dJJ said:

paintedlady said:

He is finally learning how to grow up and 50 years of age. He stopped smoking weed, chasing women and is slowing down to an easier pace.

He credits that to liking me, but I think he got past his mid-life crisis. Also he told me that he NEVER had to court (date/take out) any woman before me. SMH

I simply do not understand this. Women in the past let him virtually get away with murder.

I think some men are just stubborn spoiled brats that get away with things if they buy women things or learn to play minds games on women at a young age.

I think some most men are just stubborn spoiled brats that get away with things if they buy women things or learn to play minds games on women at a young age.

I simply do not understand this. Women in the past let him virtually get away with murder.

When you'r standard is to be happy with: "He stopped smoking weed, chasing women and is slowing down to an easier pace." you'r not giving yourself what you deserve, do you?

Why not set a standard of a man with a good nature, kindharted, understanding, self reliant, communicative, fun, happy, and making you feel good about yourself?

Who saids I didn't? You seriously don't think that I don't have those standards? OMFG

Wow, I didn't think I was coming off as some naive chick. You misunderstand me in a huge way.

Your responses read like you are trying to tell me to have a higher standard. You don't need to worry really. I am no fool.

I am patient but don't interpret my posts as being someone's doormat. BTW, I never said that I look for men who stop smoking weed and crap. I just meant that he has a thuggish past. I am not sad or hurt by him, I am just being real in how I see my situation.

I said that HE changed.... if he didn't I wouldn't bother with him.

That's the point of the this thread, no?

Cerebus said:

PositivityNYC said:

make that 3..

"but when you find out just small failure at wrong time in your life, it can make you feel pretty bad"

doesn't read well.. I think maybe there's a word or two missing, and a [truly] small failure wouldn't make one feel so bad..

If it is actually is a sexual history question, as long as they're not hiding an STI that has no cure from you or they raped/molested someone(s) or animals...

and ditto on telling those kinds of morons they're morons. nicely.

Awesome. But how in the crap did you let me get by spelling bigoted wrong, twice!? Granted, I did a control+shift, copy & paste. But still, you slippin'.

actually I only noticed one..

but I left it alone; I don't correct ppl all the time...

NDRU said:

jone70 said:

I agree with what Carrie posted. I also think that if you don't want someone to judge you on your history, then you shouldn't judge them on theirs. (A common example of what I mean is maybe one person slept with a lot of people before their current relationship, yet doesn't like the fact that the partner may have done the same.)

agreed, but also as she pointed out, there may be things you don't share, such as criminal activity.

I certainly don't judge someone for have had boyfriends before me, but if she was a prostitute, well...

I certainly don't judge someone for having done drugs, but if she quit heroin two weeks ago...

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I'll never blame prostitutes, they were the only ones who cared about me when I was homeless. One of them proposed me a cup of hot tea; I wasn't "insivible" anymore.

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the way i see it even though i've made many many many mistakes in my life...a lot to do with the wrong choice... these mistakes are all part of life and resulted in who i am today.

i'm not a bad person and i have learnt from my good and bad decisions, i have also learnt from the mistakes my parents and my ex made.

it all makes me want to do and be a better person ...

all for the sake of my kids, just so they can have a better life than i did