BklynBabe said:

LOL!

We have so got to get together again!

MoniGram said:

ZombieKitten said:

Moni

I am afraid my middle child is a potential target, he just doesn't conform in any way.

Oh no! Now this does sadden me. Your boys seem so sweet, why would anyone want to pick on any of them. He is lucky to have you as a Mom, you will help him through this and keep him strong.

you know how they don't TELL you anything? I found out from his brother, it's some kids from his year.

ZombieKitten said:

MoniGram said:

Oh no! Now this does sadden me. Your boys seem so sweet, why would anyone want to pick on any of them. He is lucky to have you as a Mom, you will help him through this and keep him strong.

you know how they don't TELL you anything? I found out from his brother, it's some kids from his year.

go to the prinicpal now and let them know what is going on. My parents did that. And they kept on top of it. It is their job to take care of your child while on school grounds. I'm sorry he is going through this.

Yes.

This guys used to make my life miserable in grade school by always pushing my desk, following me around or making fun of me.

I effin hated his guts. From that point on, I made it a point that I would tell the teacher if he ever does anything to me again.

And you know what the bastard told me at the last day of grade school, he told me he liked me and asked me out on a date. F HIM! EFFIN BASTARD!

I gave him a look of disgust and left.

Asymphony5 said:

Yes.

This guys used to make my life miserable in grade school by always pushing my desk, following me around or making fun of me.

I effin hated his guts. From that point on, I made it a point that I would tell the teacher if he ever does anything to me again.

And you know what the bastard told me at the last day of grade school, he told me he liked me and asked me out on a date. F HIM! EFFIN BASTARD!

I gave him a look of disgust and left.

I had a similar thing happen to me in the eighth grade. There was this one kid who would always pick on me. Then, right before graduation, the class went to an amusement park, and this asshole had the nerve to ask me to be his date! Of course, I turned him down. I felt like saying, "How stupid do you think I am? Do you REALLY think that I would go out on a date with YOU after you have picked on me all through grade school? You're just doing this as a joke, so you and your little friends can laugh about it later. FUCK YOU!" Stupid asshole wound up not having a date, but I didn't care. I was happy that I didn't fall for his stupid little game. Prick.

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Yep, more verbal than physical. It's not cool for black kids(especially boys) to achieve in school. You're called 'punk', 'fag', 'white', among other things. Plus, being small for my age and only average at sports didn't help either.

ZombieKitten said:

MoniGram said:

Oh no! Now this does sadden me. Your boys seem so sweet, why would anyone want to pick on any of them. He is lucky to have you as a Mom, you will help him through this and keep him strong.

you know how they don't TELL you anything? I found out from his brother, it's some kids from his year.

That's awful!

I hope everything works out... Did you talk with him about it?

yeah I was...

I was going to a rather "rich" school, with those spoiled kids who wouldn't talk to you if you didn't wear the "right" clothes/brands/trendy stuff... That is a state of mind I didn't have since I was coming from a 'modest' family and a small town in the countryside.

I was a shy guy, quite "nerdy"... I hated sports and the 'regular things' boys like (cars, video Games, thug/ghetto imagery). I wasn't into going out and dating girls. I was a good student, respectful, and the way I was raised always made me believe knowledge, succeeding in your goals is more important than anything else.So "superficial" stuff did'nt matter to me...

I was that guy nobody wanted in his basketball/football team, and being called "faggot" because I had a "thing" with most girls, even the older ones... The 'big guys' were always asking me if I was fucking/dating/kissing one of those girls, and whenever I said "er.. no". They would go "I knew it, you are a faggot anyway!!".. This led to made up stories : One guy reported I was staring at his ass in the locker room, the other said I caressed his thigh in the middle of the English course...

Now I look back at it and just laugh about it. But somehow it left a profound trauma in me. The

positive side is that I've gained more confidence over the year, being called names, other people judgements don't do shit to me now... But at the same time, a misanthropic side grew in me. I can't trust the Human Being 100%. And I even hate when people mention "how innocent" kids are. That is totally false. Kids are the cruelest creatures. Honestly.

I was teased a lot but I found a way not to get bullied too much. I remember it got heavy at one time during middle school, like in sixth grade. Like I just didn't wanna go but after a while I got used to it. By eighth grade, I learned how to handle it. But it's not easy for everybody and I was shy/nerdy too.

Yep by girls who found something wrong with me for some reason or another. From grammar school to highschool.

ZombieKitten said:

MoniGram said:

Oh no! Now this does sadden me. Your boys seem so sweet, why would anyone want to pick on any of them. He is lucky to have you as a Mom, you will help him through this and keep him strong.

you know how they don't TELL you anything? I found out from his brother, it's some kids from his year.

Oh no!

I know I never told my parents that my own cousin was doing horrible things to me. To this day my parents have no idea the hell I dealt with as a child.

I hope all will be okay!

I've been teased once or twice but never bullied.

bullying from college is the worst....a lil teasing from grade school i could handle, but handling a transisition ffrom idiot, gay, whore, dog, etc...has made for an evil bitch....thanks mufukkas. ...

uPtoWnNY said:

Yep, more verbal than physical. It's not cool for black kids(especially boys) to achieve in school. You're called 'punk', 'fag', 'white', among other things. Plus, being small for my age and only average at sports didn't help either.

That's what I got to. I hardly got physical bullying. It was more verbal teasing. I was either "white", "geek", "weird" or just someone to make fun of it be it my voice or anything. The verbal teasing used to hurt until grade 8.

I'm surprised at the huge amount of orgers that were bullied, verbally or physically

In my case, I was never bullied physically, but in high school there was this rumour that I was gay ( ), because of the fixed eyebrows, the Prince/Bowie/Madonna fandom and the occassional use of makeup (Prince is the one to blame I guess). People also ridiculed me because I had no girlfriend (when you're 16-17 it's pretty hard to be satisfied with one girl only but they were too f*ckin' ugly/stupid to understand that). So, I was forced to "slap" a couple of assholes in order to prove that I was "a man" (oh yes, I watched them bleed) and I nearly got kicked out of the school in the process In the end, I had to stop using makeup during high school and that annoyed me, MIGHTLY

other than that, I had no more bullying experiences...

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Elementary and Middle School there were kids that picked on me but I had A LOT of friends so (more teased I guessed) …. I was kind of quiet and had those nerdy glasses so yes easy target. High School had the most fun and of course there were immature kids there too but it was better times. But that’s probably why I’m a mean bitch now because of that... Oh well.

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babybugz said:

Elementary and Middle School there were kids that picked on me but I had A LOT of friends so (more teased I guessed) …. I was kind of quiet and had those nerdy glasses so yes easy target. High School had the most fun and of course there were immature kids there too but it was better times. But that’s probably why I’m a mean bitch now because of that... Oh well.

[Edited 1/23/11 15:40pm]

I think it was more on that. If someone even tried to REALLY bully me, I'd probably retaliate against the "bully".

Timmy84 said:

babybugz said:

Elementary and Middle School there were kids that picked on me but I had A LOT of friends so (more teased I guessed) …. I was kind of quiet and had those nerdy glasses so yes easy target. High School had the most fun and of course there were immature kids there too but it was better times. But that’s probably why I’m a mean bitch now because of that... Oh well.

[Edited 1/23/11 15:40pm]

I think it was more on that. If someone even tried to REALLY bully me, I'd probably retaliate against the "bully".

Elementary there was one girl who tried to become a bully but my parents fixed that many years later I saw her she tried to say hi and I ignore her and One in high school who tried as well I got her kicked out the school Even though we grown now I do not forget I stop caring near high school I used to cry alot before.

babybugz said:

Timmy84 said:

I think it was more on that. If someone even tried to REALLY bully me, I'd probably retaliate against the "bully".

Elementary there was one girl who tried to become a bully but my parents fixed that many years later I saw her she tried to say hi and I ignore her and One in high school who tried as well I got her kicked out the school Even though we grown now I do not forget I stop caring near high school I used to cry alot before.

It's funny. Some of the ones who TRIED to bully ended up being a "friend". Most were like "hey Tim what's the answer to this question?"

Timmy84 said:

babybugz said:

Elementary there was one girl who tried to become a bully but my parents fixed that many years later I saw her she tried to say hi and I ignore her and One in high school who tried as well I got her kicked out the school Even though we grown now I do not forget I stop caring near high school I used to cry alot before.

It's funny. Some of the ones who TRIED to bully ended up being a "friend". Most were like "hey Tim what's the answer to this question?"

Yes toward senior year they tried to be all buddy buddy with me I was like please I have two old classmates that I still keep up with. Recently old classmates trying to add me on facebook SMH

babybugz said:

Timmy84 said:

It's funny. Some of the ones who TRIED to bully ended up being a "friend". Most were like "hey Tim what's the answer to this question?"

Yes toward senior year they tried to be all buddy buddy with me I was like please I have two old classmates that I still keep up with. Recently old classmates trying to add me on facebook SMH

Same here though I did get along with those I get requests from.

Timmy84 said:

uPtoWnNY said:

Yep, more verbal than physical. It's not cool for black kids(especially boys) to achieve in school. You're called 'punk', 'fag', 'white', among other things. Plus, being small for my age and only average at sports didn't help either.

That's what I got to. I hardly got physical bullying. It was more verbal teasing. I was either "white", "geek", "weird" or just someone to make fun of it be it my voice or anything. The verbal teasing used to hurt until grade 8.

That's why I was so happy going to college and leaving those ghetto-thinking fools behind.

uPtoWnNY said:

Timmy84 said:

That's what I got to. I hardly got physical bullying. It was more verbal teasing. I was either "white", "geek", "weird" or just someone to make fun of it be it my voice or anything. The verbal teasing used to hurt until grade 8.

That's why I was so happy going to college and leaving those ghetto-thinking fools behind.

Yeah going to community college was great because folks left you alone unless you wanted to be friends.

Timmy84 said:

uPtoWnNY said:

That's why I was so happy going to college and leaving those ghetto-thinking fools behind.

Yeah going to community college was great because folks left you alone unless you wanted to be friends.

I went to Rutgers... I encountered a whole NEW kind of bullying there.

By then, tho, I didn't care anymore.

chocolate1 said:

Timmy84 said:

Yeah going to community college was great because folks left you alone unless you wanted to be friends.

I went to Rutgers... I encountered a whole NEW kind of bullying there.

By then, tho, I didn't care anymore.

Going to a regular college, yeah of course, that's going to be there but I was prepared anyway.

It was more of bullied/picked on/glared at situations. It was sporadic from middle school through freshman year of college, and there wasn't really a pattern of when it happened. I guess I was an easy target because I was awkward and shy, but most of the issues had to do with me not following the black cliques. Growing up in SF, I'm used to be around different ethnicities, and had friends of different ethncities including my own.

In elementary school, I was the only black girl in my class for three years, and it was not a big deal to me. That school was mostly Filipino and Latino. In middle school that shifted dramatically when I attended a predominantly Black Catholic school. The friends I made during that time were of various ethnicities. Well, that bothered a couple of folks, and they made a point of letting me know. For some reason, I knew in middle school that I didn't fit in with the all black crowd mostly, because I was quiet and didn't dress like someone who kept up with the trends, and my growth spurt were my feet. One girl who bothered me in middle school ended up harrassing a childhood friend of mine in high school over not hanging with the all-black crowd. Now my friend had a mouth on her, so she was able to shut her down.

By high school, the demographics was predominantly Filipinas and Latinas, then Blacks and Whites were the minority. This time a couple of mostly black upper and lower classmen at an all-girl Catholic school, who didn't like me for whatever reason: not hanging with all blacks, or proudly displaying my love for Duran Duran and baseball. In high school the Freshmen were paired with Seniors. I remember my big sister choosing me only because black girls are supposed to match up with each other, and I clearly remember her being disappointed when she chose me. We warmed up to each other over time, but never felt close to her. The breaking point for me was being harassed at my Junior prom because I went with a white guy. I was shy about talking to guys, so my mom set me up with her coworker's son. Folks weren't having it, and two girls kept saying mess out loud and practically in my face. I told them to leave me alone, but I broke down in the restroom later on and that ruined my night.

In college, when I lived in a dorm, I befriended a couple of girls from SF. Things were cool, altho looking back I realized that I was losing myself, while trying to be their friends. A misunderstanding occurred that could have been resolved by talking about it, but instead it led to being ostracized, getting harrassing phone calls, and almost getting into a fight, which coincidentally helped to end everything else. I'm not a fighter at all, but I was willing to go there just to be left alone. Fortunately her friend stepped in before she lunged at me. Best believe it was an out of body experience.

I still have a couple of my childhood friends, and I have developed relationships since college with black females, but I do get apprehensive at times. I never understood why what I did, liked, or who hung out with should be anybody's business or concern. I don't pay attention to you, so why are you paying any attention to me? I knew these girls didn't want me to be their friend, they only wanted to strenghten the racial clique. A year and a half ago at the middle school reunion, the bully was there. I also brought my friend who was bullied by her in high school. Needless to say, she doesn't remember any of it, which I wasn't surprised. Last year at my high school reunion, I heard about a couple of girls, who were mean to me were going through abusive relationships. Actually one of the bullies younger sister apologized about a decade ago when I saw her at a restaurant. I didn't say anything to her other than acknowledging that we went to the same school. From there she said sorry for how she acted towards me in high school. I didn't know or remember what she had done to me, but I accepted it. I never had these issues at church, but school was not all that good socially.

I never knew what group I fit in with, but by the second half of high school and university I was a floater with friends of various backgrounds and personalities.

Some bitches in my daughters high school were bullying my daughter over an incident I wont go into, so I went to the principle and told him if they said ONE more word to her I was pressing charges and filing a restraining order. There was a zero tolerence rule for that at the school. He was very accomodating because he didnt want that mess to deal with... They didnt bother her after that... My daughter was pretty mad at me at the time for calling them out, becuase she felt like she was a tattle tale, but now she understands why I did it and is grateful...

I am so glad we finally moved from that horrendous town..

I myself wasnt bullied, but did get teasing now and again like most kids have...

When I was a freshman in high school, one of my friends older sister was pretty mean and decided her and her buddy wanted to initiate me, so I ended up balwing and made them feel bad so they apologised..

My other friends big sister took it upon herself to be my protector after that but they never bothered me again..

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[Edited 1/24/11 5:34am]

I was that little guy in High School that could easily be picked up and thrown into a locker.

My high school was a bit "rough" and I amazingly came out relatively unscathed. Never thrown a punch in my life.

The secret to my survival was keeping a low profile and internalizing everything. Bullies lose interest in you when they can't get a rise out of you. They move on to more "excitable" prey.

...unfortunately, I've had a hard time letting go of that defense mechanism.

PurpleJedi said:

I was that little guy in High School that could easily be picked up and thrown into a locker.

My high school was a bit "rough" and I amazingly came out relatively unscathed. Never thrown a punch in my life.

The secret to my survival was keeping a low profile and internalizing everything. Bullies lose interest in you when they can't get a rise out of you. They move on to more "excitable" prey.

...unfortunately, I've had a hard time letting go of that defense mechanism.

yes I became a recluse myself and kept to myself and did work though I would talk to whoever was nice to me, though they would say stupid things too, that make me laugh now

at the end, a lot of them remembered me as the quiet girl that shocked them with singing and dancing if there was a function or talent show and then I would retreat again...it gave me some kind of rush being like that, and made me feel like I'm a mystery Maybe that's why I related to MJ so much.