i had such a long day today... shopping, gardening, washed the car, dinner, ironing....

then as soon as i sat down n put my feet up.....

the sister in law pops in for a 3 hour visit!!!!!!

Why do they do that!!!!

Why can't they call first!!!!

Why do they have to stay so long????

do u get them?

how do u get rid of them?

i want all the secrets to keeping unwanted visitors away!!!!

please

My friends and family know that I don't like surprise visitors and respect that .

When I am staying with my bf we are lucky that we live so far away from the next house that it is too much of an effort for anybody to just show up . Otherwise people would probably do it all the time as he has such a huge family. And we show up unexpected by members of his family or friends all the time and even stay for the night .

physco185 said:

i want all the secrets to keeping unwanted visitors away!!!!

please

Ask your friends and family to please give you notice before they stop by.

In the meantime, just pretend you're not home.

Ace said:

physco185 said:

i want all the secrets to keeping unwanted visitors away!!!!

please

Ask your friends and family to please give you notice before they stop by.

In the meantime, just pretend you're not home.

friends don't do that... it was family

when i saw the car i ran to put something on as i was only wearing shorts n a bra (it was hot today)

so the kids let them in and told them that i was getting dressed

Serious said:

My friends and family know that I don't like surprise visitors and respect that .

When I am staying with my bf we are lucky that we live so far away from the next house that it is too much of an effort for anybody to just show up . Otherwise people would probably do it all the time as he has such a huge family. And we show up unexpected by members of his family or friends all the time and even stay for the night .

norty norty

physco185 said:

Serious said:

My friends and family know that I don't like surprise visitors and respect that .

When I am staying with my bf we are lucky that we live so far away from the next house that it is too much of an effort for anybody to just show up . Otherwise people would probably do it all the time as he has such a huge family. And we show up unexpected by members of his family or friends all the time and even stay for the night .

norty norty

But only if we cannot avoid it. We much more enjoy it to sleep at home.

Serious said:

physco185 said:

norty norty

But only if we cannot avoid it. We much more enjoy it to sleep at home.

if u sleep over their place... do u fuck?????

physco185 said:

Serious said:

But only if we cannot avoid it. We much more enjoy it to sleep at home.

if u sleep over their place... do u fuck?????

Well apart from one or 2 times it was never planned to sleep over, but we had to because of circumstances. So we didn't have any condoms with us. One time we were very close to doing it without one . Thank God my mind took control of the situation again just in time . For the future I plan to take condoms with me whenever we leave his village, so we might do it then. At least in the cases when we have a room for our own . I remember I made love to my ex one time when we were staying in the house of a friends aunt and our friend was in the same room. So maybe I would even go for it if we did not have a room for our own .

Serious said:

physco185 said:

if u sleep over their place... do u fuck?????

Well apart from one or 2 times it was never planned to sleep over, but we had to because of circumstances. So we didn't have any condoms with us. One time we were very close to doing it without one . Thank God my mind took control of the situation again just in time . For the future I plan to take condoms with me whenever we leave his village, so we might do it then. At least in the cases when we have a room for our own . I remember I made love to my ex one time when we were staying in the house of a friends aunt and our friend was in the same room. So maybe I would even go for it if we did not have a room for our own .

oh... that sounds hot!!!!!!

NO. NO. NO.

This is one of my HUGEST pet peeves.
I don't allow it and folk KNOW because when they drop by unnanounced (family included) I tell them "You don't do shit like that."

Yes I do.

I don't even get expected visitors, which is fine by me.

zaza said:

My aunt, uncle and cousin..they come Every.Fucking.Day.

We do much MUCH better when we live at least a few hours away from family.

I don't understand why families want to be on top of each other all the damn time.

This is considered unacceptable by everyone I know. It just doesn’t happen. Especially in this day and age of cell phones you can at the very least call when you’re a few minutes outside to see if someone’s around and everyone has the option of saying “it’s not a good time”.

And anyway I live in a secured building. They wouldn’t get past the lobby.

Simply ignore the door. That's what I do. I think it's very rude to just drop in. You don't know what people have planned, and it could just mess up their entire day.

Used to date a "special agent in charge" who thought nothing of doing this, but when I asked him what he would do if I just dropped in on him, he looked at me like I was nuts and said, "You better not show up unannounced!" That finally let me know what an asshole I was dealing with. I told him to step.

I love visitors! I would never expect family or friends to call before coming over. I'd appreciate it but, our house is always open....I mean, that's what friends and family are for right? ok ok, I supposed if I had an annoying family memeber coming over unannounced all the time I might have to say something but it would have to be really bad.

Shorty said:

I love visitors! I would never expect family or friends to call before coming over. I'd appreciate it but, our house is always open....I mean, that's what friends and family are for right? ok ok, I supposed if I had an annoying family memeber coming over unannounced all the time I might have to say something but it would have to be really bad.

That's really nice and I applaud you for that, but I could not live like that . My bf's family (or at least all the members I know, his family is huge like I said) are all like that and it might be also part of their culture, but I would not feel comfortable . I am happy to invite people over (I have had some orgers staying with me too who I never met before) but please don't come to my apartment without telling me first, no matter how much I like you .

Ace said:

physco185 said:

i want all the secrets to keeping unwanted visitors away!!!!

please

Ask your friends and family to please give you notice before they stop by.

In the meantime, just pretend you're not home.

I had a friend who had the bad habit of just stopping by without notice. I told him that I enjoyed his visits, but that I would appreciate it if he would call me first before coming over. I understand physco185's feelings about this, because I feel the same way. I hate it when people stop by out of the blue. How do they know that I'm not home, or that I'm not in the bathroom sick, or that I just am not in the mood for visitors at the time? To me, it's just common courtesy for the caller to let the person know that they want to come over, and to ensure that the person that they want to visit are okay with it.

johnart said:

NO. NO. NO.

This is one of my HUGEST pet peeves.
I don't allow it and folk KNOW because when they drop by unnanounced (family included) I tell them "You don't do shit like that."

Yes I do.

It's one of my biggest pet peeves too.

You know, my boyfriend wouldn’t even do this and he has a key.

zaza said:

My aunt, uncle and cousin..they come Every.Fucking.Day.

That would drive me batshit crazy.

johnart said:

zaza said:

My aunt, uncle and cousin..they come Every.Fucking.Day.

We do much MUCH better when we live at least a few hours away from family.

I don't understand why families want to be on top of each other all the damn time.

My immediate family is like that. I understand that it's important to spend time together as a family, especially since two of my brothers live out of state with their wives and kids. But they want to do something EVERY DAY that my two brothers are here in town. I don't mind spending time with my family, but after awhile you run out of things to talk about. Or, in my family, they talk about religion, which is even worse. I find that I limit my time with my family for this very reason. I love my family, but I think that too much time together is not always a good thing. After awhile, I think you just get on each other's nerves.

CarrieMpls said:

Especially in this day and age of cell phones you can at the very least call when you’re a few minutes outside to see if someone’s around and everyone has the option of saying “it’s not a good time”.

Exactly!!

Shyra said:

Simply ignore the door. That's what I do. I think it's very rude to just drop in. You don't know what people have planned, and it could just mess up their entire day.

Used to date a "special agent in charge" who thought nothing of doing this, but when I asked him what he would do if I just dropped in on him, he looked at me like I was nuts and said, "You better not show up unannounced!" That finally let me know what an asshole I was dealing with. I told him to step.

to your first paragraph. to the second paragraph. Good for you for kicking that guy to the curb.

Serious said:

Shorty said:

I love visitors! I would never expect family or friends to call before coming over. I'd appreciate it but, our house is always open....I mean, that's what friends and family are for right? ok ok, I supposed if I had an annoying family memeber coming over unannounced all the time I might have to say something but it would have to be really bad.

That's really nice and I applaud you for that, but I could not live like that . My bf's family (or at least all the members I know, his family is huge like I said) are all like that and it might be also part of their culture, but I would not feel comfortable . I am happy to invite people over (I have had some orgers staying with me too who I never met before) but please don't come to my apartment without telling me first, no matter how much I like you .

it doesn't happen that often. and it's only the ones I'm closest to so I'm happy to see them. I only have one brother so if I look out the window and see he is pulling in I'm like hey Uncle Jay is here! and I'm happy as all get out about it. I have a sister in law who will stop by with out calling sometimes....same thing, Hey! Auntie Cheryl is here and I'm happy she's stopped by...it breaks up the day. If I'm in the middle of something or about to be out the door I just tell them that...no biggie.

If my mother in law does it.....well, I'm not upset but I am def wondering how long will she be staying

I didn't think people did this much today. Back in the day, especially in the south, folk would drop by all the time unannounced, especially on Sundays. It was a common and acceptable practice back then before cell phones and 'puters. I remember, as a child, my parents always went "visiting" on Sunday afternoons or evenings and drag me and my brother along. If the couple had no kids, we had to just sit there and listen to the adults talk. I always asked to go to the bathroon to break the monotony.

Kill them all.

johnart said:

NO. NO. NO.

This is one of my HUGEST pet peeves.
I don't allow it and folk KNOW because when they drop by unnanounced (family included) I tell them "You don't do shit like that."

Yes I do.

I knew you would respond to this one...

almost as bad as unknown names and numbers popping up on my phone.....

drives me nuts on tuesdays thursdays and saturdays...every week, unknown name and number.

myfavorite said:

almost as bad as unknown names and numbers popping up on my phone.....

drives me nuts on tuesdays thursdays and saturdays...every week, unknown name and number.

Those are either bill collectors or telemarketers. Just pick up the receiver and hang up, OR when someone announces themselves as either a marketer or collector, blow a whistle as hard as you can into the mouthpiece of the phone. That'll bust out an eardrum!