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The Tao of Star Jones I have a lot of problems with Star Jones.
But let's not go into that here. What this thread is all about is me helping you (yes, I'm awesome like that
If you have seen the current round of The Celebrity Apprentice, you will know one thing: In the face of the most godawful, vicious, merciless, relentless, motherfucking tsunami-like, verbal smackdown you could lay upon this woman, Star Jones could not only maintain her composure, she would probably have enough composure left over to take a quick nap, get her hair done and then whip up a composure omelette for breakfast the next day.
What I'm trying to say here, is that the woman knows how to stay composed, alright? Anyhoo...here's where you come in:
The next time someone gets "all up in your George Foreman Grill" (or whatever the kids say, nowadays), take a deep breath and...DO ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Good things cannot transpire until everyone calms down and cooler heads prevail. And also remember: Recrimination never accomplishes anything, folks.
Obama is also a master at equanimity and, until recently, he was my role-model in that regard. But move over, Barry! There's a new sheriff in town and she's had a gastric bypass!
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Make no mistake: This is a superpower. | |
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is it? there are passive people everywhere. everyone's a fruit & nut case | |
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But wouldn't you say that she's equanimous, rather than passive? And I've encountered precious few people who possess that quality, unfortunately. | |
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Trump kept saying that Star was "really scared," while I did not get that impression at all. I thought she handled herself with poise and dignity while that mongoose Nene was verbally attacking her. And indeed her, "I don't do threats." was an appropriate response to that tirade. And I think she is playing the game masterfully. Nene's stupid ass doesn't seem to understand that. What's the mantra of the corporate world? It's not personal, it's just business. While Star might not be the most trustworthy person as far as backstabbing, that's how the business world works. If you want to be very successful, sooner or later you're going to have to step on some toes and leapfrog over a few bodies.
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I know your thread is making light of this topic, but seriously Ace - this is a goal of mine.
I've tried to find resources on how to train yourself to not react emotionally to situations. I haven't been very successful, though. How do you google "unemotional reactions" or "how to look calm when someone says something crazy to you?"
I would love to control my natural facial reactions. I tend to wear my response on my face:
I think it can be very valuable professionally to learn how to control yourself.
Teach me more!!!
(I actually think Genesia and other actors might have some insight to this skill, too.)
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Here, I'd disagree. While there's no doubt the biz world can be vicious, I don't believe you have to conduct yourself in that way to be successful. | |
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Not at all. It's been a goal of mine, too. | |
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I know because of the wedding sponsor debacle on the View alot of people came to hate Star, but I have to say, seeing her on the Apprentice...this woman is a badass, for real. | |
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True. The business world is cold-hearted, cruel and not for the soft. At times, you have to be cruel. | |
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How are you practicing??
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Therapy's been a big help. When someone tries to throw down, NeNe-style, with me, I just let 'em sputter. When they're done, I say that I'd be glad to discuss it with them later. If possible, I put it off 'til the next day ("sleep on it" and all).
I also don't take shit personally, anymore. | |
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I imagine it is very difficult to keep ones composure when someone like Nene accosts you and threatens by invading your personal space. She is the antithesis of her so-called charity near and dear to her heart and a STRAIGHT UP UNMITIGATED BULLY. Anti domestic violence my ass. The bitch begs for an ass-kicking. One day she's going to spring that mess on someone who doesn't give a rat's ass and they're gonna clock her dead in her face. I just hope they tape it and put up on You-Tube. I don't EVER allow anyone to approach me like that. As soon as I hear, "Let me tell you..." I respond, "NO! You ARE NOT going to tell me a gotdamned thang because I am not listening. END OF DISCUSSION until you can approach me like you have some decent, common sense." | |
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I hear what you are saying and I agree that Star handled THAT situation perfectly as did Latoya when she was attacked by NeNe- BUT Star is "passive aggressive"- and to me that should be measured the same way you would measure someone verbally aggressive- like NeNe.
I would not want you to behave like Star- you obviously have not been watching her closely- in fact she uses various forms of aggression to get her way- do you remember what she said to Lisa Rinna- how she treated her? Just watch her show profile.....
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PREACH THAT SHIT!
I just say "do yourself a favor and keep walking..." | |
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I am in tears. | |
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To the topic at hand... when you are used to being around screaming seagulls ... you learn how to handle them. Nene is just a big noisy bird.
I do love it when a women handles her business this way.... its called being a "quiet storm". It's done in a classy way, then when the moment is right, all you have to do is quietly speak the truth. See, when you know you are right, you don't have to make a bunch of noise. Name call or anything of the sort... you just wait until the gulls stop squawking and just plainly speak the truth, and the truth usually shreds the gulls to pieces.
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Yeah, I caught that, too; however, do you really think this type of confrontation would have gone on between two "corporate black women" in a public place? Think about it. If this type of shenanigan had happened in the real world, what do you want to bet that the Nene character would not have been escorted to the door by security? Her big ass would have been booted out so fast, the weave would fly off her head. BUT, if two black professional women are behind closed doors, you might see some hair flying and teeth-gnashing. Just depends on how "they roll." | |
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I really doubt that NeNe would have done that if the cameras weren't rolling. But then again, I don't even know who the hell she is so she might.
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I don't think Starr will get in anybody's face after heart surgery. Remember she can not let herself get too steamed or she might keel over. Ol' girl ain't what she used to be.
She has reason for taking a higher road... she is savvy and knows how to use what she has to its fullest advantage. She is playing the game and making Nene purposefully look bad to set her up for the fall. I don't see Starr as stuck up at all.... just calculating. I think she really like Nene otherwise. | |
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I can't see Star EVER getting in anyone's face.....she seems the type to think that sort of thing is undignified. You can tell a person off and still be dignigied....trust me...because of my job,I've become a pro at it. NeNe should have had more composure, but she still needed to get in Star's face. And I loved how Star tried to run and hide and walk away and NeNe went and stood right next to her. Perhaps it's because I work with a Star Jones type chick that I'm on NeNe's side here. **************************************************
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True, but there is a way to "cuss someone out" without ever uttering a profane word. But I understand what you're saying. My mom lives in a retirement community where she comes in contact with rude people at times. She is rather timid and passive, which really pisses me off because she'll complain to me and be mad as a hatter. This one woman kept fucking with her and I told her, "Ma, the women is pulling your chain and will continue to do so until you cuss her ass out one good time. JUST ONCE! And I guarantee you she will leave you the hell alone." Next time they got into it, ma threatend to kick her ass! | |
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Nene looks like a biter to me..... | |
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But you can tell someone the hell off without cursing. That's what Nene needs to learn. Remember when Clair on the Cosby show used to go off on Elvin? She was totally dignigied but she would set him straight. Hell, Obama in his own way told Donald Trump the hell off at that roast. **************************************************
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Found it..........
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Oh yes indeed you can. "You put water into a cup, it becomes the cup...Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend." - Bruce Lee
"Water can nourish me, but water can also carry me. Water has magic laws." - JCVD | |
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God, this is a a goal of mine.
THere's one thing I'm very good at. I know how to get under sombeody's skin. If they get all up in my grill, it actually gives me perverse pleasure knowing they get pissed off.
Hell, even the moronic things said about me on some the recent threads (that I'm racist and hate women, etc.) made me burst out laughing. Desperation worn on the sleeves of those who try and attack me always makes me smile a bit.
I've had this conversation with PunkMistress before, but it's like an itch I can't scratch. I bite, and don't release. There are orgers here who absolutely hate me, even though I've done nothing to them. And it cracks me up...I take pleasure in it.
...and these feelings are wrong. I've been trying very hard to move beyond this. I think it's because growing up, it was one of the only ways I could lash back at people--if they were going to ruin my lunch, I would in some small way irritate them for the rest of their day.
I am, and always will be, the most loyal and caring friend. But what I have to work on is letting go of inventing enemies.
I'm trying to start with those less than talented self-proclaimed poets on this website like [actually it's best I don't mention this crazy person's name
. not such a sweet thing edit [Edited 5/3/11 17:08pm] You're a real fucker. You act like you own this place--ParanoidAndroid <-- about as witty as this princess gets! ![]() I hope everyone pays more attention to Sags posts--sweething ![]() Jesus weeps ![]() | |
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