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Thread started 05/22/11 6:46am

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People.com Editor Reveals She Was Born A Boy

People.com Editor Shares Her Story: “I Was Born A Boy”

On the surface, Janet Mock is a pretty, vivacious 28-year-old who seems like she’s got a good head on her shoulders. Born and raised in Honolulu, Janet went on to receive a full-ride scholarship to the University of Hawaii at Manoa. She continued her education, going on to receive a Master’s Degree from New York University, and accepted a job as the Associate Editor for PEOPLE.com. She currently is living her dream, residing in New York with her boyfriend whom she claims she’s completely in love with.

Her story sounds very normal, not unlike thousands of others. The only difference is, Janet was born male. She lived as Charles for the first 18 years of her life, until she took a trip to Bangkok where she risked her life and put her future in the hands of a Thai surgeon who completed her gender reassignment surgery.

Janet recently opened up to Marie Claire about her transition and the obstacles she faced as both a child and adult. She’s also written about her first experiences with make-up, how her first best friend was the female version of herself, what it was like to go through two puberties and how she hopes sharing her story will help others that are struggling with gender identity.

She writes on her website:

“As puberty began to hit in middle school, my body began to change, betraying Janet. It was difficult living in a body that did not reflect me at my best self, and it became the central drama of my first 18 years.

During the eighth grade, I began incorporating cosmetics (Lipsmackers, Wet N Wild eyeliner, CoverGirl compacts) into my beauty regimen. I was teased, taunted and targeted for this gender variance, but my accomplishments and involvement in school soon overshadowed my non-conformity. By freshman year, I was dressing as my female self and was soon known as Janet through the halls of my high school in Kalihi, a tough part of Honolulu..

But writing about famous people only allowed me to express a minutiae of my talents. My wakeup call to a higher purpose came in the fall of 2010. It was apparent that being different (whether you were gay or transgender, overweight or rail-thin, dark or albino) was a matter of life or death. I knew that writing my memoir Fish Food in silence was no longer an option. I had to speak up.”

She reflected on her interview with Marie Claire, saying:

“After a lot of hard work, planning and sacrifice, 18-year-old Janet traveled across the world, where at the hands of a Thai surgeon, I united my body to my soul, and finally became the physical embodiment of the woman of my dreams.

The majority of transwomen and transmen have to endure two puberties: their biological one and the corrective one they know is absolutely necessary in order to go on. I did not go through this. Gratefully, with the support of my family, I was able to experience my transition as my peers in school were also going through their physiological changes in puberty.

But I do wish I could change one thing in the piece: the term “boy” which is used a few times. Overall I’m fine with it because technically I was a “boy,” but two instances still don’t feel right. The first instance proclaims, “Until she was 18, Janet was a boy,” and then it goes on to say, “I even found other boys like me there…” Though I did not write the article, it is written in my voice from a four-hour interview and follow-up correspondences. But the surgery did not make me a girl. The surgery just got rid of my male parts. I was always a girl.

Being female was my one and only conviction.”

Janet’s memoir, Fish Food, hit shelves soon.



Courtesy of NecoleBitchie.com

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Reply #1 posted 05/22/11 10:12am

Timmy84

Stories like this touch me. touched

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Reply #2 posted 05/22/11 1:51pm

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Good for her! thumbs up!

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Reply #3 posted 05/22/11 2:31pm

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Great story!

She's gorgeous. love

It's what you make it.
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Reply #4 posted 05/22/11 2:37pm

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Going to Thailand for such an intensive surgery sounds so scary to me.

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Reply #6 posted 05/22/11 3:57pm

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I'd say the broad nose, wide mouth and long face were a give away,but theres so many female celerities who have masculine features and are considered 'beautiful' by some..so this doesn't shock me

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Reply #7 posted 05/22/11 4:16pm

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I actually find it troubling that people cannot live in their skin and are compelled to shallow "cosmetic" changes. Changes that are for all intents and purposes just a way of following silly and contemporary standards of femininity/masculinity.

I am not trying to put anyone down, I just find it troubling and feel it's also a borderline mental disorder in the same sense as gambling addition where one turns something into an unhealthy compulsion/obsession.

Being gay is one thing, even natural, but I think something like this is a compulsitory affliction unlike homosexuality.

If she is happy fine, that's what life is all about, but I still find it as troubling as anything us humans can come up with.



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V10LETBLUES said:

I actually find it troubling that people cannot live in their skin and are compelled to shallow "cosmetic" changes. Changes that are for all intents and purposes just a way of following silly and contemporary standards of femininity/masculinity.

I am not trying to put anyone down, I just find it troubling and feel it's also a borderline mental disorder in the same sense as gambling addition where one turns something into an unhealthy compulsion/obsession.

Being gay is one thing, even natural, but I think something like this is a compulsitory affliction unlike homosexuality.

If she is happy fine, that's what life is all about, but I still find it as troubling as anything us humans can come up with.



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I truly fail to see how GENDER REASSIGNMENT SURGERY could even vaguely be perceived as cosmetic.

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Reply #9 posted 05/22/11 6:30pm

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Zinzi said:

I'd say the broad nose, wide mouth and long face were a give away,but theres so many female celerities who have masculine features and are considered 'beautiful' by some..so this doesn't shock me

http://cdn.necolebitchie....mock-3.jpg

That looks like a man to you?

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Reply #10 posted 05/22/11 6:56pm

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@ VioletBlues... It's one thing if you are unfamiliar with transgendered people but calling her reassignment surgery "shallow" and "cosmetic" is a bit ignorant.

She was always a girl....her outsides just didn't match her insides. Now they do. It's easy to judge when you haven't walked in another's shoes but try to imagine what it feels like for a little boy who feels every bit like a girl but is too young to understand why her outsides don't look like what she really is inside. She just knows she is a girl. It has nothing to do with being gay or straight.

In the case of a girl who is trapped in the body of a boy....like Chaz Bono the former daughter now... the son of Cher... would you still think the surgeries were shallow or cosmetic?

She didn't get those surgeries just for the fun of it.

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Reply #11 posted 05/22/11 6:59pm

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lavender1983 said:

@ VioletBlues... It's one thing if you are unfamiliar with transgendered people but calling her reassignment surgery "shallow" and "cosmetic" is a bit ignorant.

She was always a girl....her outsides just didn't match her insides. Now they do. It's easy to judge when you haven't walked in another's shoes but try to imagine what it feels like for a little boy who feels every bit like a girl but is too young to understand why her outsides don't look like what she really is inside. She just knows she is a girl. It has nothing to do with being gay or straight.

In the case of a girl who is trapped in the body of a boy....like Chaz Bono the former daughter now... the son of Cher... would you still think the surgeries were shallow or cosmetic?

She didn't get those surgeries just for the fun of it.

Exactly.

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lavender1983 said:

@ VioletBlues... It's one thing if you are unfamiliar with transgendered people but calling her reassignment surgery "shallow" and "cosmetic" is a bit ignorant.

She was always a girl....her outsides just didn't match her insides. Now they do. It's easy to judge when you haven't walked in another's shoes but try to imagine what it feels like for a little boy who feels every bit like a girl but is too young to understand why her outsides don't look like what she really is inside. She just knows she is a girl. It has nothing to do with being gay or straight.

In the case of a girl who is trapped in the body of a boy....like Chaz Bono the former daughter now... the son of Cher... would you still think the surgeries were shallow or cosmetic?

She didn't get those surgeries just for the fun of it.

Please don't throw around words like ignorant when you seem to wear that word as badge. If you have an opinion fine, I respect that, but don't pretend you speak facts.

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Reply #13 posted 05/22/11 7:23pm

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V10LETBLUES said:

I actually find it troubling that people cannot live in their skin and are compelled to shallow "cosmetic" changes. Changes that are for all intents and purposes just a way of following silly and contemporary standards of femininity/masculinity.

I am not trying to put anyone down, I just find it troubling and feel it's also a borderline mental disorder in the same sense as gambling addition where one turns something into an unhealthy compulsion/obsession.

Being gay is one thing, even natural, but I think something like this is a compulsitory affliction unlike homosexuality.

If she is happy fine, that's what life is all about, but I still find it as troubling as anything us humans can come up with.



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The bolded statements are ignorant....sorry. I'm not saying it as an insult..they just are.

I have tried to explain in layman terms what exactly transgendered people are all about.....and if your beliefs are that transgendered people don't exist and that it's "all in their heads" then that's on you and that's your opinion...but all I said in my last statement are facts.

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Reply #14 posted 05/22/11 7:24pm

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she looked like a girl even in her kid photo

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Reply #15 posted 05/22/11 7:42pm

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V10LETBLUES said:

I actually find it troubling that people cannot live in their skin and are compelled to shallow "cosmetic" changes. Changes that are for all intents and purposes just a way of following silly and contemporary standards of femininity/masculinity.

I am not trying to put anyone down, I just find it troubling and feel it's also a borderline mental disorder in the same sense as gambling addition where one turns something into an unhealthy compulsion/obsession.

Being gay is one thing, even natural, but I think something like this is a compulsitory affliction unlike homosexuality.

If she is happy fine, that's what life is all about, but I still find it as troubling as anything us humans can come up with.



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The bolded statements are ignorant....sorry. I'm not saying it as an insult..they just are.

I have tried to explain in layman terms what exactly transgendered people are all about.....and if your beliefs are that transgendered people don't exist and that it's "all in their heads" then that's on you and that's your opinion...but all I said in my last statement are facts.

Okay, I can see this will go nowhere with you, but it's about YOUR beliefs not mine. And certainly not about facts.

Sure you can believe to be whatever you want, and label yourself as whatever you want, that's true, but research on gender identity is relatively new to psychology and scientific understanding of it and related issues is still in its infancy, we do not have enough research to classify this as a fact or anything else other than as a gender identity disorder.

Anyway believe what you want, doesn't seem like facts aren't going to dissuade you anyhow.

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Reply #17 posted 05/22/11 7:57pm

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It's all good VioletBlues...we could just agree to disagree.

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Reply #18 posted 05/22/11 8:01pm

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Wow, she's a brave woman. Good for her. I'm glad everything worked out well for her and that she's now giving back by way of offerering hope and inspiration.

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Reply #19 posted 05/22/11 8:50pm

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WOW..... she looks amazing.

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Reply #20 posted 05/23/11 1:25am

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V10LETBLUES said:

lavender1983 said:

The bolded statements are ignorant....sorry. I'm not saying it as an insult..they just are.

I have tried to explain in layman terms what exactly transgendered people are all about.....and if your beliefs are that transgendered people don't exist and that it's "all in their heads" then that's on you and that's your opinion...but all I said in my last statement are facts.

Okay, I can see this will go nowhere with you, but it's about YOUR beliefs not mine. And certainly not about facts.

Sure you can believe to be whatever you want, and label yourself as whatever you want, that's true, but research on gender identity is relatively new to psychology and scientific understanding of it and related issues is still in its infancy, we do not have enough research to classify this as a fact or anything else other than as a gender identity disorder.

Anyway believe what you want, doesn't seem like facts aren't going to dissuade you anyhow.

I don't entirely disagree with your views on this issue VIOLETBLUES (although I suppose there could be different ways to express yourself). I think the psychopathological aspect of the identity issues involved in these cases should be taken seriously. I don't think those can be overlooked and should be discussed as well. What I've bolded out from your comments just reflects an aspect of contemporary thinking that scares me personally.

Just because there isn't enough research done on the issue it must be classified as a disorder?

That's just assbackwards.

If there isn't enough information available then you should reserve judgement. Seeing the words "identity" and "disorder" being lumped together in one single definition should be alarming enough from the outset. I don't state that simply due to political correctness, but because most people are bound to rationalize their views with all kinds of horsehit when those two words appear together. In one way or another.

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Reply #21 posted 05/23/11 1:32am

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She looks fantastic.

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Reply #22 posted 05/23/11 4:48am

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I am happy for her.

Now, she needs to work on her writing - it reads like she swallowed a thesaurus. disbelief

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Reply #23 posted 05/23/11 4:55am

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Very pretty and brave lady

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Reply #24 posted 05/23/11 5:31am

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Thanks great story Bevbev.

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Genesia said:

I am happy for her.

Now, she needs to work on her writing - it reads like she swallowed a thesaurus. disbelief

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Reply #26 posted 05/23/11 8:05am

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Awesome article! Gorgeous and smart.

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Reply #27 posted 05/23/11 8:10am

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Interesting...............I guess u just never know.

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"... But the surgery did not make me a girl. The surgery just got rid of my male parts. I was always a girl. Being female was my one and only conviction.”

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Reply #29 posted 05/23/11 8:28am

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Good for her! Count me in as one who has never understood this whole concept though. Isn't she just reinforcing gender/sex stereotypes? Because she identified with "girly" things she felt she needed to have tits and a vagina? Why can't you like girly things and have a dick? It's like Chaz Bono cutting off his tits because he always liked to play with boys toys. I don't quite get this kind of logic.

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