Acrylic said:

I've never dated in my race.

Me neither.

Lammastide said:

JustErin said:

Are you kidding me? Halifax has a very high black population.

The ten largest census metropolitan areas of black population were Toronto, Montreal, Ottawa, Calgary, Vancouver, Edmonton, Hamilton, Winnipeg, Halifax, and Oshawa.^[9]

Preston, in the Halifax area, is the community with the highest percentage of Blacks at 69.4%

First, I yield to your personal experience. You've certainly been in Canada much longer than my 4 years. And, in fact, I make my comment about Halifax in half-jest, as I've never been there.

BUT...

"Halifax as a very high black population?" I dunno about that. I mean, granted, it's got one of the highest in Canada... and Preston's got by far the highest in Halifax. But according to Statistics Canada's 2006 Community Profiles,* of Halifax Regional Municipalities' overall population of about 370,000, only about 27,500 (or 7.4%) were visible minorities. And of that amount, only 13,000 (roughly 47% of visible minorities or 3.5% of the overall population) were black. Is that really "very high?" I suppose it's subjective.

* http://www12.statcan.ca/c...mp;Custom=

JustErin said:

I'm fairly certain that I've covered every race throughout the years...never had any major issues, even living in the deep south...

*can o' worms disclaimer:

I find it interesting that there are those that exclusively date ouside of their race, not because that's the way things have transpired but because they absolutely refuse to date within their race, that just seems odd to me...I guess the same could be said for dating exclusively within your race but that appears to have some semblance of natural order that most people understand; or at the very least, accept...either way, it all seems so...limiting

orger said:

I'm fairly certain that I've covered every race throughout the years...never had any major issues, even living in the deep south...

*can o' worms disclaimer:

I find it interesting that there are those that exclusively date ouside of their race, not because that's the way things have transpired but because they absolutely refuse to date within their race, that just seems odd to me...I guess the same could be said for dating exclusively within your race but that appears to have some semblance of natural order that most people understand; or at the very least, accept...either way, it all seems so...limiting

I never understood it either and find it really odd too, but hey...what do I care really what others do with their love lives?

Latinas don't count, right?

Years ago I dated a wonderful Cambodian woman. Eventually she brought up the m-word and that was the end of that.

orger said:

I'm fairly certain that I've covered every race throughout the years...never had any major issues, even living in the deep south...

*can o' worms disclaimer:

I find it interesting that there are those that exclusively date ouside of their race, not because that's the way things have transpired but because they absolutely refuse to date within their race, that just seems odd to me...I guess the same could be said for dating exclusively within your race but that appears to have some semblance of natural order that most people understand; or at the very least, accept...either way, it all seems so...limiting

This depends... I date African American men, not Ricans like me. I only dated one Rican.... never again. But... I don't think there is much of a diference really, just a few cultural ones. I have been told I look African American, I consider it a high compliment.

I date who approaches me. Never turned down a guy over race ..." fine" comes in all shades.

paintedlady said:

orger said:

I'm fairly certain that I've covered every race throughout the years...never had any major issues, even living in the deep south...

*can o' worms disclaimer:

I find it interesting that there are those that exclusively date ouside of their race, not because that's the way things have transpired but because they absolutely refuse to date within their race, that just seems odd to me...I guess the same could be said for dating exclusively within your race but that appears to have some semblance of natural order that most people understand; or at the very least, accept...either way, it all seems so...limiting

This depends... I date African American men, not Ricans like me. I only dated one Rican.... never again. But... I don't think there is much of a diference really, just a few cultural ones. I have been told I look African American, I consider it a high compliment.

I date who approaches me. Never turned down a guy over race ..." fine" comes in all shades.

If you don't mind my asking, what would you do if a fine Boricua papi approached you?

Lammastide said:

paintedlady said:

This depends... I date African American men, not Ricans like me. I only dated one Rican.... never again. But... I don't think there is much of a diference really, just a few cultural ones. I have been told I look African American, I consider it a high compliment.

I date who approaches me. Never turned down a guy over race ..." fine" comes in all shades.

If you don't mind my asking, what would you do if a fine Boricua papi approached you?

I'd turn him down with the quickness...

The men in my family are actually encouraged to cheat. This fact has left me jaded.

I'm white, gay, and have never really been a full fledged relationship with anyone of any color. I've strictly been a whore all my life with either one time sexual encounters with various men or a few re-occurring sexual encounters with the same man but never an ongoing full fledged relationship because in this lifestyle, men are so lowdown that the only thing I want from them is some dick and then send them on their way to be someone else's problem.

I've only had about a handful of white men but I've had enough black men to start an episode of "Soul Train". Hell, I even had a few trains.

I've caught tons of hell from running around with blacks but the hell I've caught has been for simply being friends with them. Now you KNOW there are some racist motherfuckers in this world when they hate to see you even being friends with black people.

As a Mixed child. why the fuck would anyone care if they date outside of their race, we live in a world where parents tell their children that they shouldn't, so what if women look at you in disappointment, you know what fuck them!, it's their own ignorance. If you are with someone who loves and respects you for who you are, who gives a shit if he's a 3 headed lesbian squid from the planet astrogilde.

paintedlady said:

Lammastide said:

If you don't mind my asking, what would you do if a fine Boricua papi approached you?

I'd turn him down with the quickness...

The men in my family are actually encouraged to cheat. This fact has left me jaded.

That sucks.

vainandy said:

I'm white, gay, and have never really been a full fledged relationship with anyone of any color. I've strictly been a whore all my life with either one time sexual encounters with various men or a few re-occurring sexual encounters with the same man but never an ongoing full fledged relationship because in this lifestyle, men are so lowdown that the only thing I want from them is some dick and then send them on their way to be someone else's problem.

I've only had about a handful of white men but I've had enough black men to start an episode of "Soul Train". Hell, I even had a few trains.

I've caught tons of hell from running around with blacks but the hell I've caught has been for simply being friends with them. Now you KNOW there are some racist motherfuckers in this world when they hate to see you even being friends with black people.

lol shit what in the fuck made me think you was a brother? lol

Lammastide said:

paintedlady said:

I'd turn him down with the quickness...

The men in my family are actually encouraged to cheat. This fact has left me jaded.

That sucks.

It does... I've turned down some absolutely beautiful men. They don't understand even if I explain.

IAintTheOne said:

vainandy said:

I'm white, gay, and have never really been a full fledged relationship with anyone of any color. I've strictly been a whore all my life with either one time sexual encounters with various men or a few re-occurring sexual encounters with the same man but never an ongoing full fledged relationship because in this lifestyle, men are so lowdown that the only thing I want from them is some dick and then send them on their way to be someone else's problem.

I've only had about a handful of white men but I've had enough black men to start an episode of "Soul Train". Hell, I even had a few trains.

I've caught tons of hell from running around with blacks but the hell I've caught has been for simply being friends with them. Now you KNOW there are some racist motherfuckers in this world when they hate to see you even being friends with black people.

lol shit what in the fuck made me think you was a brother? lol

I'm just light skinned, that's all.

vainandy said:

IAintTheOne said:

lol shit what in the fuck made me think you was a brother? lol

I'm just light skinned, that's all.

hahahahahahahah a'ight then

I'm a single black male. And I've been with black, white, & latina women.

orger said:

I'm fairly certain that I've covered every race throughout the years...never had any major issues, even living in the deep south...

*can o' worms disclaimer:

I find it interesting that there are those that exclusively date ouside of their race, not because that's the way things have transpired but because they absolutely refuse to date within their race, that just seems odd to me...I guess the same could be said for dating exclusively within your race but that appears to have some semblance of natural order that most people understand; or at the very least, accept...either way, it all seems so...limiting

True and as I've stated before, generally speaking, black women (and Asian men) don't have the option/opportunity to seek quality mates of other races. It's easier for everybody else to jump the color line, but black women and Asian men are at the bottom of the desireability scale when compared to others.

Personally, I love me some bruhs and ain't tryin' to fuck/date/marry someone of another race. But it tickles me when folks try to advise black women to date "outside" AS IF it's that fucking easy. Oh, I think I'll just go into my basement and whip up a white boy to date.

I personally don't give two pumps and a stroke what anybody else wants to do but I'm good with mine.

i'm white, and my husband is brazilian. we used to live in a racist area & had some problems with people sometimes. since moving where we're now we haven't had any issues at all.

I bin gittin wit a honky.

SCNDLS said:

orger said:

I'm fairly certain that I've covered every race throughout the years...never had any major issues, even living in the deep south...

*can o' worms disclaimer:

I find it interesting that there are those that exclusively date ouside of their race, not because that's the way things have transpired but because they absolutely refuse to date within their race, that just seems odd to me...I guess the same could be said for dating exclusively within your race but that appears to have some semblance of natural order that most people understand; or at the very least, accept...either way, it all seems so...limiting

True and as I've stated before, generally speaking, black women (and Asian men) don't have the option/opportunity to seek quality mates of other races. It's easier for everybody else to jump the color line, but black women and Asian men are at the bottom of the desireability scale when compared to others.

Personally, I love me some bruhs and ain't tryin' to fuck/date/marry someone of another race. But it tickles me when folks try to advise black women to date "outside" AS IF it's that fucking easy. Oh, I think I'll just go into my basement and whip up a white boy to date.

I personally don't give two pumps and a stroke what anybody else wants to do but I'm good with mine.

You really think black women are at the bottom of the desirability ladder? I think what we see there is socioeconomic stuff at play BIG TIME. I agree there's a certain "type" of black woman that no one seems appreciative of -- largely through assumptions, misperceptions, etc. imposed on her by others. But I think that black women generally have an increasing body of admirers as they enjoy more and more positive visibility in the world. I also think regional politics need to be considered here. If you came up to Toronto, for example, as a sexy, educated, self-sufficient black woman, unless you were an incorrigible shrew, you'd have to beat the men (of all sorts) off with a bat -- or, in your case, I guess, a gun.

Lammastide said:

SCNDLS said:

True and as I've stated before, generally speaking, black women (and Asian men) don't have the option/opportunity to seek quality mates of other races. It's easier for everybody else to jump the color line, but black women and Asian men are at the bottom of the desireability scale when compared to others.

Personally, I love me some bruhs and ain't tryin' to fuck/date/marry someone of another race. But it tickles me when folks try to advise black women to date "outside" AS IF it's that fucking easy. Oh, I think I'll just go into my basement and whip up a white boy to date.

I personally don't give two pumps and a stroke what anybody else wants to do but I'm good with mine.

You really think black women are at the bottom of the desirability ladder? I think what we see there is socioeconomic stuff at play BIG TIME. I agree there's a certain "type" of black woman that no one seems appreciative of -- largely through assumptions, misperceptions, etc. imposed on her by others. But I think that black women generally have an increasing body of admirers as they enjoy more and more positive visibility in the world. I also think regional politics need to be considered here. If you came up to Toronto, for example, as a sexy, educated, self-sufficient black woman, unless you were an incorrigible shrew, you'd have to beat the men (of all sorts) off with a bat -- or, in your case, I guess, a gun.

I typed a well-thought out, in-depth response and lost it to the Org gremlins. I ain't in the mood to retype that shit again on THIS topic, so I'll respond with:

As far as "others" are concerned, yes I do.

orger said:

I'm fairly certain that I've covered every race throughout the years...never had any major issues, even living in the deep south...

*can o' worms disclaimer:

I find it interesting that there are those that exclusively date ouside of their race, not because that's the way things have transpired but because they absolutely refuse to date within their race, that just seems odd to me...I guess the same could be said for dating exclusively within your race but that appears to have some semblance of natural order that most people understand; or at the very least, accept...either way, it all seems so...limiting

I was that way for years because I had developed a hatred for my own race because of the way they treated me for simply being friends with black people, let alone date them. Every race contains racists but the white race has contained THE most. They were the most outspoken and harrassing racists I've ever encountered and I absolutely hated them for it for years. I grew out of it though when had a few black folks shit on me also. That's when I started fooling around with white men also.....also, there's a lot more hairy white men out there than there are hairy black men.

But if you lived in the deep South and never had any problems, you must have kept it a secret because these bastards down here were downright all out in the open racists. Or you must have been dating interracially only in the last 20 years. They had become more hidden with their racism by then. They were hating me since 1979. I'm an old Teena Marie whore.

well i'm white but covered nearly head to toe in tattoos.

i was only with one person and he was arabic,puerto rican,german.

it's more about ppl staring at me cause of my amount of ink...

HotGritz said:

wha??? why sistahs looking at you with dissappointment? I would think you'd get that kind of look from other folk.

I've dated jews and cubans/mexicans all through my teens and early 20s with a smidgeon of asians. When I turned 28, I was all about the brothas and it's been that way since. I've only ever gotten flack from white and latina women and black men; usually the result of jealousy. The women were like "oh she thinks she's all that" and the brothas were like "traitor or paper chaser". Such reactions mean to me because the aforementioned groups are often the first one's to step out and date interracially.

I will say this about interracial marrying/breeding. If you're going to branch out...do it with dignity and date a person of substance. There's nothing more pathetic than those people who don't bother to check a person's background, family tree and character when dating interracially but when they date their own...they want mr. or mrs. perfect! If you're going to marry or make babies with a person that has nothing going on ....you can keep that in your own race/ethnic group/community. If you are going to go outside...make it be a step up, not a step down.

Tiger Woods comes to mind....matter of fact...so does Stacey Dash.

MJ

Prince

Nicole Simpson

OJ Simpson

My uncle who ended up leaving his good-natured black wife for some white trollop who messed up his money and now they're filing bankruptcy

Proceed....

I think it's become more acceptable for blackmen to date women of other races but if a blackwoman does then she's a sell out. Very sad indeed.

Lammastide said:

dancerella said:

I am! I'm black and my husband is white. Thankfully we haven't experienced too many problems from outsiders though on occasion i've seen black women look at me with dissapointment in their eyes.

Anyone care to share their opionions or experiences on dating outside of your race?

This may get me in trouble, but, assuming you're not parading his whiteness around like it somehow makes you more fully human (and, sadly, some of us do still carry on this way in 2011), my guess is that's not disappointment you detect; it's jealousy that you've acquired real estate someplace those particular women have merely dreamed of visiting.

If that's the case -- and if your husband and you genuinely honor one-another -- I say let 'em suffer.

[Edited 1/26/11 17:25pm]

absolutely not! in fact it's funny because even though we're married, we do a few things separately as well. we have hobbies we do with our friends, etc but when we goout for dinner or we're at the super market, if there's a clique of blacks chicks we get stared at hard. Sometimes black dudes do it too. I don't even know why they feel so affected by it. What's it to them??

purplemookiebut said:

well i'm white but covered nearly head to toe in tattoos.

i was only with one person and he was arabic,puerto rican,german.

it's more about ppl staring at me cause of my amount of ink...

He sounds HOT! They were probably staring because he looked so good.

vainandy said:

purplemookiebut said:

well i'm white but covered nearly head to toe in tattoos.

i was only with one person and he was arabic,puerto rican,german.

it's more about ppl staring at me cause of my amount of ink...

He sounds HOT! They were probably staring because he looked so good.

yes he certainly was a hot sexy guy! he had a great built on him on. great tight bod! he played football and wrestled in high school..

too bad when i was with him all he cared to do was play xbox when he wasn't working. he moved far away. i recently found him on facebook. was happy to hear he's going back to college to be a english teacher. he'll be the hot teacher all the students crush on.

[Edited 1/26/11 21:04pm]

purplemookiebut said:

vainandy said:

He sounds HOT! They were probably staring because he looked so good.

yes he certainly was a hot sexy guy! he had a great built on him on. great tight bod! he played football and wrestled in high school..

too bad when i was with him all he cared to do was play xbox when he wasn't working. he moved far away. i recently found him on facebook. was happy to hear he's going back to college to be a english teacher. he'll be the hot teacher all the students crush on.

[Edited 1/26/11 21:04pm]

I wonder if I can still fit into that little schoolboy uniform?

vainandy said:

But if you lived in the deep South and never had any problems, you must have kept it a secret because these bastards down here were downright all out in the open racists. Or you must have been dating interracially only in the last 20 years. They had become more hidden with their racism by then. They were hating me since 1979. I'm an old Teena Marie whore.

I never had any problems and it wasn't because I kept anything a secret...I don't consider odd looks, finger pointing, or stupid ass comments a problem...if it's to be expected but doesn't interfere with the relationship, then there's no foul as far as I'm concerned...I'm wasn't so naive as to think that it was gonna be peachy in everyones eyes and that folks weren't having a field day making comments...in my experience, it was black dudes that were the most vocal...I can't count how many times I've heard the girl I was with asked, "why you with that white boy?"

but those assholes, just like the racist rednecks around here were never man enough to push the issue and always said that shit in passing- fucking pussies ...stupid shit like that is easily ignored and I was always fortunate enough to date girls/women that felt the same way...