Here's my dilemma with Facebook. Having been around for a few decades (but nowhere near retirement), I have grown to love facebook and social networking.

Here's the problem, the friends I have in my life are in my life for a reason. Then there are people that are just acquaintances that I met either in school or work, or from my friends. I have added a lot of folks. I didn’t realize I was that well know in my little circle. There are also close friends that I have, that can’t stand each other, but we’re cool. In life, I can separate the two, facebook you cannot.

I find myself filtering my posts because my worlds have collided in facebook. And don’t get me started with the (younger and older) family members I have added. I have a thought, a music post or a topic that I would like to share with “my friends” but I don’t dare to because there are some folks that won’t get it and I don’t feel like explaining. It's easy when your 16-18, because you are just figuring things out. The worse part of that statement, these younger folks are keeping a journal of thier life that will be recorded forever and they have no filters!!

I guess it’s really NONE OF THEIR DAMN BUSINESS to begin with.

In hindsight, I wish I would have kept facebook to just my absolute closest friends and I’m able to speak freely.

Do you filter your posts??

SNL - Damn it, my Mom is on Facebook!

i don't have FB.

I only use FB as a "placeholder", so my extended family knows where to contact me. Nevertheless, my profile pic there is just a piece of graphic art I designed specifically for FB, so that my face remains anonymous to anyone not on the "Friends List". I only use my wall to occasionally post YouTube music videos of some of my favorite artists or songs, and I keep my wall pruned of any content older than a few weeks. In short, I'm on Facebook, but don't share anything of any personal nature with anyone on there. Regarding my online profiles; I've always run a tight ship.

I share my more personal thoughts and feelings in various blogs, none of which any of my family are aware, and all of which are under various aliases. I'm sure I probably spend more time on prince.org (...just made my 9 year anniversary here!) than I do FB or any of the other blogs.

I think in general, people share way too much information online.

i love facebook but I totally relate to your post ...

I have not filtered (altho i learned quick to cut out farmville etc)

I go hot and cold with friends on facebook ... overall ... and because of that I kinda check it out every couple of days ... I do get sick of the "just ate a brownie and now I am going to clean" .... posts ...

i certainly don't filter. i just type everything and blurt it out b4 i think sometimes. ..and i just don't care

i don't facebook, or tweet. that's how i filter

XxAxX said:

i don't facebook, or tweet. that's how i filter

BlackAdder7 said:

XxAxX said:

i don't facebook, or tweet. that's how i filter

you're missing out. i made a face out of books once

nice

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It's ridiculous to filter (on fb or real life). It takes entirely too much effort and sucks the joy out of life and being yourself, IMO.

If I'm worried about how someone might react to what I say on facebook or real life I just don't have them there.

And you shouldn't have to be separating friends. That is not your problem if they cannot get along. I have friends who do not get along and if I have a party I invite both. It is up to them to keep it civil in my presence if they both want to be my friend, not the other way around. I'm not a babysitter.

I solved the problem by having 2 facebooks

one for FUN

the other for people I know in real life

ZombieKitten said:

I solved the problem by having 2 facebooks

one for FUN

the other for people I know in real life

You know me in real life. You just might only see me once a decade.

johnart said:

ZombieKitten said:

I solved the problem by having 2 facebooks

one for FUN

the other for people I know in real life

You know me in real life. You just might only see me once a decade.

yes, I was in 2 minds about adding back those of you I know in real life

so only you and NDRU are on both so far - I was a bit tipsy the night I thought that was a good idea

ZombieKitten said:

johnart said:

You know me in real life. You just might only see me once a decade.

yes, I was in 2 minds about adding back those of you I know in real life

so only you and NDRU are on both so far - I was a bit tipsy the night I thought that was a good idea

bitch

I promise not to cuss or say offensive stuff on your page.

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johnart said:

ZombieKitten said:

yes, I was in 2 minds about adding back those of you I know in real life

so only you and NDRU are on both so far - I was a bit tipsy the night I thought that was a good idea

bitch

I promise not to cuss or say offensive stuff on your page.

watch out I have a client on there!!!

johnart said:

It's ridiculous to filter (on fb or real life). It takes entirely too much effort and sucks the joy out of life and being yourself, IMO.

If I'm worried about how someone might react to what I say on facebook or real life I just don't have them there.

And you shouldn't have to be separating friends. That is not your problem if they cannot get along. I have friends who do not get along and if I have a party I invite both. It is up to them to keep it civil in my presence if they both want to be my friend, not the other way around. I'm not a babysitter.

Those are all very strong points, and the ideal way to live.

johnart said:

It's ridiculous to filter (on fb or real life). It takes entirely too much effort and sucks the joy out of life and being yourself, IMO.

If I'm worried about how someone might react to what I say on facebook or real life I just don't have them there.

And you shouldn't have to be separating friends. That is not your problem if they cannot get along. I have friends who do not get along and if I have a party I invite both. It is up to them to keep it civil in my presence if they both want to be my friend, not the other way around. I'm not a babysitter.

I agree. I never filter my posts. If people don't like what I say on Facebook, that's their problem, not mine. They can always "unfriend" me if they are offended by what I say. I don't stress about it much, because it just isn't worth it. Part of having a Facebook account is the ability to just be yourself. If a person can't be themself, and they feel like they have to watch what they say on Facebook, then maybe they shouldn't be on there in the first place.

I deleted mine's cuz I got tired of folks preaching to me on FB I mean I love the Lord just as much as anyone else maybe more, but some folks take it to far posting crap daily on folks fb pages.

nursev said:

I deleted mine's cuz I got tired of folks preaching to me on FB I mean I love the Lord just as much as anyone else maybe more, but some folks take it to far posting crap daily on folks fb pages.

You deleted your FB account? Awwwww! You can hide posts that you don't want to see. I've done that already myself.

nursev said:

I deleted mine's cuz I got tired of folks preaching to me on FB I mean I love the Lord just as much as anyone else maybe more, but some folks take it to far posting crap daily on folks fb pages.

The one's that "get" me are the one's that want to tell you what GOD wants you to do, or what GOD expects of you, lol. I'm like... REALLY? And you know this... HOW?

psychodelicide said:

nursev said:

I deleted mine's cuz I got tired of folks preaching to me on FB I mean I love the Lord just as much as anyone else maybe more, but some folks take it to far posting crap daily on folks fb pages.

You deleted your FB account? Awwwww! You can hide posts that you don't want to see. I've done that already myself.

besides my ex husband kept wanting to chat on fb Damn! It's enough that I talk to the mofo on the phone, but he wanted to fb stalk too I shoulda just deleted some folks!

PDogz said:

nursev said:

I deleted mine's cuz I got tired of folks preaching to me on FB I mean I love the Lord just as much as anyone else maybe more, but some folks take it to far posting crap daily on folks fb pages.

The one's that "get" me are the one's that want to tell you what GOD wants you to do, or what GOD expects of you, lol. I'm like... REALLY? And you know this... HOW?

exactly

nursev said:

psychodelicide said:

You deleted your FB account? Awwwww! You can hide posts that you don't want to see. I've done that already myself.

besides my ex husband kept wanting to chat on fb Damn! It's enough that I talk to the mofo on the phone, but he wanted to fb stalk too I shoulda just deleted some folks!

That would be creepy having an ex husband wanting to chat with you on Facebook. I'd be like, "Leave me alone! You're my ex for a reason!"

psychodelicide said:

nursev said:

besides my ex husband kept wanting to chat on fb Damn! It's enough that I talk to the mofo on the phone, but he wanted to fb stalk too I shoulda just deleted some folks!

That would be creepy having an ex husband wanting to chat with you on Facebook. I'd be like, "Leave me alone! You're my ex for a reason!"

My 17 yr old ignores him too He says his father is always on his chat box FB is a good thing, but also and evil one too

XxAxX said:

i don't facebook, or tweet. that's how i filter

Me too.

The org is my Facebook. Until my mom joins that is.

sextonseven said:

XxAxX said:

i don't facebook, or tweet. that's how i filter

Me too.

The org is my Facebook. Until my mom joins that is.

Mom's is on here? Kinda cute

nursev said:

psychodelicide said:

That would be creepy having an ex husband wanting to chat with you on Facebook. I'd be like, "Leave me alone! You're my ex for a reason!"

My 17 yr old ignores him too He says his father is always on his chat box FB is a good thing, but also and evil one too

nursev said:

sextonseven said:

Me too.

The org is my Facebook. Until my mom joins that is.

Mom's is on here? Kinda cute

On Facebook, yes. Along with most of my family (and I have a pretty big family).

nursev said:

psychodelicide said:

That would be creepy having an ex husband wanting to chat with you on Facebook. I'd be like, "Leave me alone! You're my ex for a reason!"

My 17 yr old ignores him too He says his father is always on his chat box FB is a good thing, but also and evil one too

I quickly learned the value of keeping that particular FB feature turned OFF.

PDogz said:

nursev said:

My 17 yr old ignores him too He says his father is always on his chat box FB is a good thing, but also and evil one too

I quickly learned the value of keeping that particular FB feature turned OFF.

I keep the chat box off too.

PDogz said:

nursev said:

My 17 yr old ignores him too He says his father is always on his chat box FB is a good thing, but also and evil one too

I quickly learned the value of keeping that particular FB feature turned OFF.

maybe I should've tried that