I have only one brother and we are very close. He's 3 years older than me. My mom told me he was very jealous when I was born because he had always gotten all the attention. She told me one day she laid me in my crib to take a nap. When she came back to check on me, Mike had painted my face like an Indian with Mercurochrome. Even in the pictures she had taken of us together when I was about a year old shows him with this pitiful look on his face. Sure, we had our little fights and squabbles, but at then end of the day, he's my brother and I love him dearly. I know he feels the same way. Example. I got fired from a job years ago and was afraid to let my parents know. Mike knew something was wrong and kept after me until I told him. I expressed my fear that mom and dad would be very upset and give me a severe dressing down. When I told him, "Mommy and Daddy are going to disown me!" he said, "No they won't because I WON'T LET THEM!"

It makes me sad to hear of people hating their immediate family members. I guess because mine was such a small family we were always close. I can't say that about my extended family, like cousins. As kids, we used to see each other during summer vacations (they lived out of state), but as we got older, we grew apart. I keep in contact with only one cousin on my mother's side. The rest of them can go straight to hell in a handbasket...

My sister and I are NOT close at all! Growing up she always made me feel like I didn't belong in the family. I am adopted and she made sure she reminded me often that I was. She was always jealous of my relationship with my Dad, saying he does nothing but spoil me etc... I remember one time she chased me around the house with a knife until I fell and almost broke my nose. Things got worse when her eldest son offered drugs to my girls. When I went to talk to her about it, she said I need to get off my high horse and stop acting like a snobby bitch. That moment I stopped talking to her and we didn't talk for almost 7 yrs. It was not until recently when my grandbaby Seyhan was born did I start talking to her again and I will do all I can not to really chat with her. It's hard to forget the horrible things she did to me and my kids.

Shyra said:

I have only one brother and we are very close. He's 3 years older than me. My mom told me he was very jealous when I was born because he had always gotten all the attention. She told me one day she laid me in my crib to take a nap. When she came back to check on me, Mike had painted my face like an Indian with Mercurochrome. Even in the pictures she had taken of us together when I was about a year old shows him with this pitiful look on his face. Sure, we had our little fights and squabbles, but at then end of the day, he's my brother and I love him dearly. I know he feels the same way. Example. I got fired from a job years ago and was afraid to let my parents know. Mike knew something was wrong and kept after me until I told him. I expressed my fear that mom and dad would be very upset and give me a severe dressing down. When I told him, "Mommy and Daddy are going to disown me!" he said, "No they won't because I WON'T LET THEM!"

It makes me sad to hear of people hating their immediate family members. I guess because mine was such a small family we were always close. I can't say that about my extended family, like cousins. As kids, we used to see each other during summer vacations (they lived out of state), but as we got older, we grew apart. I keep in contact with only one cousin on my mother's side. The rest of them can go straight to hell in a handbasket...

I'm with you! I have one brother (3 years older) and we couldn't get along better! yeah..when we were little we had our fights but...I've always looked up to him and he's always looked out for me! I love him so much! I think having just one sibling helps. always wondered what it would be like to have a sister...but deep down I think we'd hate eachother...I dunno.

it makes me sad too to read how so many of you hate your siblings.

MoniGram said:

My sister and I are NOT close at all! Growing up she always made me feel like I didn't belong in the family. I am adopted and she made sure she reminded me often that I was. She was always jealous of my relationship with my Dad, saying he does nothing but spoil me etc... I remember one time she chased me around the house with a knife until I fell and almost broke my nose. Things got worse when her eldest son offered drugs to my girls. When I went to talk to her about it, she said I need to get off my high horse and stop acting like a snobby bitch. That moment I stopped talking to her and we didn't talk for almost 7 yrs. It was not until recently when my grandbaby Seyhan was born did I start talking to her again and I will do all I can not to really chat with her. It's hard to forget the horrible things she did to me and my kids.

I have a sister, 2 and a half years younger.

Growing up, I couldn't stand her. She was a "snitch" and my parents would always make me take her with me and my friends.

We had a few nasty fist fights in our teens and early twenties; one time my Mom got sucker-punched trying to break us up.

Now that we're in our 40s, we are extremely close. Both of us have gone thru health and relationship problems, and are always there for each other. I'm graduating soon, and my sister is so proud, you'd think it was her!

I also have a brother who is 5 years older. He is my Dad's son. I didn't meet him until I was 13, when he showed up at our door with his things.

He was a bully and a jerk, and he was rude & disrespectful to my Mom. He also has 2 other sisters, and was always comparing us...

Now that are adults, we have become good friends.

paintedlady said:

My sister fucked my babydaddy... I think...

but I definitely know she showed him her pussy.

oh lawd.

sorry sandy.

I think my younger brother is a bit aloof, when he could/should contribute more energy to helping keep an eye on our mother in her advancing age. But otherwise, I feel blessed that he and my older sister are actually really decent people.

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StillGotIt said:

We always hear talk about sibling rivalry between children. Teasing, competing, taking your stuff, and just plain old evil envy.....but some folks never grow up

Do you have adult siblings that are always doing you wrong or who are straight out assholes to you, your spouse and/or your children. Do they still talk shit about you to your parents or mutual friends even though you are all now supposedly grown? Do you have siblings you never talk to or who you would like to smack down? Maybe they just want to ruin your life just enough to keep you a step behind them........lay here on the org couch and tell us about your worst siblings.....

Yes, yes, yes and I am about ready to kick her ass to the curb in a very major way that she will not see coming. She sooooo deserves it She is right now. I am always laughing with her on the phone because I don't want her aware that I know all about her last underhanded stunt. Meanwhile I am planning away .

Shorty said:

MoniGram said:

My sister and I are NOT close at all! Growing up she always made me feel like I didn't belong in the family. I am adopted and she made sure she reminded me often that I was. She was always jealous of my relationship with my Dad, saying he does nothing but spoil me etc... I remember one time she chased me around the house with a knife until I fell and almost broke my nose. Things got worse when her eldest son offered drugs to my girls. When I went to talk to her about it, she said I need to get off my high horse and stop acting like a snobby bitch. That moment I stopped talking to her and we didn't talk for almost 7 yrs. It was not until recently when my grandbaby Seyhan was born did I start talking to her again and I will do all I can not to really chat with her. It's hard to forget the horrible things she did to me and my kids.

oh! that's terrible how she treated you.

Thanks

Shorty said:

Shyra said:

I have only one brother and we are very close. He's 3 years older than me. My mom told me he was very jealous when I was born because he had always gotten all the attention. She told me one day she laid me in my crib to take a nap. When she came back to check on me, Mike had painted my face like an Indian with Mercurochrome. Even in the pictures she had taken of us together when I was about a year old shows him with this pitiful look on his face. Sure, we had our little fights and squabbles, but at then end of the day, he's my brother and I love him dearly. I know he feels the same way. Example. I got fired from a job years ago and was afraid to let my parents know. Mike knew something was wrong and kept after me until I told him. I expressed my fear that mom and dad would be very upset and give me a severe dressing down. When I told him, "Mommy and Daddy are going to disown me!" he said, "No they won't because I WON'T LET THEM!"

It makes me sad to hear of people hating their immediate family members. I guess because mine was such a small family we were always close. I can't say that about my extended family, like cousins. As kids, we used to see each other during summer vacations (they lived out of state), but as we got older, we grew apart. I keep in contact with only one cousin on my mother's side. The rest of them can go straight to hell in a handbasket...

I'm with you! I have one brother (3 years older) and we couldn't get along better! yeah..when we were little we had our fights but...I've always looked up to him and he's always looked out for me! I love him so much! I think having just one sibling helps. always wondered what it would be like to have a sister...but deep down I think we'd hate eachother...I dunno.

it makes me sad too to read how so many of you hate your siblings.

I would love to of had a good/healthy relationship with my siblings, I don't but I don't hate them either.

I don't hate my siblings, I just do not like them. We are family, not friends. I don't want to be friends with someone who would mistreat me.

My sister wants us to be friends, and she does nice things for me... but she still is VERY controlling and still tries to bully me whenever possible. Because of this she will never be considered "friend" to me.

My younger brother is a straight up thug.. and I have nothing in common (lifestyle wise) with my brother, so I can't be friendly with him either.... I would always be there for them though despite all that. I do love them dearly, I would never do anything to hurt them. I support them but I do not keep them close because I need to keep my sanity in tact.I love them, but I don't like them and would never choose to have people like them as friends.

I hope this puts things in better perspective to those that do not have family issues and are lucky enough to have healthy sibling relationships such as you do and others on this thread.

You are blesse.

I

My oldest sister isn't crazy about me because she always saw me and my mother together and I guess she assumed I was my mom's favorite, so I've always gotten vibes of dislike and resentment from her...over the years she's made her share of questionable comments to/about me, and a couple times over the years she and I have nearly come to blows....

We talk to one another only when we have to, and there's a lot of other things she's said and done...basically, when I get myself in the position where I don't have to interact with her anymore, I simply won't. I really wouldn't feel any large sense of loss if I never spoke to her again.

paintedlady said:

Shorty said:

I'm with you! I have one brother (3 years older) and we couldn't get along better! yeah..when we were little we had our fights but...I've always looked up to him and he's always looked out for me! I love him so much! I think having just one sibling helps. always wondered what it would be like to have a sister...but deep down I think we'd hate eachother...I dunno.

it makes me sad too to read how so many of you hate your siblings.

I would love to of had a good/healthy relationship with my siblings, I don't but I don't hate them either.

I don't hate my siblings, I just do not like them. We are family, not friends. I don't want to be friends with someone who would mistreat me.

My sister wants us to be friends, and she does nice things for me... but she still is VERY controlling and still tries to bully me whenever possible. Because of this she will never be considered "friend" to me.

My younger brother is a straight up thug.. and I have nothing in common (lifestyle wise) with my brother, so I can't be friendly with him either.... I would always be there for them though despite all that. I do love them dearly, I would never do anything to hurt them. I support them but I do not keep them close because I need to keep my sanity in tact.I love them, but I don't like them and would never choose to have people like them as friends.

I hope this puts things in better perspective to those that do not have family issues and are lucky enough to have healthy sibling relationships such as you do and others on this thread.

You are blesse.

I

we have our issues and problem family members like any family, but overall we're a surprisingly tightknit group. love my family.

Shorty said:

paintedlady said:

I would love to of had a good/healthy relationship with my siblings, I don't but I don't hate them either.

I don't hate my siblings, I just do not like them. We are family, not friends. I don't want to be friends with someone who would mistreat me.

My sister wants us to be friends, and she does nice things for me... but she still is VERY controlling and still tries to bully me whenever possible. Because of this she will never be considered "friend" to me.

My younger brother is a straight up thug.. and I have nothing in common (lifestyle wise) with my brother, so I can't be friendly with him either.... I would always be there for them though despite all that. I do love them dearly, I would never do anything to hurt them. I support them but I do not keep them close because I need to keep my sanity in tact.I love them, but I don't like them and would never choose to have people like them as friends.

I hope this puts things in better perspective to those that do not have family issues and are lucky enough to have healthy sibling relationships such as you do and others on this thread.

You are blesse.

I

I totally get what your saying and "hate" is a strong word....it still makes me sad though....cause a sibling relationship should be like NO other. good luck to all of you who don't have great sibling relationships.

It is sad though because to have a friendship out of sibling relationships is the ideal. Especially when children/future generations come into play.

I work at keeping cordial so thta my children know and grow to love my sister's kids.

Lord it is hard though. I do adore her children, I am glad to be in their lives and it makes keeping an open relatioship with my bully sister worth it.

paintedlady said:

Shorty said:

I totally get what your saying and "hate" is a strong word....it still makes me sad though....cause a sibling relationship should be like NO other. good luck to all of you who don't have great sibling relationships.

It is sad though because to have a friendship out of sibling relationships is the ideal. Especially when children/future generations come into play.

I work at keeping cordial so thta my children know and grow to love my sister's kids.

Lord it is hard though. I do adore her children, I am glad to be in their lives and it makes keeping an open relatioship with my bully sister worth it.

sibling rivalry is indeed an awful thing.

I've been living in a foreign country for about 20 years and in the first 9 years I'd go back to visitalso in the hope of recharging my batteries n' what have you.

In these 9 years my siblings were pretty freaky with me. Always picking fights, lecturing, trying to publicly ridicule me, etc.

If per-chance I'd meet any new contacts of the family circle they'd often be keeping out of my way or after a short conversation they'd be amazed that I was actually a nice guy, that I wasn't even gay. (very bad to be gay in some of the small towns of the working class in England)

I'd always try to cool things down because of my deeply valued family ties, but they weren't having it, and would interpret my efforts as a sign of weakness.

I was twice visited by my older brother with whom I was once particularly close. He came with his girlfriend and the rivalry was so pronounced it was embarrassing for his girl and left me dumbfounded.

It took me many years and much heart-ache to clearly realise and (almost) completely break from the madness.

I went tthrough some serious health issues and eventually got well enough.

These days, and since 7 years now, I don't go to any effort to contact them. I don't block them but there's no contact whatsoever. My mother said that she couldn't understand my anger at them but although angry at myself for being so slow to adjust, I've given no signs of anger.

They were irritated that I wouldn't let them befriend me on Facebook, but that would have been unthinkable and would have led to boundless bickering.

I tell myself that my dear brothers from my childhood are dead and I feel that a good part of my life/identity has been lost.

Life can be tough but I have a young daughter now and she's fortunate not to have such people in her family.

Better no family than bad family.

Peace.

paintedlady said:

Shorty said:

I totally get what your saying and "hate" is a strong word....it still makes me sad though....cause a sibling relationship should be like NO other. good luck to all of you who don't have great sibling relationships.

It is sad though because to have a friendship out of sibling relationships is the ideal. Especially when children/future generations come into play.

I work at keeping cordial so thta my children know and grow to love my sister's kids.

Lord it is hard though. I do adore her children, I am glad to be in their lives and it makes keeping an open relatioship with my bully sister worth it.

I feel for you and hope she appreciates the effort

Rightly said:

paintedlady said:

It is sad though because to have a friendship out of sibling relationships is the ideal. Especially when children/future generations come into play.

I work at keeping cordial so thta my children know and grow to love my sister's kids.

Lord it is hard though. I do adore her children, I am glad to be in their lives and it makes keeping an open relatioship with my bully sister worth it.

I feel for you and hope she appreciates the effort

TY, I hope so too.

ZombieKitten said:

physco185 said:

and that there is a perfect UP STAGE fail

every now and again she starts talking wedding again, when she needs attention

So ummm...do y'all look alike?

FauxReal said:

ZombieKitten said:

every now and again she starts talking wedding again, when she needs attention

So ummm...do y'all look alike?

sort of, but I sometimes think JustErin reminds me of my sister

ZombieKitten said:

FauxReal said:

So ummm...do y'all look alike?

sort of, but I sometimes think JustErin reminds me of my sister

Oh so both of y'all in one person, huh? Well that sounds pretty cool...

ZombieKitten said:

FauxReal said:

So ummm...do y'all look alike?

sort of, but I sometimes think JustErin reminds me of my sister

It's the desperate need for attention, right?

ZombieKitten said:

physco185 said:

and that there is a perfect UP STAGE fail

every now and again she starts talking wedding again, when she needs attention

Why do sisters do shit like this? What is the point.....I am sooo not like this so it just makes me wanna

Lisa10 said:

I'm the youngest of 4. We're all totally different and don't really have anything in common. We had a lot of up's and down's in our childhood and I think it interferes with our adult lives.

I don't see any of them very often, though we all live in the same town. My brother is alright. I get on pretty well with him and we were always close as kids.

My sisters.... well... I don't really get on hugely well with either of them. The oldest one is ok in small doses. That's all I can say about her.

The younger of the 2 is a fucking nightmare. We're civil to each other because we have to be. We fought all the time as kids and nothing has improved. I can't stand her and I know she can't stand me either.

I swear....sisters are the worst if they get jealouse or something. It good that you are able to maintain civility. I'd say you have the right idea....small doses and then also accepting who you are dealing with

Shyra said:

I have only one brother and we are very close. He's 3 years older than me. My mom told me he was very jealous when I was born because he had always gotten all the attention. She told me one day she laid me in my crib to take a nap. When she came back to check on me, Mike had painted my face like an Indian with Mercurochrome. Even in the pictures she had taken of us together when I was about a year old shows him with this pitiful look on his face. Sure, we had our little fights and squabbles, but at then end of the day, he's my brother and I love him dearly. I know he feels the same way. Example. I got fired from a job years ago and was afraid to let my parents know. Mike knew something was wrong and kept after me until I told him. I expressed my fear that mom and dad would be very upset and give me a severe dressing down. When I told him, "Mommy and Daddy are going to disown me!" he said, "No they won't because I WON'T LET THEM!"

It makes me sad to hear of people hating their immediate family members. I guess because mine was such a small family we were always close. I can't say that about my extended family, like cousins. As kids, we used to see each other during summer vacations (they lived out of state), but as we got older, we grew apart. I keep in contact with only one cousin on my mother's side. The rest of them can go straight to hell in a handbasket...

I didn't say "hate". I just have had moments where I wanted to beat the shit outta my youngest sibling. If I hated her, I certainly would have done all kinds of evil stuff to her by now. When people treat me all jacked up, I dont give them additional opportunities because I value my life, my lifestyle and my children's way of life. People who are envious of that, regardless of their bloodline, need to step aside. My family are the people in my life who treat me like they love me, and like they care about those that I love. Blood relation is overrated---hell, aren't most children who are sexually abused victimized by a blood relative? I'll cut somebody outta my life if they mean me or my loved ones harm, and I have no need to feel sad or sorry about it.

I think a tragedy is when people allow their lives to be ruled and ruined by somebody just because of a biological relationship.

Ironically, I love most of my cousins.........

MoniGram said:

My sister and I are NOT close at all! Growing up she always made me feel like I didn't belong in the family. I am adopted and she made sure she reminded me often that I was. She was always jealous of my relationship with my Dad, saying he does nothing but spoil me etc... I remember one time she chased me around the house with a knife until I fell and almost broke my nose. Things got worse when her eldest son offered drugs to my girls. When I went to talk to her about it, she said I need to get off my high horse and stop acting like a snobby bitch. That moment I stopped talking to her and we didn't talk for almost 7 yrs. It was not until recently when my grandbaby Seyhan was born did I start talking to her again and I will do all I can not to really chat with her. It's hard to forget the horrible things she did to me and my kids.

Now see....if you need me to come twist her arm for you let me know. that is the UGLIEST thing I have ever heard. I had a family member that was doing that to another family member who was adopted and I wanted to hurt her.........physically hurt her. I never did.....but I did tell her this:

Your mom had to jump through hoops and everything just to be able to have Susan. She wanted Susan really bad. You on the other hand, she was forced to keep because she birthed you.

Yea...maybe it was mean, but we were young and it sure burned her biscuits

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

sort of, but I sometimes think JustErin reminds me of my sister

It's the desperate need for attention, right?

ZombieKitten said:

JustErin said:

It's the desperate need for attention, right?

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

I'm sorry, but you could NEVER be that desperate

I have two older brothers and we all very close to each other. Our parents -especially our mother - stressed that we should love, respect, and support each other no matter what. The only issue we've had is my middle brother says our parents treated him differenlty, that's true. He was so rebellious and tried to do whatever he wanted to do under our parents roof, it didn't work. Even so, it hasn't affected our relationship. My older brother -just the two of us- have lunch every Wed. and I talk to my younger brother everyday.

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