Well, in my experience, I've done it once or twice. We usually end up as good friends.

But as of this moment, I never ever tell a guy that I actually like him. I'm very shy, so that doesn't help. And I'm afriad of what they'll say or do. I've been used before the last time I told a man I actually cared about him. And while I realize he's just one man, I've had trouble trusting ever since. But I'm working on it.

At this very moment, two men catch my fancy. One in particular I think we could have a very healthy friendship, and perhaps have more. Whenever I'm crushing on someone, I always drop hints. Like I dress somewhat provocatively, I act kindly to them, make them feel special, make them laugh. They always love being around me, always smiling, always happy. I figure if I show I care, they might notice. But it's like they never ever pick up on these things. And in the end, I always lose..

I'm used to a guy making the first move. I've been raised to believe that if he cares about you, he should do something. Well, I'm already doing everything I can to show I care, but no one notices. When you desperately love or care about somebody, you want them to say or even show that they care and love you back...and when they don't....you wonder....

What the fuck is the point? Why am I even trying?

But I do it anyway.

"What fools these mortals be.." as Puck said in a MidSummer Night's Dream.

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if you're going to do it, do it with self-respect and class and know how to protect yourself from unsafe situations

yes.... well sometimes

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I stared at a guy (to be honest I was looking at the girl next to him) until he said something to me

that is as far as I've gone, and it doesn't really count

alphastreet said:

if you're going to do it, do it with self-respect and class and know how to protect yourself from unsafe situations

I wouldn't do it with complete strangers, but if it's a friend of a friend or part of a social group you hang out in, where you can get a background check on someone, I say go for it

yeahthatsthe1 said:

That they are interested in, and start a conversation? It's a old fashioned rule that men should make the first move. What do you guys think?

As long as they're prepared to be shot down, I'd say 'Go for it!'.

No way

Women must sit in a corner waiting for a man to ask them to dance

I REFUSE to say ANYTHING to a woman/girl, even if I'm truly interested.

I'M THE ONE who stares, yes, but after that IT'S THEIR TURN.

"Girl, YOU KNOW that I WON'T say NO (I'm a male and I'm the one who's staring at you, after all, so it's pretty clear that I think you're hot/sexy ), but I'm not sure about what YOU think, so I'm the one who'll be waiting, staring at you for some minutes...if I see that you're not interested in me, I'll stop staring at you. Simple. I don't wanna waste my/your time...But I won't say shit UNLESS you're the one who starts the conversation".

no.

they should lay down.

no!! just give them the eyes.. if they're interested they'll approach YOU

BklynBabe said:

BTW men staring at me is creepy and in no way says to me you think I'm hot and want me to approach you! It makes me think do I need to call 911!

ha!

handsome, hot men (like me) staring at you is not creepy at all girl

and I'm not talking about staring like a psychopath, I'm talking about subtle (but clear) stares while dancing, one smile here, etc. shit like that...

JoeTyler said:

BklynBabe said:

BTW men staring at me is creepy and in no way says to me you think I'm hot and want me to approach you! It makes me think do I need to call 911!

ha!

handsome, hot men (like me) staring at you is not creepy at all girl

and I'm not talking about staring like a psychopath, I'm talking about subtle (but clear) stares while dancing, one smile here, etc. shit like that...

.. let's hope you're a great dancer as well! otherwise all that cute staring & smiling all 4 nothing mate!!

the sexiest thing (& this is how i met my bloke) is when u notice a guy .. he sees u & does a double take!

that's hot!

Women wanna do everything else like men, so come up to me lady!!

I'm old-fashioned & would never go up to a guy and start talking to him. I always wait for the guy to make the first move (not that I have had so much experience or success in the dating arena). I believe guys are the ones who like "the chase" and if they know you are interested too soon, they might take advantage of you. Just my opinion.

LittleBLUECorvette said:

Women wanna do everything else like men, so come up to me lady!!

Disagree. There's a higher truth here.

Women don't want to be men, or do everything they do. We want the space, freedom and right to be whole and accepted as human beings.

And ofc a woman should approach a man if she's interested. Life is meant to be lived... and lived well.

if you don't continually want

to be approached by the wrong kind

step up to the one you feel is right...

kb

I go after what I want. To keep the ones I don't want off of me.

Many chicks that are metal / rock fans have approached me. They tend to associate my looks with that type of music and probably just want to spend some time with a "like-minded" guy at a club or a social event. They usually give me the " " when I tell them that I'm far more into stuff like Prince or MJ than any metal band.

I don't mind it though. Some of them can be very attractive.

novabrkr said:

I've never approached a woman I was interested in. Very occasionally I'll get approached, but it seems more generally friendly and chatty than flirtatious. I'm quite shy so it'd probably have to go down that way. It did with my wife.

Yes

JoeTyler said:

BklynBabe said:

BTW men staring at me is creepy and in no way says to me you think I'm hot and want me to approach you! It makes me think do I need to call 911!

ha!

handsome, hot men (like me) staring at you is not creepy at all girl

and I'm not talking about staring like a psychopath, I'm talking about subtle (but clear) stares while dancing, one smile here, etc. shit like that...

Hmm. Even while wearing glasses a person gets the message being sent by the sender to the sendie. Now that's hott!

I don't see anything wrong with that...in fact for shy guys like myself, it's ENCOURAGED!

However, a sly smile can also be sort of a "first move" and give us the courage to approach.

I have never understand women. Hell, they've got it made but seem to have no interest in it. I mean, even the ugliest women could have all the dicks she wanted but they just won't do what it takes to get them which is very easy. Simply go up to a group of men and say...."I want some motherfucking dick".....and see how many they will get. I tell ya, I couldn't be no woman because I'd be showing y'all how it's done. I'd be having all the women's husbands and boyfriends.

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vainandy said:

I have never understand women. Hell, they've got it made but seem to have no interest in it. I mean, even the ugliest women could have all the dicks she wanted but they just won't do what it takes to get them which is very easy. Simply go up to a group of men and say...."I want some motherfucking dick".....and see how many they will get. I tell ya, I couldn't be no woman because I'd be showing y'all how it's done. I'd be having all the women's husbands and boyfriends.

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haha

but you will be the town whore

Not anymore....

I used to approach men because I didn't want to give guys I didn't want talking to me a chance in hell. I never saw approaching any guy as a big deal..

but the guys I approached just ended up not appreciating me the way I thought I should be appreciated. I was taken for granted more often than not... so I now wait for men to approach me.

If you really want me, then you should approach me and ask/say hello...something, if you don't... then you must not be that interested in the first place....

vainandy said:

I have never understand women. Hell, they've got it made but seem to have no interest in it. I mean, even the ugliest women could have all the dicks she wanted but they just won't do what it takes to get them which is very easy. Simply go up to a group of men and say...."I want some motherfucking dick".....and see how many they will get. I tell ya, I couldn't be no woman because I'd be showing y'all how it's done. I'd be having all the women's husbands and boyfriends.

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Most of us know that we can do that – I have long said any woman can find sex any time she wants and she generally doesn’t have to lower her standards in men to do it.

But most of us don’t want “just sex”. Or “just sex” with any old guy, at least.

formallypickles said:

vainandy said:

I have never understand women. Hell, they've got it made but seem to have no interest in it. I mean, even the ugliest women could have all the dicks she wanted but they just won't do what it takes to get them which is very easy. Simply go up to a group of men and say...."I want some motherfucking dick".....and see how many they will get. I tell ya, I couldn't be no woman because I'd be showing y'all how it's done. I'd be having all the women's husbands and boyfriends.

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haha

but you will be the town whore

I'm already the town whore.