Hey everyone

I've been in a relationship for 6 monthes and It's over for 8 monthes now.

Well, I'm still in love. Do anyone have tips to make me feel better ?

When I really suffer, I take a bath and go strollin'. I've tried other relationships but I can't get in, or I miss him so much I can't even breathe.

All I write lately is shit.

All I can draw is quite the same.

How long do thins can take to get over it ?

Thanks for your advises.

virginie74 said:

Hey everyone

I've been in a relationship for 6 monthes and It's over for 8 monthes now.

Well, I'm still in love. Do anyone have tips to make me feel better ?

When I really suffer, I take a bath and go strollin'. I've tried other relationships but I can't get in, or I miss him so much I can't even breathe.

All I write lately is shit.

All I can draw is quite the same.

How long do thins can take to get over it ?

Thanks for your advises.

Go shopping lots.

See friends lots.

Just get out, live your life and have fun.

Don't dwell on the past, it's done now. There's a whole life ahead of you.

Lisa10 said:

virginie74 said:

Hey everyone

I've been in a relationship for 6 monthes and It's over for 8 monthes now.

Well, I'm still in love. Do anyone have tips to make me feel better ?

When I really suffer, I take a bath and go strollin'. I've tried other relationships but I can't get in, or I miss him so much I can't even breathe.

All I write lately is shit.

All I can draw is quite the same.

How long do thins can take to get over it ?

Thanks for your advises.

Go shopping lots.

See friends lots.

Just get out, live your life and have fun.

Don't dwell on the past, it's done now. There's a whole life ahead of you.

Thanks a lot Lisa, that's what I keep on doing. But it hits me anytime.

I'm sorry to hear it

I know everyone will jump on me and say you need time to work through your issues, but my motto was always "nothing like a new love to get over an old one" I've always done it that way!

I'm married to a rebound guy

The important thing to remember is...Love yourself, til everyone else does too.

I learned that from this little incredibly fine and talented guy, that's ended up being the biggest asshole, I eventually had the displeasure of encountering.

Even so...I still know that he made a point, I'll never forget nor regret!

First of all avoid listening to Adore or Insatiable... they suck in this situation!!!!!!

go out with some friends, get a book that is so interesting it will help u forget, even plan a lill holiday

but remember this if he comes back to u it will never be the same, that time u had together is gone!

ZombieKitten said:

I'm sorry to hear it

I know everyone will jump on me and say you need time to work through your issues, but my motto was always "nothing like a new love to get over an old one" I've always done it that way!

I'm married to a rebound guy

Thanks for the hug ! I really need some...

I've been seeing others guys but can't help comparing... I'm still going out and meet new people, who knows

HatrinaHaterwitz said:

The important thing to remember is...Love yourself, til everyone else does too.

I learned that from this little incredibly fine and talented guy, that's ended up being the biggest asshole, I eventually had the displeasure of encountering.

Even so...I still know that he made a point, I'll never forget nor regret!

yeah I love myself, and I'm surrounded by good friends, it helps a lot.

Yet, for the first time o'my life, I do have regrets.

physco185 said:

First of all avoid listening to Adore or Insatiable... they suck in this situation!!!!!!

go out with some friends, get a book that is so interesting it will help u forget, even plan a lill holiday

but remember this if he comes back to u it will never be the same, that time u had together is gone!

Sadly true.

virginie74 said:

ZombieKitten said:

I'm sorry to hear it

I know everyone will jump on me and say you need time to work through your issues, but my motto was always "nothing like a new love to get over an old one" I've always done it that way!

I'm married to a rebound guy

Thanks for the hug ! I really need some...

I've been seeing others guys but can't help comparing... I'm still going out and meet new people, who knows

actually, now that I think of it 2 of my rebound guys have been better than the one I was getting over and I loved them much more

You'll find someone, a gorgeous girl like you!

virginie74 said:

physco185 said:

First of all avoid listening to Adore or Insatiable... they suck in this situation!!!!!!

go out with some friends, get a book that is so interesting it will help u forget, even plan a lill holiday

but remember this if he comes back to u it will never be the same, that time u had together is gone!

Sadly true.

one more thing.... do not over induldge in food...... no man is worth getting fat over

physco185 said:

virginie74 said:

Sadly true.

one more thing.... do not over induldge in food...... no man is worth getting fat over

One more thing : do u think I should avoid seeing him again ? Cuz it seems like the more I do and the more I suffer....

virginie74 said:

One more thing : do u think I should avoid seeing him again ? Cuz it seems like the more I do and the more I suffer....

if he wants to see u see him... if he doesnt - dont bother!!!! but let him ask, dont u ask him, cause he'll just say 'No Thanks" - and that is very very painful

He still wants to see me.

ZombieKitten said:

virginie74 said:

He still wants to see me.

if he wants 2 c u ... its not over!

u may need to talk to him, and work some issues out.... only if that is what u want, if not then move on, and tell him

Serious said:

ZombieKitten said:

I'm sorry to hear it

I know everyone will jump on me and say you need time to work through your issues, but my motto was always "nothing like a new love to get over an old one" I've always done it that way!

I'm married to a rebound guy

I am very sorry too. On one hand I totally understand that when you are heart-broken the last thing on your mind is to find somebody new. On the other hand it sure is the best thing to get over it if you are loved by somebody again. Even though in a new relationship you have to deal with the burden of not solved issues then if you enter into a new relationship quick. But that can be overcome easier than the pain of being heart-broken IMO. Give yourself time to heal, but be open to not push anybody away if a new chance comes up. All the best to you .

Thanks Serious.

I've been very naughty since we're separated. No one compares. Love is hard to find, I'm very difficult, and I don't let people get intimate, even if I had many "lovers" since then. Yeah, it might take time.

physco185 said:

virginie74 said:

He still wants to see me.

if he wants 2 c u ... its not over!

u may need to talk to him, and work some issues out.... only if that is what u want, if not then move on, and tell him

I'd better not tell him anything and just move on.

But I caaaaaaaaaaannnnnnnn't !!!

A broken heart can mend. Especially when you find someone who can give you better sex.

Find yourself a better fucker. Someone who´s hardcore and who´s passionate about fucking.

I´m serious about this. And make sure he smells good, makes you laugh and is handsome. Just give it a few tries until you find the right one. Life is short, make the best of it. Don´t waste your time missing people who don´t seem to miss you that much. I know it is easier said than done but hey, it´s springtime and you should enjoy life to the max and have some physical fun and action and not waste your time reminiscing about mofos long gone. I mean, you can keep missing him but still have some fun, too. That´s what I did when I was in your situation a couple of years ago.

And listen to Alex and his advice.(Check out min. 2.32, sounds a bit like 17 Days )

Serious said:

ZombieKitten said:

I'm sorry to hear it

I know everyone will jump on me and say you need time to work through your issues, but my motto was always "nothing like a new love to get over an old one" I've always done it that way!

I'm married to a rebound guy

I am very sorry too. On one hand I totally understand that when you are heart-broken the last thing on your mind is to find somebody new. On the other hand it sure is the best thing to get over it if you are loved by somebody again. Even though in a new relationship you have to deal with the burden of not solved issues then if you enter into a new relationship quick. But that can be overcome easier than the pain of being heart-broken IMO. Give yourself time to heal, but be open to not push anybody away if a new chance comes up. All the best to you .

I wouldn't call myself heart-broken, but I noticed recently that's exactly what I'm doing. I kind of hate the thought of meeting someone with those tendencies, even some of my closest friends can't seem to understand it though. I want to solve everything I can solve regarding the past, because there are too many things left to say. I thought it doesn't matter anymore, but it seems I was wrong. Also, there aren't many things in my life that I feel are going in the right direction. Maybe when all these things change, I'll feel more open towards all that. Maybe not.

Anyway, best wishes to everyone, it's always hard to let go of someone you love. But if you love, that's really the only thing you can do, if they want to leave. I needed quite some time, but I managed to see the whole experience differently and start to appreciate it, because of all the things it taught me about love and about myself.

I was alone for a long time... it seems like when you are alone everyone else is in love.

Take time to reflect on you, particulary what your flaws are... work on those for youself. Try to achieve small achievements by fixing ALL your relationships with family, friends, and people who are important to you...

Why? Because in that very journey, you will better yourself naturally and become a better you...

a better you will attract a better partner for life.

This is what's laid out in the bible (its where I learned it in the story Jesus told about the woman with the issue of blood)

but I digress:

when women get anxious about finding love I always explain this example... then they usually re-focus and work on themselves and other people who they already are loving.... and time seems shorter and the days get easier, love is found in other ways and emotionally we as women (and men who do this) become more whole inside with just ourselves.

Then you feel a sense of freedom from the pressure of needing love in a romantic way so much, and the loneliness eases up helping you to be open for more love to come in.

I wish the best for you dear, here's to better days and much happiness.

Time is your best friend in this instance. In the meanwhile, try to keep busy with friends, and if it helps, and they will listen, talk to them about how you're feeling. And if you can, avoid seeing or talking to your old love. It just makes those wounds fester. Try and think of anything that you didn't like about him. Most of all, don't idolize him. Hang in there. It will get better.

virginie74 said:

He still wants to see me.

Men never totally leave unless you are a complete bitch... they always lurk closeby, to me that's evidence of being a good woman.

virginie74 said:

Thanks a lot Lisa, that's what I keep on doing. But it hits me anytime.

Time heals wounds. You're going to still think about him for a while. The only thing that's going to make things better is if you start seeing someone else to fill the void. Otherwise, it's going to hurt for a looooong while. And be grateful that you only dated him for 6 months and not 6 years! That would really be hard to get over.

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Shyra said:

Time is your best friend in this instance. In the meanwhile, try to keep busy with friends, and if it helps, and they will listen, talk to them about how you're feeling. And if you can, avoid seeing or talking to your old love. It just makes those wounds fester. Try and think of anything that you didn't like about him. Most of all, don't idolize him. Hang in there. It will get better.

Great advice right hurrr....

in a nutshell.

virginie74 said:

He still wants to see me.

Well then, be prepared to get your heart broken again and again and again.

Time heals the wounds, but then you have to cut off all contact.

Tremolina said:

virginie74 said:

He still wants to see me.

Well then, be prepared to get your heart broken again and again and again.

Time heals the wounds, but then you have to cut off all contact.

so true.. I made the same mistake myself and I hated myself for it after.

I tend to mend my broken hearts with lots of partying and going out!! It helps!!