ZombieKitten said:

purpledoveuk said:

ZombieKitten said:

Yes - big time, from the second day right through. It's a story I've told on here many times so you've probably heard it and I won't bore you. It resulted in life altering experiences (mind you all experiences affect your path), got me into Prince and, oddly, is a time I'm now remenising about

actually no, I've not read your story

Yes.

i've always assumed everyone has been bullied at some point in their lives.

JerseyKRS said:

i've always assumed everyone has been bullied at some point in their lives.

Maybe... but at the time you feel like you're the only one...

chocolate1 said:

JerseyKRS said:

i've always assumed everyone has been bullied at some point in their lives.

Maybe... but at the time you feel like you're the only one...

at the time it made me want to set them on fire.

ZombieKitten said:

Big time bullied!!!

There was this kid named Ryan Shutte...how sad that even after all these years I know his name and can see his face. Then there was my cousin Irma.

The bullying started with Ryan in about 3rd grade, he would call me flat face (I don't really have a profile) , and asked me what car did I chase to get a profile like that. He did this up until 6th grade. Then when we got to Jr. High, he was lost amoungst the kids that people didn't notice.

My cousin, she made my life hell up until 9th grade! She moved down the street from me at the end of 3rd grade, and I remember in 4th, 5th, 7th, and 8th grade she managed to get a group of people to stop talking to me and tease me behind my back. In 4th grade she managed to get the whole class to stop talking to me for half the school year. I would just walk around alone on recess. It got so bad I started skipping school. Skipping grade school, how crazy is that?? When we got to Jr. High, she managed to get all the kids at our bus stop to tease me and call me fat. Waiting for the bus and the bus rides to school and back were HELL!!! I look back on this now and realize I was not fat, I only weighed 125 lbs, at 5'5".

My cousin's bullying has had a huge effect on how I look at myself now. Even Ryan's bullying has caused me issues. I have low self esteem, I have trouble trusting and making friends, I am always looking for something, that I have yet to figure out. I have trouble looking in the mirror, and the depression of my self body image sadly back fired and I turned to food, and made what both Ryan and Irma said come true.

I am 39 yrs old and I still feel the hurt they both caused me. This is why I always told my kids, NEVER tease or pick on someone. Always be nice to your fellow classmates. The phrase is wrong "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me" like hell they don't. I would have rather had sticks and stones thrown at me, then to forever hear the words of "Here comes flat face" and hear barking noises as I walked by. Or forever look in the mirror and hear my cousin's words telling me how fat and ugly I am.

I hope your boys are not having to deal with this. This would sadden me greatly!

honestly, no...I had a few bullies try

I was anything but passive as a child

I was actually the kid that other kids

counted on to help with bullies

yeah, many times

during middle school it was emotional though in elementary it was physical

It happened because I was smart and people also knew that I would not fight. I was bullied all through grammar and high school. Some of my bullies have reached out to me since then but I refuse to forgive them. They can go fuck themselves. They ruined grammar school and high school for me at a time where I was already a fucked up kid.

I was teased here and there. I don't think I was really bullied, at least not that I can think of.

JerseyKRS said:

i've always assumed everyone has been bullied at some point in their lives.

That was my thought as well.

yes...big time.

crazy how kids today do shit like columbine. thats scary and now with cyber bullying too!! imagine if all those assholes had access to your facebook wall...shudders

orger said:

honestly, no...I had a few bullies try

I was anything but passive as a child

I was actually the kid that other kids

counted on to help with bullies

Me too...

To this day, if my friends have problems with others, they come to me for help. I don't mind, I can't stand people who bully.

i forgave my bullies

and this coworker bully who was trying to "make peace" with me said sometimes when I looked at her I look like I could be a "columbine killer" and though it may sound funny, i was horrified at hearing that and cried for a year :*( feeling like I look scary or something though I'm generally told I'm really good looking and feel good about myself

JerseyKRS said:

i've always assumed everyone has been bullied at some point in their lives.

Probably, but not everyone is savaged from the day they enter school to the time they leave high school.

Yes, relentlessly so. In the 6th grade I did a solo dance in the talent contest and the boys in the front row spit at me, threw things at me and called me faggot both in English & Spanish. When my mother reacted to the Principal, he made her the problem telling her to calm down because she is causing a scene. My mother flipped out on him and yelled at him telling him he should be talking to the parents that don't know how to raise their children instead of her

MoniGram said:

ZombieKitten said:

Big time bullied!!!

There was this kid named Ryan Shutte...how sad that even after all these years I know his name and can see his face. Then there was my cousin Irma.

The bullying started with Ryan in about 3rd grade, he would call me flat face (I don't really have a profile) , and asked me what car did I chase to get a profile like that. He did this up until 6th grade. Then when we got to Jr. High, he was lost amoungst the kids that people didn't notice.

My cousin, she made my life hell up until 9th grade! She moved down the street from me at the end of 3rd grade, and I remember in 4th, 5th, 7th, and 8th grade she managed to get a group of people to stop talking to me and tease me behind my back. In 4th grade she managed to get the whole class to stop talking to me for half the school year. I would just walk around alone on recess. It got so bad I started skipping school. Skipping grade school, how crazy is that?? When we got to Jr. High, she managed to get all the kids at our bus stop to tease me and call me fat. Waiting for the bus and the bus rides to school and back were HELL!!! I look back on this now and realize I was not fat, I only weighed 125 lbs, at 5'5".

My cousin's bullying has had a huge effect on how I look at myself now. Even Ryan's bullying has caused me issues. I have low self esteem, I have trouble trusting and making friends, I am always looking for something, that I have yet to figure out. I have trouble looking in the mirror, and the depression of my self body image sadly back fired and I turned to food, and made what both Ryan and Irma said come true.

I am 39 yrs old and I still feel the hurt they both caused me. This is why I always told my kids, NEVER tease or pick on someone. Always be nice to your fellow classmates. The phrase is wrong "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me" like hell they don't. I would have rather had sticks and stones thrown at me, then to forever hear the words of "Here comes flat face" and hear barking noises as I walked by. Or forever look in the mirror and hear my cousin's words telling me how fat and ugly I am.

I hope your boys are not having to deal with this. This would sadden me greatly!

Hugs X Infinity!

Where is your cousin now? is she still like this?

I assumed everyone was too at some point. Mine was up until grade 7, after that it became emotional though I myself allowed it by trying too hard to be popular. After a terrible incident in grade 11, I cut myself from stupid people and just lived in isolation and talked to people I got along with well and focused more on schoolwork and got addicted to music though I already was and that was my escapism from the pain and worry. But it boosted my confidence and it was my weapon to show some people I had something about myself they can't touch, as cocky as that sounds, maybe I'm just bitter. It went too far though cause after that, my family fell apart and issues were going on for years, and I developed depression that has now turned chronic in recent years.

I had a problem with a cousin too and though we talk again, it is not the same anymore and supericial, and I have not recovered from it...it's related to the bad incident.

[Edited 1/21/11 10:03am]

JerseyKRS said:

i've always assumed everyone has been bullied at some point in their lives.

yeah, but I know I never really got it too bad.

Well i never got bullied to much i was always a big kid i used to be really fat as well as taller then the other kid's, but i did get laughed at for my weight QUITE A FEW times when i was on the football team. Mainly by those thing's we know as cheerleaders

But it's cool, as i showed on my weight loss video i lost over 120 ibs and i'm fit now so a big screw you to them....

And bullies in general just suck

I know it's no excuse, but I assume bullies learned it from somewhere, namely being bullied themselves. They figure "my dad did this to me, it must be how you show affection."

NDRU said:

I know it's no excuse, but I assume bullies learned it from somewhere, namely being bullied themselves. They figure "my dad did this to me, it must be how you show affection."

from parents, siblings, tv

NDRU said:

I know it's no excuse, but I assume bullies learned it from somewhere, namely being bullied themselves. They figure "my dad did this to me, it must be how you show affection."

so many times this is exactly the case

Vendetta1 said:

It happened because I was smart and people also knew that I would not fight. I was bullied all through grammar and high school. Some of my bullies have reached out to me since then but I refuse to forgive them. They can go fuck themselves. They ruined grammar school and high school for me at a time where I was already a fucked up kid.

My experience, exactly.

Yes...

Had to learn to stand up fo them by myself and fight a few off.

As I got older, the bullies came in numbers... it was never just one (punk bitches... some were even dudes threatening to rape me)

So for the guys, I got me an overprotective, thug boyfriend that was an accomplished drug dealer.

For the wanna be gang banger female bullies, I learned to play on their insecurities and learned to outsmart them. They left me alone after that.

So as an adult my only bullies were my sister and a few bossy women I happened to get lucky enough to know .... checked all that bitchy bossy ass behavior, now I am bully free completely.

I learned to STOP being passive agressive and I was no longer fearful of some person not liking me.

I don't care if people get angry at me, if you hurt me... you will know. So I thank all my bullies for making me a strong person.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

NDRU said:

I know it's no excuse, but I assume bullies learned it from somewhere, namely being bullied themselves. They figure "my dad did this to me, it must be how you show affection."

so many times this is exactly the case

this is why I might forgive a very young bully, but eventually they become the bad guy if they do not break the cycle