25 years?!!!

It will be our 25th 'anniversary' in March, and we are considering getting married to celebrate!

25 years since our first date, 24 years living together.

Neither of us are religious (probably why we never got married in the first place), and I am more keen than him, although he says he'll do it for me if I want to. The question is, do I want to? I'm not sure why I suddenly want to, but I think I do.

What do you think?

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wow! congrats!!

are there any huge benefits (financial, health insurance, etc. ?) to gain being officially married?

but check your state (?) laws -- you may already be married if you live in the US

for some states, it's as few as 10 years for "common law" marriage recognition...

PositivityNYC said:

wow! congrats!!

are there any huge benefits (financial, health insurance, etc. ?) to gain being officially married?

but check your state (?) laws -- you may already be married if you live in the US

for some states, it's as few as 10 years for "common law" marriage recognition...

Thank you! - it is quite an achievement, which is part of the reason I want to mark the occasion with something special.

We live in the UK, and I've looked up all the legalities etc. Here our "common law" marriage, is recognised by some agencies and not by others. As far as I could see, there would not be any huge benefits, but I would like each of us to officially be the others 'next of kin'. As for the finances, making a Will, would be just as efficient.

Neither of us wants a "wedding". If we do it, it will be just us, my two sons and the 3 grandkids at the cermony - oh, and my best friend as photographer!!

We are still discussing (have been for about a month now!),but I'll let you all know what we decide!

Great!!!! Congrats!!!! That's rare these days...

but don't spoil it with marriage - just go an the second honeymoon

Yes, do it.

I know people who have renewed their vows.

I am the biggest advocate of "you don't need a piece of paper and title to signify your love for someone". But after 25 years, you've obviously proved that you two can stand the test of time. So, I say, go for it.

Acrylic said:

I am the biggest advocate of "you don't need a piece of paper and title to signify your love for someone". But after 25 years, you've obviously proved that you two can stand the test of time. So, I say, go for it.

Great photo! I think I'm afraid that's what it'll feel like!!! As if I'm making him - still, I've been making him listen to (plus go see) Prince for the last 25 years, why change the habits of a lifetime?!

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consult a laywer. if you haven't done so yet, you might need to. still, there are estate questions that may complicate things way down the road.

25 years together is alot better than alot of married couples..so if it ain't broke, why fix it?

grizzy said:

Acrylic said:

I am the biggest advocate of "you don't need a piece of paper and title to signify your love for someone". But after 25 years, you've obviously proved that you two can stand the test of time. So, I say, go for it.

Great photo! I think I'm afraid that's what it'll feel like!!! As if I'm making him - still, I've been making him listen to (plus go see) Prince for the last 25 years, why change the habits of a lifetime?!

You'll get presents.

Awesome. Whatever you decide, congrats on 25 years together!

BlackAdder7 said:

tie him up and carry him in there, if you must.

agree. it's romantic.

Congrats on 25 years together! My husband and I got married after a long engagement. Nothing really changed after we got married because we were already in a committed relationship. We went to the court house and had a small reception at the house. Do what's best for the two of you!

Just an update:

We did it!! Small ceremony, out for dinner, off to the countryside for 'Honeymoon'

I'm a very happy Wife!!!

Congratulations!