is not that dire.