This is intended for only the straightest men and women, please.

No bis or bi-curious, or bi-centinial or whatever. Just straight as hell....

Question:

Have you ever been suspected of being queer (bi, gay, bi-curious)?

Can you describe the situation?

No.

Yes.

JowiiCoco said:

I went to an exclusive lounge thingy with my gay friend. You know, they kind of place where you have to be on a list or know the right people or whatever. Pretentious bullshit....anyway, my friend knows this chick who knows a guy who works there. He's gay too and he knows my friend, but he never met my friend's bf. So when he saw me he kissed me (straight guys don't kiss over here). He assumed I was the bf. So I guess he thought I was gay. So the answer is no, but after two short answers like that this thread would definitely fail.

Thanks for taking the grenade, Joey

NO , but i have a straight: male friend who is always being mistaken for gay.When he started his last job every one there thought he was gay before they got to know him. we are close friends and i have known him for 7 years . Hes even had gay men come on to him on a few occassions. We laugh about it but we cant figure out why

No.

Alej said:

Yes.

me 2... all the time

no

Yes, a few times. I think a former friend of mine must've always thought I was bi as around the time the death knell was sounding around our friendship he wrote a message to his wife who he was then separated from saying he knew I was a 'bisexual fag' (and for good measure, that I and my wife, who is/was actually bisexual, are basically a menace and shouldn't be around his children - presumably including the one he was at that time shunning as not being his ).

Anyway, I digress. On a few occasions my wife has half-jokingly (only half, mind) questioned my sexuality.

Online several times people have assumed I'm bi or gay. I find it perplexing given my totally macho username.

Fauxie said:

Yes, a few times. I think a former friend of mine must've always thought I was bi as around the time the death knell was sounding around our friendship he wrote a message to his wife who he was then separated from saying he knew I was a 'bisexual fag' (and for good measure, that I and my wife, who is/was actually bisexual, are basically a menace and shouldn't be around his children - presumably including the one he was at that time shunning as not being his ).

Anyway, I digress. On a few occasions my wife has half-jokingly (only half, mind) questioned my sexuality.

Online several times people have assumed I'm bi or gay. I find it perplexing given my totally macho username.

and the kitten avatar

I have never mistaken you for gay or bi, I know that you are English.

imago said:

JowiiCoco said:

I went to an exclusive lounge thingy with my gay friend. You know, they kind of place where you have to be on a list or know the right people or whatever. Pretentious bullshit....anyway, my friend knows this chick who knows a guy who works there. He's gay too and he knows my friend, but he never met my friend's bf. So when he saw me he kissed me (straight guys don't kiss over here). He assumed I was the bf. So I guess he thought I was gay. So the answer is no, but after two short answers like that this thread would definitely fail.

Thanks for taking the grenade, Joey

One day if, God forbid, one of my threads has a slow start I expect a pity post from you, sir.

Fauxie said:

Yes, a few times. I think a former friend of mine must've always thought I was bi as around the time the death knell was sounding around our friendship he wrote a message to his wife who he was then separated from saying he knew I was a 'bisexual fag' (and for good measure, that I and my wife, who is/was actually bisexual, are basically a menace and shouldn't be around his children - presumably including the one he was at that time shunning as not being his ).

Anyway, I digress. On a few occasions my wife has half-jokingly (only half, mind) questioned my sexuality.

Online several times people have assumed I'm bi or gay. I find it perplexing given my totally macho username.

Yes I assumed you were gay but i'm pretty sure its to do with the kitten picture and the name and the fact you have some fawning female orgers around you "awww fauxie" type stuff which women only usually say to gay men as for a straight guy that would be seen as a come on lol

Yes.

I'm naturally somewhat effeminate, but I enjoy embracing that and even playing it up, Prince-style sometimes, and I'm secure enough in my sexuality to do that and not give a fuck what anyone else thinks.

I can't really think of a good example, but I'm almost positive that some people probably think I'm at least bi.

JowiiCoco said:

imago said:

Thanks for taking the grenade, Joey

One day if, God forbid, one of my threads has a slow start I expect a pity post from you, sir.

It's a deal.

Eye work in a place that is 99% women!!!!!Everyboby thinks im gay!!!!My mother used 2 work there2 & was always telling me how many people had asked her if her son was gay????Since ive nailed most of the bimbos there the gay suspicions have stopped!!!But every now & again someone will ask me "Dave r u gay?"Im always tempted 2 reply like prince "No r u" but i simply reply leave me in a locked room with ur 19 year old daughter & u will get ur answer!!!!

When I was in high school a friend told me she thought I was a lesbian up until I started dating my boyfriend senior year. When I asked why she thought that, she said cause I never dated anyone and whenever she'd talk about the boys she thought were cute I never agreed.

I found it hilarious and told her I was simply shy with boys (still am) and just didn't have the same taste as she did.

And a few years out of high school rumors floated back to me that "everyone" in my home town thought I was bisexual, 'cause I was spotted at pride by someone who went back and told everyone that. I was just there celebrating my friends.

I don't think anything of it, really. People can think what they want.

Yes, I have a couple times It's mostly because I've always been pretty private about my love life and they thought I had something to hide

No.

imago said:

Question:

Have you ever been suspected of being queer (bi, gay, bi-curious)?

Can you describe the situation?

A couple of people have asked if I was gay, because I've never been married.

Yes, and I don't know why because I'm just as straight as an arrow.

(no)

uPtoWnNY said:

imago said:

Question:

Have you ever been suspected of being queer (bi, gay, bi-curious)?

Can you describe the situation?

A couple of people have asked if I was gay, because I've never been married.

That just makes u SMART.

Graycap23 said:

uPtoWnNY said:

A couple of people have asked if I was gay, because I've never been married.

That just makes u SMART.

Graycap23 said:

uPtoWnNY said:

A couple of people have asked if I was gay, because I've never been married.

That just makes u SMART.

.......and very wise!

Shanti0608 said:

Fauxie said:

Yes, a few times. I think a former friend of mine must've always thought I was bi as around the time the death knell was sounding around our friendship he wrote a message to his wife who he was then separated from saying he knew I was a 'bisexual fag' (and for good measure, that I and my wife, who is/was actually bisexual, are basically a menace and shouldn't be around his children - presumably including the one he was at that time shunning as not being his ).

Anyway, I digress. On a few occasions my wife has half-jokingly (only half, mind) questioned my sexuality.

Online several times people have assumed I'm bi or gay. I find it perplexing given my totally macho username.

and the kitten avatar

I have never mistaken you for gay or bi, I know that you are English.

A couple of times when I was in highschool and it was supposedly because I didn't have a boyfriend, thought all the boys were skank and ugly, and I wore doc martins. I love, love, love doc martins and they are very fem looking boots to me and I never got the whole lesbo stigma with those shoes.

Once during my adulthood by some immigrant/ignorant s.o.b. coworker who assumed any American woman that wasn't married with kids by age 25 and no plans to do so was either a prostitute or a lesbo. So I guess he thought i was one or the other. Of course, kissing my gal friend at a NYE party in front of him probably didn't help but I was mad drunk at the time so fuck him.

Hey Imago - you ought to start a thread HAVE YOU EVER BEEN MISTAKEN FOR A PROSTITUTE!!!!

Shiit that's happened to me more times than I care to share.

imago said:

JowiiCoco said:

One day if, God forbid, one of my threads has a slow start I expect a pity post from you, sir.

It's a deal.

You've built a whole org career based on a handful of similar such agreements of reciprocation.

Whereas my threads succeed on pure merit.

well.. sorta..

in my early 20s, when one of my friends came out to our little clique @ work, she invited some of us to her new world so she took us to a lesbian club in Manhattan [somewhere in the W. 30s] one night.

I was the only straight girl in the group (and very "femme" according to her; miniskirt, heels, the whole girly-girl nine.. [I used to take her shopping with me when I wanted something cute/sexy; I knew if she liked it, whatever guy I was dating would like it.. ]) so she suggested that the only straight guy going pretend to be my "boyfriend" in case anyone tried to pick me up.

A couple of girls did try, and I politely turned them down & pointed to my "bf" (I guess in the '90s if one's arse was in a gay bar, it was safe to assume one was gay..?)

After the 3rd attempt, we started making out..

and we dated for a while after that (I had had a crush on him for a while, but didn't know he liked me, too.. )

another time... I don't know if she thought I was a lesbian -- or, more accurately, I doubt she cared whether or not I was straight -- but, a girl did grab my ass on the train once in Brooklyn

at first she made me nervous b/c I thought she was in a gang - kind of pretty... slim, but she had hard, well-toned arms.. she was wearing a white sleeveless undershirt/tank thing and a blue bandana folded over into a narrow band & wrapped around her forehead, blue jeans and heavy black boots.. she was a few inches taller than me (as most ppl are.. ) and she looked like she could kick ass, if she had/wanted to..

she got on the train an accidentally stepped on my foot. she half turned to say "Sorry.." and I guess she liked what she saw in her glance (stretch jeans, heels and a low-cut V-neck top), so she turned to lean on the door and looked me up & down the whole time like I was a piece of meat --like creepy old men do!

I blushed very easily in those days and I think she had a lot of fun with that.. When my stop came 2 stops later, I mumbled "Excuse me," and went around/past her out the subway doors.. that's when she grabbed my butt.. I turned and looked at her--I'm sure my jaw fell open--and she had the biggest frickin' grin on her face! I turned back around and quickly walked toward the exit..

TheFreakerFantastic said:

Fauxie said:

Yes, a few times. I think a former friend of mine must've always thought I was bi as around the time the death knell was sounding around our friendship he wrote a message to his wife who he was then separated from saying he knew I was a 'bisexual fag' (and for good measure, that I and my wife, who is/was actually bisexual, are basically a menace and shouldn't be around his children - presumably including the one he was at that time shunning as not being his ).

Anyway, I digress. On a few occasions my wife has half-jokingly (only half, mind) questioned my sexuality.

Online several times people have assumed I'm bi or gay. I find it perplexing given my totally macho username.

Yes I assumed you were gay but i'm pretty sure its to do with the kitten picture and the name and the fact you have some fawning female orgers around you "awww fauxie" type stuff which women only usually say to gay men as for a straight guy that would be seen as a come on lol

@ "awww fauxie" type stuff

I always hoped it's because I'm a nice guy and sure I do interact with online and spend most time in real life around women.

I'm unthreatening. I like that though. Women can be friends with me without complications (I'd like to think), which would suggest I'm being a devoted husband and doing what I should. Well done me.

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[Edited 6/20/11 16:07pm]